Sexual Fitness: Get F**king Fit – Transcript
Sexual fitness: Getting F**king Fit. From the Taoist and Tantric perspectives on sex, more is better and longer is best. The longer we have sex for, the more high-quality energy we can harvest and exchange with each other, coming out of our sexual encounters feeling rejuvenated, highly pleasured, and totally fulfilled. So yeah, mo’ better.
To be able to go the distance in those crucial moments and not drop the ball, to be able to hold various positions and be more creative, you need to be in excellent shape.
And for women to reach the deeper, vaginal, life-changing orgasms, as I call them, like cervical orgasms, they need sustained penetration.
As a man or a woman, how do you prepare for these marathon sex sessions? How do you get in the best sexual shape of your life?
Here are the five key components for sexual fitness and the best exercise regimens to get you there.
1. Core strength: Pilates.
Pilates is a phenomenal exercise for building your core—your abs, your back, your hips, and your buttocks—which is something that you need if you’re going to be a superior power thruster and be able to hold all kinds of crazy sexual positions for minutes, or hours, preferably, on end.
I’ve found all sorts of subtle little muscles that I’ve only ever been aware of in my Pilates workouts and in certain extended sexual positions. And by extended, I mean an hour’s worth of doggie style. There’s just a certain way of holding those inner thighs that I only ever feel in Pilates. Pilates helps you to stay the course.
2. Genital power: Vaginal and penile weight training.
Just like any other muscle in your body, your pelvic floor needs exercising or it atrophies. This leads not only to urinary incontinence and pelvic organ prolapse, but the numbness of not being connected to your genitals means that your libido and your orgasmic potential evaporate.
What do we do instead? We work them out. Vaginal and penile weightlifting have been part of Taoist sexual practices for over 5,000 years. This is essential exercise for your private parts.
Jade vaginal weightlifting, or yoni eggs, are all the rage right now, and they’re the tool that I’ve been using for the last 20 years to lift pumpkins, plates, and wineglasses all over the world.
Having turbocharged genitals means, for men, you’ll orgasm longer, harder, and stronger. You’ll have more powerful erections; you’ll build stamina and prevent premature ejaculation. You’ll be able to flex and articulate your cock just like your hand and pleasure your woman more deeply.
For women, you’ll have mo’ better orgasms. And by better, I mean mind, body, and spirit-altering orgasms that are deeper, longer, more intense, and include the ability to ejaculate or squirt across the room. Oh, and you will have G-spot and cervical orgasms. You’ll lubricate way more easily. The number-one physical reason for the lack of lubrication in women is having a weak vagina.
Lubrication equals circulation. When all your blood is flowing and pumping through that area, your juices flow and pump as well.
You’ll feel more. Most vaginas are numb. Pelvic weightlifting builds strength and returns sensation to the vagina.
And finally, you’ll be able to give your man a hand-job with your vagina.
3. Endurance: HIIT training or cardio.
To be able to go the distance, especially to reach these deeper vaginal orgasms for women, you need stamina, both as a guy and a woman. Any intense cardio regimen is going to help. Particularly high-intensity interval training, which also helps to strengthen other appropriate and useful muscles, like your shoulders, your glutes, and your abs.
Cardio or HIIT training sessions three times a week will allow you to marathon out.
4. Flow.
Having some kind of activity that reinforces flow and helps you to find your own natural rhythm outside of the bedroom will help connect you to it in the bedroom.
When I look back at some of my best lovers, they had these practices that gave them not only physical confidence, but the ability to listen to their body. They had this beautiful grace and rhythm and timing that was almost like they were channeling a force of nature.
Think of things that you connect to that help you to tune into your own intuitive movement. For me, ecstatic or free-form dance is an awesome way to listen to the flow of energy within and to follow it.
I went to a ton of raves when I was in my youth. I was living in London, and that was what you did. I swear, it gave me incredible rhythm because I would tune in and really just feel the music and let it move me. I discovered how to dance through doing that. Fantastic sex is a dance. You listen, you lead, you follow, you flow.
One of my favorite quotes applied to surfing is by Jon Kabat-Zinn. “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”
That’s literal and metaphorical. You open yourself and tune in to the power of the wave, and you ride it. The best lovers don’t follow a list of choreographed instructions. They’re able to read the situation, read their partner, and respond moment to moment.
Having a practice that fosters the sense of intuitive movement takes you into the realm of epic lovemaking far more than any step-by-step tutorial could ever do.
5. Flexibility: Open hips, open heart, yoga.
Yoga opens up your energy channels and your meridians so that you’re better able to move energy, and sexual energy, throughout your body. This makes it easier for you to have extended and full-body orgasms, which are in the realm of possibility for everyone.
A huge focus in yoga is on breathing. As you move through all the challenging poses, you’ll learn to constantly revert back to the breath. This is how I teach people—especially men—to build stamina in sex. Just breathe. [Laughs]
You train your mind and your body to know that you can breathe your way through anything.
As a guy, when your woman is in the throes of ecstasy and the vision of her splayed out before you in total abandon is about to send you over the edge, you learn to breathe through it so that you can go the distance with her and take her even higher.
The worst thing that you can do to a woman sexually is to continually bail on her in a crucial moment, i.e., when she’s about to reach this amazing transcendental orgasm. When you learn stamina and control, she—and her vagina—will love you for it.
Another benefit of yoga is the production of the brain neurotransmitter GABA. GABA is your natural anti-anxiety drug, and this is why you feel calm and centered and relaxed after a yoga class. Yoga is an excellent pre-sex activity to get you out of your mind and into your body. As you twist and stretch and flex, you release all sorts of physical and emotional blockages that you’ve been carrying around, which have been weighing you down, and you’re left feeling light and free and better able to viscerally tune in to your partner.
Lastly, a regular yoga practice has been found scientifically to boost libido and sexual performance in both men and women.
So there you have it. My recipe for becoming a superstar fucker.
If you want to learn more about the art of vaginal and penile weightlifting, plus more on how to build stamina in men, you can check out my online courses, Vaginal Kung Fu and Sexual Mastery for Men. Each of those has a free video preview series with exercises that you can try tonight. You’ll find the link for those below this video.
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