50, Fuckable and UnF**kwithable – TRANSCRIPT
The times are a changing and I’m here for it.
Here’s to heading into a new era of being forever fuckable and unfuckwithable.
A new epoch is upon us.
There are fuckable 50 year olds on TV and in movies.
In the last year, we’ve had:
- 48-year-old Ali Larter as the SMOKING hot, sassy, outspoken Texan in a topless sex scene riding Billy Bob Thornton in the TV show Landman, looking hot as FUCK
- 56-year-old Nicole Kidman in the movie Family Affair as a 50-something mom in a relationship with her daughter’s movie star boss, Zac Efron.
- In this same year, Nicole slays yet again as a fabulously sexy CEO having a lascivious BDSM affair and having onscreen orgasms with her much younger intern in Babygirl.
Nicole’s been rocking it!
HUGE kudos to these ladies for a) the self-love that it takes to keep on keeping on, and the boldness of playing these ultra-sexy and wildly fuckable characters.
Contrast this to the Sex and the City remake that is so, massively UNsexy that they had to change the name to take “sex” out of it, because NONE of these 50-something characters is having any.
Some of them, like Miranda, and I quote, says that it has been “years” since she and her husband have had sex.
She just drops this casually into the conversation like, yeah and next week I’m going to the dentist” and we haven’t fucked each other in years.
Carrie gets a hip replacement and pisses the bed.
Charlotte has a stroke. Or eats a pot cookie. And almost has a stroke or wtf I don’t know.
OH, and Miranda also has early onset dementia.
See? This is what NOT having sex does to you.
Instead of capitalizing on an opportunity to make a show about some sophisticated and wildly sexy 50-something women, they made this pathetic dribble that reinforces the idea that women are dead at age 50.
Way to go, Sarah Jessica!
So good of you to advance the narrative on elderly, hapless 50-somethings!!
I’ll take the hot bitches, thanks.
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Over the years, I’ve never worried that much about “aging”.
I take care of myself. I eat well. I work out. I’m athletic. I surf.
There isn’t anything that being in my 50s has prevented me from doing.
When I see all the programming and propaganda—especially aimed at women—I feel inspired and compelled to show how it can be different.
Apart from the examples I cited earlier, the general message—especially for women—is that aging is depressing, horrific and 50 is the new 80.
Meaning, the elderly ladies in the NO SEX in the City cast are showing women that you don’t have to wait until you’re 80 to have hip replacements, strokes, Alzheimers and never have sex again.
You can do that today!
When the role models women have are 50-year-olds wetting the bed and being frumpy as fuck—wearing tablecloths and curtains for clothing—someone has to show them what else is possible.
IT ME!
Here’s what I do to stay fuckable, and unfuckwithable in my 50s.
1) I’ve dialed in my exercise and food.
Last year I went on a transformative fitness journey.
I shared about this in my Ageless and Fit as F**k podcast episode.
I’d been at a set point in my weight for most of my adult life with an active lifestyle.
A few years back, I put on about 15 pounds.
It was a combination of a number of factors, and since learning more about it, I’d say the two biggest ones were stress, and glucose consumption.
Paired together, I was inflamed to the max.
So I went on an ultra-committed three-month program where I was tracking macros, counting calories and weight lifting with a trainer three times a week, getting my 10-15,000 steps a day, surfing on the other days and upping my protein intake massively.
In three months, I dropped the 15 pounds and got more shredded that I’ve ever been in my life.
At age 54, I’m down to my high school weight.
A year later, I’ve gone full carnivore and dropped another 5 pounds without even trying.
After I realized how carb-dependent I was, and what that was doing to me, I’ve converted to the keto/carnivore camp.
I’ve been eating fish for years, but the the transition to meat came gradually until last year when I really went for it.
I began eating meat and eggs every day, to see how I would feel.
And honestly, I wasn’t feeling bad before.
I know a lot of people have miraculous stories of going carnivore and their acne clears up—I didn’t have any—or they heal their auto-immune conditions—again, I didn’t have that or whatever else.
For me, I haven’t had any major—or minor—conditions to heal.
I’m all about listening to my body, to see what I’m drawn to eat.
And then optimizing.
Now I’m eating steak, venison, bison, seafood, eggs, raw cheese, and heaps of ghee and salt.
And it feels like the most decadent thing EVER.
I fucking love it.
A friend of mine asked if I’m getting bored with eating the same kinds of things every day.
I honestly LOVE the ease of it all and I look forward to all my meals, even if their similar.
I’ve never been into cooking big, elaborate meals.
I’ve always felt that was a waste of time.
If someone else wants to cook them… sure!
But as an active, athletic person, I eat food for fuel.
When I want to eat, I want to eat.
NOW.
I don’t want to spend 90 minutes in the kitchen to cook a meal that’s over in 10 minutes.
So my formula is two—sometimes three—ingredient foods—four if we count salt.
And that’s it.
And then the sugar thing.
I used to crave sugar all day, every day.
I just moved from one sugar/carb hit to the next.
Now I crave protein and fat.
A big spoonful of ghee with my Balinese volcanic salt on it?
Oooh, drooling.
I actually have to work to eat the calories I need to be in maintenance.
At this stage, I’m happy with my body and shape and it’s fine tuning from here.
I lost some muscle on my ass a few years back from surfing three hours a day and not eating nearly enough protein.
So my body started cannibalizing itself to get the energy it needed.
I wasn’t as protein-savvy back then.
So now I’m on a Build-a-Butt mission!
I now eat 1.2 to 1.5g of protein per pound of my body weight.
I’m lean AND strong.
I’m fitter and more sculpted than most 20-somethings.
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I usually surf every other day, sometimes every day.
And I weight train three times a week, following a progressive overload program.
I walk on average about 8000 steps a day. And then I surf for about 90 minutes, three times a week, where I’m going to estimate I get about 15,000 paddles per session. So that all averages to around 15,000 steps per day.
So:
1) Weight training 3x a week.
2) 1.2 to 1.5g of protein per pound of body weight
3) Between surfing and walking, I average about 15,000-20,000 steps a day. I count paddling as steps.
4) And then we hit the magic x factor.
Actually, it’s the magic SEX factor
Why do I—and countless women who take my programs—forego HRT?
And the bigger question is, why do so many people in the supposed “wellness” field, think that women’s bodies are so completely inept, that they need to be medicated with hormones for their entire lives?
I can’t think of one prominent so-called “health advocate” who doesn’t think women shouldn’t be on hormone drugs.
Why?
Ye of little faith!
From the onset of teenage acne, and being recommend hormonal birth control for it, to using hormones to avoid pregnancy, to then taking hormones for “peri-menopause”, which apparently starts in women’s 30’s now, to then take these drugs literally until the day they die—which is a direct quote from a woman doctor big in the “Menopause Loves HRT” movement—this is the advice most women are given.
How do so many people see women’s bodies as being so inherently flawed?
I actually find this view ultra-mysogynistic.
And I NEVER use that word.
Because I see it as very “victim mindset”-like.
But there they are.
So. What am I doing that all these hormone-pimps are not?
Want to guess?
Getting fucked maybe?
Well, it’s more than that.
I’ve come to a place where I’ve activated, balanced and harnessed my sexual energy.
I assert, unequivocally, without exception, that every single woman going through difficult menopause—and difficult periods—is 100% underfucked.
I guarantee it.
All the symptoms that women talk about from hot flashes, to lack of lubrication, to general malaise, I attribute to the HORMONAL IMBALANCE of being underfucked.
My two hands are outstretched.
One is holding the red pill.
The other the blue pill.
The blue pill is your bottle of blue hormone pills.
The red pill hand is a dick pill.
Yes, cock is your medicine.
Cock is THE red pill.
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Your sex hormones are your MASTER hormones.
When they are out of whack, everything is out of whack.
They are the cornerstone of all your hormonal systems in your body.
So how do you “balance and nourish” them?
Orgasms.
A steady diet of being well-loved and well-fucked.
And while I love referring to COCK as medicine, you can be your own medicine.
Your hands can be. A dildo can be.
Especially if it’s a luxury, hand-blown, couture, erotic objet d’art like The Holy Trinity set in my Anami Alchemia shop.
My last podcast “I’m so F**king Hot for Myself” was all about falling so deeply in love and lust with yourself that you want to be sensually connected all the time.
Not jerking off.
But reverently, voraciously, fucking and making love to yourself.
The women who fully inhabit their sexual energy use menstruation and menopause for the OPPORTUNITIES they are meant to be.
Nature gave you your very own psychedelic portal.
You access it most easily during menstruation and menopause.
If you drug yourself through these gateways—whether it’s Midol or HRT—you’ll never tap into this energy source.
You won’t connect to your own deep intuition and direct line to your inner worlds, that is your true essence and power, being born into a female body.
Instead, you’ll be chanting a mantra of “nature be dumb. It made big bad mistakes on women and we must fix with many drugs ok”
Yeah, no.
Not drinking your pharma-laced Kool-Aid.
I’d much rather be guzzling cock.
The biggest part of remaining “fuckable” and unfuckwithable is mastering your sexual energy.
The more sex you have, the more sex people want to have with you.
Line up 50 people in front of me and I’ll tell you which of them is well-fucked and which of them is not.
It’s a palpable vibe of openness, vivaciousness, flow, grace, radiance, playfulness.
Vs. a feeling of being closed, sad, depressed, oppressed, repressed, suppressed, vacant and lifeless.
And I could tell you that before they even open their mouths.
We can ALL read this energy even if we don’t realize what we’re seeing.
You’ve likely heard me talk about the “not giving a fuck” factor.
When you’re so clear on who you are and what your truth is, you become unstoppable.
It’s a knowing, surety and feeling in alignment with your deepest truth.
Your confidence blasts through any obstacle or any need for approval from anyone but you.
You don’t TRY not to give a fuck.
You simply give all your fucks to yourself and your partner in bed.
Where they belong.
And then when you go out into the world—after being supremely well-fucked—you have no fucks left to give to anyone else.
They’re all been washed away.
In a sea of spraying ejaculate, squirting and self-knowledge.
In addition to NOT being sexually self-actualized, if you are also living a high-stress life, you’ve doubly loaded your body and psyche with more weight than they can cope with.
Stress hormones steal from your sex hormones.
When you are in a constant cortisol/adrenalin state, your body directs all of its output to the perceived “emergency” you immediately need all your energy to deal with.
Maybe that IS your everyday life.
You may be in crisis mode, or have PTSD and unhealed trauma, or a build up of it.
Every day living is a challenge for you.
Your body perceives that state of mind as you being in danger.
Every day.
So it goes to work building your never-ending fortress and your never-ending need for stress hormones.
You’re always ready to deal with the threats you perceive in your life that your nervous system doesn’t realize aren’t there anymore.
So it pools all its resources, borrowing from your sex hormones, for the ever-demanding supply of stress-coping chemicals you are telling it you need.
So what happens to your reproductive hormones?
They get depleted.
Your reserves get emptied.
Your system is trying to alert you with all of these reproductive symptoms that something is wrong—you don’t have the fuel to keep your hormones and organs functioning optimally.
I have the solution to that too.
Yes, it’s orgasms for the win.
Orgasms release a massive amount of oxytocin, which WIPES OUT cortisol in your system.
Floods it away.
And when you get stuck in a rut, and your new default is a nervous system wired for trauma and stress, you can reset that too with orgasms.
Nothing resets your nervous system deeper and faster than orgasms.
Especially deep vaginal orgasms, and more than any of them—cervical orgasms.
The cervix is connected to the vagus nerve, which is a major player in your autonomic and parasympathetic nervous systems, helping you to relax and self-regulate.
So women are being told to take exogenous hormones to deal with their self-inflicted hormone depletion.
But really, they can reset their bodies to do what they were always meant to do:
Glide orgasmically through menopause.
And have psychedelic and spiritually expanding periods.
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So the keys to being in your forties, fifties and beyond and feeling fuckable and un-fuckwithable are already in you.
But because so many people are so profoundly underfucked and have NEVER experienced cataclysmic, life-changing sex, they have no idea that this is the missing piece.
The cornerstone.
The master hormone.
The cure-all.
But I know.
And the legions of women—and men—who have been through my programs know.
That’s why I bring them onto the podcast—so you can hear it directly from them.
And if they can do it; you can do it.
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So come on over and join me where you can watch me shake my 50-year-old—54-year-old, actually—ass in mini skirts, bikinis and beautiful dresses.
I’ll be sharing my workout routines, my diet, plus, my overall beauty and lifestyle habits, health facts—especially related to women’s overall and reproductive health—my favourite travel destinations, hotels and inspiration for being fuckable and unfuckwithable—at any age and stage.
All of it is at @anamistyle on TikTok and @anamistyle on Instagram.
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And…join the Well-F**ked Woman Salon.
This is my 10-week online program that produces well-fucked, fuckable and unfuckwithable women.
I’ve compiled 30 years of my sexual and spiritual wisdom to give you the highest level sexual education that we all ought to have had, but did not have.
The main thrust of this salon is all the tools women need to build their orgasmic self-mastery.
We go deep into the art of surrender and come out the other side with G-Spot orgasms, squirting orgasms, throat-gasms anal-gasms, and of course, the queen of them all, cervical orgasms.
All the gasms.
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In the meantime, you can signup for my free Well-F**ked Woman video series and take the quiz: Are you underfucked?
And girl, if you have menstrual or menopausal symptoms, then I can already give you the answer to that question.
And I can also give you the remedy.
