Conscious Monogamy – Transcript
Raging hot, wild, primal monogamy. Are you monogamous? If so, why? What even is monogamy?
I have a different definition than what most people have, which is basically not having sex with other people. My version is what I call conscious monogamy. Conscious monogamy is when you fully commit your emotional and sexual resources to your partner. You go deep, you’re vulnerable, you reveal the wildest and the softest parts of your heart and your genitals. Well, maybe the harder parts and softer parts combined. [Laughs]
You give your partner everything you’ve got. You show up in bed, you allow yourself to be naked and raw and surrendered, and you emotionally open to them. You pull down your walls; you allow yourself to be deeply penetrated and seen.
By that definition, 99.9% of people are not monogamous. They think they are; they think that’s the definition, but theirs is just this idea of not having sex with other people.
But most relationships are actually quite superficial. They’re safe, tacit agreements not to disrupt the status quo. They rely on don’t ask/don’t tell and mountains of white lies. They consist of clitoral orgasms, five-minute fucks, and stealthy porn habits. That’s not monogamy. That’s hiding.
Most people don’t have their deep heart or their hard and wet genitals on the table or the bed or the kitchen counter, or wherever you like. They lock those parts away, and they protect them.
It’s very trendy nowadays to assume monogamy. The version I see most of the time is not real monogamy. That’s a bunch of bullshit and denial. If you’re balancing on the fence and you’re holding back and hiding behind the wall, you’re not actually monogamous. You’re playing this half-assed, protect-yourself game.
Yet, the majority of relationships exist in this territory because they just don’t know any better. Most people’s emotional lives are peppered with their own self-inflicted landmines. These are the places where we end up building up walls, and we have reflexive defense mechanisms because we’ve been hurt before. We’re afraid of getting hurt, so we start to line our consciousness, our psyche, with all these traps and all these defense mechanisms.
We usually do this unconsciously to protect ourselves from going too deep. This will often manifest in our outer lives as various things. Let’s say there’s a couple that keeps receiving long-distance job offers during their relationship. I had this happen. This is where I actually saw it first, in a couple I was working with and coaching. He just kept having these job offers, like three months here, a month there, six weeks there. So half the year, he was away.
As we began working together and cleared blockages in the relationship, he started to get job offers closer to home.
That’s just an example of how we start to manifest things that are reflective of what’s going on in the internal side of our relationships and in ourselves.
As we clear out our own fears and blocks, or we dare to trust, and as we dare to go all in, these obstacles seemingly, magically, evaporate. These things that seemed really difficult or challenging in our lives start to ease off, and we get more ease, flow, and balance.
It can be very subtle. All these reverberations of fear and protection that show up in our lives that we manifest, again, usually quite unconsciously. Then, once we really begin to commit to being conscious in our relationships, especially our intimate relationship, then space begins to open up and the whole game changes. Your defenses and all these outer manifestations and inner ones start to fade away.
A couple came to my retreat some years ago, and they were in a pretty good place, but they had issues. That’s why they came to the retreat. That’s why most people come to my retreats or my work. Some people come because things are great, and they want to know how to make them even better. But most people have gotten to some kind of plateau or standstill, and they want to know how to get out of it.
So they had a pretty good sex life, but she’d never had a vaginal orgasm before. In fact, this was their big goal in the retreat. They wanted her to have a G-spot orgasm, and they really wanted her to squirt, to ejaculate.
If you follow my work at all, you know that the main component for vaginal orgasms and ejaculation in a woman is being able to open up and surrender. To really let go. If you don’t have that, then all the techniques in the world will get you nowhere.
They also confided in me that occasionally they invited other people into their bed.
On the second night of the retreat, I give people home play from the very first day. A lot of the initial home play is about having the conversations they haven’t had perhaps ever, or at least in a very long time. Things that could be taking up space, contributing to building walls between them, and preventing them from getting to deeper places in their sex lives.
So we dived into that. On the second night of the retreat, they stayed up very, very late, past midnight, talking and sharing and clearing years of stuff that had built up over time. They finally decided to go to sleep, and the physical home play, which involved G-spot stimulation in women, was scheduled for the morning.
They skipped yoga and meditation—good for them; that’s the only reason people are allowed to skip those classes [laughs], if they’re having a sex date—and they came to class later to share that she’d had her first ever G-spot orgasm and squirting ejaculation. She was crying tears of release and euphoria, making the sheets even wetter than they already were.
They came to this amazing breakthrough and are such a great example of when you do the work, clear space, and clear the stuff that’s been hanging there, it shows up in bed. All the stuff that you try not to deal with and acknowledge and pretend isn’t there, it’s in your bed anyway. It’s in the ethers around you, even if you want to pretend it’s not.
After the retreat, they shared with me that their desire for other people had faded. They didn’t know if this was going to be forever, but they felt like they’d reached a new level of closeness with each other that they didn’t even know was possible.
The appeal of bringing other people in, the shock of the new, wasn’t so interesting to them. This newfound depth they had with each other—they felt utterly fulfilled.
I’m not saying that there’s a blanket right and wrong when it comes to monogamy or polyamory. What I am saying is that most of the time when I hear the, “We’re so evolved; we’re polyamorous,” talk coming out, when I scratch under the surface, the couple isn’t as close as they could be. They’ve begun reaching for other people as a diversion for crevasses they couldn’t cross in their own relationship.
Underneath that talk of, “Oh, polyamory is so great. We’re not really meant to be monogamous,” are all these unresolved hurts and distance that the couple couldn’t overcome.
Then they buy into the story that monogamy isn’t natural, or maybe they’ve existed on a kind of safe playing field with each other all along. Not being balls-deep, cervix-and-heart-hitting deep with each other. They’re not totally real and authentic.
Honestly, you don’t know what that is until you have it. That’s often what happens when people find my work. They think, “Well, you know, relationships are supposed to get boring and bad, and the sex life goes downhill after two years. Apparently, that’s just normal.”
No, no, no. That’s not normal. That’s the normal lies. That doesn’t have to happen if you prioritize your relationship and do what I fucking tell you to.
Then, after every encounter, every other relationship you’ve had, when you hit that place, will fade into oblivion. When you actually get to this deep, gourmet sex, heart/genital surrendered, cataclysmic, opening place, everything else fades away and you generally don’t have a craving for other people. Usually, cravings for other people are symbolic of what’s missing in your relationship, like a particular quality or energy in a person.
Once you begin to have a much more fulfilling sex life with each other, you don’t have so much of that need because it’s being satiated in your own bed.
My work is all about pulling down the barriers that we all put up that prevent real connection and monogamy from happening. The sweet spot is where the heart, the vagina, and the cock are open, wet, hard, and throbbing with life.
When you reach that capacity, when you reach that place with each other, then you tap into the true power of your intimate connection. You’re gilded with this kind of superpower that allows you to perform miracles. Then you can use that connection and energy to fuel every part of your lives. This puts you into another dimension, another category of relationship that less than .1% of the population has.
So how do you get there?
First, I’d say it’s about courage and really daring to show up in your relationship, because if you’re honestly looking at it, how much do you hide? How much do you put up barriers? How much do you preserve your true heart or that last piece of yourself that you’re just not going to give up to anybody else ever again? How much of that is hidden underneath the surface?
Then you need to clear your blockages. This is about healing the past to be open to the present. Issues like old sexual abuse. And really, if you look at the statistics in our culture, it’s rampant. There are so many instances of sexual abuse, be it outright family child abuse, rape, or dysfunctional relationships. There’s so much of it in our culture that almost everybody has some kind of deep trauma they need to deal with. Most people will just try to bury that under the carpet.
Some people actually suppress it so it’s so far beneath their conscious brain they don’t even know it’s there. Then it might come out through having mysterious sexual symptoms, like stuff they can’t really explain and all kinds of sexual ailments.
I see reproductive ailments as being indicative of stuck sexual energy, so when we have things like that come up, there’s always some kind of underlying emotional, psychological thing that’s preceded that. And that’s been manifested into a physical block or a physical expression of a symptom.
It’s about going back to heal that stuff, and I can’t tell you how many people come through my salons who have sexual trauma that they haven’t dealt with on a very powerful basis. That’s stuff that I work with people on, how to clear that stuff from your neural pathways, from your nervous system, because talking therapy doesn’t just do it. It’s not enough to just talk through this stuff. We actually need to clear it on a visceral, neural pathway level.
The next thing would be open communication. I value the concept of radical honesty. This is about being fully transparent in sharing what’s in your heart, what’s on your mind, how you’re feeling, how you feel about your partner, making requests of what you want, rather than going by, like I said, this adage of don’t ask/don’t tell, or white lies are okay, right? No.
Think about it. If you tell a mountain of white lies, how much of that clogs up the space? You’ve built a wall between you and your partner out of white lies. It’s much better to learn how to deliver what you need to say in a loving and compassionate way.
Most of it is about delivery. You can say the same thing in a way that’s going to make your partner freak out, get totally defensive, and attack back because they feel attacked, versus you being able to communicate what you want in a way that they can actually hear it and take it in. So again, this is something I work with in my courses.
Then you learn to use your relationship as a power source. You tap into the actual, tangible energy source of your sexual power. Orgasmic, creative, sexual energy. I often say, “If you’re not making babies with this energy, then you learn how to make other things. You direct it into other things in your life. It’s that powerful a resource for you.”
Then you commit and put in the time. You prioritize your sex life. If you haven’t already, check out my podcasts on the three-hour sex date and the sex weekend, which are all about the importance of making the time.
“Well, I don’t have the time. We’re so busy.” No, no, no, no. You make the time. You have enough time to watch Game of Thrones and whatever other stuff you do, like surfing on Facebook for half an hour, an hour a day. All of that time can be used having sex.
It’s whether you put that at the top of your list as a priority, or you don’t.
Ultimately, then, it’s about using your relationship as a vessel for growth. I often use the phrase, “Bring all your shit to bed with you.” This is where you process it together. This is where you look at your relationship, not just as a socioeconomic agreement, which is honestly what it has been for centuries, if not millennia, where we looked at marriage as this unit that’s important as part of our cultural makeup and people may or may not be deeply in love.
Yeah, we’ve evolved. Our consciousness has evolved where we now really do look at relationships as a place. And I’m sure there were people in places and times who did in the past as well, but now that we’re out of the survival aspect of life—actually [laughs], well, maybe not. Because some people still live that way, where they’ll stay in relationships because of the economic and social factors.
Let’s just say then, overall, that there’s more of a movement toward this idea of soul mates. In that kind of relationship, you’re connecting to the deepest, most profound self of each other. Then, when things come up in the relationships, when you get triggered in the relationship, you consider this to be a good thing, because it’s bringing up your unresolved wounds to the surface. Now what do you do with it? You either bury it or you face it head-on, and you do the deeper work of healing and transforming. Then you begin to let go of those defense mechanisms over time that keep you from going truly, madly, deeply with your partner and yourself.
That’s the ultimate goal, in my view: having a relationship that exists as a container for growth. And the conscious monogamy piece is such an amazing container because you’re committing, as I said, all your deep, sexual, and emotional resources and energies to each other. Then you create this beautiful space you can grow into, like a planter pot.
That’s the ultimate, really, to have that kind of situation where you’ve agreed to do this and then that becomes the framework for your life.
To talk more on this idea of conscious monogamy as a container for growth, we’ve got one of my favorite Well-F**ked All Stars to chat with us.
***Conscious Monogamy Well-F**ked All Star Interview***
KIM: Welcome, Maryanne.
MARYANNE: Thank you! It’s such a pleasure to be here, and thank you for having me.
KIM: Always fun to talk to you. Let’s talk about monogamy. You’re in a committed monogamous relationship. How long have you been together?
MARYANNE: We’ve been together for 19 years.
KIM: Oh my gosh. So you’re familiar with my work and you know what I talk about, the definition of conscious monogamy versus unconscious monogamy, which is what I’d say most people have.
Would you describe your relationship as being conscious monogamy?
MARYANNE: I would now, yes. But earlier, no. I could see all the ways in which we weren’t monogamous earlier, even though neither of us actually physically strayed from the relationship.
KIM: How would you describe that? Because for most people, again, their definition would be, “We’re not having sex with other people, so that means we’re monogamous.” We’re making a distinction there between a certain kind of monogamy and what I call true monogamy.
How were you not monogamous earlier, if it wasn’t that you weren’t sleeping with other people?
MARYANNE: Not being truthful with each other, not being radically honest, sharing our deep vulnerability, our deep truth with one another, holding that in, and that translated into the sexual spaces while not being fully open.
Then, my partner, at times, engaged in porn. I never had a problem with it. I said, “Okay, you can do that, but it does or doesn’t work for me or whatever.” I think that also is not a part of conscious monogamy; it seems like a leak of your sexual energy.
In the beginning of our relationship, we were both very angry at how some of the things were triggering us, but we didn’t know what to do with it. So we would yell at each other. We’d make up, we’d have sex, and then the whole cycle would start again.
I used to joke that we were weekend partners. We wouldn’t see each other all week. We’d fight, we’d have sex, and then we’d leave again. It was just this rut that felt so icky. I remember it feeling icky and yucky and thinking, “Yech.”
Then, over the years, I started to explore growth work for myself and started to learn a few things. I noticed if I changed things within myself, I started to see shifts in him. Little things. I never did anything really major in the beginning, but I was so fascinated by this area that I started to do more work.
Then, I eventually stumbled upon your work. I think I read every single blog post you ever wrote in one weekend. I was so fascinated. I went back and read them again. I read them out loud to my husband. “Look at what she’s saying. This is exactly what I’m talking about. This makes so much more sense.”
It just felt like all the things in our relationship that were troubling me, you were speaking to.
I don’t think at that time you had actually written a blog about conscious monogamy, because that was seven years ago, but as we talked about true intimacy, I learned about vulnerability, truly coming into each other and opening up. I remember in one of the courses, there was a question about open relationships and how they work, and I remember you responding, saying you’d never witnessed people truly having conscious monogamy and going from that place to exploring other relationships. It just didn’t work, and you’d never seen it work. That also made a lot of sense to me.
Are we totally consciously monogamous right now? I don’t think there’s a destination. I don’t think we’re there. I’d probably say it’s a degree of being there way more than we were before. In the future, we hope to be even more than we are now.
It’s a big question.
KIM: In your 19-year marriage, at what stage would you say that you started moving more into conscious monogamy? I agree with you—nothing in our evolution is a destination. We’re moving more and more toward it. But the more that we have it as a conscious recognition and agreement, the more we’re occupying that place most of the time.
That’s part of being human. We come and we go. We come and we go. We get moments of protection or unconsciousness and then come back to conscious awareness.
But to me, it’s a big difference having that as a value and a commitment in the relationship, versus having no idea.
MARYANNE: Right, exactly. Exactly. Now, we rarely argue. We’ll debate or we’ll talk about ideas, but we’re not going at each other. We’re not projecting our triggers onto each other. That was a huge, huge, huge shift.
KIM: Would you say somebody says something, it triggers the other person, they react, and then they hit back and you spiral into this pit?
MARYANNE: Exactly. We were exactly that couple for a long time. I would say for the first five years or so of our marriage. Then things started to shift. We had a child, and I was already shifting, and things started to shift more. Then I found your work and this whole art of being present to your feelings when you’re in a trigger. I still work on it, and I’m way better than I was, but I’m not there. Meaning I don’t have total 100% mastery over it. There are times I lose it.
The difference is that I can recognize that and say, “You know what? Sorry. I really screwed up there. And I didn’t mean that.” Being able to own it takes so much courage, oh my gosh. So much courage to own your own fuck-ups in a relationship. It takes courage, it takes radical honesty, but it’s also the thing that ultimately is the key to having that conscious monogamy. More conscious monogamy is being able to own what you do and where you stand. You can break an agreement, whether you do it consciously or unconsciously, but being able to own it when you recognize it is a big deal.
KIM: Absolutely. I think that’s really the definition—conscious. Because we might stray into unconsciousness or consciously choose to move away from something we’ve said, but to come back and acknowledge it, process it, and stick with it is a big deal.
MARYANNE: Yeah. It’s a constant thing. When you have children, it’s even more. You’re then having to practice not just the monogamy piece with each other, but you’re also modeling it for three younger people, and they watch everything you do. [Laughs] Talk about pressure.
But I think that you don’t have to view it as pressure, and there are times that I have to say, “You know what? I’m human and I screwed up, girls, and I’m really sorry,” and coming back and apologizing. I’ve apologized to my children many times for things I’ve done, but that’s just a way of modeling for them to own their stuff.
Modeling it is really important, both in our marriage for each other, but also for the three people we’re raising.
KIM: Well, it’s accountability. People have sometimes said to me over the years, “When you live in a small town, everybody knows your business.” I did live in a small town about 25 years ago for a few years. There were a thousand people in this town, and my group of people, maybe 30 or 40 people, were sort of acquaintances that I knew, and some good friends.
And in that environment, if you mess up, if you make a mistake, everybody knows. Then the difference is that you can’t just anonymously disappear. People hold you accountable for what you’ve done.
I thought that was an amazing thing. I thought that was the true use of community. It was like, no, no, no, you have to face the music if you’ve done something, and people hold you to that. It was loving, not in this gossipy way. “How do we support these other people in our community?”
I feel like the family dynamic is a microcosm of that. Say then, if we extend a conscious couple into a conscious family, everybody feels energetically what goes on in that environment. Even though we think we’re keeping secrets and getting away with it, we’re not. Everything registers on the energetic canvas of the family.
For years, you hear people talk about, “Oh, we’re staying together for the children. We’re not really together, but we just think we should model a relationship to our kids.” And they’re modeling the most horrific example of a relationship built on bullshit and lies and deception and whatever. They have no clue that what they’re doing is actually way worse than splitting up and being honest, if that’s where it needed to go.
But I like what you’re saying, because everything registers in that environment. When you acknowledge the truth to your kids, whether that means you swallow your pride as the adult and you have to say where you messed up somehow, they know anyway. Everybody feels it. Nothing goes unregistered.
MARYANNE: 100%. We do a circle of truth in our family.
KIM: Beautiful.
MARYANNE: Yeah. We all sit down, we have a talking stick, and we share things in the circle. The rule is that whatever you share in the circle is perfectly safe ;no one is going to get mad at you for sharing what you’re sharing in the circle. Wow, do you hear some interesting things in the circle. Because it’s designated as a safe space and nobody can get mad at anybody for what they say, it allows for so much truth-telling to come forward.
My children share the most vulnerable stuff that I don’t hear in everyday life, but when they come to the circle, oh wow. Every time it’s a tearjerker.
KIM: How often do you do it?
MARYANNE: We try to do it about once a month. It is always this incredible space, and just whatever we may have been holding back or not really sharing. Then afterward, sometimes the children have questions about things that we say, and we clarify or we explain. Because that’s the exact thing you were saying. You can pretend to be together for the kids, but that has an impact on your family too.
Our kids know way more about the truth of our lives, our business, each other, and even what Mom and Dad do when they’re behind closed doors. At least the older ones have begun to understand that, and we’re not hiding it from them, because when things are hidden, they’re shameful. I don’t want my children to grow up with that imprint of shame around any of these things that are so beautiful and natural to us.
The truth-telling is so powerful on so many levels because we’re teaching these young people to not just hold us but each other accountable; that accountability is a core value for our family.
KIM: So what I take from that, and I fully agree with, is that when there is untruth and hiding inside that fabric, both in your personal relationship with your partner and the overall family, it creates disturbances. It creates energetic disturbances that people pick up on. It creates interferences.
Bringing it back to the sexual piece—watching you go through your practices and your amazing evolution during the time that we were working together, you had all these amazing rock star stories. You’d ask, “Is this normal? I want to have sex all the time. I’m insatiable. I keep having orgasm after orgasm.” You were actually concerned. “Is this a problem?” [Laughs]
Speak to me about being in a more committed space, valuing your sexuality as the core of your relationship, and being in a more open place for communication and, of course, physically. What has that done to your sex life?
MARYANNE: It’s skyrocketed our sex life so much. We did the 30 days of sex and had to face so much emotional stuff that came out of that. Then we committed to our sex dates and growing in our relationship in that way.
KIM: But when people discover what’s really possible within two people, then it’s eternal. Part of the reasoning behind that, when I talk about it, is that people, if you’re in a conscious relationship, are always growing and changing. People are like, “Oh, be with the same person for 20 years or 50 years.” You’re not the same people unless you choose stagnation. If you’re choosing growth and evolution, you’re always new people. You’re always changing and growing and having this dynamic vibrancy between you and with yourselves unless you’re committed to stagnation. Then, yeah, you will be the same people for 20 years or 50 years.
I guess the other question is, how do you see the sexual piece as fueling your life? I saw how you started to learn—I think you were probably a good manifestor already, but I saw that increase, where you were able to really imagine what you wanted and draw that into your life. How do you see that tying into conscious monogamy?
MARYANNE: I think they’re very connected. Yeah. I’ve always been able to manifest things, but I learned through working with you how to use my sexual energy for creative work in my life. Whatever I wished to create and tapping into that flow—because when that opened up in me, it was extremely powerful. I sort of didn’t know what hit me. That’s why I asked you those questions, “Is this normal?” or whatever. It was like opening a well. “Oh my god, I didn’t know what was in here.”
That creative flow is so strong, especially because I think we’ve cultivated it for each other. For myself, particularly, I’m really focused on cultivating that creative flow and how to channel that sexual energy for creation.
But also, I channel it for our relationship in creating a deeper, stronger, more connected, more vulnerable, more truthful, more honest space between the two of us. I think you can really use it for creating whatever you like in life.
It’s such a fuel for people if you know how to tap into it. I think that conscious monogamy and creative flow energy—they’re completely connected in the sense that I don’t think you can have real deep conscious monogamy without the other. You can’t have it. I mean, not in my life. I don’t know if you’ve witnessed it and other people where one isn’t present.
KIM: Yeah. Going back to your example of the conscious family and having the truth-telling and trying to keep the space very clear, when you add in all these additional dynamics, many, many other energies are entering the field.
Sexual energy is so powerful in general, and so you have two people coming together in this container of conscious monogamy where you’re committed to growth and evolution, exploring them on a deep, deep, deep level. You’re inviting the deepest manifestation and expression of these energies as possible.
It’s like you create a container with your relationship to handle that crazy kundalini, explosive, life-changing, rebirthing energy. It’s a beautiful container for it if it’s really solid, which is the work of conscious monogamy.
Then I think without that container, it just becomes a messier situation, and I tend to see a lot more leakage. Leakage with health issues, leakage with financial issues, leakage with career issues. On some level, I always find leakage in the situations where people are consciously trying to carry on a lifestyle like this.
MARYANNE: Right. I agree. That makes perfect sense because the container is really powerful. When my husband and I talk and share about our vision for our family and what our dreams are, what our goals are for the children, for ourselves, that container is fueled by that sexual, creative energy that is between us. The more you cultivate it and channel it, the more focused your results are. Right?
KIM: It quantum leaps your results. You go beyond that idea of things manifesting out of thin air. Things dropping into your lap, massive opportunities coming to you. That’s the threshold that you pass through once you’ve hit that level of conscious relationship and conscious monogamy. Extremely powerful.
MARYANNE: Yeah, powerful, magical, beautiful stuff.
KIM: All right. Anything else you want to add before we wrap up?
MARYANNE: No. I just want to say thank you so much for this opportunity to share and go down memory lane a little bit, because that was really beautiful. Thank you. [Laughs] We enjoyed it.
KIM: Me too. Thanks for being here.
***End of interview***
KIM: Sex position of the week.
Now it’s time for our sex position of the week. Today, in keeping with our theme of conscious monogamy, we want to see each other. In any front-facing position, I want you to maintain at least 10 minutes’ worth of eye contact as you’re having intercourse with your partner. This could be missionary position, woman on top, anything that has you face-to-face, or at least looking at each other. Say woman on top—she might be more cowgirly and riding you, but you’re looking at each other. I want you to hold a minimum of 10 minutes of eye contact.
You’d be amazed at how miraculous this is and how hard it is for most people to do it. And how motherfucking, totally arousing and hot it is to do it, because once you start to really open and realize that somebody is truly seeing you for the deepest part of who you are, the floodgates of erectile and ejaculatory, squirting, orgasmic flow just let loose.
That’s it for today. The Coming Together Salon is my signature 10-week online course for couples, and it opens in early May. Are you coming?
This concept of monogamy has shifted my perspective in a powerful way, for the 1st time i can see myself practicing monogamy and not feeling like I’m missing out on anything.
Nuff thanks for sharing,
– D. x
I LOVE your work and the topics that you press on, Kim Anami <3 Thank you for being in tune and from that, sharing [most if not] all that comes from your connection with infinite knowledge.
Once I physically manifest what's necessary to attend one of your retreats, I will be on the way! I am already looking forward to it! 😉
Kim Anami, THANK YOU!! Thank you thank you thank you thank you!!!
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Thank you Kim, you truly help me to transform to the woman I want to be. I am not in a relationship right now but my consciousness and awareness of the type of relationship I want with all those attributes you speak about hopefully will help me to manifest it next time. I love your work and you are an inspiration and I have learned so much from you already.
Thanks so much Monika! I always say, doing this work when you are single helps you to up-level and attract a higher-quality partner.
Kim this is fucking brilliant!!!!! We teach the same subject matter. I love your perspective on this for vanilla couples. I am a kinkster, a submissive, and a swinger. My Master and I though rarely play outside of our relationship because of the depths that we reach inside of our sweet little union. You are super cool and just love your work.
Suzie
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Love it! Way to go in cultivating all of that. x
Thank you Kim and Maryanne… this was good… and timely!
Yep, I must have drawn this srraight to my inbox today without realizing it. Lol!
Haha, so great!