TRANSCRIPT: Surrender: My Secret to Cash Flow
Want to get rich? Have more sex. And cervical orgasms.
And what is the pathway to gourmet sex and cervical orgasms?
So what is surrender?
To stop fighting. Stop resisting. Let down your guard.
In the battle sense, it goes further to perhaps mean conceding, or giving up, as though you’ve lost something.
In the sexual and spiritual sense, it’s about only losing the parts of you that are worth losing.
I talk a lot about the rebirthing potential of sex, and how it self-actualizes us.
In the best, deepest sexual encounters—which is what I teach people to have and is the essence of my life’s work—we are transformed into the highest and best versions of ourselves.
On the way to doing that, the parts of us that no longer serve us, fall away.
The things we yield.
To surrender spiritually and sexually, we have to let go.
We have to relinquish our minds, our defences, our ideas of how things ought to be, and open to the possibility that there is a divine intelligence, a flow, a benevolence that will greet us on the other side of leaping into the abyss.
Trusting that if we fall, if we jump, we will be caught.
Surrender is practising trust. Trust that you will be taken care of.
Vs. agitation, worry and anxiety. Being on your guard.
Bruce Lipton talks about how a cell can only be either in growth or protection.
It can’t be in both simultaneously.
When it is protecting itself, it stops growing.
This is when of my favourite metaphors, ever.
Right out of the petri dish.
Whenever you are protecting yourself, when you are stressed and worried and on guard, you aren’t in surrender.
You aren’t in growth.
Opening up to the flow of the universe is the essence of a well-fucked woman.
She’s opening her heart, her legs, her energy to being penetrated, deeply, by the universe and by life.
She’s orgasming and ejaculating all over the place, shooting out great gushes of fluid and ecstasy everywhere.
That’s paving her way through the world.
All of her juiciness lubricates the path, making everything smoother and softer and … flow-ier.
And that translates into doors opening everywhere, and big dollar signs coming your way.
I’ll give you some real world examples.
An underf**ked woman is working at a 9-5 job to pay the bills.
She doesn’t love it, she maybe doesn’t even like it, or even hates it.
Her whole life feels like a constant struggle, like she’s caught in a loop and can’t get out.
And she can’t even see how she could ever.
She goes and fucks herself.
Over and over again.
She learns about vaginal orgasms and she has them.
Over and over again.
And she realizes that in order to have these—as Kim Anami calls them, “life-changing” vaginal orgasms—she has to surrender.
She has to let go of everything she thinks she knows and everything she thinks she is, in one crucial moment, as she’s making love to herself or her partner and she has to throw everything into the fire.
And she comes.
She comes to.
She be-comes conscious.
Of all that she is and could ever be.
She is reborn. As herself.
And as she is reborn, everything she does and says and touches begins to change.
Now that she has aligned herself with this life-force power, its effects spill out into every aspect of her world.
She makes decisions that are more reflective of the truth of who she is.
Instead of living a half-life —- as Rumi says — Half-heartedness never takes you to majesty — you have to follow one whole heart home.
She speaks her mind and her heart and vagina.
She makes bold choices to honor them all.
She begins to receive offers, opportunities and magical gifts from the universe, because she is ejaculating her own gifts all over the galaxy.
She quits the 9-5 job effortlessly, because the rest of her life is beginning to fill up with experiences that are more of a reflection of who she is. At her core.
Whenever she feels low, she remembers the source:
“Ah, of course!
And she goes back for more.
She is brimming and spilling over with ecstasy. So much that she can barely contain it.
And why would she?
All of that juicy, luscious energy radiates out of her.
The universe says, come, go deeper.
And she does. Bolder. Deeper. Wilder. Wiser.
She flows out.
The universe flows in.
She flows out with her self-expression, her dharma, the gifts she’s meant to give to the world, and the universe responds in kind with people, experiences.
And load of cash.
Want to make more cash?
Learn to surrender.
Learn how to open up, co-create with the divine, which is your birthright AS A WOMAN.
And as a human.
But as the creator and vehicle for life into this world, it is ESPECIALLY your birthright.
Money is energy.
And when you truly show up in your life, and start channeling all of your gifts, the universe sends it back your way in the form of all types of abundance.
The deeper you surrender and let go, the more you connect with your highest and most authentic self.
And you flow that out into the world.
And the flow keeps coming back to you.
My own financial life took off when I became well-fucked. When I learned how to channel my sexual energy and boldly express my truth in the world.
When I began to trust that opening myself and deeply surrendering would allow me to tap into the true power of feminine energy.
Miracles started to happen.
All of that fuelled from my vagina.
In today’s episode, we’re speaking with Leah O.
Last year, she took the WFW salon and at the beginning of the salon , made the audacious claim that she was the most underfucked woman in Britain.
And then she took Vaginal Kung Fu a few months later.
Today, she’s radiantly gorgeous and has a long list of dreams to share that she’s since manifested.
From her vagina and learning to surrender to pleasure.
In the past year, she’s:
- Making more money than she’s ever had in her life
- Lost 30 pounds without doing anything different with her diet and her exercise
- Attracted her dream man and moved countries to be together
- Quantum leaped her music career, having one of her songs played on Britain’s top radio station and landed her dream gigs
- She’ll share how surrendering and being well-fucked has made it all happen.
ALL STAR INTERVIEW WITH LEAH O
KIM: Hi, Leah O!
LEAH O: Hello, Kim!
KIM: So, does the “O” stand for orgasm?
LEAH O: Well, I think that’s kind of new to me. Since I became well-fucked and did your courses, it has taken on a whole new meaning.
KIM: Tell me more about the evolution of your well-fuckedness. Where did you start, and where are you now?
LEAH O: I’m just living authentically, so sometimes I forget what my life used to be like. But boy, it was different.
It was early last year, 2022. A lady I follow on Instagram shared one of your podcasts. The beauty of social media. You get to know each other through the internet.
I started listening to your podcasts and I got hooked straight away, but at the same time, I was really triggered. I found it quite uncomfortable to listen to, and I realized that was because of a lot of conditioning. I had trauma. I found it very difficult to talk about sex, and I couldn’t even say the word sex. I would say it under my breath or say “it.” That’s where I was about 18 months ago.
And then I just couldn’t stop listening to your podcasts and listening to Well-F**ked Woman and the All Stars. I was saying, “I want that. I really want that.” I always had a lot of ambition and drive, and being a singer, I never gave up on the dream, but I’d never really gotten very far with it and had come across stumbling blocks.
I was listening to the ladies talking about how they magically had their dreams fall in their lap, and I was thinking, “I want that. I feel like this is going to be it for me.”
I’d done courses and things in the past and nothing really had come of anything. It was just like I was magnetized toward you. I felt like I needed to do it, so come June 2022—I think I’m going to cry already—I embarked on the most transformational journey of my life.
I’ve gone from being overweight, really unhappy, very angry and snappy, and thinking that I need to hustle and grind for anything in my life, not knowing that there’s a whole different world of things and how women manifest. You opened my eyes to that, so Well-F**ked Woman has changed my life. I’m definitely not the same person I was last year.
KIM: Did you say something to the effect that you were the most under-fucked woman in Britain last year?
LEAH O: Yes, I remember saying that at the beginning of the course and I recorded a video of myself. And wow, looking back on that now, that’s how I know I’m not the same person anymore.
I was definitely the most under-fucked woman in Britain.
I remember doing the little questionnaire that you fill out before you sign up for Well-F**ked Woman.
KIM: “How Under-Fucked Are You?” Right.
LEAH O: I had never heard that term before, never even understood the meaning of it. But when I did it, I thought, “Oh, that’s me.” I think I scored the highest marks on that survey in all aspects—body issues, weight, mindset, career issues, not really doing what I was put on this planet to do, not following my soul’s purpose. I had been doing music, but not much success had come of it, and I was just getting by on a day job that I didn’t particularly like.
So in every sense of the word of being under-fucked, yeah, that was me.
KIM: All right, so what happened? You took The Well-F**ked Woman only a year ago. What sorts of tools were really essential for you, and what insights happened to bring you to where you are now? And then after that, you can tell us exactly where you are now.
LEAH O: After listening to your podcasts, I thought, “I’m going to go in there, into this course, and learn about how to achieve all the orgasms.” Which I did, by the way, and I’ll tell you more about that soon.
The tools that I feel have been the most pivotal for me are learning the art of surrender and masculine and feminine energies, deepening more into feminine energy, and using sexual practices to help me soften and surrender and let go to life and just everything, really. That was the biggest piece for me, and at the time I remember I was still very in my head, very in my masculine energy, and trying to figure out this concept with my head.
And then I was doing the bodywork, the sexual practices, and the penny dropped one day, because that’s what surrender is. It’s not a mind concept. Well, that’s how I like to explain it; it’s a little knowing that we’ve always had, but the conditioning from society has probably knocked it out of us.
Yeah, and it just hit one day. “This is it?” I can’t even remember what happened. I think I wrote a song that week about wanting to surrender and envisioning a future partner, because the partner I had at the time wasn’t interested in any of this and I knew we wanted very different things, so we’ve parted ways since then.
I’ve since manifested what I wrote in that song. I’ve become that surrendered woman!
KIM: [Laughs] I love it.
LEAH O: That’s another thing: you teach: Meditate, Masturbate, Create, and boy, does that work. The creative just flows out of me and then it’s as if I manifest my dream life through what I create.
KIM: Tell us more about that. What were some of the dreams that you had that you have now created?
LEAH O: So many! How long have you got? [Laughs] I write songs now. I write every day. And sometimes before this course, I would get a lot of writer’s block and I would compare myself to other people a lot, thinking, “Oh, that’s not good enough. That’s probably why I haven’t been successful.” But I know that’s not what it is. I just had to tap deeper into my creative images, all inside my body, all inside my vagina.
Other dreams that have come from that—I manifested my dream gig, which I performed at last night. I’m living in Turkey. There is an energetic practice that you teach us, moving sexual energy throughout the body, and that is one of the things I just really love. Whoa! How is this even real?
For people that might not think this is possible, you just have to give it a go because I’ve got my dream gig. I live here in Turkey. I thought, “Well, if I do Well-F**ked Woman …” and I added VKF as well, and I managed to invest in a course that I needed a lot of money for, so I managed to manifest the money, and now I’m part of a business that I completely and wholeheartedly believe in.
KIM: And you manifested your dream man.
LEAH O: Yes! I was about to say that as well. Oh, I’ll cry talking about this. I didn’t even think this kind of thing was possible because I don’t even think I’d been exposed to these types of relationships. I’ve never known any friends. I finally have these types of relationships, but it wasn’t until you started talking about it and about submissive and dominant kind of behavior and not just in the bedroom, but in life as well. He really leads the way. He’s just come into my life effortlessly and easily. I managed to get an opportunity singing here in Turkey last year and we met each other then. And I know that’s why I was meant to come here.
I remember telling you last year that I’d manifested a singing gig out here in Turkey, and then so much more has come up after that as well, so it just seems to be manifestation after manifestation.
When I met my new lover, my dream man, it was as if my feminine energy attracted him, because of the work that I’d been doing on myself. If I hadn’t softened into my femininity, I would never have attracted a masculine man. It’s like the polarity that you talk about—opposites attract. And that’s obviously why previous relationships haven’t worked out, because my femininity was out of whack and when it is, you attract things that you don’t want. So yes, I manifested my dream man, and it’s pinch-me moments all of the time.
KIM: When you talk about getting into your feminine, what does that mean for you? How would you describe that?
LEAH O: Well, sometimes I find that hard to explain, the surrender piece. But the best way I can currently describe it is letting go of control. Stop making so many lists and thinking about what to do, do, do, do, all the way throughout the day, and take time in the day to just do nothing and be with your body. And for me, that was doing my sexual practices, not looking at the clock, just having some time to myself, and just getting to know my body, getting out of my head. Because that’s what the feminine is to me. It’s going down and getting into your body, whereas the masculine is more logical and practical, and they think up here.
Yeah, it’s a body thing. That’s why doing the sexual practices helps you soften into your femininity.
KIM: I love that.
I love that notion of being with yourself and being with your body and not being constantly driven and on the move and on the go. And that’s the irony of the feminine, that by tapping into that energy field, we then magnetize and draw things to us. It’s a different process and almost seems paradoxical. “How did that work?” But it does.
And the more deeply you go into yourself and your body and your yoni, the more you see what then unfolds. Like an ejaculation of flowers blossoming out into the universe.
LEAH O: It really is. I’ve got an example for you, actually. When I arrived in Turkey two weeks ago, I had a little bit of trouble finding accommodation. There’s quite a few scammers online, and I managed to sort it out before I got here. But then there was this apartment that I had booked. I spoke to my old bosses, who I worked for last year when I sang at a bar, and they said, “Oh, I don’t really think you should stay there; it seems a bit dodgy to me.”
So old me would have tried to resist and take control. I would’ve wanted to make the decision myself, thinking, “No, I don’t really trust anybody else to advise me or lead the way.” However, this time, I thought, “Okay, I’ll step back. I’ll let you take control.” And although it seemed a little bit stressful trying to find a new place to live, I was thinking, “No, I’ll just sit back and relax because I know that everything is going to be fine.”
And to me, that is an example of softening my femininity and letting go of control, knowing that everything is taken care of. Because it was and then everything worked out fine. It worked out more than fine, actually. I’m sitting in a beautiful house in the village, looking at the mountains.
KIM: I love it. You also shared about losing 30 pounds, or 2 stone, and that was a rather effortless thing for you. You didn’t necessarily change anything about your diet or your exercise, but you felt like it was the combination of all these practices that burnt the stuff right out of you.
LEAH O: Yeah. It was a little bit like it melted it away. I’ve been lean and fit in the past; however, over the past few years before joining the course, I had a lot of emotional baggage built up. So I had been in the cross space. I’ve always been into healthy eating, drinking water, etc.
And last year, leading up to me doing the course, I was trying a lot, doing all the physical things, eating healthy, running, going to CrossFit in the gym. But the weight just didn’t seem to be moving, and I knew it was an emotional, energetic thing. And as soon as I started to move that sexual energy, the weight came off, and I love my body now. I just love the way I look, and I feel so confident.
I don’t feel like I’ve changed my eating that much. Still love eating chocolate [laughs], and since coming here to Turkey, I’ve been going to the gym less because I’ve been busy doing my dream gigs. [Laughs]
But for women that are struggling to lose weight, you should definitely look into sexual energy and any emotional baggage because then you’ll see any work that you are doing, like going to the gym, will have effects times ten.
KIM: I love that you recognized that there was emotional baggage and weight and unresolved stuff.
It’s essential to recognize that’s what weight is primarily. Yes, there is a factor of eating and exercise and lifestyle, absolutely, but ultimately, it’s the weight and the baggage that we carry around us that we can choose to address and look at or not. And that sexual pleasure, the alchemy of that, is one of the most powerful ways to move through it, shift it, and let it lighten and evaporate off us.
LEAH O: Yeah, absolutely. And I’m so glad I now know that because I had conversations about this with my friends and my family, and I feel like when one woman does well, if a woman calls a lot of people in—and Freya Kellet said this on her podcast last year, and she’s so right—I’m feeling the effects of that. My surrounding community is now feeling the positive effects of this work.
KIM: When one woman gets well-f**ked, there’s a ripple effect out onto all the other women in her sphere.
LEAH O: Absolutely. And isn’t that what it’s all about? That’s why you do what you do and that’s why we all do what we do, so it can have the ripple effect. And it’s just amazing; it feels so good.
KIM: You talked about having stagnation in your career, in singing; you were working a more pay-the-bills kind of job to support yourself, and then your singing and music career has just taken off. Explain what’s happened and the ease with which it’s happened. You’ve manifested these things in that same sense of surrendering and opening and letting go, and that’s brought these things to you. And your orgasms have been part of that attraction process.
LEAH O: I’ve been singing since 2017. I’ve done music all my life and live gigs since 2014; however, they weren’t always the types of gigs that I wanted to do.
For a while, I was in a band I really loved; however, that started to become something that I didn’t want anymore, and I just wanted more for my career, as in I wanted to perform my own original songs.
I was trying for a long time. Nothing seemed to be getting anywhere, and I think that’s probably because I was coming from a masculine place, trying and pushing, and looking for the opportunities myself.
Since doing well performing last year, that’s when I got asked to come to Turkey. I didn’t even go seeking that; that literally came to me.
And then from there, the ripple has just kept rolling. I’ve met producers out here in Turkey. We’ve been making music together. I landed my dream gig last night, and I performed with the DJ that I met last year.
I’ve been played on the biggest radio station in the UK, Radio 1.That happened a few weeks into Well-F**ked Woman.
KIM: I remember that, yeah.
LEAH O: And it’s like all of the stories that I’d heard previously on the podcast where the lady said, “It was as if this dream just came and landed on my lap,” and it literally is that. It’s because I dedicated myself to this work. I thought, “I’m going all in, because if I don’t, I’ll never know if it doesn’t work,” and it does! It fucking works! [Laughs] You get an orgasm—I’m going to call them life-gasms, like other things that happen in your life that just take your breath away. [Laughs] Life-gasms; that’s a new one.
KIM: I love that; that’s so well said. And it’s true. I had an art-gasm the other day. I was at this gallery and talking to the artist; it was this work that I’ve been passionate about for years, and I actually had an orgasm, standing there talking about all this work and looking at it. It happens in many ways!
LEAH O: It is. It’s just so beautiful and I’ve got tears in my eyes daily. No longer sad tears, happy tears now.
KIM: How about your orgasmic evolution as in your literal orgasms? Say your vaginal orgasms. What was that like and how is it now?
LEAH O: So like what I was saying about how the opportunities I’ve had are now in effect and they’ve all kept rolling? That’s how my orgasms went as well.
I’ve gone from having few to no clitoral orgasms, and I didn’t even know any others existed at all. What’s a G-spot orgasm? What’s a cervical orgasm? And now I’m having them on the regular.
I was nearly late for this meeting today. I was having a G-spot orgasm because I thought I was feeling a little bit of my masculine today. I thought I was getting a bit naggy, and I thought I started mothering. He knew exactly what to do, came home, gave us a G-spot orgasm, and he knew he could see my energy change.
So from having G-spot orgasms, cervical orgasms, like what you said about the analogy before, the flowers just bloom and explode into the universe. [Laughs] It’s amazing.
KIM: Is there anything else that you want to share?
LEAH O: I think this is just the start, Kim, so I think you’re going to be hearing a lot more from me. But you’ve opened my mind to so much. I get very emotional because this would’ve been a no-go for me, never mind talking to my family. I would never have been able to talk about this kind of thing in public, and I think you’ve really helped me tap into being authentically me. I can really be the real version of Leah now.
I wanted to share with everybody because I know that it’s possible for everyone, men and women. I’m living my dream and having the time of my life right now and long may it continue. [Laughs] And it always will because this type of work is ingrained in my life now, and I just love it.
KIM: That’s so beautiful.
There were a couple things that you mentioned that helped you to manifest more and go deeper. One, you said you deep-throated your partner and then you got a gig invite. And then self-pleasuring and hitting high notes. I’d love to hear those stories.
LEAH O: Oh yeah. I was going to add a little bit about G-spot orgasms. I was struggling to reach any sort of pleasure in the beginning. But since continuing with the practices and making sure I was dedicated, I can now reach G-spot orgasm within about 10 minutes. I never switch off, but I can just get there so easily and that’s due to surrender.
My man was a bit down the other day, and I thought, “I think he needs some therapy.” So I said, “Come home on your break; I’ve got a surprise for you.” And he said, “Oh, what’s the surprise?” And I said, “Oh, you’re going to love it.”
And I don’t think he is quite used to just having time purely dedicated to him. I said, “This is just for you now, darling.” I laid him down and gave him one of the best sessions we’ve ever had. He was so happy, and I thought it was just purely to cheer him up, to make sure he would then go on and have a great day.
But then, later I got a call asking if I would like to go perform at Icon, which is my dream gig. So it just goes to show that these sexual practices are so linked to our life and outer world. I found that hard to grasp in the beginning, but now, it’s just so undeniable; it’s so obviously linked.
And it’s a gig where I was going to use my voice, so I had to open my throat chakra for my dream gig!
KIM: That’s epic. I love that story. And what about the self-pleasuring and hitting the high notes?
LEAH O: Yeah. [Laughs] I was going back to England, and I hadn’t sung any gigs for a while, so I felt a little bit out of practice. I would’ve normally warmed up—you know, like before you go to the gym?
I didn’t have time because I got this gig quite last minute, and I only had a couple of hours to get myself sorted and get my music prepared. Of course, I had a G-spot orgasm earlier in the day, and I thought, “I hope this gig goes well. I hope I sound good.” I ended up hitting the high notes every time. And that’s because your vagina and your throat are connected. I thought, “It’s just got to be from what I did this morning.” [Laughs]
That is what they say: your vagina and your throat chakra and your vagina and your heart are connected. So not only have my throat chakra and my mind been blown, but my heart is so open that I just feel like I’ve got so much love to give; that love is pouring back into my life and it’s just a love cycle. Not a vicious cycle, a love cycle. [Laughs]
KIM: That’s so beautiful, Leah, and a testament to all the work that you’ve done. You’re really going to the source. There’s a great censorship shroud that surrounds sexuality and people’s genitals, and it’s been so successful that people have associated them with shame and taboo and a forbidden zone. And the truth is that these are energy centers; these are power centers. This is where we go to recharge and plug in, and by doing that, we connect to all of these creative, manifesting, joy experiences in life. That’s where we get them from, our genitals, our sexual energy.
LEAH O: Yeah, you’re right. Before I was very ashamed; I could barely have the conversation. I could barely talk about it in my family. And I found it very, very hard to open myself up to talk about things like that. I just think if I can do it, we all can.
KIM: And did you share about your financial success?
I’ve got more money than I ever had in my life. It’s not just having money; it’s my relationship with money and how I feel about it. Because I’ve never had any substantial amount of money in the past—and I think I just had an epiphany just now. I’ve made the connection with the shame around sex, with the shame of money. Yeah. Wow, I just realized that. That’s why I had so much shame.
And now that my sexual energy is released of shame, I feel like that about money. Now that I don’t hold shame around money, it’s flowing in abundantly and I love it and it loves me. It’s just that I’ve now got that beautiful relationship going as well as the beautiful relationship with myself and sex.
KIM: I love that; the relationship with money and abundance and energy. It’s all flow. It’s all our openness and surrender and then giving our gifts to the world. Connecting to our dharma and expressing those gifts, and the universe showers them right back at us.
Is there anything else that you want to mention that we haven’t covered?
LEAH O: Anyone can.
I know some people think, “Oh, I’ll never get there because of X, Y, and Z, and trauma or age.” But I would’ve just been so scared to talk about this last year, and this has given me the confidence to talk about things like this. It’s given me the confidence to talk about lots of different things online and in person to other people.
I would just encourage people to listen to your podcasts because that changed my life, and then obviously, doing the courses changed my life even more. But open yourself up to this kind of work because the real you wants to break through and live her life.
KIM: And what would you say specifically to women about letting go? Women who might be stuck and are afraid and fear surrender and letting go of control.
LEAH O: When you’re letting go of control, that’s conditioning. We’ve been taught to act and be and think that way and because we’re scared, we’re told to fear life, to fear men. And if we are in control, then we get to decide what happens. However, there’s a higher power and higher source at play. If you open yourself up to that, your dreams will come true. It does seem scary, but there’s really nothing to be scared of.
Allow yourself to open your arms and spread your wings and just—
KIM: And spread your legs.
LEAH O: [Laughs] Yes. Spread your legs to allow your wings to fly! [Laughs] Because when you do that, and allow yourself to just fall, you are bound to fly when you do this work.
KIM: I love it. So beautiful.
Awesome. So inspired to hear all of your evolution and all the beautiful things that you’re creating, Leah. Leah O, Leah Orgasm!
LEAH O: I’ll have to put that in my new Instagram bio. [Laughs]
KIM: [Laughs] Thank you so much for sharing with us.
LEAH O: You’re so welcome. Thank you for having me and thank you for everything.
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