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No, men, I am NOT coming for your orgasm.
In fact, I want you to have better, bigger, wilder orgasms that get you high.
And also:
- Make you more money and advance your career
- Make you more alpha and less beta
- Increase your Axe-Factor attractiveness to women
- Boost your fitness and make you able to pump harder at the gym
- Make you into a legendary Supercock who can go for hours and deliver multiple, life-changing orgasms to your woman
You in?
So how do you do it?
Orgasm without ejaculation.
Yes, you can. Every man can.
it’s the Anami Guarantee.
I’ll explain more about how you can have your cake and eat it too, but first let’s dive a bit deeper into why you might consider holding onto your fluids.
The idea of men “retaining their seed” through the practice of semen retention is not new.
It’s a concept that’s been spoken about for millennia, in cultures all over the world.
In the east, 5000 years ago in India and China within Tantric and Taoist sexual circles.
In the west, 2000 years ago with Galen and Hippocrates talking about the importance of men conserving their precious fluids.
In all of these discussions, it wasn’t about any kind of moral restriction.
It was through the observation that excessive ejaculation is depleting for men.
The male body spend a lot of time and energy to build up the capacity to create a new life with every ejaculation.
If men are constantly dumping this energy out of themselves, if they have an iota of self-awareness, they make the connection.
I mean, how can you not when 99.9999% of men have sex or masturbate, have their orgasm and the pass out?
They are so exhausted that they can’t even get up and walk across the room.
In Anami Land, the measure for men is feeling like you want to go to the gym or run a marathon after you have sex or self-pleasure.
In fact, I have a whole episode about an ACTUAL national-level ultra-marathon runner who was drawn to my work by this very promise.
The episode is called Marathon Man, Marathon Cock.
He attributes his best race time yet to these practices of consciously directing his sexual energy.
The whole notion of semen retention has gotten a lot of traction lately:
No Fap. No Nut November. Semen retention. “No sex before the big game”
All of these movements have been borne out of men seeing what happens to them and their athletic, creative and overall life performance after they dump their load.
So it spurred wth question of: what happens when we DON’T dump our loads so much?”
Here are some answers.
David Haye, Champion Boxer and Non-Wanker
“I don’t ejaculate for six weeks before the fight. No sex. No masturbation. No nothing. It releases too much tension. It releases a lot of minerals and nutrients that your body needs, and it releases cheaply. If you unload and lose all those minerals and all that good stuff, then it’s not going to help you to fight. That’s your qi. Get rid of that, and you can feel your soul leaving you. Think about it. As soon as you release, your instinct is to go to sleep. You want a sandwich and a nice kip. And you don’t want to feel like that in a boxing ring.”
Miles Davis, Jazz Legend and Non-Wanker
Miles Davis: “You can’t come, then fight or play. You can’t do it. When I get ready to come, I come. But I don’t come and play.”
Interviewer: Explain that in layman’s terms.
Miles Davis: “Ask Muhammad Ali. If he comes, he can’t fight two minutes. Shit, he couldn’t even whip me.”
Interviewer: Would you fight Muhammad Ali under those conditions to prove your point?
Miles Davis: “You’re goddamn right I’d fight him. But he’s got to promise to fuck first. If he ain’t going to fuck, I ain’t going to fight. You give up all your energy when you come. I mean, you give up all of it! So if you’re going to fuck before a gig, how are you going to give something when it’s time to hit?”
Steve Jobs, Apple Inventor and Non-Wanker
“Our birth control method up to that point was Steve’s coitus interruptus, also called the pull-out method, which for him was about conserving his energy for work,” says Jobs’ former partner Chrisann Brennan. “He explained that he didn’t want to climax so he could build power and wealth by conserving one’s vital energies.”
And a bunch of guys in the comments section of some videos where guys think that semen retention is “some new trend” that means you just never have sex.
I could create a whole new podcast series featuring comments sections online.
They have become the lifeblood of the internet.
So here’s a selection:
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“55 days on semen retention, and all I can say is I’ve never felt better in my life than I do now”
“91 days. Best thing of my life.”
“I find it hilarious how everyone who hates on SR has never gone over 90 days on it. Keep coping coom brain.”
So apparently this is an extension of the “OK boomer” meme, and they’ve applied it to anti-semen retention skeptics “OK coomer”
See? What did I tell you? This is brilliant.
“Semen retention has changed my life. I’ve completely changed from a beta, to a confident man. after a few months you start to see the benefits. not many men will even go that far, it takes a certain type of mind.”
“I have this weird urge to be a boxer now. SR literally rewires how you think about conflict.”
“I went 60 days and I felt amazing, energized and motivated just see the sun shine and the sun going down was like a bliss feeling I never experienced. Pure joy. I was happy with little things like I was a little kid all over again. stay at it. It works.”
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“Semen retention is such a powerful thing to engage in. Since bringing it into my life, I’ll never turn back on it. I’ve relapsed a few times but this is what happens in the fight to overcome addictions.”
“The longest I’ve gone is 134 days. I really shouldn’t have relapsed because I was feeling so powerful.”
”My testosterone is flowing, my gym workouts have become much more intense, my face-skin-appearance became much more vibrant!! ”
”You can choose ejaculation addiction, caused by the hyper-sexualised world and constant cheap pleasurable rewards (which are weakening men by design) or you can try semen retention for 30 – 90 days and get a feel for it yourself.
There’s a reason why more and more people are coming forward and giving their stories so passionately. A big shout out to all the people who are retaining and becoming a force to be reckoned with 😉”
“You become more confident and walk with a certain aura about you. In addition to that there’s eye contact which can sound weird but when you go on semen retention after a while you’ll be able to hold eye contact and not feel weird about it. (for the shy guys who can’t hold eye contact for 3 seconds). And also, being able to hold eye contact with girls can be seen as attractive.”
Ngl I used to be afraid of dogs but I’m not scared anymore, like a dog can be barking at me behind a fence and I’ll stare it down until it submits and stops. Weird, I know.
But overall, just do it because it’s a form of practicing self control over your desires, and the way things are going with the world rn, people want you to be addicted to anything that you can get addicted to.”
“I have done semen retention for 295 days and guys the energy is crazy.. Recovery from workouts takes just a few hours. It’s the only time you feel immortal. Give it a try.”
“I made it 350 days on SR. The magnetism was totally out of control at some points. The increase in luck factor and manifesting as well. You don’t get the benefits either until 30 days.”
“If beta males say retention is bullshit then imma definitely keep doing it and hope these betas keep releasing.”
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I love that these guys are speaking to everything from their workout capacity, to the magnetism factor with women but ALSO the manifesting power as well as the feeling of immortality.
In my work I speak about our sexual fluids as being the literal Fountain of Youth. As in, that’s what all mythical quests to find this thing were actually referring to.
And of course, I talk all the time about using your sexual energy to consciously pro-create in the world: channeling it into your career, health, fitness, creative projects, and family.
And these guys are echoing all of these ideas.
And they don’t even have the Anami vocabulary!
Today I’ve got someone for you who does.
Todd has taken my Sexual Mastery for Men program and has indeed attained mastery.
He can orgasm if or when he likes, can go for 8 hours at a time, has learned to separate orgasm from ejaculation and can tell you about all the benefits he’s seen in his bed and in his life.
The thing that’s missing from all these guys JUST practicing semen retention is that all right, they are NOT dumping out all of their potent seed.
But… they also aren’t consciously directing that energy into anything else.
And they aren’t having any orgasms at all.
If you learn how to orgasm without ejaculation, you still have all the pleasure of the most powerful orgasms of your life—because these orgasms become your BEST EVER orgasms— AND you learn to channel all of this chi energy into everything you do.
Win. Win. Win.
Well-F**ked All Star Todd
KIM: Hi, Todd, welcome. Thanks for being here.
TODD: Thank you, Kim. I appreciate you inviting me on.
KIM: So you’ve had some wonderful breakthroughs on your journey into becoming a Well-F**ked Man. We would love to hear about them, especially the holy grail for men: orgasm without ejaculation. I think a lot of men don’t even understand what that is or how it could be possible. [Laughs]
TODD: Right, right. Yeah, I think my journey with that started three years ago. In the process of exploring myself, I decided to try to experiment with taking your class, Sexual Mastery for Men, brought everything together for me. I learned through that process how to understand my body better than I ever had. Being in my fifties, I certainly wish I had learned this a long time ago. Never too late, I guess.
Yeah, so I did a lot of experimenting with that and learning my body and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation.
KIM: Was there a particular motivation that started you on a path to wanting to deepen your sexual self-knowledge?
TODD: What man doesn’t want to be a super cock?
KIM: Right. I mean, what woman doesn’t want a Supercock? So when you first heard about orgasm without ejaculation, what did you think about that? Were you skeptical? Or did you say, “Tell me more. How do I do this?”
TODD: Yeah. I think every guy’s initial reaction to that is, “Yeah, right. That can’t be true.” But I was curious enough to have decided that I wanted to really find out if I could go that deep. When I started hearing anecdotes of other people who have gone through that process, I realized there must be something to this. So at that point, I said, “Okay, I’m going to give this my all. I’m going to figure this out.” And that’s what I did.
KIM: Amazing. Prior to that, what was your stamina like? Did you have good control?
TODD: I think it was good at times. And yet it was like what I think most men are like. They think they have decent stamina. What does that mean? Does it mean 15 minutes? That’s a big difference from what my stamina is now.
KIM: And what is it now?
TODD: It’s unlimited, really. I choose when I want to orgasm and if I want to orgasm. I shouldn’t say that. I whole-body orgasm. I can continually do that. But I choose if I want to ejaculate or not. There are times when I do, and there are times when I want to keep that energy within me. I just listened to your podcast about the marathon man, and I feel the same way. Having sex does not mean that we are draining energy.
KIM: If you’re doing it in these ways.
TODD: Yes. It’s all about energy. It’s about orgasm; orgasmic energy just comes from within. And when you learn how to control that, it’ll change your life.
I was not brought up as a “new age” person—it was a pretty conservative household. I always thought those types of things were not real. But I decided to uncover this and peel back the layers of the energy and the spirituality behind it. It really changed me.
KIM: I appreciate you saying that because I think a lot of people’s initial response is that it’s woo-woo. There’s been some debate about this in the ethers these days.
I’d love to hear about how you feel. Can you see and feel the difference in you? Because the argument for separating orgasm from ejaculation is that ejaculatory fluid is a precious commodity. It takes the body a lot of time and energy to make it. It’s the energy that creates a new life with every ejaculation, and if we learn how to orgasm and get all the benefits and even more intense, full-body, pleasurable and powerful orgasms, yet we don’t emit fluid, we’ve got the best of both worlds.
Once you began to do this, what did you notice about your energy before and after having sex? Because the typical man—and the argument I would put out there—is drained from ejaculation and certainly from excessive ejaculation. Daily ejaculation really taxes men. But they become so accustomed to that feeling or they mistake exhaustion for relaxation and don’t realize that they can walk out of a sex session wanting to go, like our marathon man, run a marathon, literally.
Go run a marathon versus passing out to recover to be able to even get up and walk across the room. [Laughs]
TODD: Right. Yeah. I think the understanding most men have about sex is that you do the act and it drains you afterward. You have the orgasm, you ejaculate, and usually that understanding of ejaculation and orgasm goes hand in hand. There’s no separation between orgasm and ejaculation, so you’re doing both. Most men are ready to roll over after that and go to sleep.
After learning how to have a whole-body orgasm, I realized your energy level does not diminish; as a matter of fact, I think it increases afterward, and certainly during. But trying to explain whole-body orgasm to somebody that’s never had one is hard. I just feel like every nerve ending in your body is on fire in a good way. It’s just like you’re full of life. It’s an amazing feeling.
KIM: So you’ve gotten to a place of having pretty much unlimited stamina. You can go for as long as you want to. How many orgasms could you have in a session? If you’re having an extended sex session and you’re choosing not to ejaculate, how many orgasms could or would you have within that?
TODD: Honestly, I don’t really think you could count because I think I’ve reached the point where it just becomes continuous for the entire time. There may be varying levels of what that orgasm is, or it could be a lower level of energy that builds up—and I can only describe it as waves in the ocean. Just follow along with the waves, and it reaches some peaks, some lower peaks, and you’re orgasmic during that entire time. It totally changes your understanding of what an orgasm is. Whereas you have your ejaculation, and then all of a sudden that energy is gone, and it lasts how long, seconds?
KIM: Yeah.
TODD: I don’t think mine lasted more than 15 seconds, at the very most. I’ve been in an orgasmic state for hours before and probably could’ve gone longer. I think sometimes your body says, “I don’t know if I can take this anymore.” [Laughs]
KIM: [Laughs] I don’t know if I can take this much ecstasy. We’re talking eight-hour sex sessions?
TODD: I have. With myself, I have had eight-hour sex sessions. With a partner, when you have two people involved, usually there are more time constraints.
KIM: And so what have you noticed that’s done for your relationships with women? I’ve heard sometimes with men, depending on their female partner, the woman may not be used to that. They get a certain gratification from seeing men ejaculate. That’s the proof that they’re attractive, especially when they don’t understand these deeper themes and energies going on. It’s a kind of low-level sexual validation.
TODD: I think it is completely dependent on how open a woman is to increasing her knowledge of orgasm and connection. You have to work on yourself before you can work on being in a connected relationship with somebody else. And if you haven’t done that work on yourself, you’re probably not going to open up to somebody else.
I’ve experienced both. I’ve experienced the lower level, almost disappointment, or, “How come you haven’t orgasmed yet?” “Well, actually, I did orgasm, I just didn’t ejaculate.” [Laughs]
Then I experienced the other side of that, which is complete mastery of a woman’s orgasm and opening her up as much as she can be.
Both are extremes, obviously. Which one of those is the better sex? Mastery versus gourmet sex.
KIM: Right. Tell us more about this higher-level experience when the woman is open to this. What is she able to experience? Because I talk about how usually for the deeper vaginal orgasms in women, they need sustained penetration. Certainly a 5 to 15-minute sex session isn’t going to do it unless a couple is at a really high level of connection, where they’ve already achieved these states and they live in them. Then shorter sex sessions can get there.
But for most people, especially initially if women haven’t had these states—they need a long time to really sink in and open up to them.
Plus, I’m always in favor of longer sessions because you harvest more sexual energy. The longer you have sex, the more energized you get. It’s like plugging in your phone. The longer it stays plugged in, the longer it gets charged up.
Tell us about what you’ve seen in women when you’re able to really take them into these higher states.
TODD: Yeah. I had a partner that had been married previously for 20 years and had never had an orgasm. It took a while for her to open up, but once she did, it blew her socks off. It took her to levels that she didn’t even know existed.
It got to the point where the sex could be better every time; even if you thought it was the best sex you’d ever had, the next time would be a level beyond that. Unless you experience it, you don’t even know it exists. I mean, it’s just crazy, the level of energy you can cultivate.
Again, sessions where continuous orgasms for a woman are three hours straight. Then afterward, five hours of aftershocks. It’s crazy.
KIM: That’s amazing.
TODD: I’m to the point where once you’ve reached that higher state, it doesn’t take as long to get there. Honestly, now, just the penetration almost immediately goes into that orgasmic state and can stay there. It makes you realize as a man you have complete mastery of opening a woman up at that point. Just the tiniest movement, you learn how to ride that wave, and even at the lowest level, you’re still in an orgasmic state. She’s in an orgasmic state. Then you learn how to move your body and ride that wave and take it up to a higher level and it almost becomes a game where you say, “How high can I take this wave?”
I’m not a surfer. I know you’ve mentioned surfing in the past, and I’ve never done it, but I feel like I’m surfing even when I’m not.
KIM: I love that. What did you notice happens to you when you go out into your life? In bed, you’ve attained these levels of stamina and control and mastery and hours and hours of bliss. How does that translate into your day-to-day life? In your work, in your interactions with people, what have you noticed?
TODD: Well, I have definitely noticed if you have unresolved things within you, this is the best way to get rid of that. It’s the best therapist you can have in terms of getting over whatever blockages you may have internally. Being in that stage puts everything in a different perspective and your aura changes.
KIM: Are you talking about long-standing potential issues or current challenges in your life or both? What have you seen? Are there any examples that you can give?
TODD: Oh yeah. You can carry things from as far back as your childhood, things you don’t even realize you’re carrying, and being able to go through this allows you to blow through those blockages like they’re not even there anymore. It’s great therapy for sure.
KIM: And what about in your work life? In your career?
TODD: I think in my career, I had never really given myself enough credit for what I was capable of, and I am manifesting a different energy now completely. I just applied for a senior-level executive position, something that probably five years ago wouldn’t have been considered, and I’m very sure that I’ll get the position. So it’s affected that as well, for sure.
The amount of confidence that you have, you can just fuck life.
You have a mastery of that. [Laughs]
KIM: I love it. And how about how women respond to you day-to-day? We have all these stories of our Well-F**ked Women, and they have these epic sex sessions, whether they’re solo or partnered, and they go out into the world and literally get men running across the street to ask them out. Have you had any similar experiences where women just pick up on this well-fucked energy in you and respond to it?
TODD: I absolutely have. I had one situation where I was in a public place and sitting in a bar and, all of a sudden, I started realizing women were passing me, reaching out and touching me. It wasn’t a creepy thing; it was more like passing and placing their hand on my back. I don’t think it’s really ever happened, but at that particular time, I felt like I could feel the energy before I had even gone. I just had that energy, and it was built up, and I think they could feel it. I don’t have any other explanation. I just think it attracts people, for sure. It’s one of those things energy was made to be. It’s as real as it can be.
I just think overall I emanate more confidence now than I ever did and you can see it when I’m interacting with women.
KIM: Yeah. Anything else that you’d like to add?
TODD: Being able to have multiple orgasms as a man. I feel like that is truly the only way that a man can understand how a woman can have multiple orgasms. As a man, if you haven’t experienced that yourself, you don’t understand because you’ve never felt it. Being able to feel that yourself really takes you to a different level in terms of understanding a woman’s body and how to open her up. You consider yourself good in bed and are able to bring the woman to orgasm, but you don’t understand it as deeply as somebody who has felt it themselves.
KIM: Yeah. I often say that the equivalent to female G-spot and cervical orgasm is the male extended orgasm and getting into this orgasm-without-ejaculation state. Because the clitoral orgasm and your typical penile orgasm, like short, sharp, shocked kind of things, are quite similar. They’re more superficial. They’re pretty easy to just pop off.
But these much deeper, exalted experiences are more spiritual, energetic, more deeply connected; yeah, these are the equivalents to each other. And for a man to really meet a woman and have a kinship to her deeper orgasmic states, this is the place he needs to be able to go. And he really needs to go there even to keep up with her deeper orgasmic states.
Either way, for a couple to really advance sexually, these are the sexual skills they need to have.
TODD: Yeah. I think that goes along with my earlier comment about riding the wave. And if you don’t know that there’s a higher level to achieve, you really can’t bring your woman to that level because you don’t know it exists. You can ride that higher and higher, but it just becomes an interplay off each other, I think, at some point. There are probably a lot of women that have considered having multiple orgasms, but can they say they had multiple orgasms for three hours straight? It’s a totally different thing.
KIM: Agreed, yeah. Anything else that you would add or advice that you would give to men who are feeling skeptical about this idea? Any words of inspiration for them to be open to trying this?
TODD: I was brought up in a conservative household, so understand that this energy really does exist, and don’t give up on trying to achieve that. It’s something that changes your life when you’re able to achieve it. It’s important to realize that it’s real. Don’t dismiss it because you think you can’t achieve it. I think some men just maybe have trouble getting to that point, and then they talk themselves into thinking, “Okay, maybe it’s not real after all, and I can say I don’t feel it.” You just have to keep going and break through that barrier. You have to open yourself up before you can open somebody else up.
KIM: My sense is that men fear that you want to take their orgasm away from them. They think they’re going to be losing something. They hear this talk of semen retention or orgasm without ejaculation and they think, “Why would I give up my orgasm?” No, actually, you’re trading up for something better. [Laughs] There’s a leap of faith that you need to take as a man to believe there’s actually something better out there. It’s going to take you a bit of focus to put it into place, but ultimately it’s a far better, more pleasurable, powerful, energizing place.
TODD: Yes. When you achieve the higher level of whole-body orgasm, there’s also another side of that as well. I think it can be a scary experience for somebody to have that much energy going through them and not know where the top is. So that’s something I had to break through.
I found myself stalling at a certain point because I didn’t know it was going to happen. Is my head going to pop off? Where does all this energy come from and where is it going to go? You have to learn to control that. I don’t know; maybe it feels like it’s coming out of your cock, maybe it feels like it’s coming out of your fingertips, maybe it’s coming out of the top of your head. The crown chakra.
KIM: That’s a great point. How much pleasure can you take? What people experience, let’s say, in a typical penile orgasm, is 1/10 of what’s really available to them—and they think that’s good. “Well, this is great!” But you don’t even know. You are at the tip of the iceberg of what’s really possible.
TODD: Right. I would say that it’s less than 1/10, maybe 1/100, just a very small percentage of what you’re capable of. I’m sure I’m not even achieving my full capability at this point.
KIM: Yeah, yeah. Is there anything else that you would use to describe how it feels having orgasm without ejaculation? And was it a hard thing for you to master?
TODD: Well, I think it depends on how you define mastery. I feel like I’m a lifelong learner.
As far as being able to really achieve a whole-body orgasm, it probably took a couple of months for me to reach that milestone.
But then you reach that milestone and then reach another milestone and you’re able to successfully share that with a partner and have an extended orgasm together … And then there’s another milestone when you extend that into a point where you just have unlimited stamina—and really the only thing stopping you is how much your body can take.
I’m sure my experience would be different if I were in my twenties instead of in my fifties.
KIM: Well, it still sounds like you’re knocking it out of the park for any age. I mean, even better in your fifties. If you were in your twenties, who knows what you’d be having, like 24-hour orgasms. [Laughs]
TODD: [Laughs] Right. That’s true. But I think you’re mindful of these experiences when you’re ready for them. If you’re not mature enough to handle that, maybe you can’t achieve that when you’re in your twenties. Maybe you think you’re a Supercock when you’re in your twenties, but you don’t realize that there’s so much further to go. There’s just so much potential there; it’s unlimited, really.
KIM: Amazing. Well, thank you so much, Todd, for sharing and being an inspiration with your adventures. It’s really incredible what you’ve done.
TODD: Yes. Thanks for having me on. It has been great to be able to share this.
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Orgasm without ejaculation is the higher form of semen retention and that’s what we’re all about in Anami Land.
It’s the holy grail for men and the equivalent to cervical orgasms in women.
I show you exactly how to do it in my Sexual Mastery for Men Salon, which is open for registration NOW.
You’ll learn:
- All of my superstar stamina techniques, which means being able to last for hours
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- Taking everything in your life from beta behaviour to alpha dominance
- Plus cock lengthening, strengthening and testosterone building practices to keep you virile for life
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