Yoni Massage + Pussy Shiatsu – Transcript
Pussy shiatsu. How to give your partner an amazing yoni massage.
Spending focused time, touch, and attention on each other’s genitals is a profound healing and awakening. Let’s talk about pussy massage.
How well do you really know your way around a pussy? Honestly, most people have no idea. Men and women alike are pretty clueless when it comes to this region of the body, also known as the origin of the world.
I know men who still debate where the clitoris is, or have no idea where the cervix is or that the cervix is the site of the most powerful orgasms a woman can have. And I know plenty of women who have not even put their fingers in their own vaginas.
Both sexes are dissociated from their sexual organs. Yet, your sexuality and your sexual organs are your source of power and energy. When you own them and fully integrate them and inhabit them and your sexual self, you become more of who you really are. You self-actualize, and you have some pretty amazing orgasms along the way.
Here are the top three reasons to give your partner a yoni massage.
Healing.
Your genitals are the core of who you are, and they’re also the location of all things that you repress in your sexual nature. They get stored here. All of this repressed stuff creates numbness in the genitals. Things like internalized cultural oppression around sex, sexual trauma and abuse, and any unresolved sexual or emotional issues from past relationships. All these things get lodged in your tissues, and they take up space and create blockages.
Loving, conscious touch heals and releases these traumas that are stored in these areas. Your genitals become more sentient. They feel more, they feel deeper, and they’re able to speak to you. So they get wet, they get hard, they say yes, they say no. They communicate from the core of your truth. Your genital and sexual wisdom flows.
Have vaginal orgasms.
Once you do all this clearing, loving, and attention-giving, you allow the true sensations within your genitals to emerge. The deeper vaginal, life-changing orgasms, as I call them, can be had by all women. Owning and inhabiting your genitals is the key to getting to these deep places.
G-spot orgasms, cervical orgasms, squirting across the room, all these things can be had by every woman if you do the work. The deep, penetrating internal work to de-numb and reactivate your vagina.
Bonds you and establishes trust.
Having somebody’s face all up in your business is very vulnerable. Yet, “Our deepest need is to be seen.” [Marianne Williamson] We all crave to be known, so you slowly take all of her in, you inhale her, you explore every millimeter of her, you taste her. There is no hiding here, and the no hiding is what is going to change your life. Being exposed and loved in such an intimate way bonds you and strengthens you.
This is all sexual reconnaissance. Know thyself and know thy other.
So let’s get into some pussy shiatsu.
First, let’s start with your intention. Your goal here is to awaken and activate her pussy. Not necessarily to bring her to orgasm; you want to spend time with your pussy and get to know it, and her, inside out.
Set the scene.
Create a beautiful, soothing, and sensual space. You might want to have dim lights or candles, soft, chill-out music playing in the background, incense or aromatherapy candles or a diffuser in the space. All of these things will bring on a warmth and sensual energy.
Props.
Your amazing attentive hands, which you are going to infuse with love and light in every way that you touch her.
You also want some warm, melted-down, organic coconut oil. This is hands-down the best massage oil. It’s very glidy and sensual, and it’s fabulous for the skin.
Warm her up. Most people’s genitals need to be de-armored and de-numbed before they can reach the height of life-changing pleasure. The slower you go, the more deeply she’ll open to you. We want her to be gushing wet and ready for you, and she will be, as long as you take your time and slowly build up.
We’ll start out with some general massage strokes. You want to hit the erectors going down on the spine on the back. Buttocks, really spend time kneading and digging into the buttocks. We don’t want to clench that tight ass, and I have a remedy for that, but we’ll explore that in another video.
Inner thighs.
You can spend ages here. Remember, the longer that you tease her and delay actually entering her, the more aroused and open she’ll be. There are so many pressure points in this area, so many lymph nodes that you can spend time prodding your fingers into with gentle to medium pressure to release tension and blockages.
A lot of energy gets stuck here that contributes to sexual stagnation, especially in the inner thigh crease. You can use a strong pressure here and let go of that tension, and you’ll probably notice the release of some beautiful lubricating fluid.
All right, so let’s get into some of my favorite pussy strokes.
Labia love. One of the most overlooked parts of a woman’s body and genitalia is her labia. If you can touch her here, you’ll likely be the only person who ever did, and you’ll be forever enshrined in her mind and her pussy. The labia can be all kinds of different shapes and sizes. So you take them in between your fingers, and you roll them. Gently rub them with a finger-light touch, massage them, and then slide the flat of your tongue up and down her labia, but not inside. Then pull back and inhale her scent.
You can spend a good ten minutes on her labia and keep coming back to them throughout the massage.
The firestarter.
If you follow my work at all, you know that I’m all about the vagina. The deeper, more immensely pleasurable and life-changing orgasms for women are all in the vagina. However, if there was ever a time for the clitoris, this is it.
The clitoris is the reflexology point for the pineal and the pituitary glands, so they initiate the production of bliss hormones and neurotransmitters. So this is a great warm-her-upper.
Use very soft, circular strokes on her clitoris. Light touch. Use your saliva to wet your finger, or her pussy juice if she’s already wet, and you can go back and forth between the clitoris, the inner thighs, and her labia, lighting up her whole vulva.
The pry.
This is a move you can use anytime, anywhere. You can come up to your woman and pin her up against the wall, take a knee and pry her legs open, and she will melt. [Laughs]
As for her pussy, here’s what to do. I want you to pry her legs apart as far as they can go, and then a little farther. This alone is going to feel insane.
Now, go to her labia and stretch them gently open. Wide but not too hard and hold and hold. Take all of her in. This opening truly is the origin of the world. There is a beautiful healing and therapy in this for you in being the person who is gazing upon her pussy.
Even throughout history, there have been stories of this vagina medicine, this vagina magic. Really take that in as you do this.
The free dive.
As you’re stimulating the labia, clitoris, and inner thighs, take just the tip of your finger and put it in no further than your knuckle. Hold it there without moving, or use very, very light movements as you keep stimulating these other areas on her vulva, like her labia and her clitoris.
All of these strokes are designed to have your woman dripping wet before you enter her, so that she’s begging you to. That’s what we want to happen.
These are just a few of my prep strokes before going deep. I have many, many more techniques for deep inside the vagina. Strokes to release tension and activate her vagina so that she can more easily have G-spot orgasms, cervical orgasms, and free-flowing ejaculate.
You can check them out in my Coming Together for Couples Salon here.
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How could women not put their own fingers inside their own bodies!! That’s devastating!!! I had no idea … Kim, you should do some sort of survey into the type of education and background many of your clients have, just to guage where the flaw in the system is coming from and to determine the souce of the disconnection with people and their bodies. We can guess it’s improper sex ed and a lack of emphasis on touching your own body, but I think a proper sociological conduct into why our society is like this is in order. What do you think? I can’t really understand and relate to it since I grew up (still growing up) in the early 2000s and in a more liberal culture where limiting beliefs about sex aren’t present.