Sexual Healing for Men 2.0 – Transcript
Sexual Healing for Men 2.0. All of my work is about upleveling, becoming the best person and the best cock that you can be. The word Anami, which is my namesake, in Sanskrit means there’s always another level to go. There’s always a way to expand further into your zone of genius or bust into a new one. That is what sets me on fire, breaking new ground.
In the land of supercocks, the higher-level experiences we’re aiming for are:
Being able to last as long as you want in bed, ideally hours. Being able to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Having wild and potent erections on demand well into your nineties. Realizing your mission in the world and living a life aligned with your highest purpose and individual gifts. Slaying in your vocation and business.
Your wife is a thoroughly artfully and heartfully Well-F**ked Woman. You f**k-annihilate her on the regular, blasting her demons to smithereens and opening up to the luscious, sensual, divine woman she longs to be. You maintain solid erections even over the course of hours of having sex.
You get high from sex and realize it’s a portal to higher states of consciousness and leaves your psychedelic experiences in the dust. You feel like you can run a marathon after sex, or at the very least, go to the gym for a heavy workout because you have that much energy afterward.
You are making more cash than you ever have. Money is getting thrown at you. Your woman wants to have sex with you all the time and worships your cock like the divine rod and divining rod that it is.
I share real-life examples of these things all the time in my All Star interviews on the podcast. A couple of weeks ago, we heard from guys talking about all the money that their supercocks are generating for them since becoming well-f**ked men.
Mark shared that the 90-minute blow-jobs that his wife loves giving him led to a multimillion-dollar business deal. I am always showing you couples in long-term relationships who can’t keep their hands off each other.
All of this is higher-level supercock-dom, and that is what my work is all about, the highest of the high. And remember the Anami guarantee: All men can have these experiences. Everyone. I guarantee it.
So why don’t they? Beliefs, blockages, and traumatic experiences that may have happened to them. This ranges from outright sexual abuse to absorbing the distorted cultural ideas about sexuality that create shame and taboo, all around the healthy expression of sex. We all have these. It’s impossible to grow up in our modern, very sexually suppressed world and not have taken them on.
The work is to identify and clear these things and rewire and restore ourselves to our true, infinite, ecstatic, sexual expression.
Think of it as dirt and mud caked over the top of a beautiful sculpture. Over the years, it has decades of neglect. We need to brush it off, and sometimes we need to sandblast it [laughs] or even chisel it off to get to the truth, beauty, and bliss beneath it. A lot of things that people and allopathic medicine, and even just the average person who doesn’t know what they don’t know, might think are normal sexual expressions, such as premature ejaculation; impotence at any age, including in your fifties, sixties, seventies and beyond; feeling tired after sex; being stuck in beta-bitch energy; having a low libido; and excessive porn use—they might deem those things as normal.
But no, none of that is normal. It’s been normalized, but it’s not normal. It is symptomatic of distorted sexual energy, unhealed trauma, and oppressive beliefs. You can clear all these things and attain supercock status.
Here is my sexual Rx specifically for men. These are methods you can use to heal trauma, ground you in your body, and align yourself with your potent sexual energy and live with it as a compass in your life. Like I said, a divining rod.
Number 1: Conscious self-pleasuring.
I always make a distinction between unconscious and conscious sex acts or junk food sex versus gourmet sex. One version is about busting out an orgasm as fast as possible, often through porn or fantasy, and then passing out, essentially using sex as a sleep aid or stress relief.
The opposite of that would be using sex to get more conscious and to feel rejuvenated afterward. Even to channel that energy into your work and creative projects.
Or like ultramarathoner Anthony Kunkel, our All Star from last week’s Marathon Man, Marathon Cock episode, who literally runs marathons and ultramarathons after sex.
One of the ways to do this is to ensure that you are breathing deeply throughout your self-pleasuring and commit to extending the time you spend doing this. Instead of galloping toward the finish line, you slow down and deliberately ride the edge of your arousal, all the while breathing deeply.
This breath circulates sexual energy throughout your body, instead of being ejected out of you. That powerful life-force energy not only revitalizes you, but it’s also able to open and repattern neural pathways, expanding what’s possible for you sexually. It’s also the very best tool for building stamina.
Number 2: Marathon sex. Even more on this theme of expansion and spending more time during sex.
Premature ejaculation is a sign of unresolved trauma. It is a reflex to bail on the situation ASAP and avoid any depth. The longer you go, the deeper you go. If you apply the same deep-breathing techniques during sex, during intercourse, you will be able to last longer and harvest more sexual energy. You’ll also open up to the deeper emotional places within yourself that you have previously shut off from.
All this and more when you invest in longer sex dates. Plus, you will be able to bring your woman to vaginal orgasms, because most women can’t get there in 5 or 10 or even 30 minutes, or at least not until they’ve become very adept at having these deeper orgasms, and having a Well-F**ked Woman on your hands and on your cock is going to change your life in every possible way.
Number 3: Lingam massage.
Continuing the theme of making the unconscious conscious, lingam massage involves spending dedicated time, love, and attention with your cock. You can massage yourself, and your partner can massage you as well. The purpose of lingam massage, as opposed to conscious self-pleasuring, is to activate, awaken your cock to release any tension and trauma that may be lodged there—the issues in our tissues, as Wim Hof says—and open your conscious awareness to your cock and testicles.
Especially for men who have been abused or mutilated and sexually violated through circumcision, this is essential medicine.
A side note on that: There is no defense of circumcision, no matter what someone tries to rationalize. If we took all baby girls at birth and cut their clitoris off, there would be mass outrage, just like there is when we do it to grown women or teenage women. And I’m glad that there’s a lot of outrage on it, because it’s confusing how many people seem to have been hoodwinked—ha-ha—on the male circumcision issue, where they justify it and defend it and rationalize it.
No. This is rape. It’s abuse. It’s mutilation with absolutely no medical reason. All the reasons that have been invented are truly perverted. Not to mention that millions of miles of nerve endings on the most sensitive and orgasmic part of the cock get removed during this torture. “Hey, welcome to Earth. We’re just going to rape and mutilate you on arrival. Okay, you’re good to go.”
If you would like to go deeper into this topic, I have a whole episode on it called “Circumvent the Circumcision,” which is season 1, episode 31, where I interview the fantastic Brendon Marotta, the director of the film American Circumcision.
Loving time spent massaging your cock in the way that you would, let’s say, massage a sore muscle, although not with that much pressure, is a great way to release what lies within and liberate the true power and pleasure of your cock.
Again, if you’ve had a circumcision, then you’ve got scar tissue on the cock. Doing this massage is wonderfully healing for that.
The intention is to wake up and heal. If you get aroused in the process, you can orgasm if you like, but it isn’t the main goal, so you can remove that pressure and really open up and relax into the experience and allow whatever comes up to come up. You might have emotional feelings arise and release. You might have tears. You might have hysterical laughter. All of this is good, and we welcome all of it.
I have some great videos on lingam massage on my YouTube channel. One of them is called “Expert Penis and Lingam Massage,” and the other one is called “How to Give an Ecstatic Penis Massage.” In that second one, we interview one of our All Stars, and he talks about his experience. I think we have him with his wife in that episode as well, sharing how transformative this has been for them and for his cock.
Number 4: Resurrect Crystal Elixir.
I have made a series of healing elixirs from crystals in my Anami Alchemia Online Shop. In my Deep Healer Series for Men is Resurrect. There are three crystals in this formula. One is rhodochrosite, which is a gorgeous magenta crystal meant to be the ultimate crystal for self-love and self-confidence. And it is the premier healing crystal for sexual abuse, including circumcision.
I’ve added that. I’ve also programmed the circumcision part into it, because most people don’t necessarily look at that as a trauma.
It also contains chrysoprase, which is excellent in regaining your drive and desire to achieve in the world. And rose quartz, which is overall healing, but also looks into and addresses father issues.
This is a great complement to doing this inner work. The crystals really help to activate, excavate, and unveil the unconscious places where you might be stuck, and not even know that you’re stuck, and transform them into conscious power.
You take seven drops in the morning and seven in the evening for 21 days. Each crystal elixir in the Anami Alchemia Shop also comes with a guided visualization that you can listen to daily or at least several times a week during the course of taking your elixir. Then you can use it whenever you like after that.
Number 5: Testicle massage. Cherish those jewels.
A few minutes a day of massaging your testicles will generate testosterone and help to fire up your drive and connect to your gravitas, your balls, your courage. I teach a testicle massage routine in Sexual Mastery for Men. Anthony from last week’s “Marathon Man, Marathon Cock” episode, which is season 5, episode 26, referenced it as one of his ultramarathon prep tools.
Number 6: Kicking porn.
Not only does frequent jerking off to porn utterly deplete your dopamine and testosterone, turning you into an impotent and balding beta-bitch, but some suggest that there’s a deeper price to be paid for the free and easy access to hot Asian school girls who do anal.
By opening up your sexual energy centers and connecting with this most base expression and oftentimes not even consensual depiction of sex, you open your aura to energy harvesting in unseen dimensions. This might seem really far out for some of you to consider, but if you think that your sexual energy is the most vital, powerful energy source you have access to, and you’re offering it freely out into the ethers, some would say that you are allowing a direct siphoning of this high-quality energy through this portal.
Again, if that’s too much for you to think about, then you can stick with the fact that over the short, medium, and long term, porn depletes your sexual energy physiologically, potentially beyond repair.
In Sexual Mastery for Men, we talk about how to get off of—not get off with [laughs]—and detox from porn. I have a great interview with Jonathan on how he quit using porn in my “Porn to Power” episode, which is season 4, episode 25 of the podcast.
Number 7: Loving on your woman’s pussy.
Magic pussy will heal you. Did you know that pussy juice is a magical healing balm and elixir? And you have an infinite supply of it on top. Drinking it, absorbing it through your cock; there are so many ways that you can ingest it. However, there is a catch. For a pussy to have magical powers, it must be surrendered, open, and wild.
A pussy made wet by artificial lubricant will never be magical. Only natural, organically grown, gushing pussies will be able to take you in and spit you out recalibrated and reborn. Only a pussy made so open and wet and hungry and teased and loved into oblivion will be able to alchemize you and your demons. A closed-off, walls-up, pissed-off pussy is not going to perform such miracles.
Make it your mission to unlock all the secrets of pussy, and she, in return, will help you to unlock yours.
Number 8: Seems like an obvious one, but it isn’t necessarily: Getting the f**k out of toxic relationships where you hide and keep yourself stuck.
You deserve to be a well-f**ked man f**king your Well-F**ked Woman into oblivion. Because the bar is set so low and because we are modeled so few, if any, healthy, powerful, sexually fueled conscious relationships, most of us have very little sense of how to go about creating a superpower couple dynamic where your relationship becomes your secret weapon and your turbo fuel for your entire life. This is the real breadth and depth of my work.
The truth is, if you are not growing, you are dying. Stasis only exists for a brief moment when the universe gives you a second to catch your breath and then change course. If you don’t, then you start to decay. Unfulfilling relationships take a lot more out of you than you might think. They slow you down in every part of your life. People don’t make the correlation between financial troubles and sexual troubles. Children acting out and sexual troubles in bed with the couple. Health issues and sexual troubles between you.
But after three decades of doing this work, I can tell you that that is an absolute fact. I have a great episode on the whole topic of “Should I Stay or Should I Go,” which is what it’s called, season 4, episode 34, and I discuss how the only acceptable answer when you talk to your partner about improving your relationship and upleveling your sex life is, “F**k, yes, let’s do it.” Anything less than that is, to quote Dan Savage, “Dump the motherf**ker already.”
My old friend Bruce Lipton says, “A cell can only be in either protection or growth. It cannot be in both at the same time.” If you are living in a protective shell with walls up between you, there will be no growth, and no growth will extend into every part of your life.
Number 9: Shove something up your ass.
The male G-spot delivers as profound, deep, and cathartic an orgasmic experience as the female version does, only guys, yours is located up your ass, which is truly a gift because in going into this potentially foreign territory, you get to confront all your proverbial sh*t and fears and taboos, and all these make excellent bedfellows. Better to hunt your demons than have them pop out from under the bed.
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Here is a fantastic clip from a salon member sharing about his first and wildly transformative G-spot orgasm, going from an anal virgin to an enthusiastic ass ambassador.
SPEAKER: So I just wanted to share my experience from this week’s salon. My wife and I have been going through all the work, clearing blocks and trying everything out.
Everything’s been going really great, but we’ve always been a week behind. I work away from home for three days a week, so we don’t always see each other, and finding time, as for everyone, is sometimes tricky.
We had a lingam massage scheduled for Sunday night, and after watching the videos from the last salon and all the way through this, we discussed taboos. And then last week’s salon and the week prior, we discussed how anal was always taboo for me in the sense of both giving and receiving.
Through our discussions, I said, “I have some blocks. I know I do; I just don’t know what they are.” I always figured I probably have something stuck up my ass, essentially.
So I gave permission after last week’s salon that maybe we’d try it during a lingam massage or at the very end. I’d be super-aroused, and then it would be okay, and I might be more for it.
We went through the lingam massage, and just before finishing, she started rubbing my ass. I gave her the green light, so we decided to go ahead. She started off super slow with lube and everything. It felt quite nice. Then she started giving me a blow job while doing it, which felt fantastic.
As she got further and further in, I was breathing properly the whole way through, just trying to breathe through it and feel everything and so on. And at one point, it was getting better, better, better, better. Then I started getting these waves of energy going through my body, and it was just unbelievable. I’ve never felt anything like it. She was saying my whole body was goose-bumpy, and she could see it happening in waves from my cock flowing outward.
I kept my eyes closed and just breathed through all this because my body was writhing uncontrollably all over the place. I didn’t want to open my eyes because I figured she’d be either laughing or trying to hold back laughter.
At one point, I felt these waves of energy that were so hyper-intense, going from my cock all the way up to my throat and then getting stuck there. Same in my arms; they were going all the way to my forearm or my wrist and then stopping. It kept happening over and over, and as I was breathing, it was going with my breath.
At one point, I opened one eye and saw her smiling. She said, “Let it go, babe.” Yeah, the next breath, whatever the block was, it felt like a physical block in my body, and then it just f**king went everywhere. It was so intense and so incredible. I would say I, without a doubt, had a full-body orgasm, did not ejaculate, and yeah, it was mind-blasting.
Then afterward, I lay there and just continued breathing for 10 to 15 minutes. I was continuously bursting out in fits of laughter, crying at stages; it was incredible and intense, and it clearly helped get rid of whatever was stuck up my ass.
I wanted to share my story because I was laughing the whole time after it. All the blocks about, “Oh, that’s gay sh*t; I don’t want to do that,” or whatever. Dudes, give it a whirl. It’s mind-blowing.
KIM: Oh my god, you brought tears to my eyes in a good way. Oh my goodness, thank you so much for sharing that. And you described it really well. Kudos to both of you for being open and your partner, just the way you described the buildup, you were aroused and she sucked your cock a bit; she really helped to keep you open to the experience, so that was brilliantly done.
Then, to facilitate that, that moment you just described where she said, “Let it go, babe,” that just hit me. Oh my gosh. That’s such a beautiful way of saying, “I’m here with you in this unknown, crazy territory. Go for it.”
What a beautiful story. That’s just amazing. Thank you so much for sharing that. Well done. Bravo.
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KIM: Number 10: Rewilding sexuality, testosterone building.
In this category is anything that brings you back into your own primal nature and masculinity. That goes for the food that you eat—clean, organic, whole foods, living in an equally clean and nontoxic environment that isn’t pumping additional estrogen into you.
Exercising, pushing yourself physically, whether it’s in the gym, surfing, rock climbing, or playing competitive sports. All these things help to evoke your primal man. Going off-grid on camping trips, getting away from civilization periodically, is one of the fastest ways I know to regenerate this core energy. Prioritize anything that helps you to recalibrate and makes you feel more connected to your true and masculine self.
I have a fantastic episode on this called Rewilding Sexuality, which is in season 4, episode 24, where I go into a huge list of my favorite rewilding sexuality recommendations.
Number 11: Get support.
A lot of men I’ve known, particularly of the alpha breed, have a hard time asking for help. It is essential though. It’s like having a shaman take you into the underworld and help to light the way. You are a stranger in a strange land. The land of your unconscious, which is full of traps and delusions and landmines. It helps if you have a way-shower to tell you what to look out for and where to find the shortest way through the mire.
That is what my salons are all about. One of the things people always comment most about in them is how amazing it is to be going through these experiences with a group of people, and you know that you’re not alone. These salon cohorts keep in touch years later, still sharing and supporting each other and propping one another up.
We have a private forum within each salon in addition to our weekly group calls and breakout sessions, where you can connect. Of course, I am there to kick your ass with my trademark ruthless compassion, and it’s fun. All of this can be fun. Where else do you get to talk about vaginas and a**holes and prostate orgasms with such openness? Nowhere. Just the Anami version of an online eight-week dinner party extraordinaire.
The Sexual Mastery for Men Salon 2023 is officially open. For the next two weeks, you can sign up for my Ultimate Guide to All Things Men and All Things Pleasing Women. In the salon, we cover everything from deeper healing modalities to release trauma and clear blockages, detoxing from porn, how to build marathon super stamina, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation.
Cock exercises to lengthen, strengthen, and grow your cock organically; testicle massage; how to channel your sexual energy as a creative power, increasing your vitality, confidence, and cash flow; and a pelvic weightlifting routine—this is the equivalent of vaginal weightlifting that I do and many of you may know me for.
Orgasmapedia, the full guide to female orgasms, including G-spot, cervical, and ejaculatory orgasms, and all about finding your masculine expression, owning it in the world, manning up and tapping into this sexy alchemical darkness in today’s hostile-to-masculine-energy climate.
To sign up and take the journey to super cock-dom, come to KimAnami.com, look for Sexual Savant Salons, and then click on Sexual Mastery for Men.
