How to F**k Your Man Into Oblivion – Transcript
How to fuck your man into oblivion. Fuck them until you change them is what I always say. How do you know when you have fucked someone enough? Because they change. They metamorphose into a new person. Into a new, better, ideal, full-bodied, soul-embodied version of themselves. Their tired and weary parts fall away. Fear, anxiety, insecurity, isolation, anger, playing small in life—all these things evaporate.
The scars that they’ve accumulated over the years and lifetimes from trauma and pain get alchemized and transformed into love, freedom, power, and bliss. All of this in the wake of your powerful sexual love.
Another expression that I often use is that we need to fuck the shit out of our partners. We fuck-annihilate them. This might be through some heavy-duty pounding, but it could also be through slow, gentle sex and adoring them into oblivion.
We hold them down, and we love and fuck them out of this world and into a new one. So how do we do this? How do we use sex in the way it was meant to be used? The most scandalous and dangerous application of it, the reason why it’s censored the world over? To change your life and your partner’s.
I always say as well, if sex isn’t making you a better person, you’re doing it wrong. Nothing changes you faster and propels you into higher states of consciousness and cataclysmic fucking.
Fucking a man into oblivion, point number one: Sexual mastery. Being a cocksucker extraordinaire, deep throating him like no one ever has before, giving him a hand-job with your vagina and playing the proverbial flute. These are all essential life skills and fuck-obliteration skills. While important, I will tell you right now that if just the skills mattered, everyone would be epic at sex. Wouldn’t they? They could read some cheesy, moronic Cosmo article on 50 Blow Job Tips to Drive Him Wild and be masters, but they aren’t. So how do you develop mastery?
Yes, some study can be helpful, and I do teach technique in my salons, but like any art that you embody, you unlock its secrets through falling in love with it. Through opening yourself to it. And by doing so, all the secrets of the universe come pouring through.
Which brings us to point number two of how to fuck a man into oblivion: Loving fucking and getting fucked.
I don’t think you can execute a blow job well, even technically, if you don’t love cock and love your partner’s cock. A woman with a deep, wild, insatiable love of sex is a rare and exquisite animal.
When a man finds a woman who owns her sexual self and loves being intimate with him, truly loves it, there is no going back. He will hunt that woman down to the ends of the earth.
I talk about the insatiability of women being their natural state of existence. It is. A woman who is sexually switched on stays on and gets hungrier and hungrier. Only a daily dose of fierce love and cervical orgasm medicine will soothe the desire and restlessness in her, so she seeks out her man to give it to her. She is open and available to him. She knows his cock and his heart as the medicine to open her heart and her pussy. And through living like this, she conjures and conquers the world.
Point number three of fucking a man into oblivion is holding the highest vision. This means that you refuse any shitty version of sex, and you set out to build and cultivate the ultimate gourmet sex connection. This goes for your relationship in general, but also for each encounter you have within it. You don’t settle for two-pump-chumps or an unconscious lover. You bring depth. You demand depth.
It’s said that a woman’s true role in relationship is to lead the man home to God. You hold the space for a higher way of being.
This energy calls on the highest version of your man to emerge and stay present. A man won’t respect a woman who devalues herself. The way you allow someone to treat you calibrates the tone and the level of give-and-take that will color your relationship in perpetuity.
This concept might not seem like something that fucks him into oblivion, but it is. A woman who holds her value shimmers and dazzles like the highest prize and peak attainable. This is dizzyingly seductive to the right man.
For the wrong man, fuck ’im. Well, don’t fuck him, but forget him. The right man will come along when you learn to say yes to being treated like a goddess and no to being devalued. Prizing yourself is a way to fuck someone into oblivion.
For a masculine man, it creates the challenge of being able to keep up with this vision and pace. You help the small self and small-dick energy in him to be obliterated. What more can a man ask for?
Point number four of fucking a man into oblivion is owning your feminine power and energy.
You open; he penetrates. You create the wildest sexual chemistry to truly take your man where no one has gone before by being deeply in your feminine energy. Surrendering, letting him in emotionally and sexually.
The feeling of being with a woman who truly opens herself is also rare, if not something he has never felt. This deep, deep surrender is the epitome of the feminine and the archetypal and primal opposite of the masculine, which is what makes it so tantalizing for him.
When a woman abandons herself, heart and vagina, to her partner—and abandon means in the most beautiful sense of opening and surrender—there is nothing more spectacular. In doing so, she lights the way home via her vagina.
In that alchemical cauldron, the gateway between life and death, she takes him in and spits him out reborn. La petite mort, the little death and rebirth. The sexiest thing for the animal and spiritual man is his woman in the throes of ecstasy and bliss. She is wide open, insatiable, and available, like the divine and infinite itself. She loves cock, she loves sex, and through her ultimate surrender, she ignites his fire. She opens into the void, invites him in, and in it, he can simultaneously let go of himself and find himself.
If you aren’t familiar with this concept of surrender as a powerful spiritual and sexual practice, it might seem like weakness at first. It’s the opposite.
The only things you let go of are all the parts of you that sabotage and stand in the way of your greatness, leaving behind your confidence, your strength, your infinite genius, and a plethora of wild and life-changing orgasms.
In today’s Well-F**ked All Star interview, we have Brooke. Brooke says, “Whenever there’s tension, we can solve it in the bedroom.” She is a devoted cock lover and vaginal orgasm-haver, and accomplished at fucking her partner into a melted pile of oblivion.
[Baseball cheer: Well-F**ked All Stars.]
KIM: All right, Brooke, how are you?
BROOKE: I’m well, thank you. How are you?
KIM: Excellent. Would you say that you are well-fucked in preparation for this conversation?
BROOKE: I am. Made sure that happened.
KIM: How many orgasms did you have today?
BROOKE: Just one today, so far. I’m sure more later.
KIM: And yesterday?
BROOKE: Yesterday, three.
KIM: Fantastic. Off to a wonderful start.
BROOKE: Yes.
KIM: Tell us about your journey into becoming well-fucked. In particular, your relationship with your partner, but also your own journey through self-pleasure and giving yourself these different types of orgasms. Where would you like to start?
BROOKE: I found your stuff just by doing some research and signed up for Well-F**ked Woman, and that opened my eyes tremendously to self-exploration and self-pleasure. I come from a very traumatic past. A lot was done to me that should not have been. I’ve been on a healing journey for a long time, and this helped, just going back in, knowing it’s okay to touch yourself, it’s okay to please yourself, and it’s okay to have that be given to you as well.
Going through the salon, I discovered more about myself and where pleasure lies, what gets me off, what gets me wet. I didn’t even know I could get that wet.
He was in it with me. He saw the changes that I was making and becoming intimate with myself. He watched that and helped me through all the assignments as well, very willingly. [Laughs]
We took it from there, and then it took him on the journey to Sexual Mastery for Men.
Yeah, just the growth and getting to know myself and what I need and what I desire has been phenomenal, and to have a partner who can provide that for me, and I can provide that for him.
KIM: Amazing. Would you say that your journey into self-pleasure, getting to know your own body, was integral to your healing from past traumatic experiences and reclaiming the sovereignty of your own body? The ownership of your own body? Because I think that’s a big thing that gets taken from people when they’ve had a history of violation, a sense of their body being their own, or perhaps even a fear and trepidation of going inside of themselves, both figuratively and literally, because of what might be there and what they might uncover.
BROOKE: Absolutely. That’s the biggest piece for me, and my goal is reclaiming the body. Getting to know yourself, becoming intimate with yourself inside and out, knowing what you want, and getting what you deserve, because we deserve it. We were stripped—I was stripped—from a very young age of that.
I know you can see my hair is short. I never had control over my hair growing up, and so when my now-ten-year-old was six months old, I cut it all off, and it was one of the most freeing experiences of my life. Just those little things that have been controlled throughout my life; none of them were mine. My body was never mine to be able to sit down with myself. To grab a mirror, touch myself, explore myself, find pleasure in all of that, and really get to know myself has completely transformed me.
It has given me my body back. I’ve reclaimed myself, and it has certainly sent me on this journey of the healing process. The start of it was scary, those times when, if something were to come up, I thought, “I’m not so sure I can handle this right now,” and there was a fear of going deeper and what might come to the surface.
And fortunately, I do have a partner who is my safe place and sits with me in that and helps me through it and understands it. I have that safety net; I have that person to fall into when I need it. Yes, he’s on it with me as well. But it’s been very transformative. The healing journey has played a major role in discovering what’s there, which I had no clue existed.
KIM: Yeah, it’s beautiful and courageous to go into that space when it can feel like so much darkness is there.
BROOKE: Yes.
KIM: And uncertainty, yeah. You talked about how, within a couple of weeks of self-pleasuring, you had your first G-spot orgasm.
BROOKE: Yes. I did that one with the wand first. Then my partner was able to give me one, but yeah, that was exciting. I didn’t know it was possible. I didn’t know it was in the cards for me.
KIM: Had you bought into that narrative that some women can have these and some women can’t?
BROOKE: No. I don’t think I ever believed that. I think it was more that I thought I wasn’t built that way, or I wasn’t allowed that. I believed it happened to people who worked toward it or something. I had to peel back a lot of layers to get there. But I got there, and everybody can get there.
KIM: And how does it feel? How did you feel having your first one? I’m sure you’ve had many more since then. What does it do for you as a woman? You can talk about physically how it feels, but how does it actually change the fabric of who you are by having these deeper orgasms?
BROOKE: I really walk through life radiating. It’s changed me so much in how I walk through life and navigate things. How chaos lands on me. Just to know this deep pleasure, this explosive pleasure, and to feel it radiate through my entire body like a heat, like a warmth that goes to all my limbs, my fingers, and my toes. And then I can just carry that out into the rest of the day.
And you can see it on my face when I’m walking, in my presentation, talking with people, and interacting. It’s intimidating for some. It’s led to a loss of some relationships, but people just aren’t on the same level as me.
KIM: Why do you think it’s intimidating? In what way? What do you think it’s provoking in people?
BROOKE: I guess it’s a certain level of confidence in me. I don’t want to minimize anybody’s experience, but the change I’ve had in this past year has been tremendous. It’s night and day in me as a person. For people who have been in my circle and in my wheelhouse, it’s intimidating for them because they have work that still needs to be done, and they’re a little bit threatened by that. It’s hard for them to accept it.
I’m sure you can tell by my voice, but I live in the South [laughs], and so it’s a very different world here at times. A lot of judgment, a lot of holding onto things, and not willing to do the work or not in a position to do the work, wherever people are.
KIM: Yeah. I always talk about how a well-fucked woman wears her sexual energy in her being; it’s something that emanates from her and is palpable. I think if people, even intuitively, get a sense of what that is—they might not know; often they don’t know consciously—but they feel it, they see it, they’re reacting to it, and then it’s a trigger for something they’re not connected to in themselves. In some way, they have a repulsion toward that energy and you and the whole notion of exploring that part of themselves.
BROOKE: Yes. That hits the nail on the head.
KIM: How else was the journey with your partner? You said you just did 30 days of sex, and I’d love to hear how that went.
BROOKE: We have an almost-four-year-old and a ten-year-old. And our ten-year-old visits her dad on a weird schedule, so there were some interruptions. [Laughs] I say that because we’ve had some interruptions, and it’s just navigating children. Trying to keep quiet when we can, but we have it down, and there’s not much that can stop us from making sure that we’re reaching these goals. Even if it’s not penetration, it can just be foreplay. He eats me out for whatever time; I give him head for whatever time. We made sure that it was a priority. I’d say 27 out of the 30 days happened.
KIM: That’s pretty good. To clarify, it doesn’t have to be 30 days of penetration. Oral sex, manual sex, anal sex, all these things count in the equation, so as long as it’s some sexual connection.
BROOKE: Yeah, absolutely.
KIM: How would you say that becoming sexually closer has changed your relationship? How long have you guys been together?
BROOKE: We started dating in 2016, and we have been together ever since. We had our daughter in 2019, and we are actually headed to the beach the second week of July and going to make things official and get married.
KIM: Congratulations.
BROOKE: Thanks.
KIM: How has your sexual connection evolved over time? Especially deep-diving into this work, what did you notice?
BROOKE: It’s come leaps and bounds. We never in our wildest dreams thought we would be with somebody and so comfortable and able to venture into anything that’s possible. Our connection is so deep, there are times I feel like we’re one and the same person.
You talk so much about clearing the glass and getting through things, what comes up in conversation. I’d say we have some pretty damn clear glass, and we can talk about anything. We get through conflict just so easily. We’re able to say to each other, “Hey, we need to sit down and have a discussion,” or “I’m not okay with this behavior right now. Let’s figure it out.” Whenever there’s tension, we can solve it in the bedroom.
It’s just brought us this level of intimacy that is so incredible. We’re so close. He’s my person. I’m his person. We never thought we’d be here. Our girls see it. They see what a relationship is supposed to be. We’re pretty unbreakable at this point. I don’t know what could get in our way to move us apart.
KIM: And what is a relationship supposed to be?
BROOKE: Pleasure, joy, happiness, communication. The ability to repair things when you disagree. Yeah. Being your own person with the support of another to move through life.
KIM: When you said that in terms of modeling for your children, I was curious about what you meant by “they see how a relationship is supposed to be.” Well, what is that? What is it that they’re seeing and absorbing?
BROOKE: They’re seeing a big shift—especially my oldest—from chaos and abuse and control to happiness, joy, pleasure, and support. Yeah. They’re going to have their idea of what a relationship should be, but the latter is certainly not what it should be.
KIM: Yeah. How would you say that you fuck your partner into oblivion? When we talk about sex acts having the power to be these cataclysmic, transformative, bringing us into our true selves, when you look at the way you interact with your partner, pleasure acts that you perform on him, how have you noticed that you fuck him into oblivion?
BROOKE: He just melts into the bed, or wherever we are.
KIM: All hail public sex. [Laughs]
BROOKE: Yeah. [Laughs] Just complete mush, just completely submits. It’s like an out-of-body experience. The gratitude that he has in this deep yearning and want for me, and my desire just to be close with him and hold him in that space and throughout—his eyes change color when he orgasms, which is incredible.
KIM: What do they change from?
BROOKE: They turn a brighter blue. They’re blue, but they go from a grayish-blue to a really bright blue. It’s incredible. Never seen or witnessed anything like that. I don’t know if you’ve heard that before.
KIM: Well, I don’t know if I’ve heard of it through sex, but in the science of iridology, which is when they study the colors of the iris and look for information of what’s happening in the rest of the body, there’s a theory that most eyes are true blue, and they’ve been discolored into lighter colors, like brown and hazel, because of accumulated toxicity. Often, people who do a lot of cleansing will have a shift in their eye color over time because those toxins get removed.
There are some true brown eyes. I apparently have true brown eyes. But that correlation makes sense to me in that there’s whatever level of metaphysical alchemy happening, and the eyes actually reflect that.
BROOKE: Wow, yeah. That’s pretty incredible. There’s definitely something going on then [laughs] when that happens.
KIM: What do you notice he becomes like outside of the bedroom after you have this really powerful, skin-shedding, rebirthing-type sexual experience? What does he become like in your day-to-day life?
BROOKE: I love watching him move throughout the day with his masculine energy. It puts him in this place of confidence where he can go and enjoy the things that bring him pleasure outside of the bedroom and just embrace those and work through them.
He’s able to go to work with his employees and take on this leadership role, this masculine role, and his drive with what he does. It shows up in the projects that are done as well. Last summer, in the middle of Well-F**ked Woman Salon, he landed a huge contract after what was probably three-plus hours in one night. We were away at the beach, and he had been working on this contract, hoping it would come through, and it landed the next morning.
KIM: That is amazing. I love hearing these stories of couples who have some epic extended sex date, and then the very next day, they get some opportunity or abundance just drops into their laps because, we like to say, it’s our laps that attracted it.
BROOKE: Yeah! [Laughs] Absolutely, yeah. What we create intimately really shows, and we both bring it out into the world and into our lives and embrace it. It’s a whole other level of ourselves that we’re very happy and grateful to be at.
KIM: What else do you notice about yourself out in the world? After you’ve been fucked into oblivion, what are you like out in the world?
BROOKE: I’m loving it. [Laughs] I don’t know how else to describe it. I just walk through life with it radiating off me. I’ve gone from hiding so much and been able to strip down these layers, really display my true, authentic self, and bring that into the world with no apologies.
It’s great. My ten-year-old says that all the time. “God, it’s just radiating. You’re just happy, Mommy.” [Laughs]
KIM: Oh my gosh, that’s amazing.
BROOKE: She sees it. She feels it. Yeah, it’s great.
KIM: What are your favorite things to do to really bring your partner to that place of oblivion?
BROOKE: Giving head is my favorite. I love doing that. I like to be in control a lot, so being able to just pin him down and fuck his brains out is awesome. And trying to get him in any position. We love dirty texts throughout the day and sending those messages to keep it going.
KIM: When you’re giving head, what is it that you love about it?
BROOKE: Looking up and seeing the control that I have over him and his pleasure and allowing him to just fall into that and let go. Just bringing him to that place of the out-of-body experience and watching him go through those cycles. I prefer giving him head over 69 or anything like that, because I can see his face. And I don’t want to disrupt that.
KIM: That’s beautiful. I love that the visual element is big for you in it as well.
Until they cross the threshold into becoming well-fucked women, for a lot of women, giving head can feel more performative and obligatory, like it’s something they just need to do as part of the equation. They may like it. But do they really love it? I always love to hear stories of cock adoration and the pleasure that it gives you.
BROOKE: Yes. It brings me so much joy. [Laughs] And it really gets me off being able to give him that. Yeah, no performing over here. It certainly benefits both of us in anything that we do. The fact that I can give that to him, and he can give that to me, is so beautiful.
KIM: Are there any other acts that you find particularly transformative and hot?
BROOKE: Oh man, all of it. [Laughs] I really have a thing for being outside or having public sex in any form.
KIM: Me too. [Laughs]
BROOKE: Yeah. [Laughs] Yeah, we’ll go down to the beach, and he’ll eat me out on the deck. Yeah, I love just being in nature.
We’ve been playing around with some bondage, just ankles and wrists in the bedroom, and that’s been a lot of fun, losing some of that control. I always tell people, “Get a message table if you can.” There’s a lot you can do with a massage table and a lot of different positions to make things fun and benefit everybody.
Oral is very important for us, and that foreplay aspect of the yoni massage, the lingam massage. He’d spend hours eating me out if he could. If time allowed it, I’d do the same. I’d spend hours sucking his cock. And that could be enough for us for days—not days, let’s be real. [Laughs]
KIM: Well, it can be.
BROOKE: We need it more than that.
KIM: Well, yes. But I think a good sexual session, even manual play and oral play, can feed you. That’s the ultimate food and recharge. I do think an extended session, several hours’ worth of play, can feed you for days. Do you want to go back for more earlier? Sure. But I feel like the energy really does last for days when it has that depth.
BROOKE: Yeah, it does absolutely carry you throughout.
KIM: Is there anything else you’d like to add that you feel we haven’t covered yet?
BROOKE: I just want to say thank you. We love your work. I’m so grateful I found it. I’m grateful for these tools and this knowledge of myself to be able to go out into the world and live this way and free from so much that I was shown was the norm—which is clearly not [laughs]—and the ability to bring pleasure to myself and my partner. I feel like it can save so many relationships. Go fuck yourself, and go fuck your partner, and you can save any relationship. [Laughs]
KIM: Absolutely. Agree a hundred thousand percent. Is there anything else you want to expand on in terms of your vaginal orgasms? Have you had cervical orgasms too?
BROOKE: I have. I have had cervical orgasms.
KIM: What would you like to say about that?
BROOKE: You hear so much about how women experience that differently when they can get to that cervical orgasm. I do feel that if you’re dealing with any trauma, the elixir that I did …
KIM: Is it Luscious?
BROOKE: Maybe. I can’t remember. But I did that in conjunction with all the work, and so, in getting to that place, I do feel that the body won’t allow you to get to the cervical orgasm if you’re not ready. You have to clear so much of that to get there. When you get there, everybody has their own experience, but it is felt in every cell of the body. The energy that it puts out, this runner’s high that you’re on, this ability to embrace—I’m fumbling for words—just accept your body and accept who you are and the pleasure that you can get is mind-blowing. It’s like hitting the epicenter when you have that cervical orgasm.
That was important when giving myself orgasms before my partner did it. That was just a personal preference in where I was in my journey, but it really made it so I got to know myself and did this for myself and my body to get there. Now my partner can give me cervical orgasms, and it’s fine, but it was really important to me to have that experience for myself first.
But if I’m feeling worked up and things are chaotic, it’s self-pleasure time.
KIM: So you’re using self-pleasure as a tool to reconnect and stabilize yourself, even in times of stress and chaos. Like you mentioned, some people might default to “There’s no time for sex. That’s the last thing we would think we want to do right now.”
I love that you have the reframe, which is something I talk about all the time; actually, that’s the best thing that you can do to recalibrate, to tune into yourself, to each other, and gather that strength and energy and rejuvenation, which turns into wisdom and intuition and flow out in the world. Those are the byproducts or the expressions of that energy that we cultivate, the lovemaking that then channels out into the world in everything you do.
BROOKE: Yeah, it all comes from the core of us, and to dig deeper and go for that and put it out there. Yeah, I agree 100%, and that’s my go-to. I love going around and telling people, “Well, you just need to go fuck yourself.” [Laughs]
KIM: Tongue-flicking tutorials? Sure, why not? I’ve got those for you. But really, what you need to do is connect with the most primal, surrendered part of you and fuck yourself and your partner to smithereens.
The whole process of unleashing that primal being is what the Well-F**ked Woman Salon is all about. Yes, I will give you some signature technical moves to dazzle him, but more importantly, I will inflame and ignite your self-love and cock-love and set them on fire so that you can leave a trail of multiple daily vaginal orgasms and a happy heart and a self-realized cock in your wake.
The Well-F**ked Woman Salon opens for registration in June. In this ten-week how to live, love, and orgasm in a female body education you never received, you will learn how to master the technical skills of oral sex, deep-throating, anal sex, and wild hand-jobs. Plus, learn how to use these sex acts to accelerate your personal growth and transformation; achieve the deeper life-changing vaginal orgasms, G-spot, cervical, anal, and more; and tap into your divine feminine power, learning the art of letting go and surrendering in life and in bed.
The Salon opens for registration next week. You can sign up at my website, KimAnami.com. Look for Sexual Savant Salons, and then click on the Well-F**ked Woman.
In the meantime, you can sign up for our free Orgasmapedia series: 9 Orgasms to Transform Your Life, as well as take the Are You UnderF**ked quiz on my website.
