Plagiarists are Underf**ked – Transcript
What you are about to hear is a recording of an Instagram Live I did recently called 6 Degrees of Plagiarism on how all plagiarists are under-fucked.
I have been doing this work for over 30 years. Over the last 20 years or so of having an online presence, I have watched ideas, memes, and titles that I have created proliferate all over the internet. Some of them get attributed to me. Many do not.
For the most part, my solution is to just keep on creating original content and to continue being an innovator. If people want to bottom feed off my leftovers, so be it.
But occasionally, there will be plagiarism examples so obvious and egregious that they get my attention. Someone will tag me on social media to let me know that they have seen these trademark violations of my work. If I do reach out, the interaction typically starts with a polite message and a request for attribution. [Laughs] I don’t know if anyone has ever actually listened to that.
Then things may escalate to threats of legal action. People tend to listen to that a little bit more. Then sometimes I will post examples on my social media channels. I rarely do this, but when I do, by golly gosh, do I get a fast response. These people are seemingly okay with the act of plagiarizing but not okay with publicly being called out for it.
Last week, two different women who follow me made posts using my signature and trademark terms, The Well-F**ked Woman and meditate/masturbate/create. The Well-F**ked Woman is a trademarked program title of mine and a concept I’ve been talking about for at least 15 years, including in an article by that title I wrote and had published in the July/August 2012 edition of Playboy magazine.
Meditate, Masturbate, Create! is another trademark program of mine, and I have been teaching it for years with very specific action steps for people to take.
If you have listened to my Orgasmic Enlightenment podcast, watched my YouTube videos, viewed my Instagram and social media posts, looked at my website, listened to my podcasts where I’ve been interviewed, and any other of the countless places that I have been using these trademarked terms for the last 15 years, you know that these are my ideas.
So I decided to make a post about it. Hey, since these people clearly want the spotlight, let’s give it to them, but with some context.
One of these people got in touch, and she removed her post.
The other woman doubled down and apparently spent all week attacking me, trying to justify how she’s entitled to steal content. Crazy, motherfucking shit.
In the Live, I covered most of my thoughts on this, but I wanted to add a few things as a summary and addendum.
First off, there could be—and at this stage, there are—thousands of people in the sexual sphere making content. When people do their own thing, find their own voice, and channel their own message, I have no issue with this. Because we all have our own unique way of expressing and will attract the people in alignment with that.
However, you can’t open a chicken restaurant and then use the slogan “Finger-Lickin’ Good!” Somebody already uses it and it’s a hallmark, never mind a trademark of their brand. These are marketing slogans and brand identifiers that companies have spent years building with their business and reputation.
For someone to come in and ride these coattails is nothing more than parasitic. You cannot steal other people’s known and trademarked terms, titles, and concepts. Period. Go fuck yourself [laughs] and find the answers inside of yourself while you are fucking yourself. That’s what I do.
If somebody else’s specific idea is so good that you just have to reference it, great, then reference it. For example, I love to quote a phrase that Wim Hof says, “The issues in our tissues.” It’s brilliant, and it helps to describe a key concept in my work. I use that quote regularly, and every time I do, it’s with Wim’s name attached to it.
My body of work, like anyone’s, has been a combination of me studying and learning from other people and ideologies. Studying and learning in my bed and from the wisdom of my vagina and the glorious cocks that have joined it, and learning from the real-life examples of my clients in action.
I don’t expect anyone to credit every single thought that they have that might be connected to a past teacher or study, but when you refer to a specific program, title, or quote, then yes, you do credit it.
I guess this can get to be a gray area when we’re talking about concepts. But the areas that are not gray are titles, names, signature phrases, slogans, and quotes.
Without further ado, here is a recording of the Live from last week.
KIM: Welcome, welcome! I am so excited to discuss this topic today, Plagiarists Are Under-F**ked.
So in this day and age of the internet and so much material being spread far and wide, this seems like a bigger issue than ever. It’s almost become so commonplace that people are a little bit blasé about it.
I think the people actually blasé about it are those who’ve never created anything original in their lives, and their entire brand and ethos is based on taking content from other people, whether it’s directly overt plagiarism or just taking concepts and ideas and paraphrasing them and changing them around a little bit, just enough so you don’t get sued.
But some people aren’t that smart [laughs]. Maybe it’s become so accepted, or there are so many people out there who are plagiarists, that we think it’s almost normal. But it’s not. And anyone who does create original content will know that and feel that.
So earlier this week, on Monday, some people started tagging me in a post where someone had used one of my trademark ideas and phrases and content names that I’ve been using for over 15 years, and then a few hours later, another one started to happen. Another set of tagging from another post with another signature phrase and ideas that I’ve been using for years.
And you know how I know they’re mine? Because I came up with them. [Laughs] That’s how I know.
It’s pretty nuts, man, the level of proliferation—it’s like mold spores and parasites that spread out through the internet, feeding off other people’s content. And I’d say that’s most people. Most people do not come up with original concepts.
I’ve been talking about these things, and I source them from my vagina and from God. The universal energy. Those are my sources. Versus people who are essentially parasites and get all their information from other people. That becomes the substance of their brand.
Especially in the wellness world, I see this all the time. There are very few of us who have actually been doing this work for over 30 years. My work, my whole brand, my philosophies, and my teachings have come through all of my learning, experiences, my studies, my bed, and working with clients to create everything that I have.
Some people are working in the corporate world, and they go to a Tony Robbins weekend seminar, and they decide, “I also want to be a motivational speaker!” So they get a bunch of money together, they build a website, they hire copywriters, and they look at people they like. They send their copywriters over there to go and grab some of their material. The copywriters create a teleprompter for them, and they just read that. Then they build a brand off that. Which is really just an amalgamation of everybody else they’ve ever looked at.
The whole point, and one of the underlying ideas of my teachings, is that if you are truly well-fucked—and my definition of well-fucked, and of course those of you who follow me will know, is that it isn’t just about having lots of sex or a lot of orgasms. It’s about truly tapping into your sexual energy. Your sexual energy is your life force, creative, procreative, reproductive energy. When you are really tuned into that energy and inhabiting it, you produce original content. You self-realize. You become the most authentic, true version of who you really are.
That begins to manifest in everything that you do in your life. In the choices that you make for friends, in your intimate partnerships, in your work, and in your creativity. And that’s why I often say, one of the biggest hallmarks of being well-fucked is that you are a creative powerhouse. Your ideas start flowing out of you with this unstoppable momentum and power, and you are original.
For years, I’d hear this saying, “Oh, there’s nothing original out there. It’s all been done before.” That is so fucking wrong. The only people who say that are the ones who’ve never put out original content, and they placate themselves by saying, “Well, it’s all been done before. Just because I steal shit, it’s cool, man.”
No, no, no. People who put out original work know that—and I love this—Undisturbed Birth Keeper, your words are so beautiful: “I know truth when I hear it.” And I love that. I love that barometer that we all have inside of us.
All right, you become your real self, right? And so everything you do, everything you’ve tapped, becomes a more aligned expression of your true nature, the depths of who you really are. That is one of my absolute favorite things to witness about that work. And because every one of us is a true original, there’s no one else like us, then yes, you can be putting out truly original content. And the deeper that you get into this true inhabiting of yourself, the more original your content becomes. The more it stands out.
Another one of my hallmark creative ideas is #Things I Lift With My Vagina. [Laughs] The thing about that idea is it’s become so widespread, it’s been covered in almost every country in the world, by every major media outlet. People know that’s my work.
So even if you do see randos trying to lift kettlebells on the internet—if they’ve studied with me, they’ll credit me. If they haven’t or they’ve just taken the idea, they won’t credit me.
And that leads us to this fear: People are afraid of putting out original content. It takes courage to be the first. It takes courage to say something or do something contrary to what’s already out there.
Even the idea of The Well-F**ked Woman, that was a really big thing to put out 15 years ago [laughs], because nobody was speaking like that. Everybody was super proper and sterilized, and the whole climate when you look around now is so much different.
And some people might not know that. Maybe they weren’t around the internet back in the days of Tumblr, when we were all there, before Instagram and Facebook even existed. Well, no, not when we were first on Tumblr; Facebook didn’t exist then, I don’t think. I don’t know. The only reason I ever went on that platform was for business. I would never go on that for personal reasons.
So it takes courage to be one of a kind and say something that hasn’t been said or done before, and most people don’t have that courage. However, the way you get it is from your sexual energy.
Another hallmark of the well-fucked woman and the well-fucked man is not giving a shit what people think about you. You are so in tune with your own truth and have such faith in the power of yourself that you speak, you say things, you do things. And it’s not that you’re not trying not to give a shit; you just don’t give a shit. You don’t even notice. These things ping right over your head, ping right off you. It’s like you created this bubble of protection by virtue of being loyal to yourself and to your truest nature.
So these are all things that happen through really inhabiting your sexual energy. And that’s why I say, plagiarists, by nature, by definition, are going to be supremely under-fucked. Because if they cannot come up with their own original ideas, and they do not, they’re stealing them from other people, because they can’t. They cannot come up with them on their own.
This is the trademark tell: They have not done the work. They’re not truly in touch with their sexual energy. And so it shows, because all they can do is be replicas of other people who have done the work.
And then people will come to me and say, “So and so is totally emulating your whole brand and your ethos and taking this and that.” I’ll say, “Yeah, I know.” And there are degrees of plagiarism where people are very good paraphrasers, and it’s less obvious, and like I said before, people who are more overt about it and maybe even dumber as plagiarists, and so they put out really direct copies of things.
And then—this is the interesting part—they try to defend it. So over the years, people would say something to these people. “Hey, that’s Kim Anami’s work,” and they’d even say it in really gentle ways. “Oh, I love that you’re talking about Kim Anami’s work.” Not even outright calling them out. And then these people would get really defensive. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone just cop to it and attribute an idea or a trademark term or a title or whatever it is. They’ve always got some argument.
And one of the worst that I inevitably hear, and it just floors me, is that “Women should be supporting women. Why do we need to be competing with each other?” [Laughs] Are you kidding me? You just stole my work. You outright stole my work, but somehow we’re supposed to be placating the thief. Right?
Women supporting women is women creating original content and not stealing content from other women. “Yeah, I just threw up,” says Taylor. I know. You wouldn’t believe it, Taylor; without exception, that is how these people defend themselves. “We can do better as women.” No shit we can, bitch! You can try to come up with your own original ideas and not steal them from other people.
Or if you want to talk about my ideas and other people’s ideas, then just credit them. Attribute your source. Be honest, have integrity, and cite your source.
Another excuse might be, “Well, I didn’t get it from you. Other people have been talking about that.” Okay. So you stole it from somebody else, who stole it from somebody else, who stole it from me. So we’re talking about six degrees of plagiarism here, where it becomes this endless chain gang of people stealing content. How do I know you stole it? Because you didn’t come up with it, because I did. It’s really fucking simple.
But the whining and the gaslighting. I almost hate the term gaslighting; it’s become co-opted and diluted the way “goddess” used to be a great word, and now people use it so randomly. It’s like you’ve stolen this work, obviously from somewhere, someone—me, ultimately—and your big argument is, “We should all be supporting each other. You should let me steal your work because I’m too dumb to come up with my own.” Really? That’s your fucking argument? Are you kidding me?
The level of idiocy is just unfathomable and shocking, but that’s their argument.
And here’s the thing about competition. I have no issue with women who truly are self-realized in themselves and in their brand, and their brand is an expression of their true nature and who they are, and they have their own voice, and they have their own teachings. I have no problem with that. I think that’s fantastic. The messages are getting out there in their own individual ways.
What I have an issue with is someone who is avidly copying me. They’re putting out material that’s using my voice, my ideas, my concepts, to whatever degree. Then I’m actually competing against myself because those are my ideas. If people like those ideas, they’re liking me. And that person is then stealing from me. Bitch, you can put out all your own ideas until the cows come home. I don’t give a shit. The more the merrier; however many women or people want to be in the space, all good.
My issue is when you’re stealing from other people. It should be a no-brainer, but it’s crazy to me how many people will defend their right to plagiarize. They will fight for their right to plagiarize!
And honestly, I think that comes down to so many people being incapable of creating original work that they have rationalized it in their heads that it’s okay to do. Or “I’ve heard people talk about that before.” Yeah, from me. [Laughs] I’m the origin of that trademarked title. It’s come from me.
So whatever. I can’t be bothered with the whining and the rationalizing, but I do want to speak up about this whole notion because I think it’s so common now. And this level of FUKME is so prevalent in people. I always say 99.999% of people are under-fucked, right? Then 99.999% of people are probably not coming up with original ideas and content, and they are taking, borrowing, stealing, whatever, emulating from other people because they don’t have the inner resources, the inner creativity, power, energy, and originality to make their own work and their own ideas.
Anyway, it gets a bit nuts, you know? You know what’s funny? I don’t follow these people. I don’t really give a shit. I have no interest in what they have to say, but people have come to us to sign up for my courses, saying, “Thank God you exist. We just signed up for your couples class,” and whatever. And saying that now that they saw the original, the other one was like the CliffsNotes, the secondhand, the bottom-feeding edition. Some people, like I said, that’s their vibration. They can stay there, and then people who actually want the original or perhaps have a higher vibration of integrity, they recognize truth when they see it. They recognize the source when they see it.
And I guess that’s the fear that people have in attribution. If they attribute you, they’re going to lose people who go over and find someone who’s been doing this longer, better, stronger, harder.
I can’t go into the myriad defenses that people come up with for stealing content. All I can say is if you’re defending plagiarism, you too are supremely under-fucked. You are probably also a plagiarist because you’re coming up with ideas to rationalize why plagiarizing is okay. “I came up with this great, great book idea. It’s called ’49 Shades of Grey.’ Or maybe we should call it ’51 Shades of Grey.’ Yeah, it’s my own original idea. I came up with it. Nobody’s done that before.”
Again, it’s like a mindfuck to get into all these things that people want to defend where they got there. And if you really have put in the work and are committed and impassioned and have done the deep dive into yourself, into all the courageous actions it takes to be original, you know. You know the difference. It’s no question for you. You don’t have rationalization. You don’t have reasons why I stole your material and why, “Oh my god, we should just be supporting each other as women.”
Right, exactly. So if you want to support each other as women, call out plagiarism when you see it. Again, you don’t have to be nasty about it. You can just say, “Oh, I love this concept of Kim Anami’s.” And if you want to go that extra mile, “Have you ever considered crediting this person? It would be great if you did.”
Anyway, it’s pretty simple: Go fuck yourself. That is the solution to everything. Go fuck yourself, and you will find all your creative power, your originality, and the truth within yourself.
And then there’s plenty of room within the marketplace for people who do that. Who find their own original ideas within their genitals and put them out into the world. And then you will attract people on a similar vibration.
So what’s really funny is, a few years ago, this woman whose entire brand has been replicated from me started this teacher training course, and I laughed. I was talking to my staff, my team, about it. And I said, “You know, what is she going to teach? Plagiarism 101? What is she going to actually teach people?” This is to be a sex and relationship coach.
I, very briefly, started a mentorship program a few years ago because I thought, Somebody’s got to do it right. And then I realized it was too tall an order to try to do that within a year and get people to the place where I could put my name on them and feel confident about them.
So anyway, we ran the program for a year, and somebody signed up for it, and they had actually graduated from this other program. First of all, I said, “If they thought that person was worth learning from, I don’t think I even want them in the program.” But we interviewed her, and probably, if I’d really listened to my intuition, I wouldn’t have let her in, but we did.
So she was going through the course, and in the course, people had to submit essays and articles, research, and write things and put them together. She submitted a bunch. And I said, “These look really well-written.” And I just had this intuitive hunch, I took a paragraph, and I cut and pasted it, and I put it into Google and sure enough, it came up that she hadn’t just taken phrases, but she’d taken the entire article.
This is a 45-year-old woman, not a 20-year-old, who thought, “Oh my god, plagiarism is so cool.” Back in the day, people would get kicked out of universities for plagiarism. It was considered a major problem. I don’t even know if they bother anymore.
Word for word, cut and pasted. Every one of them. And I couldn’t believe it. I really couldn’t believe somebody would be that blatant and extreme. And I thought, Well, it makes sense; she went to plagiarism school. What else is she going to learn? She’s only going to learn how to steal content from other people.
And again, when these examples are so extreme, it’s easier to call out, but there are all kinds of subtle versions of this.
There’s this weird backlash of, “You should support other women and not tell them they’re stealing and plagiarizing when they’re stealing and plagiarizing.” No, you definitely should. You definitely ought to say something about it.
And so I’m giving everyone permission who’s been in that position—I get it; it’s shocking. You see it, and you want to give people the benefit of the doubt, because who would do this? Who with any ethics or integrity would steal like this?
But they’re out there. People do a lot of things that are pretty shocking as humans, and so it is perfectly acceptable to call it out. And like I said, you can do it gracefully, or not. It’s up to you. You’re not beholden to anything or anyone, however you want to do things. If somebody’s already stolen from you, game’s on. [Laughs]
Again, the way to true originality is to get so deeply connected to and inhabit your own sexual energy that you become un-fuck-with-able. You become unstoppable. You become an unquestionable original because you are so aligned with your true inner self and your true inner voice. You don’t even think about needing to go and look at what other people are doing and take ideas from other people because you get them from you.
I barely read anymore. I stopped reading books quite a while ago because I don’t feel like I need to. I get a lot of things from my intuition. Ideas come to me just through daily life, and I get the most ideas through having sex with myself, with my partner, and with my jade egg. When you are a truly well-fucked woman or man, all of that stuff comes flowing out of you. As I said, it is one of the, if not the fastest way, to self-realization, by getting in touch with your sexual energy, owning that, emulating that, and expressing that out in the world.
There’s a vibration to that. There’s a resonance to that. People feel into that. Well, some people. I think people who are more in alignment with that themselves will feel that. People who are, like I said, buried deeper into their own self-delusion and their own rationalization of plagiarism won’t. They’ll be more attracted to plagiarists, right? Same vibration.
But people who have more ethics and integrity and originality and are maybe more in touch with their intuition will connect with that. They will connect with you and your true voice and your truth. Let them eat clit. I talk about the superiority of vaginal orgasms to, say, clitoral orgasms. And I say for people who are fighting for the right to have their clitoral orgasms, “Oh, it doesn’t matter if some women can’t have vaginal orgasms; no worries. It’s okay.” Okay, fine. Let them eat clit. If that’s where you want to live and hang out, I don’t care. [Laughs] Stop whining and get out of my space and go eat clit.”
And for all the people who want the richness and the power of the vagina and the depth and the wisdom and the transcendence, you are all welcome here.
I received a beautiful message from someone who said his marriage was days from ending. He’d been following one of these other people and came over to me, saw some of this brouhaha, signed up for a program, and said they’re already feeling 100 times more positive and on the way.
I’m glad for that. The answer is really to be yourself. Be yourself and have the courage to speak your truth. Whether it’s in this realm, this discussion, or anything. One of the great secrets to my success is that quality of courage and being willing to say things that maybe some people aren’t willing to say. But having the faith that if it’s your truth and your voice, it’s the right thing to say. It always is. If it’s your truth and your voice, that is the divining rod of truth, and that is the vibration that other people will tune into and feel and be attracted to.
And if they are repelled by that, great. Go over there and eat clit and plagiarize to your heart’s content. [Laughs] But don’t plagiarize me or I’m coming for you, fuckers.
“Can’t be a Well-F**ked All Star with fake vaginas.”
That’s right. You can’t fake your way through it. You can pretend all you want. The internet is full of all kinds of pretenders, but ultimately, the rubber hits the road at some point. The vagina orgasms come pumping out of you, or they don’t. We all have these barometers of truth.
Yeah, the truth sets you free. And there have been really pivotal moments in my career, in the building of my career, where I was confronted with this idea—okay, do I dare say this? Do I dare put this out? In the climate now, every other person’s a womb healer and a womb activator and whatever. Which is great, if it’s truly their authentic voice and brand that they’re putting out into the world.
But 10 or 15 years ago, it was a very sparse landscape. There were doctors talking about, “I got to put my lab coat on to talk about this sexual thing.” “Sitting here in a TV studio, got to grab my lab coat.” Give me a break.
Oh, you’ve got Cosmo articles like [laughs], “I saw his willy,” [laughs] super juvenile, cheesy-ass stuff. There wasn’t this place that I created of holistic, vibrant, sexual power, teaching people how to truly keep the sexy in sex. That was taken out. You could talk about sex as long as you sanitized it or made it childish. Made it really juvenile.
So anyway, some of you will know that—people who have been around for a long time—but otherwise, people don’t know what they don’t know. They don’t know what this terrain was like many years ago, before people like me broke ground in this terrain, and how now people can ride those coattails. There’s this whole energy of parasitism.
I have tremendous respect for people who are originals and who dare to speak their own truth and who dare to put messages out there that are contrary to the norm, or experiment with something creatively and put it out there. Tremendous respect. I have zero respect for parasites.
Again, the way home, the way through, the way to, is through your genitals. Through your sexual energy. All of my work is about teaching people how to inhabit this energy. It’s not just about “50 Better Blow Job Tips.” No, learn how to use oral sex or 69 as a metaphysical brain boost to tap into your creative genius. That’s what turns me on. Anyone can make up 50 tips to give a blow job—there you go, Cosmo. Versus people who actually go deeper.
And that’s my teaching. Maybe people think that’s the be all/end all, but my teaching is about how you spiritually self-transcend, express, live in ecstasy, bliss, and become the true person you’re really meant to be through your sexuality. Right? That’s where it is.
And speaking of, The Well-F**ked Woman Salon, where it all began, is starting in about a month or so. You can take a quiz on my website to know, Are you under-fucked? And then be on the mailing list to see when the salon opens.
Sexual Mastery for Men runs later this year.
Vaginal Kung Fu is my signature salon about all things vaginal weightlifting. My hashtag, Things I Lift With My Vagina, worldwide domination campaign, and Coming Together, which is the salon that we’re in right now.
I appreciate everyone who supports originality and supports creativity and thinks that’s actually a value, versus people who will defend their right to plagiarize down to the mat. They can’t fathom it because they can’t fathom what an original idea is even like to come up with. Their whole life is involved with emulating and stealing from other people.
Anyway, pleasure to be here with everybody. That’s pretty much all I’ve got to say: Go fuck yourselves. And in the most beautiful, genuine way. That’s where you will find the answer.
Go fuck yourselves and go fuck each other. Supremely, deeply, powerfully, wide, and that’s where you will find the answers. Not from other people’s pages or other people’s websites, but within yourself.
And it might sound cliché to say all the answers are within yourself, but they really are. They really are. Like I said, I don’t even read books anymore. Why? Why would I? That’s not where the answers are. The answers are within me. And the deeper I go within me, the more amazing things that I create and put out there in the world.
All right. Well, that’s really all I’ve got to say, is distinguishing what’s real and what isn’t, and I appreciate all the people who—“Please take it all as a compliment?” No. This is another example of this fucking bullshit. Someone stole from you. How is that a compliment? It’s a compliment if they attribute your name to your work. It’s not a compliment. It’s not like “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” No, it’s not. It’s fucking plagiarism and it’s theft. If you want to attribute the source, it’s a compliment. That’s it.
Anyway, look, again, if you’re in that mindset of trying to rationalize why plagiarism is okay, then maybe this isn’t the place for you. Maybe you’re better off where people are all about plagiarizing.
I’m all for the people who want to find their own original voice and creativity and power; that’s what I’m here to do and to be of service. See you here another time or in a salon. Lots of love to all of you, and I look forward to hearing and seeing your creative voices and expression out in the world.
Bye for now.
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