Sex and Creativity – Transcript
Sex and creativity. Sexual energy equals creative genius.
There’s a direct connection between sex and creativity. As I always say, sexual energy is lifeforce energy. This is the energy that creates new life. If you aren’t making babies with it, then you can tap into that energy and channel it into everything that you do. Even if you are making babies with that energy, you can still channel that energy into your life.
If you’re having any kind of creative blockage, so you feel like your business is stagnating, your revenue streams are drying up, maybe you have writer’s block, you don’t feel like you’re getting any fresh ideas, you’re feeling stuck or lethargic and you can’t really focus, or just unproductive in general, look at your sex life. Is your sex life dry, too? Are you feeling sexually stagnant? Has someone fucked you into another galaxy recently? Probably not. There’s always a connection. Sexual energy is creative energy.
I often joke about how I don’t do coffee, I do orgasms, which is true. I never touch coffee unless I shove it up my ass for a great coffee enema [laughs], but otherwise it never goes into my mouth. I tap into my vagina for energy.
In the middle of my work day, when I feel a lull or a creative plateau, feeling a bit sparse on juicy ideas, I will head into the bedroom. I grab a yoni egg or a dildo or my partner or maybe all three and I will spend anywhere from 20 to 45 minutes self-pleasuring, breathing, exercising my vagina, and revving up my sexual energy.
Afterwards, I feel rejuvenated, inspired, and ready to get back to work. I am smothered all over in pleasure and play.
Think of when you’ve had amazing sex. Like a night of sex where you stayed up, maybe the whole night, hardly had any sleep, and then you went to work the next day. You were probably floating. You probably had this goofy grin on your face that no amount of problems or stress could wipe off. Instead of bemoaning your lack of sleep, you were happy, calm, open, playful, and full of great ideas. That is sexual energy in action. That is you tapping into the creative power of your orgasmic, juicy, creative, blissful energy, and using it to build your life, better your business, and increase your vitality.
All of this power is at the tips of your fingers, or a little bit deeper [laughs] inside your genitals.
Sadly, so many people turn to drugs, alcohol, all kinds of substances and unhealthy experiences to try to get their creativity flowing. There’s an example of Jonathan Franzen, the award-winning author of The Corrections and other books, and he’s a classic example of the tortured artist. He would drink tons of vodka, numb out, put on a blindfold and ear plugs, and drown out the world in order to write.
There’s always the beautiful—and I have to say I’m kind of partial to—example of Hunter S. Thompson, I think because he’s also just such an outrageous character in general. But he was absolutely reliant on all manner of substances to get his creativity going. But I guess it’s a bit of like burn-out/die young, but anyway, maybe he’s an exception. I quite like Hunter S. Thompson.
But anyhow, the point is, there are many ways to reach the state of consciousness, and my belief is that they don’t have to be accessed through drugs and alcohol. It seems like a very easy, fast route to get there, but to me, it’s an illusion and it’s not a sustainable route. And you can get much higher and much deeper and much more incredible inspiration via your own ways and your own states of exploration.
That’s kind of what my whole life has been about, is how do we get to these places without taking substances. One of my major tools for getting there is through sex.
My idea is that you get high on orgasms instead, your own primal lifeforce, and then you’ll be so fulfilled and pleasured that you won’t need or have this other urge to take these other substances.
I haven’t gotten conventionally high in over 25 years. I don’t even take Tylenol. I pretty much use sex as the remedy for everything [laughs] and a few other things put in the mix. But really, I see it as this incredible creative force.
Look, the proof is in the pudding. Whose vagina started a worldwide movement for women to use yoni eggs? Look, I didn’t invent this concept, but it was practiced by almost just a handful of people on the planet until me and my vagina came along and lifted the world up by storm.
All of my best ideas come from my vagina. That one did. Me traveling the world, lifting objects indigenous to various regions with my vagina.
One of my main gauges for how much I’m in touch with my sexual energy is the quality of original ideas that I’m putting out into the world. I’m a big proponent of the concept that there are still original ideas out there. There’s kind of this quote or phrase, like, “Oh, there’s nothing original left. Everything’s been done before.” It’s such a crock of shit. The only people who say that are the people who don’t have original ideas. [Laughs] The rest of us with original ideas are just getting out there and fucking making art. Fucking and making art or making the art of fucking—ha-ha.
Anyway, one of my big heroes—I think I might have talked to him on my Original Origins podcast—is Ian Schrager, who created Studio 54, and is the actual original inventor of the boutique hotel. He came up with this idea that we ought to have hotels that were the place to go in cities and they were self-contained and artful and beautiful and totally unique.
The way he described creativity is like going over to the edge and just getting right to the edge and not falling off. Like you want to shock people and make something new in a way, although it wasn’t for shock value, it was the idea that you do these things, and they take hold because they are just expressions of your own personal view and genius.
The tie-in with sexual energy is that this is your reproductive blueprint. This is the actual genetic material that is the essence of you. As you get in touch with that, you start to then express more and more and more the essence of you out into the world. So your truth, your deepest version, most self-actualized version of who you are comes out you the more that you’re in touch with your deeper, creative, sexual energy. I’ve seen this over and over and over in my life.
In my work, all of the things that I am most famous for have come from my vagina. Like all of the concepts of FUKME and The Well-F**ked Woman and #ThingsILiftWithMyVagina, and whatever else, the come diet, all of these memey things are from me. Even though out in the personal growth world and even in my genre, like a lot of people are—they imitate. They don’t have the courage to come up with their own ideas, and they don’t believe in themselves to even put them out there, even if they did, and so they just take from other people.
It’s about courage and it’s about having that flow, that stream of concepts that come to you. Like there’s no greater joy than coming up with an idea that is fresh and new and based on your observations, your work, your life, just bubbles out of you.
Yes, things can be connected to you and inspired by. Like I didn’t invent jade eggs, I didn’t invent the concept of vaginal weightlifting, but I took that into this [laughs] humorous, playful, irreverent, but profound concept of lifting things all over the world with my vagina and it created this superstorm. That thing went so viral, I couldn’t even believe it, that mainstream were talking about vaginas and eggs and yoni eggs and the power of this, and now they’re everywhere. Even yoga studios will sell yoni eggs. It’s fairly commonplace now.
This is a very fringy thing. Even seven, eight years ago, even five years ago even, you had like one vendor on the internet and now it’s a massive thing.
Anyway, you can do incarnations of things and rebirth them, but the idea that I’m saying is that yes, there are original ideas out there and the closer you are to your truth and self, and one fast-track, quantum-leap way to get there is through your sexual energy. You will be able to express those ideas.
It’s a beautiful, Victoria circle. I rev up my sexual energy, and it gets my creative juices flowing. Then I get really excited about my creative projects and I actually develop a relationship to them, which is like having a lover. Meaning, I wake up every morning and I’m excited to get to work on them. I yearn for them.
Let’s say I go out for dinner or something and I’m actually busting to get back home to work on these things some more.
All of this creative excitement boosts my libido, so I am walking around firing on all cylinders. You can keep it going ad infinitum. In all of my salons, I teach a variety of techniques for harvesting your sexual energy. This is one of my favorite concepts, the idea of harvesting that energy. It’s free, it’s powerful, and your sexual energy is limitless.
As much as I’m all about increasing sexual pleasure I also want people to know about their sexual power. This isn’t just like seduction power, how to use your sexuality to get what you want, like no, [laughs] I don’t even really go down that road.
It’s more that it’s creative power. If you feel out of touch with it, then you need to kick start it. It’s like Newton’s third law of inertia, that an object in motion is going to stay in motion. An object staying still is going to stay still. So you kick yourself into motion.
Here’s the neuroscience behind creativity. Have you ever experienced a brilliant idea while walking, cycling, running, or maybe even in the shower? I have. I get a lot of my best ideas when I go out for a run or out for a surf, in addition, of course, as I said, post sexual activity. The concept is that when you are relaxed and happy, you’re feeling pleasure, you get a rush of endorphins, and dopamine, and serotonin, all of these happy, mood-boosting chemicals. These are the chemicals that are natural and lead to your creative breakthroughs. Scientists have actually called dopamine the creativity wonder drug.
Don’t sit at your laptop and grind your teeth and suffer as you type emails. That’s not how you will create your best work. Instead, orgasms, pleasure, bliss, this is the pathway to excellence.
My personal magic formula for harvesting my sexual energy is meditate, masturbate, create. The first one is to meditate, so I will take ten minutes to chant and raise my vibration. One of my favorite words to chant is Hu. Sounds like, [chanting] “Hu.”
This is an ancient name for God, spirit, energy, whatever you want to call it. It’s meant to have a very high vibration, so this acts to uplift your state of consciousness so you’re in a better state to receive higher wisdom and intuition.
Then you masturbate. You self-pleasure, or even maybe with a partner, so take 15-30 minutes and you breathe.
I did a podcast last week about full-body orgasms, and it’s the same concept there, is that throughout the sexual experience, you are breathing. When you get close to orgasm, you really intensify long, steady, deep breaths. This helps to recirculate your sexual energy back into your body, into your system, instead of just ejecting it out into the universe. We want to eject it out but consciously as your creative genius.
Then the third step is you create. Go do something, rather it’s writing, painting, parenting, carpentry, gardening, or it doesn’t have to be these conventional ideas of creativity, like sculpting with clay. It can be anything that you have. Like a writing project for work, anything in your life. Even a social event that you want to feel like you’re at the top of your game and you’re oozing charisma.
This is how you infuse your sexual energy into everything you do. Even as you finished your process of meditate/masturbate, as you go out to create, be consciously aware of how you’re taking your sexual energy, this creative lifeforce, and you are spreading that out into the world. Like this giant, creative, [laughs] ejaculation that’s going out into the universe.
This energy is beautiful, beautiful, powerful energy. I’m always thinking about how I can tap back into it and use it as a lifeforce.
If you really want to hijack your dopamine, then whether you go for your coffee break alone or with your partner, as you build to orgasm, you build, you breathe, you build, you breathe, and then you stop. Cycle through several rounds of your deep breathing. Do this a few times and then get back to work. So you don’t actually go over the edge into orgasm.
Why this is a hack is because you generate the most dopamine on the ascent to orgasm. Then you get a burst of prolactin at the peak when you have the orgasm to counteract it once you go over the edge. You also get some oxytocin, which is another really good feel-good chemical.
But if you want to maximize your creative potential and power, then I would suggest not going over the edge and instead breathing your way up to that threshold a few times. Then you’ll be riding this dopamine high.
That’s an option if you’re open to that. Eventually, and I’ll talk about this in later videos and podcasts, is the idea of men being able to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Or as you have full-body orgasms, it kind of doesn’t matter whether you go over the edge or not, because you experience the full energy of the orgasm without having that kind of punctuation mark at the end of it.
Another sure-fire technique that I love is eating a come cocktail. I talk about the come diet, which is multifaceted, but one element of it is the ingestion of male ejaculate.
It’s been scientifically found that the ejaculate of men contains all kinds of incredible mood-boosting chemicals. Over 50 of them that are antidepressants and immune-boosters, like everything. It’s like 50 different amazing [laughs] vitamins, minerals, nutrients for you and your brain. I found that years ago after I would eat come, give a great blow-job, swallow his ejaculate, I’d be creatively on fire. I would need to literally run to my laptop and start writing down all of these ideas that I was having, and they were amazing.
This is an excellent tool as well. If you have a partner who likes to ejaculate, then make sure—yes, it’s great in the vagina, but if you want to get a straight mainline to your brain, swallow it. This is a great thing to do as well.
There you go. These are some of my top ideas for tapping into your sexual energy for your creative genius. Remember, the power is between your legs.
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