Have Gourmet Sex. Lose Weight.
She came into my studio, and pulled up her shirt.
“Look!” she exclaimed.
“I’ve lost 10 pounds!”
I wasn’t sure where to look, truthfully.
She was wearing a gorgeous, lacy, turquoise bra and was sporting a beautiful, svelte belly.
Her face was totally radiant.
It was all stunning.
Anna had been going to trainers and nutritionists for the past year. She was exercising regularly and ate fairly well. She was well-versed in personal growth and led women in her own classes for a living.
Yet, she struggled with this seemingly-impossible-to-lose extra 10 pounds on her frame.
She’d recently met a new man.
She was applying the principles of well-f**ked-woman-ness she’d been learning through our work together.
She was holding her own with this man, asking for what she wanted, being radically open and honest, and allowing herself to truly open and let go, emotionally and sexually.
And then suddenly she realized that she was 10 pounds lighter.
The weight had evaporated.
She had that last 10 pounds loved and fucked out of her.
“The weight” in people is the accumulation of all of their unresolved stuff. Instead of processing their wounds and hurts, they file them away in their thighs and butts and bellies.
And there they stay. Until we heal and love them away.
Our defences, our stories we tell ourselves, they all take up energetic and physical space:
“I can’t open my heart”
“Everyone always leaves me”
We wear these on us like armor.
Until the days—and nights—when we dare to open up again.
And let them fall by the wayside.
How many pounds is in years of grief or resentment? 10? 20? 50?
When you open your heart and genitals to someone. Not only do you heal a world of past hurt and trauma, you tap into your superpowers.
There is no greater and faster healing balm then sexual love.
The proof is always in the pudding.
When you are truly in this magical state of openness, you transcend physical laws.
You create magnificent things.
Your “calorie count” and “exercise burning count” is irrelevant.
Because now you are burning off karma. Emotional waste. Psychic pain.
All tossed into the alchemical fuck fire.
I don’t care if you want to be 200 pounds or 120 pounds.
That’s up to you.
I do believe that excess weight is the unresolved issues that we carry with us.
All written on the body.
As above, so below, says the great spiritual axiom.
Your deep emotional and vaginal work translates to outer change as well.
Few things will help you shed more shit and cry more tears of release, than deep, cataclysmic love and fucking.
Cervical orgasms are a woman’s secret weapon.
The gourmet sex I speak of is the food of life.
In it, we’ll explore all of your inner worlds—emotional and vaginal. Learn how to:
– Clear sexual blocks and release your unprocessed “weight”
– Channel your creative, orgasmic, sexual energy into your life and work, accessing your genius
– Achieve the deeper, life-changing, vaginal orgasms
– Master the technical skills of deep throating, anal sex and wild hand jobs and how to use these sex acts to accelerate your personal growth and transformation
Image: Me, my 46-year-old well-f**ked body and a Malibu sunset.