Expert Penis/Lingam Massage – Transcript
Expert penis/lingam massage.
One of the best ways to show your man love is to show his cock love. The cock is the extension of the man. When you love it, you are loving the essence of him. You help him to fully occupy his erections, his masculinity, and himself.
Cock massage, or lingam massage, is an amazing way to do this. Lingam is a Sanskrit word that loosely means “wand of light.” [Laughs] Spending time loving and massaging your man’s cock activates both of them to their true potential. Both sexes internalize trauma and cultural conditioning, and it takes up energetic real estate in the genitals.
Things like circumcision, sexual abuse, and unhealed relationships all show up here and create energy blocks that can manifest as numbness and disconnection.
The disconnection can look like premature ejaculation. Seventy-five percent of men come within three minutes of intercourse. This is a national crisis, I would say.
Porn addiction, separation of the heart and the cock, low libido, impotency issues—loving and skilled cock massage helps to release these stored tensions and resensitize the genitals, which leads to multiple orgasms, more intense and pleasurable orgasms, stamina—being able to have sex all night—rock-hard erections, and being able to heal your partner with your conscious cock.
I’ve done cock massage to guys who’ve pretty much done every other sexual thing under the sun except have their cocks lovingly massaged, and they went nuts for it. [Laughs] Nobody had ever paused and adored their cock like that before.
[Whispering] That’s why they call me the cock whisperer.
Here’s what you need to get started for an expert penis/lingam massage:
Melted coconut oil. This is the best oil for massages. Super glidy, and you can just glide for hours all over your partner. You can also use my Ballistic Lingam Massage Oil for Men, available in my Anami Alchemia Online Shop.
Create a beautiful space, candles, ambient music, beautiful light, privacy, or not. You also don’t have to spend any time at all on that; just dive in, grab your oil, and get to it.
Position, position, position. Have him lie on his back with his legs open and place a pillow under his head or perhaps under his knees.
Intention and imagination. Your intention is to massage, open, activate, heal, and release tension. We want a self-actualized cock.
So while you do want to give your partner pleasure and it will feel good, your main goal isn’t to get him off. At least not right away. With each stroke, visualize light energy moving through his balls and his cock as you massage him. Imagine that you’re absorbing negative energy. You’re transforming its stuckness into something light and beautiful, and just send it out into the universe with every stroke you make. Your visualization will add another very potent layer to the penis/lingam massage.
Breathe
Encourage your man to breathe. You’ll be generating powerful sexual energy, as well as potentially triggering memories and stored sensations. The more that he can breathe deeply, the more he’ll dislodge and dissolve these energies.
Buildup
Before you even touch his cock, take your time and massage his entire groin area. Lower belly, thigh crease—there are a ton of pressure points in the buttocks and perineum. Imagine that you’re releasing all kinds of stuck energy from all these places with every finger touch that you make.
Testicles
The testicles are the reflexology points where the pineal and the pituitary glands meet. Stimulating them is regenerative and increases testosterone production.
Cup them gently between your fingers.
[Laughs] I was going to get some plums or something to do this demo, and I didn’t have any, so I had to go out into the backyard and go scavenging, and I found these lemons. These are some really big balls, but what the hell, we’re just going to go for it.
Cup them gently in your hands and very lightly use your fingers and your thumbs to roll in circles. You can go in different directions and cover every bit of surface area of these beautiful balls.
The Shaft
Here to demo, I’ve got one of my beautiful Anami Alchemia couture cocks, dildos made of hand-blown glass.
We’re going to do a rotating thumb petrissage, which is a series of strokes up the shaft. You start at the bottom and work your way all the way up with the thumbs in circular motions. That was a section I just did here. You’re going to move and then do the section next to it, so that you cover every little millimeter of surface area on his cock. Every bit of it is a pleasure zone, not just the head or the glans, as you might have been told. We want to cover all of it.
Just like you’re massaging a sore muscle, visualize that you’re dissolving tension with every stroke.
The Ring of Fire
With your hands facing in opposite directions, you’re going to ring back and forth on the shaft of his cock. Imagine that you’re stoking his sexual fire, and you’re drawing it out of his testicles and bringing it up the cock.
The Twist and Flick
You’re going to start at the base, then you’re going to make your way up to the top, and once you get there—you’re doing a spiral all the way—pa-choo—you can flick any negative energy out into the ethers.
Full-Body Cock Love
Stroke his cock and take it all the way from the cock up through the chest. So you’re playing at the cock, but then you’re moving up the belly, up the chest, and out the arms with your fingertips. You’ll be spreading the sexual energy throughout his body.
Make sure that he’s breathing deeply as you do this because you’ll also train his body to move sexual energy away from the genitals and throughout the whole body, which increases his chances of having a full-body orgasm.
You can also go down the body. Start at the genitals and then go down the thighs, calves, and out the feet.
At this stage, you may want to continue massaging him with some other body part, like your mouth or your vagina or anything that you like.
There you go! All the elements that you need for an ecstatic and transformative cock massage.
If you’d like to go deeper and learn my full lingam and yoni massages with many, many, many more strokes and techniques, check out my online salon, Coming Together for Couples.
For a more enlightened life, cock, and orgasms, subscribe to my channel.
Your frankly open, honest conversations, full of tips, enlightenment {& super keen touch of humor} are so full of energy and are simply fantastic/amazing! Thank you!
Thank you! Happy to hear it all resonates wth you. Especially my humour. 🙂
Kim, you are amazing!
My wife and I are struggling sexually and feeling connected. We found your work and instantly were drawn in. We have committed ourselves to work hard to be connected, sexually alive and satisfied. With your guidance and energy we can do it.
Thank you!!!!
So glad you are here! Welcome!
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This is important since I see so much talk about yoni massage and recliaming pleasure for women, but not enough for the lingams.
So thank you for sharing Kim! 🙂
My pleasure! Yes, lingams need love too!
Kim….My sexual mentor….thank you…
I’ve been watching, reading and listening to you for many years…
I’m a 57 years young Man with the libido of a 30 year old…so I’m told 🙂
I practice and experience conscious Monogamy….WOW
Keep up the good work…you are spreading genuine LOVE and keeping Men like me young and sexy.
Gratitude and joy…Darren
Vancouver
That’s so great to hear!
Thank you!
How do I start the conversation that this is what I want/need to do without him freaking out or being un-receiving? Thanks, I love everything about what you do btw.
Watch the video together!