How to Have Vaginal Orgasms: G-Spot, Cervical and More…
EVERY woman is capable of deeper vaginal orgasms.
By that, I mean the G-Spot, AFE zone, and cervical orgasms.
These deeper, vaginal orgasms are like the Loch Ness Monsters of sexuality.
Hardly anyone knows what these are, let alone how to get there.
The true pleasure and power of a woman’s sexuality, and the kinds of orgasms which change her life, are located inside the vagina.
I guarantee you that. And I guarantee you can get there.
In this episode, we explore the top reasons why women don’t get there and how you can. We’ll also speak with this week’s Well-F**ked All Star: Amanda.
Amanda went from being a woman who had no orgasms.
Ever. Not one in her entire life.
I don’t mean only vaginal, I mean not even clitoral.
She now has all the things:
Clitoral, G-Spot, cervical, squirting, energy orgasms, ear-gasms, ass-gasms.
Now, the biggest argument between she and her husband is whose going to do the laundry after she soaks all those sheets and towels with her ejaculate.
Night after night.
Because that’s a lot of laundry.
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Vaginal Orgasms Show Notes
- How many orgasms are there?
- The clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg.
- What is the difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms and why vaginal orgasms are far superior. The true pleasure and power of a woman’s sexuality, and the kinds of orgasms which change her life, are located inside the vagina.
- All of Kim’s best, most cataclysmic, sexual experiences have been in the vagina. These are the orgasms that change your life.
- Most women buy into the mistaken notion that: they are “just one of those women who can’t.” The only people who say these kinds of things are those who have never been there and have no idea how to get there. Including and especially so-called sex experts, therapists and “scientists.”
- Being able to let go, open up and surrender is the key factor to having vaginal orgasms.
Having a numb vagina is also a factor. A jade yoni egg, vaginal weight lifting practice will help you to awaken the vagina and open up its orgasmic potential.
Amanda is a graduate of Kim’s Well-F**ked Woman Salon.
Amanda went from having no orgasms at all—not ever—to then having them all: clitoral, G-Spot, cervical, squirting, energy orgasms, ear-gasms, ass-gasms. And lots of them.
In her quest for orgasmic mastery, Amanda would have sex with her partner and self-pleasure anywhere, anytime. This, despite working 50-60 hours a week and having a young child to care for. She committed and was determined to get through to the other side. And so she did.
Amanda talks about having over 30 G-Spot and squirting orgasms in a row—she stopped counting. The only reason she stopped is that she had to get to work.
Sometimes she and her husband argue—about who is going to do the laundry after their marathon sex and squirting sessions.
In this 8-week how-to-live-love-and-orgasm-in-a-female-body education you never received, you’ll learn how to:
– Achieve the deeper, life-changing, vaginal orgasms
– Channel your creative, orgasmic, sexual energy into your life and work, accessing your genius
– Master the technical skills of deep throating, anal sex and wild hand jobs and how to use these sex acts to accelerate your personal growth and transformation
– Live and love in your feminine energy, accessing an even deeper and more magnetic power than you ever thought possible
– And much more!
In this webinar we’ll cover all things WFW:
– Self-love and confidence that will get you everywhere and how to create it from your sexual energy
– Better orgasms for you and him
– Salon preview
If you can’t make it, leave your questions in the QA field and I’ll answer them on the webinar.
To view the replay, use the same link below.
Date + time: Tuesday July 30th, 5pm PST
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HOW TO HAVE VAGINAL ORGASMS
First off, let me say unequivocally, that EVERY woman is capable of deeper vaginal orgasms.
These deeper, vaginal orgasms are like the Loch Ness Monsters of sexuality.
Hardly anyone knows what these are, let alone how to get there!
I am forever coming across articles that talk about “women’s orgasms”, or rather, a woman’s orgasm.
As though there is only one.
And then I get confused.
Because I wonder, “Are they talking about clitoral orgasms? G-Spot orgasms? Anal orgasms? Ear-gasms?”
I never know.
And the authors of said articles don’t seem to know either.
Presumably, they are talking about clitoral orgasms, as these tend to be the most common female orgasm, and the one most likely to show up in a lab.
However, the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg.
The clitoris most people know and love is a tiny button on the external vulva which is full of pleasure and swells with touch.
The clitoris is part of a larger system of nerves and tissue which makes up the entire “clitoral bulb,” which wraps itself around the entryway of the vaginal canal, like a wishbone.
This is where things start to get good.
Inside the vagina.
Just like an iceberg, the external clitoris is only 10% (or less) of where female pleasure lies.
90% of the Titanic-altering power is much further inside.
I often say that the clitoris is good for a warmup, a teaser to the main event.
But make no mistake, the true pleasure and power of a woman’s sexuality, and the kinds of orgasms which change her life, are located inside the vagina.
I guarantee you that.
I use the phrase “Pandora’s Box” to describe the vagina.
A wild, mysterious cavern which houses transformative potential.
This is why so many women are lackluster about sex: they’ve only ever had clitoral orgasms.
Or someone told them that the clitoris—not the vagina itself–is the pleasure source for women.
And they believed it.
While clitoral orgasms are fun, kind of like eating a candy bar, they aren’t life-changing or life-sustaining.
They aren’t nourishing, gourmet food.
You need to go into the vagina for that.
The vagina demands that you open, surrender and fully let go to experience what it has to offer.
All of my best, most cataclysmic, sexual experiences have been in the vagina.
Afterward, I am glowing. I radiate peace, ease, love, confidence, and beauty.
The epitome of the well-fucked woman.
I feel like a new person. I am reborn.
These are the orgasms that change your life.
The reason why they elude many people, and especially laboratory analysis (though they’ve been sighted in some labs; mainly French, and not English), is because they involve far more than just technique.
In fact, I’d say that technique is less than 10% of what will take you there.
Here’s the other 90%:
1) You think you are “just one of those women who can’t.”
I’ve had women G-Spot orgasm just hours after telling them that they could.
Meaning, they’d previously bought into the untruth that “only some women can have G-Spot orgasms.”
Since they’d tried and failed before, they assumed they were in that category.
Then, they found me, and I told them that all women were able to have G-Spot orgasms (and all others).
Many of these women tried that very day. And they succeeded.
Because if you think you can, you can.
And if you think you can’t, you can’t.
Sometimes it’s that simple.
I guarantee that you can.
2) You have a hard time letting go.
The game-changing factor that separates the girls from the women (or the clitoris from the vagina) is the ability to open up, drop your guard, and surrender.
If you can’t do that, you won’t get there.
These deeper, internal orgasms call on the deeper, internal parts of you.
Your vulnerability, your authentic self—they need to be present.
You can’t hide behind a wall.
That’s why these orgasms are less likely to appear in casual sex situations.
Or, if you have unresolved issues in the space between you and your partner.
If anything is holding you back, you won’t get there.
3) Your vagina is numb.
Most women have numb vaginas.
A numb vagina is the product of some kind of dissociation.
This may be through sexual or emotional trauma, or simply by virtue of growing up in our sexually repressed and oppressed culture.
Few people make it out alive–or with feeling in their vaginas.
You have to re-cultivate it. And bring it back to life.
That’s what the Vaginal Kung Fu practice is all about: waking up the vagina and restoring sensation and feeling in it.
A jade yoni egg is the key to your queendom.
Once you have that back sensation back, your vagina can function as it’s meant to: as a source of wisdom and power.
Oh yeah, and really deep, life-changing, immensely pleasurable orgasms.
4) You have to stay the course.
These deeper orgasms involve stamina. This is why I love them.
They push you to go further than you think you can, to surrender deeper than you think you can.
And then a little bit further.
You know when you work with a trainer at the gym, or a really challenging yoga teacher? And they don’t let you hide? They don’t let you cheat?
They push you to your edge and hold you there. Until you break.
In a good way.
Apply that to sex and your orgasm.
You let go a layer. And then another layer. And another layer.
And once you’ve peeled back enough layers of yourself, you’ll find truth.
You’ll find your orgasm.
This process has saved my life over the years—having a dependable place (besides the gym, and surfing, and wherever else I can find it) I can go to break myself.
And to die.
They don’t call it “the little death” for nothing folks.
You have to earn it.
Speaking of earning it, now I want to introduce you to this week’s Well-Fucked All Star: Amanda.
Sigh. I love Amanda.
Amanda went from being a woman who had no orgasms. Ever. Not one in her entire life.
And I don’t mean not vaginal, I mean not even clitoral.
And she now has all the things.
Now, the biggest argument between she and her husband is whose going to do the laundry after she soaks all those sheets and towels with her ejaculate.
KIM: Welcome, Amanda!
AMANDA: Hi! Thank you so much for having me. In fact, I owe it to you to be here.
KIM: [Laughs] Well, let’s talk about that. You have had such an incredible orgasmic journey. So, tell us. Where were you, what happened, and where are you now?
AMANDA: I went from zero to a million [laughs] miles per hour, kind of. Basically, when I discovered your work, you described what an under-fucked woman is like and I realized that was me. And I didn’t make the connection that there was all this stuff going wrong in my relationship and just my life in general and how I was feeling. That was connected to sex.
From a really early age, I’ve always been the type of person that’s been into personal growth work. Nutrition, exercise, spirituality; I feel like I had all those other areas whole, and I thought, Why? Why am I so crazy? Why am I not wanting to have sex with my husband anymore? Why am I so mad at him and why am I mad at myself? There was just all this stuff that was happening.
And then when you described sex being that missing key, I thought, Oh my God, duh!
I listened to your work for almost a year, before I really got to a breaking point. The Well-F**ked Woman was opening up for registration at that time and I got all the emails leading up to it. Then, on my birthday, it was the very last day of registration. I said, I’m going to do it! I’m just going to register; I’m going to do it in order to see what happens. It was perfect timing.
I really felt I had gotten to rock bottom in my relationship and with how I was feeling. I thought, Okay, I think this is it.
I was really crazy at that time in my life. I was really moody and all this stuff. I think part of that is because I had never had an orgasm in my life, and I didn’t even know. I thought I had always enjoyed sex, like most couples do in the beginning of a relationship; you’re doing it all the time, whatever, multiple times a day, in the morning, at night, outside, you know, it didn’t really matter. I was like that. And I enjoyed it, but I didn’t realize that I wasn’t orgasming. It really wasn’t as good as it could have been. I wasn’t actually surrendering at all. I was mainly focusing on my husband’s pleasure and I thought I was orgasming, but I was not.
After doing the salon, I consider that to be my first really big surrender, just letting go of these preconceived notions about myself and what sex can actually do for you. I didn’t want to focus on the fact that I had never had an orgasm. Because in the interviews I had read, it just became clear to me that I hadn’t. Not even clitoral. I’m seriously talking not even clitoral orgasms, which always shocks my friends and everybody. I didn’t even know that I hadn’t had them. So crazy.
So I was a little intimidated when I started just because I thought, I want to get to this place that she’s talking about, but I don’t even know what that’s like. Instead of focusing on that, I just completely let go. I thought, This life that she talks about, that is exactly what I want. And I knew that the only way I was really going to get there was just by diving in and not thinking about my past or who I was.
KIM: The way you talk about surrender is to throw aside your old ideas, your old beliefs and take a chance that there might be another better way.
AMANDA: Completely. And I didn’t even know what that looked like. I went into it with a lot of kindness towards myself as well. I kind of made an internal pact not to expect certain results within the eight weeks, and that’s how long the salon is. I thought, If I don’t turn into Kim in eight weeks, that’s fine.
KIM: [Laughs] If you don’t join me on the vaginal weight-lifting tour …
AMANDA: Yeah. I essentially understood that this was going to be a journey and what I was not expecting at all was how quickly all of this happened. It was insane.
I also decided that it was probably more important to focus on myself. I realized that that was really where my issues lay. I never had enjoyed self-pleasuring. I didn’t know how to feel sexy on my own. It was always a show, for my husband or whatever. I didn’t even focus so much on sex with him at first, although that was, of course, part of it. But the biggest thing that I wanted to work on was being able to actually enjoy self-pleasuring. I had tried before. Sex was not a secret in my household growing up. My mom explained it to me, and it was a subject that was on the table. I had always tried. I never, ever liked it and I didn’t get why people did this. I thought I was just one of those people that doesn’t like it.
That was my first starting place, really trying to enjoy self-pleasuring. Also, at this time in my life, I had an extremely busy schedule. I was working two separate jobs sometimes. Usually between 50 and 60 hours a week. I also have a son and at the time he was two and so I totally know what it’s like to have a busy life. I get that it can seem like something that you shouldn’t prioritize or that you’re not going to have the time for. But I also knew that I couldn’t think that way if I was going to get there.
I let go of my schedule and just did stuff at all times of the day, honestly. Places, too. You talk about coffee breaks to self-pleasure; I did that at work. I spent over an hour in a car once after work. My regular time. When my son would take naps—and he took long naps—I would self-pleasure as long as he was taking a nap, essentially. Sometimes that even went to three hours.
AMANDA: Yeah. Because I really didn’t want to give up because I knew that I had a very numb, no-man’s land vagina, and I had no sensation when I started this course.
You said, in one of the early salons, that it can take a long time to feel anything. I just kept going until I felt something and the first few times that I did was maybe the first couple weeks of self-pleasuring for anywhere from at least 30 minutes up until three hours at a time. Sometimes it really didn’t feel anything and then it just started to break through. Then it got more and more and more.
In fact, I was so confused by my first clitoral orgasm that I thought it was a G-spot orgasm, because it was so intense, but then I realized that it’s really nothing compared to the other stuff.
I broke through within the first month. I broke through to my G-spot orgasms and the literal floodgates. My first breakthrough with that, I think I had seven squirting G-spot orgasms.
KIM: In your first session of squirting, you had seven different squirting—
AMANDA: Yes. Within 15 minutes. I wasn’t super-focused on them but it was every couple of minutes. I just didn’t stop. I just kept going because I took all your explanations very literally. I said, “Okay, she says they kind of feel endless and they build and plateau, so all right, I’ll just keep going and see what happens.” [Laughs]
I wanted to see where this was going to go, and then I had to stop because I had to go to work.
KIM: Right. Seven was just the beginning. You could’ve gone a lot further.
AMANDA: Yeah. And I sent my husband a picture of the results and he said, “What the hell?”
KIM: Like how you decimated the bed sheets? What do you mean?
AMANDA: Yes. I’m honestly sick of laundry. After doing work with you, laundry is the bane of my life. Too much squirting.
KIM: I’ve actually heard this from more than one person; when we manufacture a prolific squirter, laundry becomes a bit of a bone of contention within the relationship. Who’s going to do all the fucking laundry today? [Laughs]
AMANDA: Yeah, it’s a little annoying. [Laughs] I had to buy more blankets and we have towels set aside and all that.
Anyway, obviously, that was a huge breakthrough for me. I went from having felt nothing to what really felt like an infinite source of pleasure. It just kept going.
Then my very biggest record—
KIM: What was that? Did you say Guinness record? What? [Laughs]
AMANDA: Oh, not Guinness record, my record.
KIM: Sounds like you might be up there anyway. Tell me more about the pleasure and how it felt in your body and how you felt emotionally and mentally during and after.
AMANDA: When I signed up for the course it was a huge surrender. It’s just so expansive, is the best way to describe it. When you think of clitoral orgasms, I know exactly what you’re talking about, the way you describe them. They’re just a little blip on the radar, essentially.
AMANDA: Yeah, totally! It feels like a button. It’s so small, but then this orgasm felt like it just went way past my body and just continuously felt good. Clitoral ones, you’re just done after the one that you have and you’re exhausted. It feels good for a second, but whatever. But the G-spot ones, when I got in there, they just continued, and they just felt so amazing. Sometimes I would just be crying and then laughing and I just completely let myself feel whatever I was feeling. It’s really just jumping into the abyss. That’s really all it is.
Also, on a physical level, when you feel you’re about to pee—it’s not pee. Just let it happen. Just letting that happen and then the pleasure that comes afterward is ridiculous.
My record is well over 30 G-spot orgasms, squirting all over the place.
KIM: Over 30? Is that what you said?
AMANDA: Yeah. I stopped counting actually.
KIM: I bet your mind starts turning off after a while.
AMANDA: Yeah! I beat seven, I just thought, I’m just going to see how long this can go. How long can this possibly go? And it was about three hours, and the same thing. The only reason I stopped is because I had to go to work.
This was all within the eight weeks of the salon. I just got to a point where I completely surrendered, and I was really repaid for doing that. It was something I never realized was so important in sex. You always hear that. Growing up, you always hear, “Oh, you have to let go and you have to breathe during sex,” but they don’t really explain.
KIM: You heard that growing up?
KIM: I don’t know a lot of people who hear that growing up! [Laughs]
AMANDA: I read it in Cosmo as a teenager. They say it, but it’s just a blip. They really don’t go into it or what you get from doing that.
KIM: The depth of it all.
AMANDA: Or how important the emotional aspect is.
AMANDA: Yeah, totally. It’s so much deeper than people think. Speaking of the emotions behind this—I actually did not have a cervical orgasm until about five or six months after the salon ended. It had gotten a little bit frustrating because I felt I was done with my G-spot orgasms. I wanted to get to that next level. I was using different toys during intercourse, all that stuff, but I still was not getting to the cervical orgasms.
And it just had gotten a little bit frustrating. I really wanted to get there. I wanted to see what that was like. But I just kept going. I just knew eventually that if I kept on doing this work, that would come, too.
But I realized that that was a much deeper level of surrender, with my relationship and my husband. The G-spot orgasms, I feel, were a really big surrender with myself and kind of realizing my own potential to even get there. And then the next biggest surrender was definitely with my husband, for sure. When we got to a much deeper place within ourselves, that’s when I was finally able to have cervical orgasms during intercourse. It would be at least one, but a lot of times, it was more than one. It was amazing.
It really speaks to the commitment of this work. I did have a lot of rapid success, but then some of it did take a little bit more time.
KIM: I love what you’re saying because I often say that orgasms are the barometer of your level of connection and ability to let go within yourself and really open up and surrender with your partner. And when all of those things are in place, then the orgasms come. If you build it, they will come. If you let go of it, they will come.
KIM: All these physical techniques are out there on the internet, in books, and so if everyone could just apply the same physical techniques, you’d think then everyone would have these orgasms, but they’re not. The majority of the people have never had them, don’t even know what they are.
It all comes down to these other factors that are much less about the physical and much deeper, emotional, spiritual, mental, energetic connections with the self and partner. And when all of that inner work is done—it doesn’t have to be completed; you’re never over and done with the work—but once you’ve made a serious inroad into it, then you see that as the expression in the body, where it opens up to all these wilder, deeper, more transcendent levels.
AMANDA: Totally. And that’s what’s so really liberating. I feel pleasure is almost overemphasized, however amazing it obviously is. Doing this deep, internal work that you’re talking about, you’re really learning these extremely valuable life lessons and traits that expand way further into your outer life. You’re learning things like surrender, trust, self-worth, confidence, speaking your truth, all that stuff. All of that carries on into your life and you have to harness all those things and learn how to do those things to experience the orgasms. To me, they’re a gift for all that other stuff. I’m not undervaluing the pleasure at all, but I kind of appreciate what I’ve learned in my outer life, to an extent, even more than the pleasure.
KIM: Right. And I echo that sentiment. What you’re talking about is the price of admission. These deeper orgasms become these milestones in the sense that when you’ve achieved and worked through stuff in yourself and gotten to a certain place, then you get this reward for your efforts.
That’s why I’m so emphatic about the vaginal orgasms and their life-changing potential, is just what you described. The process to get there involves all of this other deeper, energetic, breakthrough work, and the benefits are massive. They spread out way beyond your soaked sheets in the bedroom, into every other aspect of your life. And they change you.
I always talk about the concept of la petite mort, the little birth, the death and rebirth that you have to go through to have these deeper vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasms, and in particular, cervical orgasms, and they are the most amazing personal growth tool for women. Once they know how to access this in themselves, it becomes one of the best things they can do to really self-realize and harness their innate power.
AMANDA: Yes. And I know what you’re talking about. You’ve mentioned how these orgasms can really change your entire week and I know exactly what you mean because when I have these, I’m in such a much calmer mood. I’m so much happier. I have way more physical energy. I feel like a much better parent. I have two kids now and am a much better partner to my husband. Before I did all this work, I was the portrait of an under-fucked woman in many ways. I just had hysteria, I guess? Just getting a little bit crazy.
And when I have these, my mood is so calm. I just feel so centered for many, many, many days. Even yesterday—we just moved into a new place and we broke it in last night in the living room and I had an amazing cervical orgasm and three G-spot orgasms and I’m feeling amazing. I was up really late and it was no problem. It really does improve life quality overall and for my husband as well. He notices the difference as well in his work life, in his relationship with me. Our communication is so much better. We feel so much more on the same page about where we’re going in life. And it used to feel like such a struggle because there were these issues that we weren’t dealing with that we didn’t realize were issues. It was taking up so much space. Once we really got the sex figured out, everything just feels so much smoother and things are falling into place without us really having to work very hard. All these things that we want, they just are happening without even really searching. The power is incredible, and it really makes me enjoy demon hunting.
You always talk about the demon hunting. I really do understand how intimidating it can feel in the beginning because depending on whatever your past is, there are some negative emotions that come up. With me, I totally have stuff come up still, even after I’ve gotten farther on this journey that I never thought that I would be on, and I’m not afraid to really look at myself. You have to look at the good parts and the bad parts of yourself and you have to learn how to improve and that’s when all this amazing stuff comes. Because I know what the reward is now and I’ve gotten that sexual piece of how I take care of myself. Life just feels so much more complete and happy and joyous.
KIM: I love all of that and how you’ve described it, which is exactly what I say, that when you focus on your intimate relationship and your sexual energy, that then becomes this turbo boost that fuels and energizes every other part of your life, to the point where you then don’t even have to work so hard on the rest of your life. You basically go in the bedroom, have amazing sex, have life-changing orgasms, and then that catapults you out of the bedroom and has this giant wave of energy and power that flows out into everything you do. Where you don’t have to stress, you don’t have to slug as hard, you don’t have to work, work, work, work.
You go inside, and you fuck, and you fuck well, and you fuck deeply and then you come out and the world is just paved in front of you.
I love hearing all about that and that you brought in the connection with your partner because I often say that when a woman is really under-fucked, she’s going to make everyone know about it, especially her partner. Even if she might be part of the reason why she’s under-fucked, her own blockages and resistance, she’s going to take it out on him primarily. Right?
And so, once the woman becomes well-fucked, everything changes. Instead of the naggy, bitchy partner that he or she had before, then she becomes this ultimate support.
KIM: She’s on his side, she’s helping out, she’s easygoing, carefree, blow jobs all over the house. She’s a very, very happy woman. [Laughs] Happy wife, happy life!
AMANDA: I was the partner I wanted to be for him because he’s my life partner. He’s an amazing father, an amazing partner to me, but both of us just really didn’t make the connection that the sex was missing. I feel most people, including myself, think just sex is going to continue to be amazing. It’s like, we liked it when we started, so we believe it’s just going to continue that way, but that’s not how it works at all.
So many emotions come into it. I didn’t realize how much more was involved and with the horrible sexual education out there, it’s really no surprise. But it’s so much more emotional than I ever thought growing up and I would definitely call it the single most important thing that I’ve ever really done for myself, really. I’m so glad that I learned it earlier on in life, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t start at any other point. It doesn’t matter when you start. It’s really just that you get there, and you stay committed.
I feel so proud that I committed as much as I did to this. Because most people, you give up on other things, exercise routines or whatever, and staying on this course just continuously evolves to give me gifts, and I can only imagine how that’s going to continue.
The other orgasms that there are that people don’t even realize—it’s not even just clitoral and G-spot and cervical. I’ve had the other ones as well, nipple orgasms and anal and energy. It’s amazing what our bodies are really capable of.
KIM: There’s a whole new universe out there, once you start to open up those doors and open up your mind and release any old beliefs and limiting ideas and stuff that’s been put on top of you by culture, society, family, religion, whatever. When you break through that, you see there’s a whole other universe out there that just keeps growing and expanding, like your orgasms.
AMANDA: Yeah. The physical infinity. Like I said, over 30 orgasms, no problem. You just really realize how much you’re capable of in your own life.
KIM: Right! The power that you have in your orgasms becomes the power you have in your whole life. One of the things I so love about your story is your level of commitment. You’re deciding, “I’m going to get there. I’m going to self-pleasure while my son is asleep. I’m going to self-pleasure in the car. I’m going to be up in the middle of the night. Won’t get much sleep tonight, but that’s all right.” Your total commitment to make it happen in the face of things that people often rationalize as being good reasons why not to. You’re super busy at work, you’re working 50-60 hours, you’re a new mother, you have a child around. All completely socially sanctioned excuses for why not to put energy into these areas and you just said, “Whatever, I’m getting there!” And you did it.
And that’s why I really wanted to talk to you and have you share that with people because that’s a huge part of it.
AMANDA: People need to stop using sleep as an excuse. So many times, my husband and I say, “Oh my God, we’re so tired and do we really want to do this?” And then we start and then the energy comes almost right away, because again, once you open all of that up, your energy just immediately raises, and you don’t need to sleep as much. We really don’t.
I only probably get five to six hours of sleep and I feel so energetic. I have two kids now, obviously a relationship, household, job, all that stuff. It’s another part of nutrition, essentially, so, that’s another excuse that people need to stop using.
KIM: Right, right. It’s your daily bread. Well, your gluten free; it’s better than bread. Your daily superfood.
KIM: Fantastic. Well, we’ve covered a lot. Is there anything else that you’d like to add?
AMANDA: Gosh, not really. Again, it just really is the commitment. I know that I did see really rapid growth that I was not expecting, so I think the first part is really to let go of your expectations and if it does take more time than you think it will, that’s fine. It doesn’t mean you should stop. Just give yourself a little bit more time than you think. Because again, if you’ve lived on clitoral orgasms, the other ones do take a little bit more time and that’s fine. It really is worth it. Just give in to whatever emotions you’re feeling, take as much time as you need, even if it takes months. For me, the cervical orgasms did take a lot more time than I was expecting, but I just kept with it and it happened. And now it’s nothing to get there, so I did it!
KIM: One more thing. What about demon hunting? What does that mean to you? I know I talk about it—that’s a phrase you’re using from my work—but how would you define that for you and your journey?
AMANDA: There are things that you kind of give up on in life sometimes. Obviously, it does not make you feel great and you think, “Oh my God, am I really going to try this new thing? This new thing that’s supposedly going to work?”
I’m sure it’s different for everybody. It really does depend on your own individual journey and what’s holding you back from having these orgasms. But just as these emotions come up, I feel you’re going to face some things about yourself that you’re not really proud of. That’s really what it was for me. You’ll be faced with parts of yourself that you’re not necessarily proud of and you’ll get past that to get to this amazing pleasure.
KIM: Thank you, Amanda, that was amazing. I really appreciate you being willing to share your story and be a beacon and inspiration for other women to know what’s possible for them, even coming from a place starting with not having any orgasms and then becoming this orgasmic all-star. So, thank you!
AMANDA: Thank you. I couldn’t have gotten there without your description of how it all works. So, thank you so much.
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