This is a recording of the Instagram LIVE I did last week.
In an era of every biohacker selling their supplements and peptide stack, every integrative and regular physician flogging their HRT and TRT, I’m not even remotely interested in their offerings.
What’s always fascinated me, is the idea that I can source this healing power from within.
Taking a pill or a drug?
Not a flex, in my world.
It’s the opposite.
It’s a dependency and a cop out.
So I say this not to insult people who think that by making the move from big Pharma, to big slightly-better than Pharma, they’ve really switched teams.
I don’t see it that way.
Same sales pitch that you need a medication, albeit maybe a slightly less sinister one—although that’s probably debatable—in order to feel good.
Forever and ever.
You can’t ever be without it.
To me, this is the ultimate snake oil.
I’m definitely taking a swing at the people advocating this for you though.
Telling people that they, by the very nature of their existence in a human body, are perpetually flawed and broken and can only ever maybe have some hope at a mediocre existence if they guzzle drugs or “supplements” or give themselves needles EVERY DAY FOREVER AND EVER AMEN.
I don’t buy it.
I don’t care.
I’m not interested in the IDEA that is being pitched, which is that humans need constant medicating.
I’M inspired by the notion that we can heal ourselves.
Everyone can.
THIS is the true flex in my world.
I have the faith and belief and knowledge that the body is infinitely wise and brilliant.
Sometimes our minds and emotions get off track, and we don’t know how to course-correct.
And that lack of direction, or potentially going in the wrong direction, becomes a source of strife.
Of imbalance.
Of dis-ease.
That eventually manifests in the body as symptomology, if we let these things carry on long enough.
If we IGNORE the messages the body is desperately trying to give us and instead smother its voice and direction.
BUT.
If we are willing to figure out where and how we went off track.
We can get back on again.
THAT is what fascinates me.
That, and strong, self-disciplined people.
Who have the internal strength, which they’ve cultivated over lifetimes, to dive INWARD and find the resilience and self-love and self-belief that THEY CAN DO THIS.
People who don’t shy away from a challenge.
People who call on their own greatness, hold themselves to a higher standard than most, and believe in their own healing and potential for growth.
I FUCKING LOVE YOU ALL.
YOU are inspirational to me.
However.
We live in a world that discourages this.
Especially in the last decade or so, what I would call the years of “WHINING AND NOT WINNING”, there has been a shift to celebrating victimhood and disempowerment as a way of life.
The era of apology.
Apologizing for greatness.
Hiding your brilliance and superiority and instead endorsing mediocrity, being ultra “basic” and having zero self-discipline.
All the study bros and hormones hoes and biohacking bitches encourage a CONSTANT outsourcing for this.
Even in the supposed “nouveau” health field of, say biohacking, the name of the game is how many supplements you can chug and how many devices you can possibly stock your house and body with.
Not even remotely fucking interested.
I saw the Instagram of a very well-known “female biohacker” and she was talking about how her Oura ring predicted the day she’d go into labour, by looking at her heart rate and whatever other things these devices show people.
And yet, she ended up in the hospital, with a C-section.
Which is NO surprise.
“Honey, how did you sleep last night?”
“Ah, hang on. Let me check my Oura ring. Yeah, okay it looks like I slept well, according to my biomarkers.”
If someone is consistently outsourcing all of their inner knowing to a machine, when it comes time to tune in on the deepest possible level you will EVER do as a woman—to birth your own baby—she has no fucking clue.
What, didn’t your Oura ring tell you what to do?
Could your Oura ring not guide you in the most primal, autonomous, self-defining experience you will EVER have?
No. It cannot.
There is a price for this constant outsourcing.
When you really need this innate skill of being so deeply connected to your body and your inner knowing, it’s not there.
That relationship has never been nurtured.
Instead, it’s been deliberately discarded in favor of ‘METRICS”.
In this episode, I go through some specific examples of reproductive ailments and their symbolism; that is, what the body is trying to communicate to us.
And how the way and the truth is through your own body.
Not a machine. Not a drug. Not a peptide.
But by unleashing the power we all have, that’s accessible at any time we’re ready to touch it.
KIM: Hi, everybody. Welcome to My Body, My Oracle versus My Body, My Enemy.
Lately, I’ve been taking on a number of topics related to this whole notion of sovereignty, getting the answers from within—inner sourcing, if you will, versus outer sourcing.
There’s this notion that somehow it can be empowering to do things that make you dependent outside of yourself, like using lube or taking HRT and hormones. In my world, in Anami Land—hi, everybody—it’s the opposite. We find it empowering to get your knowledge, wisdom, and pleasure from within and not be reliant on external sources.
Because the whole premise behind this suggests that people—and especially women-people, apparently [laughs]—are inherently faulty; there is something wrong with them that must only be resolved through constant medication and monitoring.
Today, I wanted to go really deeply into this and talk about the difference between inner sourcing and outer sourcing and how somehow this outer sourcing has been glamorized. Lately, I have seen this concept of body-positivity vaginas versus elite vaginas. It’s the same way that people really got into this idea over the last decade that being obese is super-cool, man. Not being able to fit into clothing and being massive and having a hard time getting up and walking across the room and developing all these adjacent diseases, oh my god, it’s so cool.
Just the way they’re saying, “Oh, it’s amazing to take HRT. Taking lube is incredible. Getting your vagina electrocuted, oh my god, how empowering.”
Bull-fucking-shit. That’s the most unempowering, pathetic stuff. And look, I don’t blame women who have fallen under this spell. You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it. If so-called experts, under-fucked and sexually inexperienced people, are telling you these things, I understand why you might think, “Oh, this is the pathway.”
Like if a woman is in menopause, “Oh, I guess I just need lube forever, HRT forever, and I need to start shopping at Eileen Taylor,” or whatever these old-lady brands are, Golden Girl clothing, “because I’m 45 now,” or something ridiculous like that.
I live in bikinis, bathing suits, and miniskirts. This is my full-time wardrobe, and I live in climates that allow me to do this. Right now I’m on a surf trip. I’m in a little bamboo bungalow and am going out for a surf after this. I’ve arranged my life to reflect this, or rather, my vagina has. My vagina is in control. My vagina creates my reality, and this is the reality I have. I’m looking at the wave right now. I can see it right through my window, the wave I’m going to go out and surf after we’re done with this call.
This comes from Western philosophy, which views the body as something to dominate and subjugate, rather than as a means of listening, going within, and hearing the messages. Lube is such a great example of this.
[Laughs] “Just restarted my VKF because my OB/GYN told me I needed HRT. I said, ‘Fuck, that.’ Thank you, Kim.”
Ridiculous, right? And it’s snake oil. If you have to take something for the rest of your life, that’s not a remedy or a solution. That is a band-aid, and it comes with a price of all the other side effects, least of which is destroying your innate, intuitive connection with your body.
Back to the lube idea. If a vagina is not wet … Let’s think really hard about this … It’s not ready. Either we’re not emotionally connected to ourselves or to our partners, or we physically need more stimulation. We need more connection. We need different kinds of physical stimulation, and then we get wet. It’s really simple.
But the way that people try to argue against this is, “You could be not wet and still want it.” Really? People try to sell that idea. Total bullshit.
What you’re actually doing, I would call it self-rape. Yes, I know it’s a strong term, but when you’re forcing your body to do something it clearly doesn’t want to do, we call that rape. When you’re violating it and entering it against its will, that’s rape. That’s self-abuse.
And it’s gaslighting. “Oh, no, no, my body is ready; I just have to help it get ready. Let me just grab a bottle or bucket of lube.”
Really? It’s fucking ludicrous.
If men—I said this lately on a post—had to take Viagra every single time they had sex, like a 20-year-old guy, a 30-year-old guy, would we not think, “Really? What’s wrong with this guy? Is there something wrong with me? Is he gay? Does he not like girls? Does he not like vaginas? What’s going on?” And those would be very valid questions. They would be the only questions you should ask. Not, “Oh, do you have your Viagra with you today?” No.
This is the domain of idiots, honestly. Body-positivity vaginas and body-positivity cocks. [Laughs] Look, if that’s the world that you want to live in, power to you. Go get your prescription, your buckets of lube. That’s not Anami Land. Then this work is not for you.
We are here for the elite athlete vaginas, the superior vaginas, the exceptional vaginas and cocks. That is who we’re interested in training as elite athletes, elite vaginas, elite cocks, to reach your highest potential.
If you want to cop out and go get a prescription, go for it, but this is not the place for you. You can come into the program not being fully remedied. You can come into the program, to my work, and still take these things if you have a desire to shift. If you believe there is a possibility that you can do things differently and have a different life.
If you listen to my podcast, you’ll hear all of our Well-F**ked All-Stars telling their stories of insane victories, like the podcast episode last week, “From 0 to All The Vaginal Orgasms.” A woman who’s in her fifties found my work, only ever had her first clitoral orgasms in her late forties, and then had all these different orgasms, like G-spot, cervical, squirting, anal, nipple, energy-gasm, full-body orgasm, multiple orgasms.
This is the expectation and the Anami guarantee: Whatever age and stage you’re at, it’s never too late.
Someone said, “Ladies, nothing like Kim’s elixirs. Those things got me through the hardest part of life. I’m not in menopause. This work is the shit.”
So we have crystal elixirs and sex nectars that are herbal remedies in my Anami Alchemia Shop. I created them to work as adjacent products for people in our salons.
I don’t say, “Hey, take this; it will solve everything.” I say, “These are excellent supports on the journey of doing all this deep, internal, alchemical work. These will help that process.”
Because again, I wouldn’t tell anyone that you can [imitates chugging pills from a pill bottle] and be solved. It’s over. You’re all good. Just take this forever and ever.
No. I want people to come in and do my work and then go. [Laughs] You’re not meant to be dependent on me for life. You’re meant to learn these skills, integrate them, transform, and then off you go. That’s not the MLM marketing pitch that you need to come three times a week. Well, you do need to have an orgasm a minimum of three times a week. But chiropractors say, “You need three adjustments three times a week for the rest of your life,” or “You need hormone therapy for the rest of your life.”
I don’t know how people don’t just hear this and think snake oil and MLM.
The other thing that I don’t do in my world is testing. In this idea of going inward to get information, I don’t believe in blood work.
“Your retreat changed my life 15 years ago, and I never looked back.”
Nice to hear from you.
Blood work, I don’t get. I don’t do Pap smears. I haven’t had one in about 15 years. And this is the same idea that if I am tuned in enough with my body, I know if something might be off or out of balance. I’m not relying on blood work or a Pap smear to tell me.
The problem with this reliance on testing is that it’s like taking baby steps into this universe of outsourcing your power.
Again, you are where you are when you are there, and when you feel like you’re ready to move away from these things, that’s your choice. I always say to people, “Take what you like from my work and leave the rest.” If something really feels like, “Oh, it’s too much,” don’t worry about it. Take what works for you, and maybe one day you’ll be ready for that.
But I see it as my job, my passion, my duty, to inform you about the kinds of things that you might not hear about elsewhere.
So a woman goes to get a Pap smear. She gets told that she has abnormal cells. Then they say, “Oh, okay, now we need to do …” whatever they do, like a scraping on the cervix. They go and scrape the cervix. Then the woman gets scar tissue on the cervix.
Then the woman goes to have a baby, and her cervix doesn’t dilate. Why? Because it’s got scar tissue. They call it failure to progress, where she’s not dilating. Then she ends up with a C-section. Then she’s got PTSD from this traumatic birth that she’s had in the hospital—and I’d say all births in the hospital are pretty much going to be traumatic and crisis-oriented and give people PTSD, both the woman and the man.
She thinks she’s got postpartum depression, which is actually PTSD from the heinous experience she had in the hospital, the violations that she had. Then she’s given antidepressants. So she’s top to toe in the allopathic world.
Then she’s going to be a customer for life. She’s going to have entered this MLM, snake-oil marketing scheme that basically pathologizes her entire existence forever and ever.
Or you can cultivate a relationship with your body, with your vagina, with your innate knowing and the intuition that I assert everyone has, even if it’s buried under trauma, beliefs, and conditioning. It’s there. You just have to uncover it.
That really is the foundation of my work: pulling back the layers of conditioning and false beliefs that prevent people from tapping into the innate wisdom everyone has. And the innate healing power that everyone has.
If somebody can’t feel that, isn’t in tune with it, then you’ve got work to do. “Well, I feel numb, disconnected, disempowered.” They take pills, or they get surgery, or whatever allopathic band-aids they are presented with that are in the vernacular, in the mainstream consciousness, versus the idea that you can heal yourself, and your vagina can heal you once you wake it up and you activate its powers.
I wanted to go through some examples of signs the body gives us when it’s trying to communicate, and we ignore them.
I mentioned lube, and I would say that is the immediate sign of “Not ready, do not enter.” Slippery when wet is what we want, but not tumbleweed-dry with a bunch of lube slathered over it.
Then we’re reinforcing the dissociation. Every time a woman does that, she’s reinforcing that. The message is, “Hey, I’m not ready yet. What do I need? Do I need more emotional connection? Do I need more physical stimulation?” Read the signs. Your body is your friend and your ally, and it’s trying to tell you something.
Another example would be when women are experiencing fertility challenges. Yes, there can be a huge physical component to this, but if the body is not getting pregnant, it is saying to you, “Hey, it’s not a good time.” Maybe there are issues within the relationship, and your higher self is interfering or pausing things and saying, “Hey, put a pause on things. You guys have work to do before you bring a baby into this dynamic.”
Or the body recognizes, “I’m really toxic right now. This is not the ideal environment to host a baby in. We don’t have the energy. We’re probably going to damage the baby or you, so let’s not do this until you clean things up.”
But people are then told that, “No, no, you just need to push through this. You need to force it to happen.”
The number of somersaults and things people need to do in IVF is crazy to me. But the main message is, “Your body is not ready. You’re not a good host right now. Fix things and you will be.”
We see that all the time in my work. It could even be an energetic thing of opening up space within the family dynamic. Maybe somebody, like a woman, has been in really masculine achiever mode, and then she says, “Okay, how do I create space to pivot into a different energy to be a mother?” And your higher self is communicating, “Let’s get started on this before you get pregnant.”
The body is actually working for us and not against us.
Urinary incontinence is symbolic of having leaky energy. Yes, the jade egg will remedy a weak pelvic floor; often within one week we see women who have had two decades of incontinence reverse it, where before they had to wear diapers to go for a run; they were terrified to set foot on a trampoline, and now all is well because they went at that jade egg practice like MFs, and they got the results.
Actually, it’s very, very easy to remedy incontinence, but most women never exercise their vaginas. When we start to, there’s a radical difference.
I’ve been on retreats where I teach women jade egg exercises in the morning. They go and make love with their partners in the afternoon, and their partners say, “Whoa, Nelly, what’s that grip all about?” That quickly.
The other corresponding symbolism there is leaky energy. You’re leaking out urine; you’re leaking out energy.
Someone says, “I have a jade egg but am not sure I’m using it correctly.”
Well, that’s why I teach an entire program around it and don’t just sell jade eggs on my website. Because people do that, or they’ll say, “Wear your jade egg around the house. Wear it while you’re vacuuming.” It’s the most useless advice ever. Completely useless. It’s like going to the gym, staring at the weight rack, jumping up and down, and then saying, “Wow, that was an amazing workout. I’m done for the day.”
You need resistance and feedback. That is how you build strength and muscle.
Another one would be pelvic organ prolapse. Fifty percent of women experience some form of POP after childbirth.
“Did VKF and WFW, moved so much energy, released nearly 40 pounds.”
Great. Because weight is excess baggage. We’ve heard that response from people as well: When they do this work, they have an internal alchemizing combustion engine that transforms their trauma and baggage. One of the best autonomic nervous system resets, if not the best, is an orgasm. Especially a vaginal orgasm and deep, life-changing G-spot or cervical orgasm and squirting orgasm. Better than any breathwork you could ever do.
So POP. This woman had a prolapse after having her child. She was in a very precarious place with her partner, the father. She ended the relationship, and her uterus, everything just went back into place. This incredibly holographic response to her energy field changing.
As above, so below. Cause and effect. The higher cause is always the actual cause. She was perhaps giving away her power and wasn’t being supported; this relationship ultimately wasn’t good for her. She released it, and things solidified back into her body.
Difficult periods and menopause. These are meant to be psychedelic portals for women. If you look at ancient or indigenous cultures throughout the world, before this programming around periods being dirty and menopause, which is largely a manufactured North American concept, came along, these were thought of as power times for women.
You’ve probably heard stories about women in tribes who would be isolated during these times, or they would go into a long house, and they wouldn’t work during their periods.
I do actually recommend taking it easy, especially in the initial part of your menstruation, but it’s a time to go inward. If you’re not medicating yourself with Midol and Tylenol, whatever, or extra hormones to make periods easier—people will give you the stuff like candy if you go to a doctor and tell them you’re having a difficult period. “Want some candy, little girl? Want to get into my van and go for a ride?”
We were warned against those kinds of people when I was growing up.
Periods and menopause—they’re meant to be psychedelic portals. The cervix opens, and you have access to inner dimensions of consciousness. This is what we want if we’re not medicating through it. When women are just plowing through their periods or medicating through it, they’re on hormones, or they have a lifestyle that’s constantly in cortisol mode, they won’t experience the magic of these openings, and they’ll have the inverse effect, where they have symptoms of stress, pain, difficulty, exhaustion.
I know women who literally vomit their way through their periods. They pass out. They have insane experiences that are the inversion of that energy.
Then in menopause, you have something similar where women are hormoning and medicating themselves. Also, there’s so much programming; I see it every day. Especially as I’m in this age range, I’m just shocked at the bullshit that I see. I’m out there surfing BC waves in the best physical shape of my life, running my vagina empire. And people are whimpering and needing to chug their pills.
Again, no shade thrown on women who’ve fallen under this spell. A lot of shade thrown on any practitioner who is advocating for HRT, lube, basically patronizing women and treating them like little fucking babies. Lots of shame directed [laughs]. Lots of shame and shade for you. Buckets of it.
It’s actually embarrassing, I think, when these so-called experts come forward and say, “Honey, HRT. I’ve got affiliate commissions if you buy your HRT through my links.” Yeah, it’s a pretty shady way of life.
Anyway, in menopause, you become that elder, matriarchal, shamanic force because now your reproductive energy isn’t going every single month toward making babies. Your entire body was once preparing for this every month, which is a lot of energy. Women’s periods are the equivalent of male excessive ejaculation. Wasting that seed, wasting that seed, wasting that seed. For women, it’s wasting that blood and that energy.
“Love the video of you surfing in the lab coat.”
Well, of course. I should’ve put it on now. It’s just so that you take me seriously. I’ve got to run and get my lab coat and my stethoscope. It’s like a Pavlovian response. You put on a lab coat and a stethoscope, or you just mention the word “study,” and then people think, “Oh, we must listen. This is the gospel. It must be the truth.”
People get put under spells all the time. When you have a sentient, enlightened vagina, it’s easier to see through them and not take them seriously and not participate in them.
Women enter this new chapter of creativity; they often start new businesses, new lives, where they completely rebirth everything that they do in their world. That is the vision for women at that time.
I’ve been able to control the frequency and the duration of my menstrual period for 30 years. I had regular monthly cycles. My periods were never really an issue for me, but I had brutal PMS. I wanted to fucking kill myself after ovulation. Every month was a struggle until I got well-fucked.
Even though I’d had some wonderful sexual experiences, it wasn’t until my late twenties that I had some extra pivotal ones that I talk about in the Well-F**ked Woman, and that’s where I really shifted my energy, and then the PMS totally went away.
We see that in my work all the time. When women turn that corner into well-fucked-ness, their physical symptoms evaporate. Things like growths and cysts, endometriosis, PCOS, all manner of menstrual issues, libido improving, weight dropping off, it’s this alchemical combustion that happens when you become well-fucked. When your sexual energy is available as a force and a conscious harnessing of that force to creatively shape your life.
If you’re doing anything but creating your own reality from your sexual energy and your vagina, the inverse is happening. You are the effect rather than being cause. So someone comes along or tells you, “Menopause is terrible. You need lube and hormones,” and you say, “Oh, okay.”
Rather than going somewhere within to find a different truth that actually gives you power, that puts you under somebody else’s power.
That is the true experience of menstrual and menopausal energy as this psychic, psychedelic portal that all women have access to if they’re not medicating through it.
Then we have things like birth control. Again, women are told, “Oh, you silly little girl, you couldn’t possibly determine your own fertility. You need to take our pills,” or some chemical that you put in your body or hormone blockers, rather than reading the signs of your own fertility.
Every single female species shows visible signs of estrus when they’re ovulating. Human women are no different. When you learn to read them, then you know when you’re fertile and when you’re not. There’s only a six-, max seven-day fertile window for a human female every month. When you learn to read that, you have complete control of your fertility. You don’t need a pill; you don’t need an outside source. I’ve been using that for decades, and I teach that in all my salons for men and women because everybody ought to know that essential life skill.
But you have people fighting for the right to have abortions. Pro-choice, pro-life, that isn’t my discussion here. My issue is that people think that it’s so empowering to have an abortion. Do you not know how you get pregnant? Ninety-seven point five percent of abortions are fully elective, meaning people use them for birth control. People try to make arguments about why we need abortions because of rape and incest. That’s a maximum 2.5% of the reasons why women get abortions. The highest concentration of religious groups getting abortions? Catholic women.
Anyway, my point here is that women then are marching around begging these men in Sith Lord costumes, or women as well, “Please, please, please, can we have abortions?” What the fuck is wrong with you? If you were actually an empowered woman, if you were actually sexually self-realized, you would be in complete control of your own fertility. You don’t need someone to give you the right to access your own body or to educate you about it. “Oh, please, I don’t know how my body works. Can you please help me with my abortion? Does the stork get me pregnant? I don’t know. I’m just a little girl.”
Seriously? These people are an embarrassment. I don’t think any woman gets an abortion and says, “Well, that was a fucking blast. I can’t wait to do that again.” Really? Do you think maybe the answer is being self-educated about your own body?
But even in these so-called feminist communities, it’s seen as empowering to be begging men to give you permission to do something to your own body. This is the level of under-fucked idiocy that we’re talking about in so many of these people. It would be laughable if it actually wasn’t.
I did a podcast on this a few years ago called “Roe vs Wade: Do I Even Give a Shit?” And I don’t. Because what a bunch of people decide in these so-called haloed rings has nothing to do with me. Never has, never will. Why is that? Because I take control of my own body, my own sexuality, my own fertility. I’m not waiting for someone to give me permission to do something with my own body. I’m self-educated.
These are all the things that I teach people to take control of and have autonomy with, so that your own inner knowing and inner confidence are so impenetrable and immaculate. It doesn’t matter what other outside parties decide to do or not do, or what decisions they make. Who cares? Let them go jerk off to the sound of their own whining.
Let them go do their thing. Let them eat clit. That’s what I always say. We pursue the deeper vaginal orgasms; let them eat clit. Let them have their junk-food sex and their abortions and their clitoral orgasms, and they can fight for that. Totally your thing, go for it. But we’re going to be over here in total autonomous control and sovereignty of our sexuality, having life-changing, vaginal orgasms, and creating our own reality with our vaginas and sexual energy because that’s the name of the game.
Like I said, people can stumble along the way. You can take the advice of people who you think are authorities because they tell you they are or because they put their lab coat on. [Laughs] “Oh, they must know what they’re talking about,” you think, when they really don’t.
Vagina on lockdown. When a woman’s vagina is clenched shut, what’s it saying? “Don’t come in.” When I’ve worked with women through the years and they have that, almost without exception, they have some sexual trauma that has never been healed. So it’s a natural, valid reaction; the vagina is saying, “Please, don’t come in until you heal me. Please heal me. Please integrate this experience so that I can learn to open up and enjoy sex, but if you keep trying to push your way in and I’m still grieving and dealing with trauma, it’s not going to happen. I’m not letting it.”
But then the allopathic doctors actually give women these vagina—they call them dilators, I think, where they get women to force their own vaginas. The rapeyness of some of this stuff.
I see these women doing ads for vaginal electrocution. I think it’s microneedling in the vagina. “Oh, they’re coming at you with this giant dildo with needles on it.” They have a picture, and I’m going to do a video about it.
The visual of a woman with her legs in the stirrups, ready to get penetrated by this rapey, fucking torture device, and the woman’s saying, “I want to help you.” Just lift some fucking vaginal weights, bitch. Put a jade egg in your vagina, love your vagina, and you will have sex with your vagina—what a thought, right? Exercise it. It will be the most youthful, supple vagina you’ve ever seen. You don’t need to put on a torture device and rape your own vagina. Not necessary.
PCOS, endometriosis, same idea. Women who have a history of sexual trauma often manifest these deeper symptoms. Think about your reproductive organs crying. That’s what it’s like. They are crying, and those are the symptoms of that. Rather than medicate, band-aid, we actually go deep with it.
“Have you helped women get past sexual abuse?”
A hundred percent. Listen to an episode called “Healing Sexual Trauma With the Jade Yoni Egg,” featuring one of our All Stars, Katie. She’s incredibly articulate. I love this episode. She had a history of sexual abuse and healed it entirely using Vaginal Kung Fu and using the jade egg. Very disciplined.
This is the thing: If you want to succeed in Anami Land, you have to roll up your sleeves and do the work and the play and be dedicated to it. And we’re there for you. There’s support along the way. We’ve had people reduce and eliminate fibroids. But the work is ultimately up to you. I can’t come over to your house and force you into your bed. [Laughs] I can encourage you and kick your butt a bit, but ultimately, that’s on you.
Think about an elite athlete. They need to train and show up every day, and they have to find that motivation to keep showing up and winning, not whining. Every single day. Do you choose winning or whining?
That’s the theme in all our All-Star stories—the level of devotion and dedication that people put into these practices. They don’t just watch a bunch of videos and say, “Oh, I hope that works for me.” They watch the videos, then do the internal emotional, physical, and play work. That’s where all the magic happens, back there in the bed and in your vagina.
All right. Steps to get there to activate this internal knowing.
Step number one is: Wake up your vagina. Most vaginas are totally numb. They are lacking sensation, feeling, strength, power, and connection. Again, the more people override them, the more dissociated they get.
Most women don’t exercise their vaginas, so they’re weak and flabby. Think of a muscle that’s just flab-ola. That’s like most people’s vaginas, so they don’t feel anything.
As you strengthen it, the best tool is the jade egg, and you get increased circulation. Circulation equals lubrication. You’re clenching, you’re squeezing, you’re gripping. All this oxygen, neurotransmitters, and neurochemicals are flowing throughout your tissues now. You’re oxygenating these tissues, letting things flow. Circulation equals lubrication.
The number one physical reason why women don’t lubricate is having a weak vagina.
Connecting to yourself. I call it yoni reconnaissance. Going in and getting to know every little nook and cranny of your anatomy, every little corner, every fold, every bit of texture, all of it. You want to go inside and get to know everything.
I differentiate yoni massage or yoni reconnaissance from self-pleasuring, where the massage and the reconnaissance are about exploration. Whether it’s pleasurable or not, some of it actually might be emotional. You might hit a spot where you have something locked in. Some emotion or experience might be experienced, and you massage it and have an emotional release. Fantastic. We welcome that. That’s exactly what we want.
That is yoni massage and reconnaissance. Yoni self-pleasuring is where you’re actively looking for pleasure pathways and paying attention to those and moving toward orgasm. All of these things.
Even yoni gazing. We sell a beautiful Venetian glass yoni-gazing mirror in the Anami Alchemia Shop. Women have had psychedelic experiences just looking at their own yonis in the mirror. So many women have never looked at their own vaginas, have never even put their fingers in their own vaginas.
This know-thyself element is a huge piece of the success in this work. It’s step one; the foundation is knowing yourself. Connecting and bridging any of these disconnects and dissociative gaps that women can have.
Step two: Listen to your vagina.
Someone says, “After hours of work in VKF, keeping consistent with the practices, self-sex dates, breast massage, I healed my sexual abuse and endometriosis.”
Amazing. Thank you for sharing that.
As we listen, we forge this relationship. The listening means, “Okay, am I a yes or a no?” Honor that. “Am I wet or dry?” Honor that.
In my courses, I actually discourage, if not forbid, women from using lube because I want them to connect with their vaginas and to cultivate that voice and that truth rather than override it.
Again, that’s your choice, how you go about that, but that is my path for creating this deep connection. Rebuilding your trust.
Let’s say your vagina—and women often will find this—shuts down because you don’t ever listen to it. You say, “Bitch, you don’t know what you’re talking about. Take this lube, take this electrocution torture device.” Your vagina asks, “Oh my god, why do you abuse me every day?”
You say, “Look, I regret the ignorance I had over the years and decades, and I now want us to have a real, intimate relationship. Okay? I want to listen to you. I want to hear your voice, so please speak to me.”
Your vagina might be a little bit shy at first. “Do you really mean that?” It’s like an abusive relationship. “Did you really change? Are you really going to do things differently now?” “Yes, I am. I really am.”
That takes a bit of time to cultivate, but women get to the point where they use their vaginas as compasses. We did an interview with Amanda D, one of our All-Stars, a couple of years ago, and I think—what is it called—“My Vagina Tells Me Where to Go” … If I remember the episode, I’ll put it in the comments. I will remember it later. “Like My Vagina, My Compass,” or “My Vagina Found That.” Something like that.
This couple owns a company, and the woman goes into the warehouse to find paper clips. She asks her vagina, and her vagina says, “Aisle 7 on the top shelf.” Or if she’s going into a parking lot to go shopping, she’ll say, “Where should I park, vagina?” And her vagina will say, “Go around that way.”
It becomes a second brain, a second heart, a navigation device in our lives. That’s what it was meant to be, not just a passive entity that just sits there and takes it.
You can make that analogy physically too. We might think of the vagina as, “Okay, the cock comes in and does things. But the vagina just sits there.” Or the vagina has articulation. It can isolate different sections. It can play a cock like a flute. It can grip a cock, stop it from ejaculating or make it ejaculate simply with its clenching power alone. That is a sentient, aware, articulate vagina.
I often say that the baseline for all vaginas is to be able to shoot ping-pong balls. That’s the baseline. That is not some legendary Thai bar trick. No. It’s the baseline for all vaginas.
The baseline should not be vaginas that literally fall out, pee their pants, have no libido, shut down, or are dry as a tumbleweed and need lubrication. No. That’s not the baseline. That’s become normalized, but it’s not normal. Ping-pong balls, hand jobs, air guitar [laughs], opening a bottle, that’s the baseline for vaginas. Really. The bar has dropped so far, it’s literally on the ground, where some women’s vaginas are. And that’s literal. Women’s vaginas, when they have a severe prolapse, fall out of them.
Again, that is considered normal. “Oh, it’s okay if that happens. That’s just normal.” Bullshit. It is not normal. Stop normalizing it. Stop promoting a body-positivity vagina. No. We want elite normal, which is a healthy, functioning vagina. I don’t want a body-positivity vagina. I don’t know anybody who does. Nobody does. They just lie to themselves about it because they don’t know another way, and the culture normalizes mediocrity.
All these body-positivity bitches are such liars because now that the price of admission is injecting themselves or taking pills, like whatever Ozempic BS, they’re all getting thin. So you didn’t actually want to be overweight; you just didn’t have the self-discipline or the self-love to go the other way and actually show up and do the work. So shut the fuck up.
“Can you reverse a prolapse with the jade egg? I’m interested in your course.”
Yes. We have an episode coming out this week called “Self-Healed Prolapse With the Jade Yoni Egg.” A chiropractor and pelvic floor specialist for women reversed her prolapse using the jade egg and speaks nothing but praise for it.
It’s coming out Thursday of this week, so yes, and she’s one among many. But I just love that she’s actually a pelvic floor therapist and had this experience and can speak to it from this more professional level and endorse it.
“Can pregnant women use the jade egg?”
Best time to use the jade egg. Prepare your body, prepare your vagina. Strengthen that pelvic floor. You’re going to want that. You’ll have an easier childbirth and a much faster recovery. Best prep you could do.
Plus, you’re connecting on all these levels to your sexual energy. Birth is a sexual experience. It is the final orgasm [laughs] that started nine months earlier. The final boss orgasm happens after nine months, and that’s birth. It is meant to be blissful, easy, pleasurable, the biggest orgasm you’ll ever have in your life, and connecting to your sexual energy and really inhabiting it is the best prep that you can do for a pleasurable birth.
Again, like I said earlier, one of the most hideous things that happens to women is when they go into a hospital and they’re pretty much guaranteed to have a crisis birth, and they end up with PTSD. Their body gets violated and damaged. Their relationship to themselves and their partner gets damaged because their partner becomes a cuck, a cuckold, who’s watching these other people gang rape his wife.
Then try to repair that after, when you’ve got a newborn baby and you have this huge balloon of trauma that now is hanging over your heads and literally in your bodies, and then you’ve got a kid on top of it. I think not.
Your biggest aim during the pregnancy is to be a sexually self-realized being so that you orgasm your way through birth, and you will be then so innately connected to your maternal instincts, because you had to use them to birth your baby, again, rather than saying, “I don’t know how to do this. Doctor, please make my baby come out.” Massive outsourcing.
The ultimate glory and spiritual achievement a woman can have is birthing her baby naturally. That will change your entire being for the rest of your life. That will be the most important thing you can ever do as a woman. It’s your greatest spiritual gift to be born into a female body.
The women who just toss that aside, again, inner-sourcing versus outer-sourcing. Actually, the same woman in this Healing Prolapse story came into my work super devoted, super into it, heard all about my ideas about orgasmic, home birth, and free birth.
Free birth is when you don’t go get ultrasounds; you don’t go get random dudes putting their hands up your vagina. “What’s going on up here? You’re pregnant, but I’ll go inside your vagina.” It’s just a subjugation humiliation ritual. There’s nothing in your fucking vagina that’s going to tell them about your uterus. It’s gross.
So they don’t do any of that stuff. They don’t get any tests. They don’t get blood work done. You have to obviously be in a place where you trust yourself and your body that much, and ideally, you need a partner who is on board as well. Or you’re willing to try it. And she was. And so she ended up having a free birth, which means no midwife attended the birth, no doctor, no specialist, just her and her partner, and I think maybe there were other children there, and pets. You know, dogs make great birth attendants.
That, to me, is the ideal. That is the ultimate inner sourcing versus outer sourcing. She talks about that in the episode as well, the orgasmic free birth that she had.
These are the kinds of things that we expect and see as a result of doing this inner work, where you develop this ultimate confidence in yourself and in your own powers, so you don’t need it from other people.
Again, it’s not like you have to immediately be there to join the Anami club. You don’t. We all come into this work at different stages along the way, and you do what you feel confident enough to do.
But the beautiful thing is, the further that you dive into this work, the more you become that person. There’s a meme that I’ve created and have talked about, and a lot of people have taken this concept now. It’s become part of the vernacular in the sexual ecosystem vocabulary, talking about well-fucked women. I coined this term decades ago. I run a program, I trademarked it, when people were too afraid to say the word “fuck” publicly.
The Well-F**ked Woman is someone who owns and occupies so much of their sexual energy that they become unstoppable. They have a magnetism, charisma, confidence, and don’t-give-a-fuck energy that is naturally born out of inhabiting your sexual energy.
You don’t have to try to be confident or try not to care what other people think about you. No, you just don’t. You hit a point, a threshold, where you break through, and you don’t care anymore. “Look at me. I don’t give a fuck. [Laughs] I do my own thing, so love it or leave it. I’m good.”
The only thing that matters is my loyalty to my own truth and my own creativity, and putting that out there in the world. That’s my duty and my obligation, to be loyal to my truth and have the courage to express it. What other people think of it—then they’re not a good fit. Let them eat clit. The ones who want to live in the vagina and occupy these hallowed spaces of elite Kung Fu Vaginas and being a Well-F**ked Woman, come one, come all. Everybody is welcome.
I really talked about this already, but step three: Your vagina becomes your guide and compass, where you trust each other, you have this ongoing relationship, and you’ve learned to really harness the creative power of your vagina and your sexual energy. This is something I teach in all my salons again. Okay, how do we do this? How do we take our sexual energy as a tangible power and use it to create our worlds?
I often say “#Powered By Vagina” [laughs]. This lifestyle that I have, the business that I have, has all been born out of the strength, the power, the confidence of being connected to my sexual life-force energy.
Sexual energy is creative energy. If you’re not creating babies with this energy, you create your life with it. Even if you are creating babies, you still create your life with it.
But that is old teachings from millennia ago that had nothing to do with sex as morality, the shame and taboo that’s linked with it. These ancient ideas were that this is our life-force energy. This is the ultimate qi.
This is what I’ve seen in all my work: if people are not connected to this energy throughout their lives, it acts like a black hole, where everything gets sucked in, and they struggle with everything. They reconnect; they now tap into the power and learn how to take this energy and consciously channel it into their lives. Everything changes. They become magnetic, and opportunities fall into their laps because their laps attract them.
Everything changes from their appearance—I mentioned weight loss before—to all this radical self-healing that takes place, especially in the reproductive organs. Even career changes. Because your sexual energy is your essence, and the more you’re wearing that and channeling it out into the world, the more your life begins to change. The people you want to be around and who are attracted to you become a reflection of this higher self-expression.
If you’re working in a job that you don’t like very much, it’s more like a pay-the-bills job, you’ll gravitate away from it, and you’ll manifest and/or create something that is much more in line with the essence of who you are. With your soul, your dharma, the gifts that you were meant to give, because you’re now connected to, and you’ve opened up this channel for your life-force energy to flow through.
Yeah, it all starts in your vagina. Life starts in the vagina; we know this. Women are the ultimate creative portals for life.
In millennia past we were honored for this in a huge way. In some cultures, women are still honored for this, the recognition that they have this power, but women or men mostly don’t see it that way these days. It’s quite different.
“Thank you. I’m ready to manifest with my vagina.”
Vaginal Kung Fu is my ten-week online program that covers all these ideas with specific techniques for everything from a full vaginal weightlifting exercise program to yoni massage, yoni reconnaissance, and yoni gazing. How to actually take your sexual energy and channel it out into the world as a creative force. Breast massage to connect, activate, tone, lift, and enlarge the breasts.
All these things to fully activate your sexual energy as a creative power so that you become your own self-healer, your own creative force in the world, and you lessen—again, as you’re comfortable with it—your dependence on outside sources for everything from healing to knowledge and information.
I heard this joke about all the study bros out there these days. They’re asked, “What do you think about this?” “Well, the study says,” blah, blah, blah. “How did you sleep last night?” “Well, my aura ring says,” blah, blah.
Do you ever actually know anymore what you feel and think? Have your powers of self-assessment completely gone? You always need to reference an outside source.
That’s the world we’re living in. Even in the so-called holistic community. They show plenty of study bros injecting themselves with peptides and whatever.
In my world, I’m more fascinated with: How do I get that power from within? Anyone can take a pill, a shot, or a drug. That’s not interesting to me. I’m interested in how I become superhuman from within, from what’s available to me naturally. How do I work with that to become my highest self?
It just takes more effort. It’s not that it’s less effective. It just takes effort. Taking a GLP drug, losing 30 pounds, is a lot different than going to the gym, doing a cut, counting your macros, and being diligent with exercise and food 24/7.
This is the land of the elite, Kung Fu Vaginas, people who want to be in this category of extraordinary and want to work for it. You are all welcome here. I am happy to be your guide and accompaniment.
Vaginal Kung Fu registration closes on Friday of this week, midnight PST. KimAnami.com/vagina is the sign-up page for it.
This is a ten-week course that covers all of this information. You watch prerecorded videos. You have a weekly community Q&A call with me, and two breakout calls with all of our fellow Kung Fu Vaginas twice a week. The 24/7 Inner Circle is a private members’ forum. You have lifetime access to all the material.
I don’t know how people sell courses without this. I don’t get it. Because I always want to go back and revisit the material. I love having a permanent archive library of all of this information, which you will have.
The course only runs once a year. This is it, and then it’s gone again until 2027. So, yeah.
“Which should I join first, VKF or WFW?”
They’re part 1 and part 2 of a full female sexual education. I would do whatever one is happening when you’re ready to join. If that’s now, then I would take VKF and then plan to take WFW at some point in the future as well.
If you have any questions, we have a huge FAQ section on the VKF registration page. If there’s anything on there that you still need to ask about, please email us at Salons@KimAnami.com.
WFW runs in, I believe, July. They’re about six months apart. We do VKF for one part of the year, and then WFW for the other part of the year. WFW is How to Be a Well-F**ked Woman. They’re parts 1 and 2, although one doesn’t have to come before the other; they’re interchangeable.
I always live in floor-to-ceiling glass window places, and a lot of birds try to come on through, but this one, luckily, I think, stopped itself in time and flew away.
Someone says, “I’ve taken all your courses. Absolutely life-changing. I could never even imagine how incredible my life could be.”
That’s beautiful. Thank you.
“Love all of your offerings.”
Thanks, everybody. I appreciate the kind words and the ongoing support. I appreciate everybody who loves the idea of excellence and that if you put in the energy and the effort, you will get there.
“Catch a wave, girl.”
[Laughs] I plan to. Many. Thank you very much.
I look forward to seeing you all in the salon. If now isn’t the right time for you, you still have plenty of offerings through my podcasts. People have had great success just listening to podcast episodes. We’ll take it a level deeper in the salons. That’s where the much deeper work can happen.
I’ll be here a lot more, doing commentaries and videos on Instagram.
“Best dildos on the market.”
We have some couture, hand-blown, glass dildos that, yeah, I’m very proud of.
I won’t show you the whole bathing suit, but yeah, I love color. Expression of vibrancy.
All right, lots of love, everyone, and I hope to see some of you in the salon. Bye for now.
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