TRANSCRIPT
What happens when you inhabit your masculine strength and power?
You also inhabit your cock.
Because you know—what you focus on grows.
As you show up in your life and you start bending it over and pulling it by the hair and having your way with it, life opens up to you.
Your woman opens up to you.
I am in the business of making Supercocks.
And it’s a very gratifying business to be in.
Very gratifying.
When you put in the time and effort to transform yourself from a Two-Pump Chump—or whatever underfunded man version of yourself you are—into a Supercock, your entire life changes.
Just ask Ethan.
His wife was going to leave him and that was the kick in the ass he needed to get in gear.
And did he. So many epic life changes in a short period of time:
From yes, doubling his cock size, going from being a beta male and a 2 pump chump to a Supercock alpha male, fucking life.
All Star INTERVIEW
KIM: All right, Ethan! It’s great to have you.
ETHAN: It’s great to be here.
KIM: Tell us all about your journey from wherever you started to becoming a super cock.
ETHAN: Ah! Well, I guess it started when my wife introduced me to your work. I grew up with a lot of religious conditioning, not really talking about sex, not knowing anything about it properly. I was married for 12 years and didn’t even know how to actually have sex properly.
KIM: What was your reaction when she first showed you my work?
ETHAN: Shock and then shock. To me, it was a lot of taboo. I guess I was a bit scared, to be honest, to hear about it, thinking, why do I need to go down this path? Why do you need to go down this path? What’s wrong with me? All these questions came flooding through.
I think the biggest change was someone telling me how to have sex. I thought, I’m a man. I know how to do it. In reality, I had no idea. I thought that an orgasm was the be-all and end-all of all sexual encounters. Yeah. So to hear men could control when they have an orgasm—I thought, that’s not right. But it very much is.
Yeah, I think that in a lot of ways I was more scared than anything to learn about how to have a proper relationship with my wife and how to have gourmet sex.
KIM: What do you think the fear was about?
ETHAN: It was probably admitting that I was not good enough in bed. Not good enough as a husband or father. Not really good enough in life in general. I think that was a big fear. Not living up to an expectation.
KIM: Right. Was there a particular angle into the work that your wife presented to you when she first showed you, like, “Hey, look at this new world that’s out there”? Did she say, “Hey, check out this particular idea first”?
ETHAN: I think it started with the quiz. She gave me the quiz to take.
KIM: “Are You a Supercock?”
ETHAN: Yeah, yeah. I thought, I’ve got this in the bag. This is easy. It really, really surprised me when it said I was in danger of losing masculinity or becoming a beta male.
So I really took it to heart. I actually went into a bit of a depression over it for a while. I just completely forgot about your work. I shut it out and said, “No, I don’t want you doing it. I don’t want this happening.” I was very against it to begin with.
KIM: So what brought you back into the fold?
ETHAN: She actually was planning to leave me, to be honest.
KIM: Wow.
ETHAN: Twelve years of marriage, four children in, and she was planning to pack up and go. That’s how serious it got. She sort of pulled the rug out from underneath me in a good way. It needed to happen. I was never going to change without it. It was her birthday, her 30th, and she was getting her hair cut. She just sat me down in the car and said, “You can wait here and listen to these podcasts.” I started my Kim Anami journey there.
As I was listening to it, I was thinking to myself, “Why? Why am I not wanting this for her?” Nothing about me. As I said, I was in a very depressed state, so I thought, “If nothing else, she deserves different types of orgasms. She deserves every single kind of luxury that she desires in this world and has the means to achieve.”
Really, it stemmed from there. We call it my 180. I went from going in a very, very beta male direction to the completely opposite alpha male direction. I supported her in every way. But to begin with, it was a lot out of fear of losing her, because we had agreed just to stay together.
From there, I realized that I could do better, and I listened to a podcast of yours that was about whether or not to leave the relationship and how you had to gallop in the right direction. To this day, I have not stopped that gallop for my own personal development, to better myself. In a lot of ways I think she’s actually regretting it because I have made the biggest change in my life. I’m lasting a lot longer in bed than she can handle at the moment. [Laughs] Which I know will change. She’s going to do VKF soon.
KIM: I think the episode you were referring to is “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”
ETHAN: Yes.
KIM: I say in that episode that basically when your partner extends an invitation to growth, the only acceptable answer is, “Fuck, yes.” Not, “Oh, maybe,” or “Oh, I don’t know.” It’s just, “Fuck, yes.” That’s it.
Hands down. It’s not negotiable. No exceptions. “Fuck, yes.” I love that you eventually—it didn’t happen immediately—got your ass into gear, and you jumped on and went on your gallop.
Explain what changed for you. What kind of evolution did you experience once you committed to the process? What was obvious? You said you were potentially going down the path of a beta male and then turned to really owning your masculinity. How did that look, first of all, within your sexual relationship?
ETHAN: That was probably the most profound change. I was absolutely a two-pump chump. I did not last longer than ten minutes, to be honest, and I was drinking alcohol to numb myself a lot of the time.
I went from that to, in a matter of weeks, lasting for an hour plus.
KIM: Amazing!
ETHAN: And I don’t mean lasting as in having an orgasm at the end. I literally mean at an hour, I feel like, “That’s enough for now. I can continue later. I can keep going at a later date.”
We’ve achieved two hours, two and a half hours, and we look forward to when we’re having proper three-hour or five-hour weekend-long sex dates.
I really look forward to when she’s done some more of your wonderful salons. She’s starting VKF in the next round, so I’ll be there 110% to help along the way.
KIM: I love that. It’s part of the Anami Rx, having a weekly three-hour sex date. Initially when people hear about that, they say, “Oh yeah, okay, so a movie and dinner and then we have some sex.” No, no, no, no. It’s three hours in bed. “What do you mean, three hours of straight intercourse?” Well, not initially. Manual play, oral play, massage, and then actually, yeah, it turns into three hours of intercourse.
It’s incredible that you’ve gotten there. And you’re saying, “All right, we’ve done the three hours. Let’s bring on five and six.”
ETHAN: Let’s bring on the sex weekends. [Laughs]
KIM: Yeah, exactly. I love it.
What have you noticed instead of having these quick pump-and-dump sessions when you’ve been able to extend the experience? How do you feel afterward? What’s your energy level?
ETHAN: Honestly, I feel like going to the gym, and oftentimes I do go. I love working out, and that was another big change. During the program, my energy level went through the roof. Before, I was going to sleep at seven at night, and I was waking up at 6:30 to go to work. I was drained by the end of the day. No time for me, no time for my family, no time for the kids or Trudy.
And I went from that to being able to stay up as long as I want. I have the energy to wake up the next morning and to go again and again. It’s a lot more enjoyable for living. When you’re banking that much energy, you have a surplus to use later on in your life. It flows through to your work, to your friendships, to your being a parent and looking after children.
KIM: Tell us more about that, because that’s something I talk about a lot—this concept of sexual energy as life force, procreative energy. Once we learn these Anami techniques and how to harvest that energy, we can channel it into all parts of our lives. Like you said, everything from your work to your role as a parent, to your relationship, to your gym sessions.
Explain more about that. What have you seen in each of these areas that you’ve shifted that you would then attribute to cultivating and tapping into your sexual energy and power?
ETHAN: Well, when it comes to family life, I guess, with children, you’re a lot calmer. You have the ability and the energy to be patient.
It sounds a little bit contradictory, being patient. The thing is, it’s not laziness; it’s that you have the ability to sit and think and reason with a child instead of snapping and biting their head off, as it were. You end up with a lot more control, which filters into work. You’re not frustrated at work.
Problems that would normally throw you into a bender, I guess, or make you really stressed out, you start seeing as opportunities. You get asked to do something that might be a little bit out of your comfort zone. Instead of shrinking back and thinking, “Oh no, I can’t manage that,” you think, “Yeah, yeah, let’s give it a go.” And even if you fail, you don’t really fail—you learn, and you get better and better each time. The boss starts to see your efforts, and that naturally gets rewarded with more money, a better paycheck, and more respect.
KIM: You saw that happen?
ETHAN: Absolutely. I took back my finances. My wife used to manage the finances. It was a very unmasculine thing, and I took that back. And straight away, I noticed she was managing money in a way that I don’t know how she was able to pay for things.
I didn’t even ask my boss for a pay raise. There was no begging. I simply said, “I don’t know how my wife has managed to work the funds up until now, but she’s done an amazing job. But I do need a bit of a raise.” And before I could even say anything else, he said, “Don’t worry about it. We’ll take care of you.” Didn’t even ask a price. I didn’t even say what exactly I needed.
He just gave me double what I expected. It just fell into my lap. I was astounded. I thought, “Well, maybe that was because of the two and a half hour sex date the night before.” I don’t know. Maybe because of the confidence?
KIM: It always is.
ETHAN: Yeah, it always correlates. Yeah, you have a wonderful evening and that translates into a fantastic next day or a fantastic rest of the afternoon. It just always happens that way.
KIM: Amazing. I love that. Yeah, we see those correlations all the time. It builds your faith. You see it enough that you become confident in it, and it reinforces the opposite of what most people end up defaulting to. “I’m so busy. I’m so stressed. We’ve got children. We’ve got chores. We don’t have time to have sex.” You realize:
We have a lot on our plate. We need to be having more sex because that’s what’s going to give us the energy to pull through and dominate and conquer all of these things in our lives and do it with grace and creativity.”
ETHAN: Absolutely. Without those energy-building sessions, we end up flatlining and depleted by the end of the day instead of energized and built up. Which is a massive part of what I’ve gotten out of SMM—just being a man and staying in my masculine. Giving it my all and being rewarded for it at every turn.
KIM: What has that come to mean for you, staying in your masculine or inhabiting your masculine? How is that different? How does that look and feel for you now versus how you were before entering into this work?
ETHAN: I see it a lot in the little things. You’ll notice people driving, and the guy is sitting in the passenger seat, looking at his phone, not even having a conversation. She’s taking him somewhere. He’s not leading her.
So now I lead. I take my family places. I don’t allow my wife to take us places. She might be able to book something, but I’m the one who gets us there. I’m the one who leads the way and paves the way for my family to be great.
KIM: Love it. What kinds of changes have you seen in your wife as you’ve become a Supercock and you’re able to give her these extended sex dates and a good boost of Well-F**ked Woman energy? How has she changed?
ETHAN: No nagging is probably the biggest one that comes to mind. I was constantly harassed. That’s all gone.
There’s no, “Please stop. I’m a man now. Please, no.” It just happens naturally. She’s just stopped nagging because she is looked after in every facet of her life, supported both on her hands and knees and in her life, so she’s a lot happier. A lot more smiles.
The confidence she has in me also boosts my morale and energy levels to keep going as her leader.
KIM: And what’s her response to all of this? I mean, obviously, it’s there in the behavior, where you’re saying there’s this shift in her own energy and the way she acts toward you. That is organic and not because you’ve tried to make it happen or told her to do things. But overall, what has she said in terms of, “Wow. You’ve taken this and run with it”?
ETHAN: I think she saw something in me from the beginning and believed, “I knew you could do this.” And now it’s, “You’re doing better. You are now a person that I actually want to be married to.”
I think she’s relieved in a big way that I have taken on this mantle of being a man. I know we’re in a world where everyone wants equal everything, but everyone has a role to play and mine is definitely being her rock. And she tells me every day, “You’re doing so much better,” or even if it’s just a smile as I walk past and a wink or something, she’s just got butterflies or something in her stomach. It’s exciting, to say the least.
KIM: You’ve said that if you love your woman, she will love you unconditionally, uncontrollably, and voraciously.
ETHAN: Absolutely. I wholeheartedly believe that.
KIM: So as you show up for her, she shows up for you?
ETHAN: Yes. And it’s spilling down into the family as well. Because she’s not as cranky at me, and she’s also not as cranky at the kids, or she doesn’t get angry easily, so it sort of spills down into a happy family. When she is getting taken care of in that way and we’re having gourmet sex, she’s a happy person. It’s a lot nicer to be around. You’re not treading on eggshells every second.
If you bend her over and do it properly, you get a happy wife.
KIM: How often are you having sex?
ETHAN: Exorbitant amounts. Is that a lot?
KIM: You’re having an exorbitant amount?
ETHAN: Yes. She actually got asked by her sister about how often we’re intimate. We have four children, so a lot of people say, “There’s no time anymore.” Yeah, there is. There’s plenty of time. You pick when or where, then you book it, set it on the calendar as a three-hour sex date on Sunday, and you make it happen.
A lot of people think, how do you book that in? How do you plan for it? You just do it. You literally just do it.
KIM: It’s a mindset.
ETHAN: Yeah. The foreplay throughout the day, the sexy talk, the messages that you get throughout the day, it all builds and builds and builds until you get to the point where you’re at home and you just can’t wait. You get the kids sorted out and you have an amazing time in the shower. In the bed, in the sheets, it keeps on flowing through.
KIM: For people who might ask, logistically, what does that look like with four kids? How do you make that happen?
ETHAN: Be organized. Yeah, don’t be lax about taking care of your children. They know when you’re not in a good place. They will often tell you in not so many words that they know that Mommy and Daddy are not doing well. If you’re doing well, it will show in your children’s attitude. We don’t shy away from letting our kids know, “Hey, this is Mommy and Daddy’s time. We’re going to have our time.” They say, “Yeah, okay, see you later.” They go play while Mom and Dad play, and they know and understand that this is our time. They’re happy for us.
Mom and Dad love each other. They want to spend time together, and that makes them even happier. The deed is done, and the kids come running in and it’s a cuddle on the bed, even though you’re covered up in blankets. They just want to give you so much love and affection too.
With children, it starts with the parents. It starts with you and your partner. You treat each other right. You have gourmet sex a lot, and your children are going to be happier because everything else follows. You have more than enough energy for your family. You’re banking that energy; you’re not dumping it. A big part of my past life was just dumping that energy. You can make it work in a family situation. Kids will appreciate it more than anything else.
Parents, start having more sex.
KIM: I love that. The couple is the nucleus of the family, and their harmony is what creates waves and reverberations throughout the entire family unit. When you’re happy and connected to each other, your children feel that. They become supportive of, “Of course, go have your special time,” to whatever degree they understand what that is. All they know is there’s something important going on that lubricates and harmonizes everything within the family unit and uplifts it.
ETHAN: Yeah, exactly. You don’t need to be specific. Obviously, children will find that out when they’re old enough. But you do need to let them know that Mommy and Daddy have to have this time together. When it happens, they see the benefits of parents who are happy, who love each other, and, in turn, love their children even more.
KIM: Yeah. I would assert that a lot of children act out due to unspoken, tacit agreements and energies that go on between an under-fucked couple. The underlying resentments and unspoken, unresolved issues manifest in children acting out. When the parental connection is solidified and they come together in every way, the children balance out. They’re suddenly better behaved. They’re not aggressive and belligerent. They’re soft and flowing, and you create this beautiful harmony within the entire family.
ETHAN: Yeah, absolutely. They’re a mirror of what your relationship is like, and that will show you exactly what your relationship is like. For years, we saw it. The wife and I saw the anger in our children or the frustration that was coming out of them. They absorb every part of your emotion, and they’ll give it back to you. It’s a good indicator.
KIM: Yeah. Especially the unspoken, unconscious stuff that we don’t talk about or directly show. We think they’re not seeing it, but they actually absorb everything by osmosis. Yeah.
ETHAN: The good and the bad.
KIM: Yes. Yeah, exactly. Is there anything else that you’d like to share?
ETHAN: Yeah. When you’re doing the work, you unblock a lot of traumas along the way. But in doing so, you also unlock certain parts of your body you didn’t know, a fitness level that you didn’t know you had. You’re unblocking a specific blockage.
I remember the first one that Trudy and I went through together. We spent probably half an hour diving into some of the blocks that I had, just working through them.
<h3I more than doubled in size and became solid as a rock, just by clearing this one block. It was incredible.
You do grow in every way. What you focus on grows.
She is very, very grateful for that. [Laughs] It unlocks your physique. You start to change physically. I was 86 kilos, even though I was gymming heavily at the time. Could not budge anything.
But once I cleared another couple of blocks, 10 kilos fell off me. No diet change, nothing. It just fell off me, and I went from having a potbelly gut to abs in a matter of weeks. It was incredible.
Starting the program and starting down that path of self-development shows through in every aspect of your life and your brain. You start to think more clearly because you have the energy. Physically, you look better. You just do.
KIM: I love both of those stories. The power, the metaphysical effect of us clearing stuckness within our energy field, and the actual physical result that shows up in our body. You being able to inhabit your cock, double power, double size, that’s incredible. That is such an epic example of fully owning your masculinity and your power when your internal body barometer releases something that’s getting in the way of you being able to do that. Wholeheartedly. Wholecockedly.
ETHAN: Yes, absolutely. It was an incredible experience. I didn’t know it was going to happen. I didn’t expect it to happen. It was a very surreal experience. A shock for both of us. We were in the shower and I was standing there, thinking, “Wow.” And she just looked at me and said, “Can I please touch it?” [Laughs]
KIM: “Can I please worship it?” [Laughs]
ETHAN: “Can I please, please? It looks amazing.” I said, “Yep. It feels amazing, and we’re going to make this work. We’re going to make it even better.” Yeah, from that point, we just knuckled down. I took that gallop, and I ran with it from the moment I started this program. It was a very, very intense couple of weeks.
KIM: Wow. Same thing with the body releasing weight and baggage. These are the stories I think I love the most, where we clear some kind of blockage and we either inhabit a body part or release literal weight and baggage that has no correlation to calories burned versus exercise. It defies that formula entirely and becomes something that fully just releases or, as we say, inhabits, and your body fully changes to reflect this holograph of your inner emotional, psychological, and spiritual state that then immediately changes within your body. That’s the proof in the pudding.
ETHAN: It is. I like getting up early and doing the exercise. [Laughs] Sexercise. My trainer said, “In the amount of time that you’ve done it, you shouldn’t have lost that much weight.” I said, “I’ve been doing a lot of self-development.”
So yeah, absolutely, the weight just fell off due to just releasing all that stuck energy built up inside me. The amount of confidence I gained afterward—being able to hold a conversation with powerful people, walking into a meeting and talking about hundreds of thousands of dollars, and being able to hold my own and stand my ground when it’s needed—it’s an incredible feeling. You can’t train that into someone in such a small amount of time, but you can unlock that beast inside you. You have that power and can unlock it if you do the work. If you put in the effort to release those blockages.
It has been a very wild ride for the last year.
KIM: Yeah. That’s amazing. I’m just so thrilled to hear all of this. The proof always is in the pudding. The amount of changes and transformations that happen are connected to how much you really put in. When you use that word, “gallop,” that’s what I say—you grab it and run with it. There isn’t this negotiation, like half in, half out. “No, I’m in 150%. Let’s go. Let’s do it.” That’s the key to the kingdom and the queendom—that level of commitment and dedication.
I feel like so many people get accustomed to these painstaking negotiations with their partners of being half in, half out, half committed. This mediocre land, rather than when both people fully commit and go on that gallop together. And how fast and dramatically your reality can change.
ETHAN: Yeah. Absolutely. Clearing the glass—I think for the first week or week and a half since my 180, all we did was talk for hours on end. I took a couple of weeks off work and wherever we went, we just talked.
It was the most I ever talked to my wife in 13 years.
I found out things about her I had no idea about. Beliefs, morals, standards, what she expected, what she didn’t expect, and being able to say it to her, having her be able to say all those things to me, even if it was painful for me to hear sometimes. Just clearing the glass between us.
In a whole lot of ways,
it was one of the biggest aphrodisiacs for us that got us back in bed.
Opening up, clearing, and being able to see each other as transparently as possible, and we keep that now. That’s radical honesty, I believe you call it. It’s an unbelievable way of communicating.
A lot of people think, “No, you should hide these things.” That’s garbage. There’s not a single thing about each other that we don’t know now. It’s enlightening. To be able to see your partner with that level of openness is truly profound.
KIM: The aphrodisiac of truth.
ETHAN: Yes. It was that much of an aphrodisiac, being able to talk. It often led to a two- or three-hour event afterward.
It started out as, “Oh no. No, we won’t go down that path. We’ll sort of take it slowly.” But that gallop found its way into the bed and into the shower. It found its way everywhere, once we found that communication.
KIM: Well, I love that you started on that cellular level. And this is another example of that all-in principle. It’s being committed to radical honesty versus, “Oh, I’ll hold this back. I won’t share this,” which is that half-in, half-out state.
Then, that further extending of the conversation on the cellular level sexually to clear the residue of all that stuff is a natural extension.
ETHAN: Absolutely. It’s like starting a workout routine and thinking, “Oh, I’ll only do two or three days a week.” No. Jump into four days a week, jump into five days a week. Hit it hard, or you won’t see change, and then you’ll stagnate and you’ll stop. If we’d done that, if we’d kept anything from ourselves, we wouldn’t be where we are now. We would’ve stagnated and stopped all communication. That’s just the way it goes.
KIM: Brilliant! Anything else? Any parting words to men out there?
ETHAN: Yeah. Start having an amazing sex life. It translates through to your whole world. We, as men, think that we’re great. But there’s a lot to learn. There’s a big journey ahead of us.
Start having sex more often.
We want to do the best we can for our partners, and that starts with us as men. It starts with clearing those blocks. It starts with bettering ourselves. The easiest way to do that is to join SMM and start down that path of bettering yourself.
KIM: Love it. Thank you so much, Ethan. It has been delightful to hear your story and hear what a gallop looks like in action and results.
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