How to F**k Your Woman into Oblivion – Transcript
How to fuck your woman into oblivion. Wouldn’t you like to know? This is one of my main purposes in life, to see as many women as possible get fucked into oblivion.
What does this even mean to get fucked into oblivion? It’s to get fucked so well, so thoroughly, so artfully, so heartfully that it blows away all of the preconceived false notions of who you are and leaves behind a more true, authentic, and beautiful version of you. It brings you into a state of such ecstasy, bliss, and oneness with the universe that your entire life changes.
Yes, all that and more from a good fucking. If you have followed my work at all, you know that in Anami land, a good fucking isn’t some superficial version of sex. It is deep mind, body, and soul penetration.
It’s being seen and held at the deepest level of who you are, having anything that isn’t true or real in your life blown to smithereens. That is the power of good fuck medicine. So how do you get there?
How do you fuck a woman like that? Today’s well fucked all star Jim is going to share with you exactly how he went from wanting to end his marriage to being more in love with his wife than ever and giving her life changing, God seeing multiple orgasms on the daily. So here’s a short version of the process.
We’ll go much more in detail in the interview with him.
Step 1: Commit. Do you want it?
Are you willing to show up and put in the work?
Step 2: Clear the glass in your relationship.
I often use an analogy of a clear pane of glass that exists between two people.
When you’re truly honest and open with each other, the glass stays clear and clean. Every time you hold things back, you use sins of omission or you outright lie, you put a splotch of mud on that glass. Eventually, you build a wall that you can’t see through, you can’t feel through, and you feel totally distant from your partner, and you definitely do not want to be having sex with them in that state.
To regain deep trust and openness and emotional connection, you commit to keeping that glass clean, with radical honesty and open communication.
Step 3: Build your stamina.
As a man, this is the most important sexual skill that you have to cultivate.
If you blow your load in three to five, even 15 minutes, you cannot take her to the realm of deeper, life-changing vaginal orgasms. I guarantee that if stamina is an issue for you, your woman is going to be under-fucked. You need to be in a place where you have complete control over your orgasms, when to come and even if to come, meaning you can learn how to separate orgasm from ejaculation, and we’ll talk more about that in the interview coming up.
Step 4: Own your dominance and dominate the shit out of your woman sometimes.
Does your woman wear the pants in your relationship? Have you stopped speaking your truth and making decisions for fear of getting your head bitten off?
Are you more buddies than passionate lovers? Even though it might seem like it’s the safer option for you to not rock the boat and keep your mouth shut, this is the opposite of what your woman really wants. And all this does is increase the resentment that she has towards you. Instead, man the fuck up, own your masculine power and your cock, and start wielding them.
Step 5: Give her multiple orgasms daily.
The deeper internal vaginal orgasms are the ones that change her and your life and keep her a well fucked woman.
If she’s been on a steady diet of clitoral orgasms, I guarantee she’s under fucked. You need to obliterate her with G-spot, squirting, and the queen of all female orgasms, cervical.
Jim has an amazing story of doing this with his wife, which led to the best sex they’ve ever had.
Enough said, let’s hear from Jim and how he’s been fucking his woman into oblivion. Well fucked all stars.
KIM: Welcome, Jim!
JIM: Thank you so much.
KIM: So tell us how to fuck your woman into oblivion! Where did you start before? Were you always fucking her into oblivion? Where did you come from, and where are you now?
JIM: It’s so different from where we came from. Obviously, the biggest thing that has changed for us is learning about our polarity, which is something that you teach so well. I could not articulate that to my wife until we got to the class. I knew about it because I watched a ton of your videos. I think I first saw you in an interview with Wim Hof, and then I sought out your videos, and it just made so much sense to me. Because I knew that we were struggling with polarity.
KIM: For people who don’t know what polarity means, what did that look like in your relationship?
JIM: In our relationship, my wife was very masculine. She was a bulldog. So much so that she could come off as really cold, agitated, maybe, or in conflict with other women or men. She had a contentious relationship, I guess you could say, with the rest of my family.
She wanted to take charge all the time. She wouldn’t let go and was very frustrated with me.
With 150% responsibility, I have to own up to that because I was not in my own masculine. I wasn’t leading. I wasn’t giving her the sense of comfort that if she fell, I could catch her. I wasn’t there for her. I wasn’t taking charge. I wasn’t taking her when I wanted to. I’d ask, “Hey, you want to have sex tonight?” instead of just putting her over my shoulder like I did two nights ago and just taking her into the bedroom and flopping her down on the bed. Just taking what’s mine.
That mega polarity was reversed at such a level that it was causing so much unhappiness.
To give you a couple of examples, we got a dog last October, and he took to me very quickly because he kind of sensed that I was the alpha. The kids came in and said, “How come Buddy always goes to Papa all the time and not to Mom?” I said, “Well, the alpha male is kind of a leader.” This was before your class. You could see my wife was agitated. Because to her, that meant that she wasn’t equal. Her whole thing was, whatever a man can do, I can do.
We argued about this very early in our relationship, where we would talk about the equality of men and women, and I would always try to articulate that I believe men and women are equal in function because we each serve our purpose. The yin and the yang, and all that kind of stuff. That was never good enough for her.
“But we need to make decisions together,” or “I can do this in business,” she’d say, always trying to show her worth as a woman and that she was every bit as good as a man. That was always very contentious in our relationship.
She ended up with a huge case of FUKME because she was under-fucked, because again, I was totally in my beta bitch phase, and I didn’t know how to be masculine. I didn’t know how to be a man. Nobody ever taught me that. Because you learn from your parents. My dad was not an uber alpha-type.
But just saying you’re an alpha doesn’t make you a man. After going through your class, that doesn’t make me [pounding chest], you know? That’s not what a man is. A man is there for his woman to catch her, to show her that she’s safe, and to be there when she’s about to climax. He’s there in all those different things in her life, and I wasn’t doing that.
We ended up being exactly like you talk about in some of your podcasts. We were buddies, or we were together for the kids. It was so bad that I literally was fantasizing about my next wife. That came up in our first glass clearing; our wall was five feet thick and made of concrete because of little lies. I was always appeasing instead of speaking my truth. Because I would hurt her feelings, and she didn’t know how to take responsibility, and I wasn’t there either.
I knew the couples class was coming up, and I talked to her about it. I said, “Hey, I want you to listen to some of this lady’s podcasts. I think the polarity is off in our relationship.” And she said, “What does that mean?” I said, “Just start listening. I think it’ll come.”
I said, “I really want to do this class. If we don’t fix something soon, it’s going to splitsville for us because I’m so unhappy.”
I try to have a man date every Tuesday night with one of my best friends. We’d talk for a few hours. He lives out in California. I sent him your videos, and he said, “This could be pretty intense, and you just have to be prepared that it could go really well, or you have to be open to the fact that it might be the end. I’ve seen a lot of couples go through this, and you just have to be open to the process, and whatever happens, happens.”
KIM: Do you mean this notion of radical honesty?
JIM: Radical honesty, but also, you might find out through this process that she’s not what you want, or you’re not what she wants, or she might not want to participate as much as you. That’s what my friend said. Because I was very into this. I was just going to jump off a cliff and go for it because I wanted it to work so badly.
That was great advice from a good friend, and I didn’t really express that to my wife until we learned about radical honesty in the first week or two of your session. I mean, we were in dire straits. She knew we had some problems, but she didn’t think that we were in as dire straits like I did.
Before class started, we were driving one day, and I said, “Do you understand how toxic our relationship really has been over the past ten years?” The dumpster fire that was going on in my head and her head, our subconscious programs, the amount of fighting we did, and sometimes the behavior of our kids…I said, “It’s really been toxic.” It brought a tear to her eye because she didn’t want to believe it. But then she really stopped and thought about it and said, “You’re right. It has been.”
While I was trying to put together the perfect woman in my head for my next life of, “She’ll be this, she’ll be that,” blah, blah, blah, it turned out like that book, Acres of Diamonds; she was in my backyard. I didn’t have to look far. It was just that we had to uncover all of these layers of bullshit that were building this huge wall between us. I’ve got this freedom-loving person. I’ve got this person who’s now willing to meditate and look further into herself and try all these different things. It turned into a great friendship, and basically, I fell in love with my wife during your class.
KIM: For the first time?
JIM: Yeah. Because when I married her, I wasn’t in love with her. It was a point in my life when my little brother had just gotten married. We lived in the same condo complex, and then we got together. I liked her. I loved her, but I was not head-over-heels in love with her. I think I’m probably not the only person to get into a marriage like that. But I had to be honest with myself because I know I probably hid that and told myself otherwise over the years.
KIM: In the spirit of clearing the glass and being honest and even what your friend said, that’s a massive thing that most people would be pretty tempted not to divulge. Kudos to you for doing it.
JIM: I had to be 1000% vulnerable through this process; otherwise, it wasn’t going to work. I was tired of living my own bullshit lie of who I thought I was going to be or how I thought relationships should work, and just being unhappy. You get to a bubbling point and realize, “This shit is not working for me.”
A guy has always got his armor and this and that. But we learned in class that being vulnerable is just another way of being there for your woman.
I remember we went to Greece on a little vacation right before the whole COVID garbage. We didn’t talk that much; it was more superficial, but she said something that really stuck with me. She said, “What are we going to do when we’re 80? We have nothing to talk about. What are we going to do if all we have is conversation?”
Probably three, four, five weeks into the salon, we took a walk with the dog around the block, and we probably talked more than we had in ten years. It was astounding because we had really chipped away at all the things that were blocking us from being a couple.
Here’s something really funny, too. When I told her about this class, and she started watching your videos, her expectations were, “All right, we’re going to get into the Kama Sutra, and this is going to be like our own Sodom and Gomorrah with private orgies. Our sex life is going to go to another level.”
Then we got into the clear-the-glass stuff, and she said, “What the fuck is this? [Laughs] This is not what I was expecting.”
KIM: [Laughs] That happens a lot. Especially when people are new and they haven’t immersed themselves in a lot of my podcasts and seen the depth there, they think, “Oh, it’s all champagne and blow jobs.” You just snap your fingers, and it’s going to be there. Then they say, “What the fuck? What do you mean we’re talking about this stuff?” It can be a bit confronting, and then they get it when I beat it over their heads.
JIM: [Laughs] Another aha moment for me was when we talked about fantasies past and fantasies present and future.
It shocked the hell out of me that it turned out she had fantasized about some older guy from her past at a bar. And come to find out she was watching porn and pleasuring herself at night while I was upstairs watching porn on my own computer and pleasuring myself at night.
It was fucked up. It was a toxic relationship, and it shocked me to learn that she watched porn.
We thought we had great sex. I would always go down on her and give her a superficial clitoral orgasm, and then I’d give her one while I was inside. It was always two every time we had sex. Then, if I wanted to keep going or something, I’d say, “Hey, you want to try to have another one?” She’d always say, “Oh no, I can’t. I’m tired,” and things like that. “No, I’ve got a headache,” or “I’ve got to do laundry,” or whatever.
I can look back now, and hell, we didn’t even know what a cervical orgasm was back then. But there wasn’t this desire to have more because we weren’t emotionally connected. We weren’t having that alchemic sex that you teach about. There were so many holes in our relationship that were not clear until we looked back after this class and could really see what the trouble was.
That’s our history.
KIM: Right. Yeah, that’s an amazing description of things people tolerate and just keep going with. You were living parallel lives. At least you had a notion of, “All right, I’m not tolerating this anymore; I want out.”
I love that analogy or the fact that both of you were in separate rooms jerking off to porn! [Laughs] And you didn’t even know!
JIM: In one of the follow-up calls, one guy said, “Yeah, I’d brush my teeth and jerk off, and it was just my routine.”
That was so me. I don’t have the desire to do that anymore. A couple of nights we were over at somebody’s house. My wife was off with the woman, and I was with the guy, and we started talking. I ended up telling him, “Man, I’m learning all this stuff and getting up to a point where I don’t ejaculate anymore.” He said, “What? Man, I’ve got to do that every day. I’m so horny,” and this and that. The mindset of 99% of dudes is just busting a nut.
After going through this class, you develop such an awareness of your body and all these things. It’s no wonder I was so fucking lethargic all the time before. All my essence and power were in the fucking toilet paper every night. [Laughs]
KIM: Well, it made it into the sewage system.
JIM: Yeah, seriously. What a waste.
KIM: Tell us more about now. You mentioned that your wife has shown a dramatic increase in orgasms. Tell us about that and how she is as a Well-F**ked Woman. Then also, you’ve talked about seizing more of your own masculine power. Tell us how that all plays together.
JIM: Okay. Before, like I said, it was clockwork. It was two superficial orgasms every time. One junk food orgasm.
KIM: The clitoris, right?
JIM: Yeah, clitoral. And then one inside, but I don’t know if that was cervical or what it was or if I was just rubbing at the same time on top of her and causing it again.
KIM: Another clitoral orgasm, yeah.
JIM: Because it was whole-body for her, but not earth-shattering and mind-altering. When we went through that different orgasm salon and we learned about the three different types—the clitoral, the G-spot, and the cervical—man. What a way to get rid of FUKME! That’s what the doctor ordered. I signed up early for the salon, and we got the G-spot Salonette that you offered, and we started watching the videos. We went to the local sex shop and got all excited about this stuff before we knew we had to clear the glass. [Laughs] We bought a glass dildo that’s curved for G-spots.
We tried using it, and we were clunky, didn’t really get it, but then we went through the class, and we picked it up again. Holy crap. Between that and then understanding how to reach the G-spot with my fingers, she started having these rolling waves of orgasms and these highs and lows and then just going up and up and up.
I would reach really far in toward the cervix with my hand, and then, all of a sudden, she would have this release and just cry. I think we asked you in one of the Q&As, was that an orgasm? Why is she crying? Is that a good thing? Is that a bad thing? That was a revelation.
We kept working at those different types of orgasms. I would flip her over, and she would be on all fours, and I’d use my fingers and hit that cervical spot and the G-spot. It was a whole new world from that angle. Instead of two orgasms, we are now having six. Five with the glass dildo and my hands, and then the last one with me inside of her.
Looking at some of the prescription positions you gave us, I now position her in such a way that I’m able to reach her cervix with my cock. She’ll say, “Oh my God! I think I just had a cervical one with you inside me!”
Instead of saying, “No, I don’t want anymore because of…” whatever the reason was, it’s, “No, I can’t physically handle anymore. I’m in such a place of bliss, and my body is exhausted. Just stop, please. Just no more.”
What a feeling that is to have. I don’t even feel the need to finish myself because it’s so gratifying to see her in that space. I think you described it as the movies where the guy gets up, and it’s bam, bam, bam, bam, uhhh. And I have no desire to do that anymore. It’s more about pleasuring her. The other night, I was able to give her five orgasms. She said, “I’m on cloud nine right now. I feel like I’m floating.”
What we find is that, if we have a break, like if I get sick or her cycle comes or whatever and we don’t have sex, all of a sudden, the polarity starts going bad again. My whole thing in the past was I would close up because I’d be pissed off because she would be so masculine.
Finally, we made it through the glass clearing. People should not be afraid of clearing the glass because your best sex is once that glass is cleared. Either that night or the next day, sex is amazing because the glass is clear; your minds are just free, and it’s just all about each other.
What happens is that when she has all those orgasms, it starts to crack that shell, that masculine, that wanting to be in control, and she really gets into her feminine.
I’ll tell you a story about me taking charge. When she first started having these orgasms, I think she went to Lowe’s and got some heavy stuff, some pea gravel or something like that for our garden. Never in her life had she ever had guys come up to her and say, “Hey, can I help you with that?” It was the next day or within a week of all these crazy orgasms, and she felt delicate and dainty for the first time. Not one but two guys came up to her and said, “Hey, can I help you put that in your car? Can I take your cart for you?” It was just this oozing of femininity radiating from her, subconsciously talking to these men and saying, “Hey, I’m here, and you can help me.” She’d never had that before.
KIM: Occupying more of that feminine energy that you basically fucked her into.
Superficial masculinity is a defense mechanism, a barrier; she’s surrendered; she’s more open; she’s more in this feminine state. Just by being in that state, men pick up on it and then want to be of service and want to offer themselves as the masculine. She’s not out there looking for it or trying to get attention. She’s just being in her feminine self, and men are feeling that energy and want to be of service to it.
JIM: Yes. It’s not that fake, superficial bullshit of, “Let me show you my titties and come and help me.” It’s the deep essence at your core, “I am this woman.” One of the most amazing things that you ever said in the course about women and their surrender is that it’s one of the strongest things you could ever do. Surrendering to your feminine and surrendering in that time to your man is not weak. It is one of the strongest fucking things that you can do. When you see it in action, and then you see the results, you can’t get a more true statement than that. It’s so much power. To any woman that’s listening to this, you’re not going to lose your power by surrendering. If your man is there to cause the proper surrender to your own feminine energy, that is one of the most powerful things that a woman can do, I now realize, and it’s amazing to watch.
Because what I find is that I am more in love with her, and I am more attracted to her when she is in that delicate state, and it’s a huge turn-on. I just want to be around her because that’s what I always wanted.
KIM: This is really the essence of polarity. Polarity is this innate magnetism. Think about magnets; a negative and a positive attract each other. They’re just drawn to each other. Whereas two positives or two negatives actually repel each other. What you’re describing is when she’s in that feminine place and she’s soft and she’s genuinely in this open place, that strengthens your masculine and evokes that and then attracts you to her.
JIM: Yeah. It’s a huge, boner-inducing state. Your cock knows. I mean, it knows. That’s all I can say. It’s amazing. It’s so attractive.
She’s at a Fortune 500 company, surrounded by men, and she’s amazing at what she does. But she’s gotten there by being a bulldog. Fighting, being in charge, being assertive, all this kind of stuff. I really feel that exhausted her when she came home, and on top of not being able to feel like she could let go and not be in charge, it was a huge source of her agitation.
Giving her all these orgasms and doing the yoni massage has been amazing and has really helped her with that essence. One guy, maybe up a little higher, was known to battle with her on the phone. He was trying to claim his alpha space over her. Not that it wasn’t cordial, but it was contentious. Well, they had a phone call, and he was so accommodating with her and just so nice, and they were able to work something out with no butting heads or anything. Her team came up to her after the call and said, “Holy shit, what did you just do? I’ve never seen you handle this guy like that before.” Since then, they’ve been more collaborative. He comes to her and says, “Hey, can you help me with this?” or “What do you think about this?” They’ve been way more collaborative, and people are astounded. “He doesn’t do that with a lot of people. How did you get him to do that?”
KIM: What was he responding to?
JIM: I think that she wasn’t battling for that alpha space. She was coming from a power position of her female, and I think one of the gifts that the universe has bestowed upon the females when they’re in their female element is that they can get men to do things for them. They want to do something for women. They want to be collaborative with women.
I think as a guy, there’s going to be a threat when you see a real bulldog woman in your space. You want to be the alpha, and it’s just going to cause problems. Doesn’t mean they can’t coexist.
KIM: Two alphas, in men or men/women, are going to perceive one another as another alpha challenging.
JIM: Yeah. If she can come in from her own power, recognizing her own power, the feminine essence, then she’s every bit as powerful as him. The powers merge.
KIM: Yeah. What you were saying about how women have this gift of getting men to do what they want—I just want to clarify that because it might sound like a woman is being manipulative. And I think some women are and can be, but what we’re talking about is when a woman is genuinely inhabiting that more feminine space and not this superimposed idea of what she thinks she needs to look like or act like, especially in a more masculine-dominated environment. When, instead, she trusts and is able to inhabit that more feminine space, the other alphas perceive, “Okay, there’s not an alpha threat going on here,” but the masculine in them also perceives that feminine energy. Still strong, still solid, still confident, but feminine. And something innately rises up in them, so they want to be of service. They want to connect.
You said your wife’s relationship with the guy has evolved into a more collaborative relationship, more partnered in that way, rather than antagonistic. He sensed the change and is responding to it, and now they can work together in a much more harmonious fashion.
That’s really come out of her being well-fucked. That’s exactly where it comes from. She’s been fucked into oblivion. She is comfortable and trusts that it’s safe and not weak to be in this feminine space. Instead, she’s actually getting more accomplished because the world is coming to her. This man is coming to her. She doesn’t have to fight for her position; he’s fucking giving it to her.
JIM: Yes, yes. And 100% it’s not manipulative. It’s that subconscious, how we’re all connected, and it’s more harmonious now.
What a way to live in harmony instead of just fighting all the time or whatever a better word may be for that. That’s no way to live. Yeah, I fucked her into oblivion.
I make a big deal out of the yoni massage. I turn all the lights off in the room. I light some candles, and we use your oils, which, God, are amazing. The Aphrodisiac one that you have to melt with coconut oil? If we go out, instead of cologne or something, I’ll put some behind my ears. It smells that good. It is amazing.
I really focus on her body, which I had never done before, really celebrating it and massaging, spending all that time up on her breasts, on her inner thighs, just warming the yoni up and asking for permission. By the time you get in there, it’s like a waterfall, and she’s in her essence. She’s just butter. She feels like such a woman. It just puts her in her natural state, and what a state it is. I can’t say it enough. It’s so attractive.
Getting into the dominant part was pretty interesting. I think it’s in the Polarity Salon where you talk about how to really get back into the correct polarity.
One of the videos was about BDSM. That’s so fucking taboo, but talking to other couples, that’s really what women want, in essence. Not every single time, but there’s a time and a place, and it’s such a turn-on for them.
You have this list of taboos. Ass play was on it, and we said, “Hell no,” but even her swallowing come and stuff like that was taboo for us.
And the BDSM—man, that shit wouldn’t have flown before we took this class because with that alpha-ness in her, that masculinity, she would never have been comfortable being blindfolded. She would never have trusted me. I’d always wanted to do some of that stuff, and she’d say, “I don’t know if I’m comfortable with that.” I realize now it was because she didn’t trust me. There wasn’t that clear glass that we could both see through. Of course it wasn’t going to happen.
One night, we were on the couch together, and you had given us a list of movies to watch. We watched the first one, and I said, “I fucking want that.” I think I might have taken her into the bedroom that night and just used what we had. Blindfolded her and just kind of tied her up. That first night, it was fantastic. It was like she totally surrendered. I got a random belt and just tapped her along and did all this kind of stuff.
And afterward, she said, “I was kind of scared, but I liked it,” and so I think she melted even more. More so than just fucking her into oblivion, it was like another level of surrender. Another level of attainment in her femininity.
KIM: That’s upping the bar with your masculine as well. Because that’s the thing about BDSM play; really, it’s about exaggerating that polarity. If you’re taking that male role, upping the more dominant masculine, you’re increasing that, which will then increase the feminine surrender and vice versa. The more that she’s surrendering and opening, the more it’ll drive up your masculine.
So it just notched everything up for you.
JIM: Yeah. I felt like I could be on a rowboat in Scandinavia and conquer some small island afterward. I mean, it made me feel like a fucking Viking. I had never felt that before with her or by myself. I just felt like I could take on the fucking world after that. And it was just that one little session, our first go at it, which was all ad hoc.
But the way it made us both feel really destroyed the reverse polarity in our relationship. We took the BDSM in a way that, after those sessions, I came out here, and she came out here. Feminine here, masculine here.
I went to a local sex shop, and I bought a spreader bar and handcuffs and all this kind of stuff. We really got into it, and we still are into it. That was kind of our ticket that just worked for us. I know it’s not for every couple, but for us, we said, “Damn, this works pretty well. Let’s explore this more.”
I think a really cool story is when we had a wedding to go to. She’s from India, and so it was an Indian wedding, and it was a three-night shebang.
We saw it as an opportunity. We asked my brother if he’d take the kids so we could just really enjoy ourselves at the wedding and not worry about driving back every night for a babysitter.
We packed our bag, and I brought the blindfold, the bars, the handcuffs, the ankle cuffs, everything. We were going to make a night out of it and really just explore it and have fun. We were in a hotel room, so that amped it up.
Right before the reception, we were making out. She was on top of me, grinding, and she stopped and said, “Hey, we haven’t talked to the kids. Maybe we should call your brother and talk to the kids.” The subconscious self-sabotage program came out of her. But I think I recognized the self-sabotage moment, and I was fucking pissed. What the fuck? We were getting into it, and it was supposed to be blindfolds and handcuffs and stuff, and she wanted to call and talk to our kids. [Laughs] What a boner kill, you know?
It was time to get ready. I went to shower. I said, “Fuck this.” I was starting to close up, and she came into the shower. She knew she had screwed up. She kind of had this face of remorse. “Are we still going to have sex? Are we still going to do this?” I said, “Fuck, I don’t know. Come in here if you want.” Previously, in Kim Anami class, I had a BDSM question for you. “What if she won’t stop talking during sex?” You said, “Here’s what you do. You fucking stick your cock in her mouth, and you deep throat her, and goddamn it, she’ll love it.” [Laughs] Maybe you didn’t say it like that, but that’s the essence of it.
KIM: That’s like something I would say, yeah.
JIM: Yeah. You said, “Just fucking stick your cock down her throat, and she’ll love it.” I thought, “This is going to go two ways. I can be pissed off the whole night, or I can try what Kim said.” I took the path less traveled, and I literally just took her shoulders, put her on her knees, and I stuck my cock down her throat and gagged the hell out of her. I did it a couple of times, and her eyes were just fucking watering. I dominated the shit out of her.
Before this class, she would’ve said, “Oh, hell no.” But now she understood what I was doing.
I just deep throated the hell out of her, and then I said, “All right, get the fuck out of the shower. Dry off. Go to the bed. Put your fucking blindfold on. I might be in the shower for five minutes, or I might be in the shower for 20 more minutes. And you’re going to just fucking deal with it. Go put on whatever I tell you to put on and your blindfold. Just fucking wait for me, and I’ll be there when I’m there.”
Then I got there, and we had a really amazing session.
You want to talk about fucking her into oblivion?
When we got ready for the reception, she was in a sari or a kurta or whatever, and we were outside getting drinks before the reception, and I had never seen her like that before. She had this fucking glow, like an aura around her. You could see it around her. I could see this essence around her. And just this natural smile. She was relaxed, and she had never looked so beautiful to me as she did at that moment. Her essence was so strong and radiating after that. It was fucking incredible.
We had dinner and got on the dance floor. Before Kim Anami, whenever we went to a wedding or whatever, I loathed dancing with her. I just didn’t like it because I always felt like she was trying to fuck me on the dance floor or giving me seduction eyes, and we just couldn’t dance and have a good time. It always had to be about her trying to show her sexiness or something like that. It always made me kind of uncomfortable, and I just wanted to dance and have a good time.
At this wedding, we danced so much together on the dance floor, and it was so natural and unforced. I never felt like she was trying to hump me or dance all sultry and seductive. Because it just wasn’t necessary. We were just two people in perfect harmony, perfect polarity, having a fucking hell of a time. We were like a couple of fucking teenagers; you talk about the simmer, getting to the point of being able to look at somebody across the room and make their knees weak or make them wet.
People said, “Goddamn it, can’t you guys just keep your hands off each other?” What the fuck? And it’s not like we were horribly PDA and obnoxious about it, but we were just having a great fucking time. In our own world, on our own little date, just having a great time.
We’re in our early to mid-forties, and there was a kid there who was probably in his late twenties. He thought she was single and kept trying to dance with her. And the bride had to come up to him and say, “She’s fucking married; get away from her.” It was so funny. He said something like, “Damn, I wish I was that guy.” He wanted to flirt with her and take her home that night. That’s how much she was radiating her sexuality, and not in a slutty way, but in an amazingly feminine way. Her true essence was just attracting all kinds of guys.
KIM: That’s what I call the Well-F**ked Woman. The essence of wearing that energy, really inhabiting herself, is so palpable that people are drawn to it like moths to the flame. Yeah. It’s not like a woman saying, “Look at my breasts.” She just is in her essence, and that is so attractive that it brings people to her.
JIM: Yes. It was so incredibly sexy. I had never, ever, ever seen her like that before. It was amazing.
At the end of the night, after the wedding, we were with the bride’s parents and our group of friends that we always hang out with. But there was this other guy from Delaware. A friend of the bride’s parents. He asked, “How old are you guys?” Yada, yada, yada. “How long have you been married?” And I looked at her and said, “Twelve years or whatever.” He said, “What? I thought you guys were newlyweds.” We thought, wow, what a compliment. Nobody had ever said that to us before. But he said, “You guys are so in love. What happened? How is it possible?” He thought we were lying.
If you think about where we started from, where I was ready to out-ski, to some random fucking stranger thinking that we were newlyweds. What a testament.
KIM: That is amazing. I love all that feedback. That radiance is so palpable. That’s truly the energy of the Well-F**ked Woman and the Well-F**ked Man; you’re wearing all of that, and it becomes your power source. It’s the energy source that you’re now cultivating with each other, and it becomes the fuel that powers your entire life.
JIM: It is. I mean, it attracts so much in your life. The feeling it gives me as a man is something that I’ve never felt before. It’s a certain confidence. I don’t think I’ve ever had that supercock, cocksure essence about me, and I still have a long way to go; don’t get me wrong. I’m working on it. But in those moments, you just feel like a big swinging dick. Just confident, like you could take on the world. You feel like a million bucks.
The energy from your partner juices you up, and your energy juices her up, and it’s that alchemy that you talk about, creating this power together through all that energy.
What’s amazing, too, is that we don’t just fuck to fuck anymore, just to bust a nut or come. You’ve taught us so many different ways to have sex. “What’s on the menu tonight? Are we going to do some alchemy? Are you going to give me some energy?” “Oh yeah? I’m going to change it in my cauldron and give it back to you.” “Are we going to do BDSM? Are we going to do whatever?”
I hope I’m getting this point across. Love is in all the intentions that you’ve taught us.
KIM: Brilliant. I love it! Was there anything else you’d like to add?
JIM: I will also speak to the whole idea of yoni and lingam massages, and really making a point of being disciplined with that. We try to do it once a week for each other. That is another huge connection for both of us. And that’s talking about a woman who, when I tried to do some guided meditation with her, would rip the headphones off and say, “It’s making me dizzy; I can’t do it.” Now she takes your work to heart and pretends that there’s light coming out of her fingertips.
I’ve been working at this a lot longer than her, so when I give her a massage, she can feel the heat from my hands. She can feel the energy. After probably the third or fourth one, I started feeling the energy from her. She’s really gotten into it.
KIM: Fantastic. What advice would you give to men about obliterating the fuck out of their women? About fucking their women into oblivion?
JIM: Number one, whatever you think a man is, if it’s not what Kim’s teaching or whatever gurus she follows and recommends, then just throw that shit out the window. Because it’s bullshit. A man is not some macho asshole. Get that out of your head.
Be willing to be vulnerable. And be willing to learn about yourself and about your woman. What makes her tick, what supercharges her.
What kinds of orgasms there are. Understand her anatomy. Understand your own anatomy.
Really be honest with yourself to say, “I’ve got more to learn. I can be better.”
If you can be aware of any subconscious programs that you may be running, and really go after, like, chiseling yourself into a man that can be there to catch your woman when she falls, that can lead your woman in a proper way. Not leading like an asshole. Just fucking go for it.
And find some friends that you can talk to that are interested in growing. I’m lucky to have that friend that I can talk to, and we can have conversations about this stuff, and we don’t have to just talk about football.
Your own life and the life of your kids and the life of your spouse or your partner are so much more important than any ego trip that you may be on. Don’t allow your ego to stop you from being embarrassed to try new things. Have the understanding and forgiveness of yourself to know when you do try these new things, you might trip over your dick a few times, and that’s okay.
But as long as you have the end goal of just wanting to fuck the shit out of your woman, to get her into that space, to then attract you into your own space, it’s worth every bit of work that you put into it. And it’s fun work; it really is. I mean, if you’ve got gremlins and skeletons in your closet as a couple or whatever, sure, clearing the glass is going to be hard.
But once you get over that hump, man…We have a Telegram group of a bunch of couples that went through this, and we’ve all gotten over that hump. We’ve all done the work, and we’re all striving to get better. There’s such a sense of gratification and happiness. I would just really recommend going for it. Warts and all, whatever it is, just go for it. And you will be so much happier on the other side. So much more inspired to live your purpose as a man. I’ve been way more inspired to be a better father for my kids. To be more involved, to be more present.
That’s what my wife has called me to. To be the leader of this family and to be the spiritual leader, the energy leader, the bedroom leader, all those things. It’s really allowed me to step up in my life where I’ve always wanted to step up but just hadn’t. Maybe just because we didn’t have that connection. And now we do, and it’s inspiring to want to keep being better for her.
KIM: I love it.
JIM: Kim is the mother-fucking master. She is the guru. She is an amazing teacher. She calls you on your bullshit. She’s so honest, and on all these Q&A calls, she’s there to be that face in the mirror that should be you. She’s telling you what these truths are and just calling you on your bullshit. She teaches you to step up and to be somebody that you probably always wanted to be. And if you follow her advice and you follow her teachings, you will absolutely get there.
KIM: Thank you, Jim. That was so amazing. I so appreciate you sharing all of these details and being this rockstar, Well-F**ked Man, and being an inspiration for other people.
JIM: Well, thank you. It’s been a pleasure, and we really owe you thanks for saving our marriage. So it’s been awesome.
KIM: So brilliant. Thank you.
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I’ve never left written a message after watching a video, but Jim’s personal experience as he so beautifully articulated it just blew my mind. Thank you, Jim, for opening yourself up to us. I am amazed by you and your wife’s transformation, and of course, the transformation of your marriage. A story for the ages. One of the highlights for me was watching you describe giving your wife a Yoni massage. So beautiful, so tender, so reverent. Your arms got really wavy and sensuous in the telling of it. Your honest and naked testament is a great service to humanity — I hope you know that. And Kim, thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you do in the sexuality space. I’m single and I’m signing up!
Great content, Kim. Videos are fantastic and at times I feel like your teachings are counterintuitive because of years of the wrong programming! I look forward to the class!