TRANSCRIPT – The Healing Power of 69
The food of the gods
I’m always talking about how sex is medicine.
Good sex is, anyway.
Bad sex is more like poison.
How do I distinguish between “good” and “bad” sex?
The terms I typically use are “gourmet” and “junk food” to describe the differences.
“Junk food” sex is just like “junk food”. It might seem in the moment to be a good idea. It’s tempting and shiny and sparkly with bright colours.
But it has no actual nourishment inside of it. It does nothing to build muscle or feed your system.
And at it’s worst, as in with refined sugar, it’s a neurotoxin. Ingesting it actually causes more damage than if you ate nothing at all.
In fact, fasting until you could eat better quality food would serve you and your body better.
Gourmet sex is a meal that is wholly satisfying.
Have you ever eaten a meal prepared by a Michelin-starred chef?
It has many layers of flavours and unusual, surprising textures,
The most unique pairing of ingredients.
The whole experience from start to finish, in presentation, to taste, is creative and original.
Ingredients are sourced from all over to create just the right note.
It’s a meal you relish every bite of, and remember for days, weeks and years later.
Junk food sex can leave a bad taste in your mouth and body.
Like a candy bar, it might give you a quick hit, but that’s followed by a blood sugar plummet and feeling low energy and even remorse.
You might even have a sugar hangover. Your body now has to spend extra time and energy processing and detoxifying from your indulgence.
Junk food sex affects people the same way.
My ultimate barometric question for people is:
Does sex leave you feeling rejuvenated, energized, ecstatic, transformed and like it changed your life?
If not, then you’re doing it wrong.
Every single encounter can either UPlift you are can delete you.
Which would you rather?
As Director for the Center of Underfucked Disease Control, the CUFDC, I am constantly looking at what makes the best sex, and giving people the prescriptions they need to elevate their sex lives.
I’m the best doctor ever.
And one of the only ones who shows people how to heal themselves.
you can use your sex life and your sexual energy to put you to sleep: both metaphorically and literally — how many people masturbate or have sex as a sleep aid? — or you can use it to wake you up, to energize you and to expand your conscious awareness.
Our sexual energy is our creative life-force energy.
You can choose to harvest and harness that energy consciously, or you can throw it away.
My work is all about teaching people to consciously use that energy to up level every part of their life: from their physical and emotional health, their bodies, their relationship with their partner, their careers, their income, and their family life.
You and your sexual connection with your partner are the source.
You have the pro-creative energy of the universe at your fingertips.
So use it.
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One of my favourite things to do is show people the metaphysical power that exists within sex acts.
Orgasmic enlightenment indeed.
Did you know you can find God up your ass?
And that eating ejaculate makes you smarter and cures depression?
And that daily cervical orgasms keep you in a state of spiritual bliss?
You would know that if you’ve been living in Anami Land for a while.
If not, let me give you a tour around the place.
Let’s talk about the illustrious act of 69.
Back in the day, this was NOT one of my favourite sex acts.
I couldn’t quite wrap my head—or my mouth—around it.
It was like when you do that thing and you try to tap your head with your hand and with your other hand, rub your belly.
I didn’t know whether I was coming or going, giving or receiving.
I liked giving head and I liked having my pussy eaten, but both at the same time seemed like too much stimulation.
But then.
I had a partner who was a readymade.
He came to me, fully formed in his knowledge and skill of deeper Tantric experiences.
He was ALL about the extended sex dates.
We would have minimum two hour sex sessions all the time.
And sex nights. And sex weekends. Ad infinitum.
Instead of sex acts that were preliminary, like teasers to the main course, they became the main course.
Like 69.
We would spend hours with our heads in each other’s genitals.
It got to the place where my brain would shut off.
I wasn’t THINKING about anything.
I had surrendered fully into my body, and we entered into a trance state with each other.
I wasn’t thinking about anything I was doing.
My body’s movements were all intuitive and involuntary.
One of my favourite poetic passages is from Leonard Cohen’s “And you have the lovers”, where he describes this sense of melding:
“When he puts his mouth against her shoulder
she is uncertain whether her shoulder
has given or received the kiss.
All her flesh is like a mouth.”
This is the place where time stands still.
You suspend the space-time continuum somehow.
You rise above it, beyond it.
You tap into the power of this pro-creative energy—the most powerful substance in the universe — is it any wonder that there is such an effort to distort and censor and keep people from it??
You tap into this power and you bathe in it.
You nourish and replenish and energize yourselves with it.
The 69 position is your bodies formed in a cosmic yin and yang symbol.
Its potency lies in you ingesting each other’s sacred fluids and mainlining them into your brain.
All of your bodily fluids, from your saliva, to your lubricating waters, to your ejaculations contain your respective highly concentrated yin and yang essences.
And the more sexually aroused you are, the more of these essences are created and distilled through your fluids,
As you open to your partner and receive these essences through your mouth and your genitals, you are taking in the ultimate superfoods: the nectar of the gods.
IN fact, the word amrita, in Sanskrit, has been simultaneously used to describe “ambrosia’< the food of the gods, AND female ejaculate.
I speak about these fluids being not just the metaphorical, but the LITERAL Fountain of Youth.
The longer your sex sessions are—and the more aroused you are, the stronger the potency of these essences.
Ingesting them BALANCES and feeds us on the deepest levels.
And when your mouth is at their genitals, you are high grading and mainlining this ever-so-potent substance RIGHT into your brain.
Igniting your creative genius.
After a tasty blow job of any kind, I’m often dashing to my computer to write, because my brain and creative faculty cup runneth over and I need to get these ideas down on paper or screen.
Beyond the nourishment physical, is the emotional and energetic nourishment of SEEING your partner and fully accepting and ADORING THEM.
Being SEEN is some of the deepest medicine we can experience.
There’s nothing like it.
Having your face and your gaze and your mouth and your nose in your partner’s genitals, taking ALL of them in: every nuance of taste, scent, every millimeter of them laid out before you – and fully worshiping them, is immensely healing to the core of us.
The key to harnessing the power of 69, is realizing that:
a) it can exist as its own extended sex act. It’s not just an obligatory pit stop on the way to intercourse.
This act, as well as any other that we think of as “foreplay” can actually be its own powerful sexual experience
Give yourself over to it. Surrender to it. Relax into it as a final destination, rather than a step along the way. Maybe you will keep going after that but be okay with landing here.
b) This is deep nourishment for each other. You truly are ingesting the food of the gods, and revitalizing yourselves with these potent elixirs.
e) You have a duty to ADORE your partners’s genitals.
This is the essence of who they are.
The more you do this, and you truly fall IN LOVE with their genitals, your relationship to their body will change.
As you become OBSESSED with them, you will see THEM change as they more and more recognize and claim their own uniqueness, beauty and power that YOU help them—and help each other—to realize.
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