The Pussy Whisperer – Transcript
What is a pussy whisperer? A man who knows his way around a woman and a pussy. He coaxes that pussy into openness and orgasms. We have a wonderful compilation of some great Well-F**ked All Star pussy-whispering stories later in this episode, and they will share their own secrets to success.
In the meantime, here are seven golden rules of pussy whispering.
Rule number one: She comes first and multiple times.
Once they are opened to their full sexual potential, women are insatiable. All women. I guarantee it. If they aren’t there yet, that’s because they haven’t tapped into their true natures, so send them to me.
And do what you can as a man to open them. Until you’ve mastered your stamina and can choose if and when to ejaculate—or you learn how to orgasm without ejaculation, something we discussed in last week’s episode, “Semen Retention, What’s All The Fuss?”—you need to ensure your woman comes first and comes always.
And don’t stop there. The more you f**k them, the more they orgasm; you take them to places no one has ever taken them before. Most guys bail after thinking they’ve conquered the world by giving her a clitoral orgasm. Many guys bail even before that, with her having no orgasms.
But not you, pussy whisperer. You are going to bring the house down by f**king the sh*t out of her and making her come so many times that she’s left feeling like she’s on psychedelics.
You do that because you know rule number two: All the good stuff is in the vagina.
The clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg. It is 10% of the sexual power and pleasure a woman can experience. A bona fide pussy whisperer knows that while the clitoris may be good as a warm-up to get things going, the major ecstatic, consciousness-altering, and life-changing orgasms are all inside the vagina. So that’s where he goes.
Most women are numb in the vagina, so they might not even think they have much pleasure there, never mind orgasms. You can help her to de-numb. Yoni massage is a fantastic way for you to get to know her yoni and wake it up to more sensation and eventually, the deeper vaginal orgasms, like G-spot, squirting, and cervical.
Rule number three: Be a f**k-yes man.
“Babe, check out these videos on how men can last longer in bed.”
“F**k, yes.”
“Babe, let’s commit to a weekly three-hour sex date.”
“F**k, yes.”
“Babe, how about we do hour-long 69 sessions to boost our brain power.”
“F**k, yes.”
When your woman invites you on a path of growth in bed and in life, your answer is, “F**k, yes.” Every yes, every supportive gesture and willingness to evolve with her and your relationship, generates wetness in a pussy. She knows you are on board with her and your relationship, and that you value and prioritize it and her.
Every yes of yours is another drop of lubrication generated by her pussy. You showing up and engaging in all things in your lives builds trust, and you can even consider these to be acts of foreplay. That is how important it is to be a f**k-yes man.
Rule number four: Inhabit your cock.
Own it. Your cock is your tool to open and penetrate your woman physically, emotionally, and multidimensionally. You obliterate her with it in the best of ways so that she forgets her name, where she is, and anything but what she would do for you and that legendary, life-changing cock.
When I say most women are numb in their vaginas, well, most men are numb in their cocks. They are dissociated from them.
In my Sexual Mastery for Men Salon, you learn cock and testicular massage to resensitize, especially for men who have been cut and don’t know what they don’t know in the millions of miles of nerve endings they no longer have. Plus, cock lengthening and strengthening techniques. Yes, you can grow cock organically.
And if your woman has taken my Vaginal Kung Fu Salon, you are going to need a supercock to keep up with her. Otherwise, she’ll crush ya, literally.
Rule number five: Get her wet before you even touch her.
Pussy whispering starts long before you even get your hand or cock near a pussy. It’s everything you say to her throughout the day and how you interact. Are you sterile and businesslike and buddies? Or are you having sexy little verbal and physical interactions all day long? It’s making the effort to stay emotionally connected to each other. Is there anything in the air that needs to be spoken about and cleared?
All of these things, these unresolved issues, show up in bed and in your cock and her pussy, if you do not. Your openness to each other directly lubricates and has a swelling effect on your genitalia.
Rule number six: Got to have stamina. Women are insatiable. I say this all the time. Another thing I say all the time is that the number one sexual skill for men is to master their stamina. Be able to go the distance and choose if and when you ejaculate.
Your woman is built for the long haul. She really is. She just may not have met anyone who can actually go there with her, so she gives up and forgets who she really is, and who is that? An insatiable sex monster who is jumping on your cock every chance she gets.
If that jumping on is always short-lived, she will become uninterested. Her pussy will shut down and close the door.
But if you can take her to other dimensions with your stamina and control, she’s in. You are in.
This takes some effort to mater, but men who study with me have gone from five-minute f**kers to being able to last an hour within days and learned to fully separate orgasm from ejaculation within weeks. Every man can. Be the man who does.
Your stamina for penetration is most important, but your manual and oral stamina are a close second. We have a great anecdote about finger stamina in the All Star stories later in today’s episode.
Ruler number seven: Study and master sexual skills.
Learn all about the different vaginal orgasms she can have. What is the best way to stimulate her G-spot? What’s the ideal position for cervical penetration? How can you face-f**k her so she doesn’t gag? What is the fastest way to calm her when she’s in an emotional tempest?
All these are very important questions for you to know and feel utterly confident with. Your confidence itself is a major pussy-whispering skill, so build it.
A lot of people think they have a reasonable amount of sexual knowledge. Uh-huh. Have you ever been to Anami Land? Can your woman have 20 orgasms in a row? Can her ejaculate hit the ceiling? Can she deep-throat you like there’s no tomorrow? Can you go for three hours straight without coming? Can you orgasm without ejaculation and have 20 orgasms in a row?
This is the land where our Well-F**ked All Stars live. Today we have compiled a selection of them and their pussy-whispering skills for you to be inspired by.
MALE SPEAKER: In the pre-Anami times, what would be normal for us was that she would have two clitoral orgasms and I’d finish. That would be a typical night for us. And my attitude was, “She had two, and I had one. She can’t complain about anything.” And I just didn’t know any better.
She’d have the occasional cervical orgasm, but we didn’t even know what it was. She’d never have a G-spot orgasm because neither one of us knew how to do it. It’s funny because, when you’re doing Well-F**ked Woman or Sexual Mastery, the number-one toy you need to get is this G-spot stimulator, like a dildo or something, because the guy can’t do it forever. His fingers are going to get tired.
We’d say, what the hell is that? What are they talking about? I had no idea what they were talking about. It took us six months to realize, “Oh, you’re a piano player.”
That’s kind of a thing for us.
KIM: What you’re saying is you have extreme finger stamina, so when it comes to stimulating a woman’s G-spot manually, you can go and go and go and go and give her multiple orgasms. I talked in the salon about how, for a lot of guys, they might need a pinch hitter. In between the manual stimulation, they might need a special G-spot toy like our Akasha in the Anami Alchemia Shop.
You guys said, “We don’t need some extra implement. What is this all about?” Then you finally figured out how, as a professional pianist, your fingers are ultra-strong and agile.
MALE SPEAKER: Yeah. I’ve been playing piano for 50 years. [Laughs] It’s been a great advantage for us. That’s for sure.
KIM: A vaginal maestro.
MALE SPEAKER: [Laughs] I do my best.
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MALE SPEAKER: When we went through the different orgasm salons and learned about the three different types—the clitoral, the G-spot, and then the cervical—man, what a way to get rid of FUKME. That’s what the doctor ordered.
Because I signed up early, we got the G-spot thing that you offered. So we started watching the videos; we went to the local sex shop, getting all excited about this stuff before we knew we had to clear the glass. And we bought a glass dildo that’s curved for G-spots.
We tried using it, and we were clunky. Didn’t really get it, but then once we went through the class and we started using that thing, we picked it up again, and holy crap. Between that and then understanding with my fingers how to reach that G-spot, she started having these rolling waves of orgasms and these highs and lows and then highs. Just going up and up and up.
Then I would reach really far in, and I reached the cervix with my hand. Then, all of a sudden, she would have this release and just cry. I think we asked you in one of the Q&As, “Was that an orgasm? Was it not? Why is she crying? Is that a good thing? Is that a bad thing?” That was a revelation.
Again, still learning, but we kept working at those different types of orgasms. So then I figured out—I don’t know if this is too graphic [laughs]—I would flip her over on all fours and get in there with my fingers, hitting that cervical spot and the G-spot. It was a whole new world from that angle. Instead of, like I said, two orgasms, we were now having six, where the first five were with the glass dildo and my hands, and then the last one was with me inside of her.
What a feeling that is to have. I didn’t even feel the need to finish myself because it was so gratifying to see her in that space. I think you described it as the movies, where the guy gets up and it’s like, bam, bam, bam, bam, oh. And I have no desire to do that anymore. It’s more about pleasuring her. I think the other night, I was able to give her five orgasms. She said, “I’m on cloud nine right now. I feel like I’m floating.”
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MALE SPEAKER: It’s worth every penny. If you’re looking to have sex, serious sex, that’s a good place to do it.
FEMALE SPEAKER: Well, the G-spot orgasms on the Balinese bed were definitely a highlight.
MALE SPEAKER: I guess that was unusual.
FEMALE SPEAKER: We really enjoyed the Balinese bed.
KIM: It’s a daybed hung with ropes. It’s like a big swinging bed.
FEMALE SPEAKER: Yeah.
MALE SPEAKER: Yeah. Like a big round bed. A platform.
FEMALE SPEAKER: So he was performing oral sex on me.
MALE SPEAKER: Eating your pussy. Not performing oral sex. That’s so sterile.
FEMALE SPEAKER: I was having G-spot orgasms to the rhythm of this swinging Balinese bed in the breeze with the ocean. So that was amazing.
MALE SPEAKER: I think there’s that age-old complaint with couples that, “Well, he just cares about himself. He came, and he’s done, and now he’s snoring in five …” That is not what’s going on. She’s having a hundred orgasms in one session. That’s not the way this is working. This is more about me just getting myself to the next level. It’s not hurting her at all to have me come.
FEMALE SPEAKER: But it’s also about him allowing me to give him my love by receiving what I have to offer him. He has always wanted to please; he’s been on this journey for my pleasure for most of a year.
I think the big breakthrough that he’s had more recently is in this understanding about semen retention and realizing that, for him to experience all the bliss and the ecstasy and take things to the next level, the kinds of things that I’m experiencing—for him to have a similar experience, he’s going to have to let go. He’s going to have to receive. He’s going to have to open up and succumb to it, to the journey.
I’m just here to support that, and so we decided that one of the nights is going to be dedicated to him each week, so that we can start practicing that. I’m excited about it because it means I get to do lingam massages and an epic blow-job.
MALE SPEAKER: That’s her superpower.
FEMALE SPEAKER: My superpower, yeah. It was a huge win that he was able to give me the orgasms that he set out to achieve. He was the one looking at techniques. He was the one trying to figure it out. He spent a tremendous amount of time, energy, love, and devotion on my pleasure.
So when he was able to finally check those boxes and say, “Yes, I f**king did this. I own this sh*t,” that’s amazing, and I couldn’t be happier for it.
But at the same time, we have so much sex, and this is such a normal part of our life now that it’s the new normal. It isn’t like, “Oh my god, we’re having crazy sex.” It’s, “Yeah, we have crazy sex all the time.” And it’s whatever we want it to be. We’re in the Promised Land.
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MALE SPEAKER: In the process of exploring myself, I decided to try to experiment with taking your class, Sexual Mastery for Men. That brought everything together for me, but I learned through that process how to understand my body better than I ever had. Being in my fifties, I certainly wish I had learned this a long time ago, but never too late, I guess.
I did a lot of experimenting with that and learning my body and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Whole-body orgasm, I can continually do that. I choose if I want to ejaculate or not. There are times when I do, and there are times when I want to keep that energy within me.
You have to go through your own work. You have to work on yourself before you can work on being in a connected relationship with someone else. If you haven’t done that work on yourself, you’re probably not going to open up to somebody else.
So I’ve experienced both. I’ve experienced the lower level, almost disappointment of, how come we haven’t orgasmed yet? Actually, I did orgasm, but I didn’t ejaculate. [Laughs]
Then I have experienced the other side of that, which is complete mastery of a woman’s orgasm and opening her up as far as she can be. I have a partner who had been married previously for 20 years and had never had an orgasm. It took a while for her to open up, but once she did, it just blew her socks off. It took her to levels she didn’t even know existed and got to the point where the sex—there was no limit to how good it could be. It could be better every time; even if we thought it was the best sex we’d ever had, the next time would be a level beyond that.
Unless you experience it, you don’t even know it exists. It’s crazy the level of energy that you can cultivate. Sessions of continuous orgasm for the woman for three hours straight, in an orgasmic state for three hours. Then afterward, having aftershocks for four or five hours. It’s crazy, the amount of confidence you have when you can just f**k her to life.
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MALE SPEAKER: On Tuesdays and Thursdays, we do connection dates. I would say after the connection dates, we always have great sex, but that’s always even better when there’s a deep connection or a deep connection date. The sex that follows is always pretty mind-blowing.
Pretty epic.
FEMALE SPEAKER: Yeah. It’s wild because when we’re in a good streak of really great connection dates and staying connected throughout the day as much as we can and whatnot, he typically looks different to me. When I look at him, he looks taller and more solid and stuff. And I know he’s not actually changing, but the first few times, I thought, “Am I going a little crazy?” But no, it’s legitimate; he looks different to me. It’s definitely reflected in the bed.
So at first, I could have the G-spot squirting orgasms with toys or hands. Then, thank the gods, my husband has a G-spot cock. If we were to look up the toy that you sell for G-spot orgasms, that’s what my husband’s cock looks like. It’s got a curve going on.
What’s funny, just a little side note, is the more we were doing the work, the more it kind of curved. It’s like he was looking for it when I had my first G-spot squirting orgasms. I had six in a row in 20 minutes.
The first one happened, and we said, “Was that what we think?”
And then the second one happened, and it was like, “Oh yeah, this is going.” And by the last one, it was like a fireworks grand finale show. She was showing off at that point. [Laughs] “Look what I can do! This is decades of backed-up things just coming out.” My yoni and his lingam were doing their own thing, reshaping each other.
There was definite growth in width, length, and curvature. I’ll tell you, there was growth all around. It’s funny, because we refer to it as the 100% cock because there’s sometimes 70, maybe 80%. But when you hit that 100%, there’s nothing like it. There was this one session we had, and after, he asked, “How do you feel?” And I said, “Like I would do anything for you.” [Laughs] I was so dick-ma-tized. I was just slayed. It was done.
MALE SPEAKER: It was actually several years ago. We were drinking every night, so we were staying up doing that, and that’s totally dissociating in itself. It would probably be, to a normal person, a normal couple, two to four times a week. Yeah, good week, whatever.
But it would just be kind of dissociated, much quicker, definitely not as intimate. Definitely no retention or anything like that. No type of deep orgasms like G-spot, A-spot, any of the cervicals or anything like that.
Now, she’s had one from us kissing.
FEMALE SPEAKER: I’ve had two from us kissing.
MALE SPEAKER: The level of connection is not even comparable. It’s funny because it’s like this has only been going on for, I guess, two months short of a year or almost. So, not even quite a full year yet, we look back at that. And we think, “I can’t believe that’s what we were doing.”
FEMALE SPEAKER: Yeah.
MALE SPEAKER: We think, “Thank God we figured this out in our thirties.” We feel so bad for people who never find this. It’s never too late, but I’m glad we’ve got this much earlier in our relationship rather than much later.
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