Big, Blissful Breast Orgasms – Transcript
Big, beautiful breast-gasms.
We put up a question in our Instagram stories this week, asking women how they feel about their breasts. The responses ranged from love/hate.
“My favorite body part.”
“Way too small.”
“Grateful for them; they’re perfect.”
“They sag. I don’t love them.”
“They need a boost.”
“I love them! I wish they were perkier, but that’s okay.”
“Totally disconnected. I got implants when I was young and totally regret it. I often feel like they don’t belong to me or on my body for some reason.”
Now, these are all fascinating responses, but it’s the last one that really hits me. I think that’s because of how I first felt when I was developing breasts, like, “Ahh, what are these? Will I be able to run as fast with them?” I was a sprinter and a soccer player, so this was important.
It also makes me think about how, if I had been born in this particular era and had even the slightest trepidation about my new and foreign emerging body, I might not be here right now talking to you about cervical orgasms and squirting on the regular. Because these days, another assumption gets made, and another set of actions get taken.
This raises the broader question of embodiment. When we are modeled healthy examples of people around us—parents, family members, and what we see in the media—truly loving and owning what they’ve got, enjoying the body they were given, we absorb that.
If our parents, and in this case, our mothers, have unresolved issues around their sexuality—and let’s face it, everyone does; it’s only a matter of the degree of dissociation—then we pick that up in the ethers and all around us, and it is very difficult to fully grow into our bodies and feminine selves. Hint, hint, hint, hint.
The same goes for men, but for today, we are talking about breasts.
The truth is, in Taoist sexuality, breasts are considered to be the gateway to female orgasm. Six energy meridian lines run through them, including the kidneys, which are responsible for generating the waters of arousal. In MRI scans, breast stimulation lights up similar, if not the same areas of the brain, as when women receive G-spot and cervical stimulation.
All women, according to the Anami guarantee, can have wild nipple-gasms and full breast-gasms. Yes, all women can.
As with the full Orgasmapedia I talk about, the pathway to all orgasms is owning yourself, owning your body and your sexuality, and removing any blockages that are in the way of you living fully in that place.
Contrary to what some people and spiritual paths might try to tell you, salvation is found in the pleasures of the body. Not by denying them, but by going consciously, wildly, deeply into them.
This is such a fascinating concept to me that I’m going to do an entire different podcast episode on that.
Over a decade of running my online salons has shown me how many women truly are disconnected from their breasts and feel like they don’t own them. This can be from all of the sexual projections and unwanted attention they receive on them, starting at puberty, when they have the chance to begin their own relationship with their breasts. This is also reflected in the way that breasts are portrayed in movies, TV, and advertising, which tends to cheapen them and turn them into “boobs” rather than breasts.
Even the sacred act of breastfeeding, which, believe it or not, is the true purpose of breasts, is not just taboo but forbidden in many places. Both publicly and even privately, so much shit gets laid upon it that now women have other projections and additional opinions thrown at them about their breasts.
All of this increases the sense that they belong to other people and not the woman herself, and creates this barrier to her breasts, even though they happen to live on her own body.
Maybe it’s because they’re so visible, meaning we don’t see the full, tight outline of men’s cocks in every piece of clothing they wear or cock cleavage, but everyone knows what a woman is packing. Women become so disconnected from their breasts that they cut into them, they stuff plastic bags around them or ultimately have them cut off because they, themselves, are so cut off from them.
The answer lies in reclaiming and owning the breasts, bringing them back to life to be expressions of an open heart. In the Taoist philosophy, they see breasts as an extension of the heart, so we want them to be sensitive, orgasmic, and act as the alchemizers of both toxins and emotions in the body.
Breasts create one of the most wondrous substances in the world—breast milk. There is nothing more magical and nourishing than breast milk, the manna from heaven.
On a side note, did you know that breasts are so intelligent that when women are breastfeeding, the baby’s saliva passes through the nipple to give information to the mother’s body about what exactly the baby needs, what kinds of nutrients, or what it needs to address immunity? Then her body adjusts the composition of the milk accordingly.
Breasts are brilliant! And yes, breasts are also mind-glowingly orgasmic. So how do you get there?
Number one, breast massage. I have been teaching breast massage in my salons for over a decade, and I am always amazed at the results and how fast women get them. Five minutes a day in the shower is all it takes. You can certainly go for much longer, and when you realize how amazingly blissful it feels, you probably will.
Breast massage resensitizes the breasts, moves and clears lymph and toxins, and awakens their pleasure potential.
I teach full breast massage routines in both the Well-F**ked Woman Salon and in Vaginal Kung Fu. I formulated an orgasmic and organic breast massage oil just for this purpose, which you can find in the Anami Alchemia Online Shop, and it’s called Breast Bliss. It’s heavenly. I use it as a perfume. I just wear it. [Laughs] And as a face oil, actually, there’s hyaluronic acid in it. And I even put crystal elixirs into it to help you process all things emotional on your quest to breast love.
Remember, what you focus on grows. Women have gained an extra cup size, as you’ll hear in today’s All Star interviews, just from dedicated breast massage. Other women get firmer and more lifted, since not everybody wants a size increase. [Laughs]
My number two suggestion would be to go braless. Do it as much as you can. Bras in general, but especially the modern, padded, underwired versions, are like cages for the breasts. To really let them come alive, let your breasts be free.
It might seem like a big deal to go out in public without a bra, but I actually get a kick out of watching people freak out. Seeing a little innocent nipple protruding through a shirt like it was the shark from Jaws. “Oh my god, it’s a nipple—I can’t—oh my god, what are we going to do?” And men nearly jacking it right then and there over a nipple. Oh, what power we have. Enjoy it.
It feels amazing to be braless. It feels to me like my breasts are sensory devices picking up information through the areola. And it’s a way easier thing to do without a bra suffocating them.
Number three suggestion: Get your breasts in the sun. In Europe, it is amazing to see how many women are topless at the beach, and it’s great to see all the different shapes and sizes of breasts. As you may well know, I am a huge proponent of sunlight ranking up there with sexual medicine. I get my daily dose whenever, wherever I can, and also get my genitals, breasts and pussy, exposed as much as possible.
Check out the Genital Sunning video on my YouTube channel for more information on this.
Lastly, incorporate them into your sexual repertoire. Breasts are often just a cursory stop on the way to the promised land of the vagina. Make them an overnight layover. Spend 15, 30, 45 minutes, and even longer with them. Not only is this deep and epic foreplay, but you will open their potential, as I mentioned before, as heart expanders, as liberators of repressed emotions, and you will build your capacity for breast and nipple-gasms.
And as an aside, the more sexual activity you have—even a dose of a sexual encounter—increases breast size up to 25%. That’s not even necessarily stimulating the breasts, but imagine if you did, the results you would have.
Today’s Well-F**ked All Stars share how they went from numb and disconnected to radiant, cosmic, multi-orgasmic breast and nipple-gasms.
We’ve got three for you today because they all touch on different elements of owning the breasts and the tools they use to get into these breast bliss experiences.
To kick it off, here is Amanda.
AMANDA: My entire sexual journey started with your work. I took both the Well-F**ked Woman and Vaginal Kung Fu, and so for me, it totally started with the Well-F**ked Woman. Actually, the whole connection with my breasts was really a big gateway to opening up the rest of my whole sexual experience. Basically, when I ended up doing your work, I went from never ever having orgasms to becoming multi-orgasmic in a really short period of time, which completely surprised me because when I discovered your work, I just was not in a good place sexually. I didn’t see how I could get there, but I definitely did.
For me, probably the biggest gateway was the relationship with my breasts. Regular, dedicated breast massage, just as you recommend, is really core to your work. That was kind of my first gateway to really beginning to feel sexual pleasure, which I hadn’t felt in a long time.
Just to give you a little insight into my life at that time, my husband and I were both working like crazy, going to school, all that stuff, and we had a really young son. Our sex life was basically at a standstill. There was nothing going on. We were really resentful, and it just was not good. I knew that this was something that I needed to do.
Yeah, I thought, “How am I going to feel this pleasure and stuff that she talked about?” And like I said, for me, I think the biggest gateway was definitely the breasts. I actually started to feel pleasure from massaging my breasts regularly and feeling that sense of self-love that you talk about. The breasts are representative of nurturing and your own love for yourself.
It just really helped me to reflect on how much self-love I was not giving myself, especially at that time in my life. Having a really young son, working so crazy, I was just completely and utterly depleted.
So yeah, at that time in my life, when I think back to what my breasts physically looked like, they looked exactly as depleted as I felt. They were super-duper saggy, really small. They had shrunk a little bit.
When I started to do the breast massage, really, really intentionally, really trying actively to give myself that self-love, they completely changed. Their physical form actually changed as well. You talk about the whole concept of infinite possibility and just really, really using your intention. So I said, “I’m going to grow my breasts. I’m going to grow them a whole size, just to see.”
And they totally did. They got way fuller. They grew an entire cup size. That was great on a physical level, but they actually started to feel pleasurable to me, which was really shocking because even earlier on in mine and my husband’s relationship, where we did have a decent sex life and I enjoyed it, I still didn’t really want my breasts to be touched. That just wasn’t a sexual part of my body, which was totally wrong.
Also during this time, pretty soon after Vaginal Kung Fu, I became pregnant for the second time. I was completely blown away. My second pregnancy was probably the most sexually powerful time in my whole life. I feel like I just desired myself, kind of like a partner would. I totally fell in love with myself and desired myself, and that was something that I absolutely did not feel in my first pregnancy. I was very, very disconnected the first time.
I feel like through all of the work I had done, the previous nine months or whatever it was, I was activated. I had just gotten rid of so much programming that whatever stuff was stuck in my body was gone and made space for all of this pleasure and sensation to arrive.
One of the first things that happened really early on—I think I was maybe only a couple months pregnant—I’m not even kidding, my breasts started to throb with pleasure, just unprovoked. I wasn’t touching them. Nobody was touching them, and they just started, of their own accord, to feel pleasure, as if somebody were touching them.
I would wake up in the middle of the night sometimes, out of sleep, and they would be full of pleasure. Then I would have to do the breast massage. That’s when I said, “Okay, okay, okay. This feels amazing. I’m going to try this nipple-gasm thing and see what happens.”
So I did. I spent tons of dedicated time massaging them. Honestly, with time, I just spent a ton of dedicated time on the whole breast and then the nipple as well. I focused for a long time on the nipple. I couldn’t even stop. It just felt so amazing to me. [Laughs] I literally couldn’t help it. My breasts wanted to get played with. So I obliged.
They had already been so awakened that it didn’t take terribly long to actually experience them. I had never, before you, heard of a nipple-gasm. I had definitely heard of pleasure before, but I guess I just wasn’t sure if there was any over the edge–type feeling or expansion, maybe like G-spot or cervical orgasms. I wasn’t sure if it actually got to that level. It felt like a nipple-gasm, as opposed to just a lot of pleasure.
Yeah, in my experience, a nipple-gasm feels most similar to G-spot. For me, it’s very prolonged, but it markedly feels like a super-heightened pleasure that lasts for a long time, but it can also get higher and continue.
Then, at that point, you just get so turned on that you then self-pleasure. That’s what I do. Then I just continue the whole self-pleasuring session but start with a nipple-gasm.
KIM: Our next Well-F**ked All Star is Sara.
SARA: When I think back on my relationship to my breasts, it was very much like I was cohabiting with them. It was as though they were roommates I liked, and I thought pretty neutrally of them. I’m small-chested, but I don’t mind. I always thought my breasts were nice enough but didn’t think more of that. Didn’t think more of them.
Then, around eight years ago, I had my daughter, and that really transformed my relationship with my breasts to love and appreciation. I breastfed her for over seven and a half years, super-extended breastfeeding. So much love and connection and beauty I associated with my breasts nourishing my child.
But it was still platonic, I would say. [Laughs] Then this introduction to breast massage was really mind-blowing to me because the process allowed me to fall in love with my breasts for the first time and really see them and connect with them in such a simple way.
Then, through this incredible massage and daily practice of connection, I noticed right away that my breasts were almost saying, “Hello!” [Laughs] They just perked up instantly within days because they were, I think, totally unused to this attention but totally wanting it and loving it. They’d been pushed to the side of the room my whole life and then brought out for this very beautiful but utilitarian practice of breastfeeding. Now it’s like, “No, I just love you for who you are.”
Then, through that practice, I definitely developed more sensation. I feel my pussy waking up when I’m massaging my breasts and this incredible connection between my breasts and my vagina through this daily practice of massage.
After breastfeeding for as long as I did, I was pretty averse to touching my nipples, just because they were sucked on for so long. I do have some insecurities about them because of the extended breastfeeding. They’re quite pronounced. They’ve been sucked out into points.
But I think just the practice of starting on the nipples felt really nourishing, and it allowed me to develop a different sensation there that wasn’t jarring or associated with the sensitivity I had when my daughter was first born. It’s almost like I carried that sensitivity with me for seven years, and the breast massage has just allowed me to change that and have different sensitivity in my breasts that feels way more pleasurable.
I also wanted to say my husband immediately noticed. “Your breasts are just perky and shiny and glowing.” I mean, he’s always loved them, but it’s really changed how he interacts with them when we have sex because I want him. They’re fair game now. [Laughs] And more than fair game. “Go there. Please, touch my breasts. Please, kiss my breasts. Please, suck my breasts.” Love my breasts.
And I think for me, it’s hard to pinpoint exactly the breasts because it feels like the entire journey is so holistic, which is why it feels like it works in such a root-cause way. I feel like there’s no going back once you start on this journey. We’re changing neural pathways, as you say, and that was an aha-moment for me. “Oh yeah, that’s what we’re doing here. We’re changing the rigidity of how our body responds to pleasure and to the world.”
I think the breast massage sort of primed me to go deeper into the vagina. I was feeling hesitant about yoni massages and really going deep, and having that daily practice of breast massage warmed me up for a deeper practice with my vagina, which has then been hugely transformative as well.
And I also have this deep sense of not only the sexual and energetic healing that comes along with the breast massage, but the lymphatic draining. I think, on a very deep level, my body is saying, “You need to move these tissues, and this is so good for your long-term health of your whole body,” and it feels very nurturing and nourishing in that way too.
That’s a turn-on for my body. [Laughs] It’s good health. There’s that feedback too.
I 100% believe in your work and the power of manifestation. It felt like I was just blind on the trail, and doing this work and understanding that the portal to alignment with the universe is through my vagina feels so incredible. It’s like there’s light on the dark path.
I’ve had a life that’s been pretty aligned. Lots of synchronicity, lots of beautiful gifts from the universe. They kind of just fell from out of the blue, it seemed like. Now there’s this mechanism for harnessing that power and alignment.
Interestingly, Kim, my daughter self-weaned. It’s not that I didn’t want her to be breastfeeding before that, but I don’t think it’s a coincidence. I think she understood that I was going through this transformation, this self-reclamation, and respected that. I mean, she’s old enough. She understands that.
And I talked to her. I said, “Oh, I think it’s time. Mom’s going to be reclaiming her breasts. We can talk about what that looks like in terms of our breastfeeding.”
Then she just stopped. There’s a lot of synchronicity in that for me. I don’t believe they are coincidences. It’s alignment. But it was fascinating.
It was this time for me to enter into my own relationship with my breasts that was separate from my relationship as a mother.
She just adores my breasts and my body. When I’m doing a breast massage, if she happens to be around, she’s transfixed and mesmerized by the act of love of these things that she adores. It’s beautiful.
KIM: And our final Well-F**ked All Star is Robin.
KIM: Welcome, Robin. It’s great to have you here.
ROBIN: Well, thanks so much for inviting me, Kim, and I’m excited to be here.
KIM: So let’s hear all about your journey into becoming a Well-F**ked Woman. First of all, how old are you?
ROBIN: I am 66.
KIM: And blooming.
ROBIN: And blooming. [Laughs]
KIM: [Laughs] Tell us about your journey.
ROBIN: I have had orgasms from just breast stimulation throughout my life, pretty much. But the breast massage became really important to me, and I was massaging fairly regularly, probably four or five times a week.
Then one day, I just barely touched my breast, and I orgasmed, so I said, “That’s amazing.” I’ve noticed that when I slack off on breast massage, it’s not as noticeable or easy, but it’s much easier for me to orgasm just from breast stimulation now than it’s ever been.
The first time that it happened to me, I woke up in the morning, during the salon, and I just basically touched my breast, not intentionally, and orgasmed.
KIM: What did that feel like?
ROBIN: Well, first of all, I was pretty surprised, but it felt amazing. [Laughs] I mean, it was a great way to wake up. It was also confirmation about all the exercises and the work that we do in the salon, which allowed me to experience that and to continue to experience it, as I continue to do breast massage.
The more I breast massage, the easier it is. It feels amazing. The way that it feels in terms of comparing it to other orgasms is really like a full-body orgasm. A big wave comes over my entire body. It’s kind of like the top of my head gets blown off. And physically, in my body, everything is alive.
As I said, I’ve never spent so much time with myself, sexually, ever, in all my life. So what that means for me now is a real connection with myself. I’ve learned things I never knew and felt things I’ve never felt inside my vagina. I’ve never really explored as much as I have now. So I have a whole new idea of what everything is.
Before, it was just my vagina. Now it’s this amazing, malleable, strong, and powerful source of energy. I think so many women are not actively sexual with themselves or with anyone.
There is this amazing light. There’s this amazing area to explore and to create, I believe, health for yourself. Connection with yourself, connection with others. And to give yourself incredible empowerment and strength, all coming from your vagina, sexual energy, and the moving around of energy.
I think that’s something so critical that people in my age group have just given up. I didn’t feel that I had given up, but I just didn’t feel like it was a priority for me. Now, this is a big priority for me. This is something that I will be practicing forever.
KIM: In the Well-F**ked Woman Salon, I guide you through my full, step-by-step breast massage routine to tone, lift, and enlarge the breasts and activate their bliss and orgasmic potential. Plus, you will receive guided visualizations to help you own your radiant breast energy and alchemical powers. All this, plus my full Orgasmapedia on how to have all the deeper vaginal orgasms for women, including G-spot, cervical, and squirting.
The entire salon is designed to help you clear emotional and energetic blockages and to become the radiant, orgasmic, and ecstatic being you were meant to be.
The Well-F**ked Woman is now open for registration. You can sign up at KimAnami.com. Look for Sexual Savant Salons and then click on How to Be a Well-F**ked Woman.
