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“No walls, and ready for my husband anytime” 

The ultimate goal in a well-f**ked couple is to be open to each other all the time.

Always humming with erotic energy.

Knowing looks. Skirt raises. Come hither fingers. A gentle ass braise as you walk past. A five-minute make out session before dinner. A blow job in the car on the way to the dinner.

This is what it looks like when your well-f**ked energy now fuels your lives.

Ida and her partner thought they had a good sex life. They had sex a couple times a week.

She had a clitoral orgasm. He came in five minutes.

They didn’t realize that their elevated sex life and relationship could—and was meant to—do everything from heal her sexual trauma, to grow his cock, make them richer, find God, lose excess body weight and make her insatiable.

Now they know. And you can too.

Everyone can. It’s the Anami Guarantee.



In this episode: 

  • The worst sex advice for men
  • The issue that comes up in every relationship
  • What women really want in bed and in a man 
  • What happens when a man takes charge
  • “Sex is our #1 priority!” 
  • No more TV. We’re having sex instead.
  • More sex = needing less sleep 
  • 100% open to sex all the time
  • Chronic vaginal pain disappearing in an instant after clearing trauma 
  • Can any man be an alpha male? Are some men just “softer”?
  • The journey from beta to alpha 
  • What happens to a woman when her man finds his alpha energy 
  • From two-pump chump to sexual superstar overnight 
  • More male stamina = more female orgasms
  • Stronger man = stronger cock 
  • All women are insatiable 
  • Now she’s having multiple, vaginal orgasms 
  • Always at least four orgasms for her—even in a “quickie”
  • Full-body orgasms and 30-minute long orgasms
  • Finding God via cervical orgasms
  • The well-f**ked softening in a woman
  • Children appreciate well-f**ked parents
  • Well-f**ked weight loss
  • Bigger masculine energy = bigger cock
  • Using your sexual energy to achieve your dreams and goals

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No Walls and Ready For My Husband Anytime – Transcript

No walls and ready for my husband anytime. The ultimate goal in a well-f**ked couple is to be open to each other constantly, always humming with erotic energy, knowing looks, skirt races, come-hither fingers, a gentle ass tap as you walk past, a five-minute make-out session in the kitchen, a blow job in the car on the way to dinner.

In a well-f**ked couple, this energy is always alive and present. They do not need to spend hours melting ice to get boiling water. They are already living in a steady, sexual simmer all the time.

“Is this even possible?” you ask. Absolutely. This is your new normal. This is your default state.

When you start to stray from this place, you stop, drop, and get to work and play. You figure out how you’ve gotten off track and get right back on. Because you know that when you are using your intimate relationship as you are meant to, as your most primal energy source to plug into, far better than grounding, breathwork, meditation, psychedelics, shadow work, and all the superfoods you can guzzle, your well-f**ked energy now fuels your lives.

Ida and her partner thought they had a good sex life. They had sex a couple of times a week. She would have a clitoral orgasm, he came in five minutes, and they checked the boxes. I’d say the absolute minimum of boxes, but they checked a few.

They didn’t realize that their elevated sex life and relationship could heal her sexual trauma, grow his cock, make them richer, instantly remove her chronic vaginal pain, transform him into an alpha male, ignite her inner insatiability so she wants sex all the time, help her find God, drop excess body weight, calm their children, and harness the energy to achieve their dreams and goals.

Well, now they know, and you can too. Everyone can; it’s the Anami guarantee. This is not the domain of some lucky couples; everyone can have this in their lives as their daily reality.

Let’s hear from Well-F**ked All Star Ida about how she and her partner made this their new normal.

***No Walls and Ready For My Husband Anytime Interview with Ida***

KIM: Hello! We have Ida here today, all the way from Finland. Hello, Ida.

IDA: Hi, Kim.

KIM: Thank you for joining us. Tell us about your journey as a couple. You and your partner took the Coming Together Salon. Tell me where you were when you started this journey and where you got to.

When you came into the work, were you both completely ready to go? Did anybody need convincing more than the other? How did that look for you?

IDA: We were both really excited to do this work. When I told my husband this was what was going to happen, because I wanted to do this, he was all in. So I love that.

We have been together for almost 13 years. We always had a really strong and good relationship, so we were like a newlywed couple even after 10 years. And our friends would say, “Well, no couple is always happy except for Ida and Tony.” So we had a good starting point for all this work.

Sexually speaking, back then, I would probably have said that we had a good sex life. Right now, I wouldn’t say that because I know so much better is possible. But we’d have sex once a week, and that was enough for both of us. The sex would be anywhere between 10 and 20 minutes, with foreplay, and I’d have one G-spot orgasm. So I thought that was good because I had many friends who didn’t even get orgasms or only clitoral. I thought that this was as good as it got.

But we did have some issues with premature ejaculation for sure. We tried to find help for that, but we couldn’t find anything. The internet was full of really crappy advice, like jerk off as much as you can, which I know now is just going to shoot out all the sexual energy from the body. It makes it worse.

KIM: Right. Yeah.

IDA: We couldn’t find any help, and I would’ve paid anything to get help, but no one knew what to do. We felt stuck.

We did have some good experiences too; it wasn’t all crap. But mostly, the day-to-day sex life was not good. Just once a week is not enough.

KIM: Well, you say that now, in retrospect. But at the time, you thought that was okay. And you don’t know what you don’t know. Sometimes people will say to me, “Oh, the people who come to see you must be in real trouble in their marriage. In real trouble in their sex life.” I’ll say, “Yeah, sometimes, but not always.”

Sometimes people have a decent sex life, or they think it’s pretty good. They just don’t know what more is out there and how many further levels they can attain through the stuff that I talk about. I want everyone to have this very high-level, elevated, spiritually and ecstatically awakened sex life.

Even the types of orgasms that are available or the idea that men can go for only five or ten minutes in intercourse, a lot of people would accept as normal behavior or as good as it gets.

IDA: Yeah. Once you know that there’s so much more to be had, then you’ll want that for sure.

KIM: Yeah. So how did you find my work?

IDA: I went to a spiritual event, and there was this woman I felt really drawn to talk to. She channeled information from the spirit world or something like that. She told me that my husband and I would go through a rough patch, and we wouldn’t notice that; even though we have a really strong marriage, we would have a lot of small issues that would turn into a bigger issue.

Then I think it was like a week later that I found you on Instagram. I had listened to your podcast once or twice before and loved it, but I wasn’t ready for that years ago.

But this time I just felt that—boom—this is it. This is what’s going to happen. I found this one episode on your podcast, How to F**k Your Woman Into Oblivion, I think it’s called. I think it was Jim, maybe, the guy who was speaking.

KIM: Yeah, yeah, Jim.

IDA: I love that episode. He was so good at telling his story. It really spoke to me, and especially about polarity; it felt like that was the missing piece in my marriage, because I have the best husband. He’s loyal, and he’s always been there for me. Held my hair when I was throwing up and was a solid, good husband and a great dad.

But there was something always missing. I couldn’t put my finger on it. I was always missing this more masculine side of him, and that’s horrible to say to someone you love. “Can’t you fight me once or just be more of a man?” But there was always something inside me that felt there was something missing. When I heard that podcast episode, I knew, okay, so it’s polarity. We have a huge issue with polarity.

You can be a good husband and be respectful and loving; that doesn’t have to end and shouldn’t change, but you can still be assertive and be the leader of the family, especially during sex. You don’t want the soft guy in bed. You want the one who’s going to take you.

So I really felt like this needed to happen in our relationship. I showed the episode to Tony, and he was all in after that.

KIM: I love that. And we hear that so much, especially with the polarity theme, which, for people who might not know exactly what that is, the whole concept is that women are innately more feminine, and men are innately more masculine. Wow, what a concept, but in this day and age, it really is. It’s almost enough to get you censored to say that out loud.

And you have far more sexual chemistry, the more exaggerated those polarities are. The more the woman is in her feminine, the more the man is in his masculine; that’s what creates a natural chemistry. Sparks fly.

It’s such an aha moment. We hear that so much from couples; there’s something they can’t quite put their finger on, something that they know is amiss within the connection. Then they hear this idea of polarity articulated, and then this light bulb goes on, where they finally understand. “Okay, this is the thing that’s been at play in our relationship for years or maybe even decades that we were struggling with but didn’t have language for it, didn’t even really understand what it was.”

I love that you had that crystallization, and then you were both on board. That you both were in agreement, okay, yeah, we are out of balance here, and we’d like to create more of a spark, and both inhabit each of our essences more fully.

IDA: Yeah. Also, as a woman, to feel that there’s nothing wrong with me for wanting these things. I always tried to change myself, to be more accepting of him. But it would never have led to this relationship we have now, with this harmonious living together. It just works and flows so much easier.

KIM: Right. When we’re in our natural states. There’s been a lot of socialization, and especially of late, with the whole gender neutrality and very effeminate men really removing the idea of masculinity and archetypal masculinity, the alpha male, trying to vilify it as being toxic; there’s a reason why 50 Shades of Grey was as popular as it was. All these women were getting wet and masturbating to this book all over the world because it features a strong, dominant, alpha male character who takes charge and calls the shots with his woman.

Every woman wants to feel that in her man, and if she doesn’t, I’ll say she’s in denial, or she’s in some protective mechanism state, where it works for her to have a very safe, plaintive, passive man whom she doesn’t want to have sex with.

IDA: Those couples don’t have sex, 100%. [Laughs]

KIM: Yeah, they’re buddies. “We’re such good buddies. We’re such good companions. We’re such good parents and business partners.”

Yeah, did you ever consider that marriage was actually about having a sexual relationship with your partner? [Laughs] It is absolutely the most important part of a marriage.

Okay. So you’re both on board with this idea of polarity. So then what happens?

IDA: Yeah. Then we made up a rule that sex was our number one priority from that moment. This was around two years ago.

KIM: I love it.

IDA: And we were all in, 110%. We went headfirst into the deep end. It was quite rough in the beginning. We’d have sex until midnight, and my husband had to get up at five. It was quite crazy, but looking back on it, I do appreciate how all in he was. He was committed to me and to this work, and I’m always going to love him for that because it changed our marriage and our relationship completely.

Yeah. So the number one rule was that sex is a priority, and we’re going to do something sexual every single day. It can be yoni or lingam massage or sex or just connecting, whatever. But we’re not going to sit in front of the TV anymore. It’s going to be all about the sex.

KIM: I love that. Let me just interject here and applaud you for that. Because the couples that have the most dramatic breakthroughs are the ones who do exactly what you’ve said. They are all in and committed. “Okay, so we’re up till midnight, getting up at five, having less sleep,” but what actually happens—and I’m going to guess that you saw this—is that when you’re having that level of sex, you are more energized, more rejuvenated, and you bound out of bed. You don’t wake up tired. “Oh, we shouldn’t have stayed up that late.” You wake up glowing and euphoric and floating off into your day.

IDA: Yeah, and you need less sleep. I noticed that I can get two hours less sleep and manage fine, because the orgasms give me so much energy.

KIM: Yes! [Laughs] I love it. So you’re having a lot more sex, and then what begins to happen?

IDA: Yes. So the second rule we made up was that we, and especially I, are not going to have sex unless I’m 100% open.

KIM: What does that mean to you? To be 100% open?

IDA: That I feel my body is open for him and inviting him in, and there’s nothing pushing back. Because once I started doing this, I noticed that quite often, almost every time, there was something, like an energetic thing, like putting your hands up and holding the other one away. I felt that there was something between us that I just couldn’t open up. I couldn’t get horny because there was something there.

KIM: What did you do about that then?

IDA: Well, we decided that even though we won’t have sex if I feel something coming up, we won’t go in front of the TV either; we’re going to talk about it. We’re going to see what comes up because there is always a reason. If you’re not horny, if you’re not wanting to have sex, there’s always a reason for that, and I don’t want to push that away anymore. I want to talk about it and heal it so that I can be open to having sex all the time.

And this worked really well. The first year was a lot about trauma coming up. There was this one evening where my husband came in to kiss me, and I just leaned back a little bit, like an energetic thing. And normally, I wouldn’t have reacted to this. I would’ve just gone on to have sex.

But now I knew that there was something I needed to talk about. We went and sat down on the bed, and I told him, “I don’t know what I’m about to say, but I know I have to talk.” Then I started sharing, and this memory came up from my childhood, where I was at summer camp, and I was around eight years old. I was sexually abused. This was a blocked memory. I did not know that this had happened. I was never able to tell anyone as a child. And I just forgot about it for around 25 years, and now it came up because I listened to this tiny thing inside me that said no.

I shared the whole story with my husband, the first time I ever told anyone about this. It was so healing, and it was funny because even though it was a blocked memory and I didn’t know that I had this memory, I could still tell exactly what had happened in such detail. I remembered all of it. Once I started talking, it just came out. And my body started twitching, and the trauma started coming out of my body, and my husband just held me and comforted me. And that was the starting point of a really big healing journey.

The healing journey is just ending right about now. I dove deep into the trauma, and it’s been the roughest time of my life, but I noticed that there is a lot of new type of sexual energy arising when I heal this trauma.

I used to have pain during sex, especially deep in the cervical area. And it just disappeared like this [snaps fingers] when I really looked at the trauma and healed it. And sex feels so different now. I can feel everything, and it’s so pleasurable. Like pleasure times a hundred when I don’t have that trauma there anymore. It’s amazing what’s happening to the body. And the sexual energy just flows. It hits me, and even though I’m tired and it doesn’t matter, the sexual energy comes naturally. I don’t have to work in order to feel the sexual energy, to be horny. It just comes when I don’t have trauma anymore.

KIM: That’s incredible! I love all of that. I love that you listened to that very small, subtle no, that you were so perceptive to hear it, and listen and follow that and not push it aside, which is what I think so many people do. They feel programmed or obligated, duty-bound to just carry forward.

That’s my issue with things like lube; women are being programmed to constantly override any signals of the body. I love that you honor that, and I love that by sitting and talking through that, all these things just unfolded and came tumbling out of you. That is so beautiful, and I love that you really honored your own process and just followed, not knowing where the road would go, but realizing that this is a detour or a side road we have to take right now and see what happens on a quantum level.

We talk about this idea of quantum healing and quantum leaps, where, when you can have this experience, it changes things immediately in a huge way. Pain can evaporate, or some majestic, magical thing can happen that takes you leaps and bounds from where you are right now to somewhere else within moments. Sounds like it may have been more than just moments for you, but still.

That’s really, really amazing work for you to have done.

IDA: And it’s beautiful to go through that because this is the first time in my entire life that I’ve liked having sex, because this happened as a child. So I have never experienced sex without trauma. Literally, these last few weeks are the first time in my life I’m experiencing that. It’s quite beautiful to see what’s normal and be sexually free. That’s the normal state.

KIM: What was the difference? If you say that right now is the first time experiencing it without trauma, what’s the difference between now and before? Is it just the level of pleasure that’s so much higher? What would you say?

IDA: It’s the fact that I don’t have to work in order to get to an aroused state. I can just feel someone is throwing the sexual energy on me, and then it’s just here. The sex used to be so much work that I had to try to find the right way to have it. Now I just have sex because it feels good. It’s incredible how much there can be of this sexual energy. I used to think I had a great sex life before, but right now it’s completely different.

Yeah, it’s hard to describe, but I just have a lot more sexual energy and, like you said, the pleasure. I can feel everything so much. When my husband touches me, oh, it just feels like heightened senses.

KIM: That’s amazing. How else would you describe the changes? Is there anything else that you would say that you could quantify that was different from before and after?

IDA: Well, I don’t know how much was really about the trauma and how much was the polarity work and everything else we did, but I want to talk about the polarity stuff, because that was the whole reason we got into this work and into your course.

My husband thought that maybe all men aren’t alpha males, and he thought that maybe he was just the softer kind, more like a teddy bear, and thankfully, I knew, because I listened to your podcast, that was not true. All men can pull out that alpha side of them.

Once we started doing this, he needed to be more assertive, make decisions, be the leader, and take charge in bed. We noticed that there were a lot of emotional blocks for him. Maybe even some trauma that led to the fact that he couldn’t be the alpha. It was emotional work for him to find that side of him. There were a lot of fights in the beginning. He’d go into his feminine and I’d get so annoyed, and I’d do this thing that I know many women do, where they’ll push and push and push because they want the tiger to come out of the man and put up a little bit of a fight. Then my husband would go even more into his shell because he was so afraid of conflict that it just got worse.

But what I really wanted was for him to yell at me and do something, not just to hide when I got mad, but really look at me and look at the issue, and be brave enough to have those discussions.

Yeah, so it was a lot of work in the beginning, but we started to notice shifts quite quickly.

There was this one moment I want to share because it was so beautiful. We were having a fight about something. I think it was because I wanted him to lead our sex life, so he was in charge, and he made sure that we got into bed every night. That was his way of practicing this polarity thing.

Then we were having a fight. He had made up all these excuses why we weren’t having sex. He was so tired, and there was this and that.

Then he got really quiet and said, “Okay, so this pity-party stops now.” And then he took me into the bedroom, and I had been nagging him all day because we didn’t have sex, so I was annoyed at him. And he used to do this thing where he blindfolded me, and then he teased me with a feather or something like that.

So he took out the blindfold again, and I thought, “Oh, you’re going to do the blindfold thing again. I was hoping you would throw me around the room or something a bit rougher.” Then he took the blindfold and held it in front of my face and said, “So you have been nagging me all day. I don’t want to listen to that, so this goes over your mouth.” And I said, “Yeah, baby.” [Laughs]

So he put the blindfold over my mouth to shut me up, and then he tied my hands behind my back, and we had amazing sex that time. He was really in his masculine, just taking charge and making sure that the sex would happen. That’s exactly what I wanted, for him to be the leader and make sure that we had sex.

This way, we found a balance of polarity. Sometimes we’ll go this way, and it doesn’t work, and then we find our way again.

KIM: I love that. How did that translate in your day-to-day life? There’s the dynamic that happens in bed with polarity about taking charge, and then outside in your everyday life, with him taking more charge. What other things did you notice in your day-to-day interactions?

IDA: So much. I am so much happier now. It is so much easier, and things just flow, and I just love when he takes charge. It’s easier for me to be in my feminine, and we don’t fight as much or at all. I’m much happier with him, and I feel more comfortable in his arms because I know he’s going to carry me.

Even with our daughter, we have a three-and-a-half-year-old, and he used to be such a pushover with her. She would decide what we were going to do, and even with her, he couldn’t be assertive, so that has completely changed. Just a week ago, she didn’t want to put on her pajamas, and he said, “No, you’re going to go put on your PJs,” because he was in his masculine energy. So small things like this.

There’s so much more flow and harmony between us; we’re on the same team, and we get along. Of course, the sexual spark is much, much better right now, and it’s affected our entire relationship in so many ways that it’s hard to even describe. We’re much happier.

KIM: What happened with the premature ejaculation journey? How did the stamina-building go?

IDA: Once we got the tools, it actually changed in almost one session. We’d go from five minutes or a maximum of 10 minutes to 20-plus minutes in just one session when we started using the techniques.

What I noticed also was that when we did the polarity work, it affected his stamina quite a lot. When he’s in his masculine, he’s going to be much stronger in bed too and not run to the first exit.

We had a really quick life change in that, and that’s been so great because it affected my pleasure immediately. I was already quite open to having more orgasms, but he just couldn’t get me past the first one because he’d come. So my orgasm just went in a better direction as soon as his stamina got better. That was quite an easy journey in the end.

KIM: I love what you said about taking the quick or the first exit because my experience in watching men with premature ejaculation is that it’s an avoidance of intimacy. They’re bailing very quickly.

I love that you observed that parallel, that when your man was inhabiting his sexual energy and more of his masculine energy, that also showed up as a more inhabited cock. Being willing to be present sexually, present within his cock, present within you, and ride that all the way home. That’s beautiful.

How did that shift your orgasms? Because we talk about how women are insatiable. There’s this myth out there that men are more sexual than women, which isn’t really the case. Women actually have far more sexual stamina and potential and longevity, unless men develop their stamina, and then they can keep up with women.

But the issue is that most women never get a chance to even touch that because they have men who have very quick orgasms, and the intercourse experience is over so fast that they barely get started before it’s finished. They start to feel like, “Why would I even have intercourse? This is lame.”

So you’re having longer intercourse, which then would naturally lead to more vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasms, cervical orgasms. So what happened there for you?

IDA: Well, as soon as the stamina got better and I started doing my yoni egg practice, I think it was maybe two weeks, and I had, for the first time ever, multiple orgasms. Four orgasms in a row. So, quite a big leap from one to four in just one session.

Yeah, ever since then, even if we have a quick f**k, it’s always at least four orgasms. I rarely have fewer than four because I’m already so well-practiced that it’s easy to get to those orgasms.

One thing I noticed also, just in the last six months, is how the orgasms start to melt together. Instead of having four or five different orgasms, I’ll have just one long 30-minute orgasm. That’s been a really good experience to notice that there are so many levels to orgasms. That it’s not just having a few, but they can actually start to take over a much bigger area of the body as well. It used to be quite tiny, and now it’s in my entire pelvic area that I can feel the G-spot orgasm.

KIM: Right. Full-body orgasms. And full-being orgasms. The deeper orgasms are much more multidimensional. There’s more physical pleasure, but there’s also more emotional, energetic, spiritual—people describe their cervical orgasm as feeling like they’ve seen God. They feel this oneness of spiritual awakening within themselves.

How do you feel that’s changed you as a woman? As you’re coming more into being a Well-F**ked Woman, what does that look and feel like for you?

IDA: Well, I think it’s changed my entire life. So many things have started shifting since we did the sexual work. We have been completely reborn. Even my work has changed completely. I feel not just physically satisfied from the sex but satisfied in a much deeper way with life. And I feel like I found God because, like you said, during cervical orgasms, you see God. Quite literally. It feels like the God energy, all this light.

It’s made me much softer. I used to nag him a lot. I used to be irritated a lot. I’m still not the most feminine person. I can have this masculine energy. When I have the man alongside me, he balances out all of this, so I feel like I found so many new levels of my femininity inside me. I can be soft and vulnerable and submissive and all of this, and I love it. I just feel so much happier. It’s changed basically everything, the relationship and how our daughter feels, and she’s much happier now that we’re getting along. All of life changes when you find the sexual energy.

KIM: I talk about that as well, that the children will manifest the unexpressed, latent issues within the parents. Couples often find that when they have stuff going on between them, unresolved issues, the children are acting out more. They’re having more challenges and behavioral issues with their kids, who are just absorbing through osmosis.

It sounds like once you guys found your harmony, that was reflected within your daughter as well.

IDA: Yeah, it’s much easier. Our family dynamic just works in a different way, and she doesn’t have to see us fighting as much, and I think that’s really important. And also, to show the sexual side. You can hug and kiss your wife or walk by and squeeze her butt. That’s completely normal, and that’s part of life; it shows her an example of what relationships are supposed to look like, and what makes me even happier is that she is going to choose a healthy man for herself because she has seen this at home. This is the normal relationship for her, where we have respect and intimacy and love and connection on this level.

That’s going to affect all our kids and their relationships in the future, and that really makes me happy; she is going to choose a good man because her dad was a good man, and she could see how happy we were.

KIM: And what energy changes did you see in your husband as he began operating more in his masculine in the day-to-day?

IDA: So much. He’s a different man. We still work on polarity. He’s more peaceful. Calm. He used to be super calm, but now it’s in a deeper sense. He’s much happier and more Zen. I really love it when he takes charge, and if we need to go somewhere, then it’s not me doing all the work. But he is going to be handling all the stuff, and we’re going to do it together much more.

Yeah, it’s affected his entire physical body. Once he started doing the polarity stuff, he just suddenly started losing weight. We didn’t do anything different; we always eat healthily. But he just started losing weight. His dad asked him, “Have you been on a diet, or how did you lose all this weight? What have you been doing?” He said, “I haven’t been doing anything.” I thought to myself, “Well, you have been doing something. [Laughs] You have been doing your wife quite a lot.”

That’s the only thing that has changed, just our sexual life—the polarity, his body is responding to that. And I can see so clearly when he goes back into his old habits and a more feminine energy, he starts putting on weight. And then again, when he’s in his masculine, the weight falls off. It’s so clear on him. So that’s been really interesting.

And also, I have noticed quite a big change in his dick size. [Laughs] He’s much bigger because he’s taking up all the space that he didn’t use to. He used to hide a little, and you can see it on the dick if it’s completely out there, taking up all this space, so it’s been quite a big change in his size, which is not too bad for me. [Laughs]

KIM: [Laughs] A fantastic side benefit, absolutely. Is there anything else that you would add that we haven’t shared?

IDA: Maybe just the way the sexual work affects all of life. It’s not just about the sex and the chemistry, but you find your dreams, and you can reach them much easier, and it affects the way we work, for example, quite a lot, when the man is assertive in his job. It’s going to bring different results for him. And for me, as an entrepreneur, to be coming from that feminine place and creating stuff from that really soft, feminine place. It’s brought me a lot more customers, and everything has really shifted.

Yeah, if you want to reach your dreams and your goals, then I think sexual work is the way to do that. It’s so effective.

KIM: Yeah. Both in that outer productivity sense, but even in the inner sense of emotional healing, like what you talked about with clearing your trauma, even this idea of your husband’s body changing. This holographic change that happens with this alchemy and sexual alchemy using our sexual energy consciously is one of the most powerful tools we have for change and transformation, growth, rebirth, birthing ourselves. I love hearing that.

One of the things you said that I thought was so perfect and beautiful was that you feel now that you have no walls and you’re ready for your husband anytime. I think that really is the best example of that perfect polarity in action, where the feminine is in pure receptivity because you’ve done all this work to clear that space so you can exist there.

IDA: Yeah. That’s the new normal. That’s how it’s supposed to be. It feels so amazing to be in that space where you don’t have to work in order to have good sex; it’s just there all the time. It’s a blessing.

KIM: I love it! So well done!

Well, thank you so much for sharing your story and letting us into your process, to hear everything. It’s so inspiring and valuable.

IDA: Thank you for having me.

KIM: This is what your intimate relationship is meant to do for your life. Elevate it, set it on fire, and quantum leap you in every part of your existence. All you need to do is get f**ked, well-f**ked, and I can help you to do just that.

My Coming Together for Couples Salon opens for registration next week. You can sign up to our email list to be notified when the doors open, and you can receive our free 7-Day Sex Cleanse and get a leg up on all the practices in the salon in the meantime.

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You will learn how to keep the simmer going 24/7, the almighty G-spot and Squirting 101, plus powerful stamina techniques for him.

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