You create your birth experience when you take conscious control over it.
All women deserve a natural, ecstatic, consciousness-altering, transformative, self-actualizing and blissful experience. Your pregnancy and birth can be this way.
Every woman can have an orgasmic birth & blissful motherhood.
Birth in the modern world has become a tragedy and major surgery to recover from, rather than the natural, blissful, initiating experience nature intended it to be.
We know how to do this—every cell in our bodies knows how to do this. We havee been doing it for millennia.
Do you believe your pregnancy and birth can be pleasurable, easy and orgasmic? It can.
Here’s the thing: The giant, missing piece in birth is sexuality.
When you can open in bed, you can open in birth.
It is the place no one thinks to look.
In hospitals all over the world, women are having their innate knowing and power removed from them.
Childbirth used to be something that happened at home.
A midwife attended a woman and was there for more expert support, but the philosophy behind midwifery is really that the woman and her body know what to do.
She is there as needed to encourage and of course troubleshoot, but her roles is largely to give the woman a “wide berth” haha, and help her to come back to her own knowingness and faith in herself if she veers off track.
In other Western countries, an OBGYN only attends the birth if there is some foreseen risk.
More shocking numbers from the US:
C-sections are the most common major surgery in the US for 37 years running, followed closely by hysterectomies (what is this morbid obsession with cutting up women’s uteruses up?)
Many hospitals have an epidural rate of 85% or more and it’s estimated that overall 80% of women have epidurals in the US.
A 2006 study in the New England Journal of Medicine of 5000 low-risk women giving birth in large teaching hospitals reported that 40% of women were induced into labor and 70% received Pitocin at some point during labor
Contrary to what we’ve been told, birth is a sexual act.
It’s the culmination of what started the entire process.
It is the opening—or not—to this fact, that can make a birth utterly pleasurable or utterly painful.
The direction and directives of cultural and religious forces of the past few millennia have tried to paint birth as a “punishment” for women.
Rather than an actual orgasm.
Which it is.
Imagine trying to hold back the biggest, most pleasurable orgasm of your life?
What happens when you hold back love?
You experience pain.
You can change that though.
The entire process of birth is designed, from start to finish, to be an intricate, exquisite, biofeedback mechanism between mother and baby.
Everything is connected.
It’s like a row of dominoes. If you pull out one, you stop the chain of events. The more you pull out, the more disjointed and muddled the process becomes.
The innate intelligence that has been doing this for millennia, does not have the chance to do its job.
Are you holding yourself back from your body's innate wisdom?
Oxytocin is one of, if not THE, key hormone involved in the birthing process.
Oxytocin is produced in safe, loving environments.
We know that birth is this giant oxytocin ascent. For it to work the way it’s meant to, the flow of oxytocin and other birth hormones must be allowed to happen, undisturbed.
What else generates oxytocin?
Orgasms and sexual arousal.
When you are turned on in bed, you are turned on in life
– Kim Anami
When I had a child over two decades ago, I knew a couple of things:
The last place I wanted to give birth was a hospital.
My body would know exactly what to do.
And that’s pretty much how I did it.
I found the most grassroots midwife I could, picked up a copy of Spiritual Midwifery, and trusted that the eons of wisdom that were encoded into my genes would show me how to birth my baby.
I listened to to stories of women who, through their births, found their voice, their power and a deeper part of themselves.
That’s what is meant to happen.
A woman taps into her ancestral wisdom, the same way that newborns know how to find their mother’s nipple—in every species.
My view is that we all instinctively know how to conceive, have easy pregnancies and orgasmic, pleasurable, self-actualizing births.
All we need to do is remove the blockages that are covering up that natural and innate wisdom.
In my work as a holistic sex and relationship coach, everything I do is about restoring men and women to their own true power.
My view is that sexually speaking, all women:
- Are multi-orgasmic
- Have high libidos
- Can ejaculate across the room
- Can shoot ping pong balls with our vaginas
All men can:
- Make love all night
- Separate orgasm from ejaculation
- Have rock-hard erections into their ripe old age
The only thing that prevents us from doing these things are our own blocks.
They may be culturally imposed upon us, like the idea that women just aren’t that sexual.
Or they might come out of some underf**ked male scientist setting out to prove that just because he can’t sexually satisfy his wife, apparently there is no female G-Spot.
Or, the block might be from a previous trauma you’ve had that obscures your innate knowing of how to do something.
In my work, I am the great permission giver and block remover.
My aim is that people tap into their deepest truth and power and live from that place.
The same kinds of blocks are super-imposed upon women—and us as a culture at large —when it comes to pregnancy and birth.
Knowing how to give birth is one of—if not THE most—natural, innate things we could do.
Our species—and every species on the planet—was made for this. Through this.
If there is one thing our bodies know how to do, it’s make—and birth—babies.
All we need to do is remove the whatever is blocking that process, that age-old, ancestral-encoded-in our genes-and-bones, process.
“Birth is safe. Interference is risky.”
~ Trust Birth Initiative
My assertion is that pregnancy and childbirth can be entirely:
- Natural and free-flowing
- Woman-directed and DIY
This is how it was meant to be.
The greatest high and orgasm of your life.
Left to its own devices, the birth process in a woman mimics the rise to orgasm.
Oxytocin builds in arousal and orgasm, and in birth, to levels 10 times as high as they do during orgasm.
So think of your very best orgasm ever, multiply that by 10, and now you have your orgasmic birth.
Your endorphins kick in on a massive scale, and by the end of it, you are on a hormonal high, the highest you’ll ever be in your life.
Who wouldn’t want that?
When a woman has an undisturbed birth process, and she has done her own internal block-clearing to rid herself of the medical and psychological and brainwashing and fear-mongering, her hormones do their job and there is no need for pain medication.
Instead, she’ll be in an altered state, a supreme high, that will carry her into the birth of her child and the rebirth of herself.
Kim is a total rockstar and a tour de force of all things sexual.
Her stuff is a cut above anything I've seen.
Dr. Christiane Northrup
Holistic OBGYN, New York Times best-selling author
5 SIGNS YOU ARE READY FOR AN ORGASMIC BIRTH
You gracefully tune into your own intuition and body.
Since taking Sexy Mama, I feel so much more empowered to conceive, navigate pregnancy and birth in a way that nourishes me, my partner and future child.”
~ Kate S.
You are sexually embodied.
My relationship with my partner has improved and we are having the best sex of our lives!”
~ Christie M.
You trust your body.
Starting this course off I felt like free birth was more of a dream but not a realistic one for me. Now I believe in it whole-heartedly. It's not a dream. I am confident in my body.”
~ Felicia C.
You shed your false beliefs.
I used to fear birth so deeply, now I am looking forward to it with every fiber of my being.”
~ Amber G.
You surrender to the flow of life.
Surrendering to birth is as natural to me as surrendering to cervical orgasms!”
~ Amanda M.
What does a sovereign, blissful pregnancy look like?
When a woman is well-f**ked and occupying her fullest expression, her pregnancy becomes a dance with creation itself.
She is surrendered to the very flow of life, a conduit between the seen and unseen realms.
She recognizes the difference between truth and fear, and her decisions are guided by her baby and herself.
She is in tune with her body and orgasms are her prenatal care.
Her boundaries are strong and the company she keeps is wise and supportive.
Her partner trusts her intuition and he is there only to hold an aura of protection.
She knows she was made for this, and it’s her birthright to birth in ecstasy, creating a wave of love that ripples throughout the collective as a whole.
She and her baby will be reborn, clearing their lineage and ushering in a new way forward.
As you tune into your sexual self:
1. You have the energy to take care of yourself and your children.
Parenthood isn’t inherently a drain. In fact, I’ve worked with many couples who have four, five and even six children and have sex every single day.
Or almost every single day.
As I always say, if sex doesn’t energize you, you’re doing it wrong…
It's the greatest energy source there is and when you're fueled, you and your family will benefit from your overflow.
The only greater energy source is birth itself. A powerful birth experience bonds a couple together and it becomes fuel for the rest of your lives, a power you can tap into at any time.
2. You're more guided with your life purpose and motherhood.
Another myth of motherhood is that a woman’s individual purpose in life and motherhood cannot coexist.
In fact, it’s one of the reasons so many women are afraid to have children.
While I believe that our children need our unconditional love and presence throughout their lives, it doesn’t need to be at the expense of your dharma…
By birthing in sovereignty and owning your sexual self as a mother, your life and motherhood become an expression of who you are.
You do not get lost in motherhood. You are uplifted by it and able to tend to your dreams for yourself as you do your children.
3. You continuously grow deeper with your partner.
Birth is intended to bring a couple closer together, not become a wedge between them as has become the norm today.
There’s nothing like witnessing the culmination of life you have grown inside you being birthed into your reality…
The love you have for each other, embodied in the physical form of your baby.
You remain in awe of what you’ve created, having experienced the greatest level of intimacy there is.
Your relationship is rebirthed into new levels of respect, trust, and bliss. The experience becomes something you can resource yourselves from for the rest of your lives.
4. You don't outsource your decision making, it comes from within.
Pregnancy, birth and motherhood are rife with the opinions of others.
If you are not whole within yourself, it’s easy to become swept up in the whirlwind of unasked for advice. To be influenced by what’s common or popular as opposed to what’s in alignment with you….
When you are well-f**ked, you don’t give a fuck about what other people think about you.
You know exactly who you are and your sexual energy becomes a forcefield around you and your family.
Coupled with the permanent afterglow of a powerful birth, you are a force to be reckoned with.
You are guided from within and your children are nurtured by your authenticity. They see what it’s like to live in truth and grow up comfortable to live in their own truth instead of following the status quo.
Sex is the magic bullet for all that ails you
– Kim Anami
Every woman can.
Every woman can have a pleasurable pregnancy, remain intimate with her partner, and have an ecstatic, natural orgasmic birth. Every woman can consciously call in their ideal birth experience. Every woman can tune into her innate body wisdom to guide her through a blissful motherhood.
Yes, all women can have an orgasmic birth process. With the right tools.
You don’t need a doctor to do this. You just need me.
I’ve done it for thousands of women, and now I’m going to do it for you.
The Anami Guarantee
Every woman can. Every woman can have an orgasmic birth, completely rejuvenate themselves during pregnancy, and enjoy postpartum and motherhood. Every woman can have a self led and aligned birth experience. Every woman can create the community to help support her and be able to live and speak her truth.
Yes, all woman can have a pleasurable birth process. With the right tools.
Kim is an ambassador for sacred sexuality. She believes that pleasure heals, and she shows you how to find it... first on your own, then with your partner. Her work lights the path home to your realized self.
Here’s Sexy Mama
An 8-week Virtual Salon of Holistic Pregnancy and Ecstatic Birth
«Salons» are a tradition of learning that dates back centuries.
In this modern-day version, you’ll receive pre-recorded HD videos, followed up by live, interactive Q+A calls, including community breakout sessions. In between, you’ll have “homeplay” assignments to flex your new sexual muscles. I’ll be there to troubleshoot with you every step of the way.
Q+A call: November 1st @ 5:00 PM PST
- Reigniting the couple connection to welcome orgasms in bed and in birth
- Clearing blocks to tune into your innate wisdom
- Using vaginal orgasms to facilitate orgasmic birth
- Getting honest and committing to doing the clearing work
Q+A call: November 8th @ 2:00 PM PST
- The energy of fertility and becoming receptive
- Learn how your sexual energy plays a role in conception
- How to connect with and consciously conceive your child
- Nutrition and detox for optimum fertility
Q+A call: November 15th @ 11:00 AM PST
- Doctor-approved essential nutrients, food, supplements and exercise
- How to tap into your intuition to have a blissful pregnancy
- Yoni and perineal massage
- Owning and loving your pregnant body
Q+A call: November 22nd @ 5:00 PM PST
Q+A call: November 29th @ 2:00 PM PST
- Making labor pleasurable and even orgasmic—yes, it’s possible
- Best holistic birth and after-birth practices
- Placenta encapsulation
- Creating your renegade birth kit
Q+A call: December 6th @ 11:00 AM PST
- Why breastfeeding is best and how to embrace it
- Attachment parenting
- Infant massage: benefits and techniques
- Learning your baby's cues and language
- Preparing for postpartum euphoria
Q+A call: December 13th @ 5:00 PM PST
Q+A call: December 20th @ 2:00 PM PST
- Sexuality after birth: how to keep having it!
- Your identity as a mother. Follow your dharma.
- The untraumatized child
- Igniting your sex life after having children