5 Tips for a Magnetic Feminine Aura TRANSCRIPT
What’s the milkshake that brings all the boys to the yard? How can you draw good things to you in your life?
The idea of charisma, charm, magnetism, and a je ne sais quoi quality is nothing new. In Anami Land, we call it the Well-F**ked Glow. It’s a tangible quality certain people emanate that makes them irresistible, so others are like moths drawn to the flame. Like the Axe commercials of old, with thousands of women scrambling over top of each other to reach the covetable man.
In our Well-F**ked All Star adventures, we hear of men crossing eight lanes of traffic to ask a woman for her number or creating websites just to ask them on dates. Yes. All true stories.
So what is this uber-attractive quality, and how do you get it? Are you born with it, or can you cultivate it?
It’s definitely something that you can create within yourself, but it’s not any kind of eight-step beauty routine or gua sha secret or hair serum formula. Nah. [Laughs] It comes from within. Deep within. Vagina deep.
Here are 5 keys to creating irresistibility
5 Tips for a Magnetic Feminine Aura #1: Deep vaginal orgasms.
The woman who lives on a steady diet of deep vaginal orgasms is already in a class of her own. The self-knowledge, the self-possession, and the level of feminine opening and surrender required to have these experiences are something you earn. They aren’t for the faint of heart, and they aren’t busted out in a one-and-done, let’s-jerk-off-to-some-porn-to-put-ourselves-to-sleep session. Nah. [Laughs]
These orgasms are hard to come by because they demand that the deepest parts of you surrender, open, and let go. The journey to get there is wild and tempestuous. The end results are what you wear on your face, your body, and your entire aura.
You become a woman who knows herself and her vagina and has crossed into the underworld, lived to tell the tale, and come back not only unscathed—well, maybe scathed, but in the best possible ways. Your insecurities are burned away. Your fears and anxieties of being too much evaporate. Your self-love skyrockets. You know yourself, and you let yourself be known.
Through all of that, you emerge out of the flames like the dragon queen herself, unfazed. There is no greater magnetism. People feel it in you.
The biochemical payout of these deeper orgasms rejuvenates you like nothing else. Massive doses of oxytocin, estrogen, dopamine, and of course, pheromones, are the best perfume ever: Eau de Well-F**ked Woman. You become a walking Venus flytrap.
All these hormones and neurotransmitters and the deep release that accompanies them put you into a relaxed, easy, flowing, heart-opened space. You’ve boosted your mood, your cognitive and intuitive abilities, and synchronized your heart space to the divine flow.
We go deep into all these vaginal orgasms in the Well-F**ked Woman Salon and Sexual Mastery for Men.
5 Tips for a Magnetic Feminine Aura #2: Regular solo and/or partnered sex dates.
In Anami Land, the big barometric question I always ask is: Does sex leave you feeling energized, rejuvenated, euphoric, transformed, and like it changed your life? If not, then you’re doing it wrong. You can self-pleasure and have sex in a way that either energizes or depletes you.
Most people have sex or masturbate just for stress relief, or to use as a sleep aid, with the hope of literally passing out afterward.
In Anami Land, I show you how to harness your sexual energy to use as a procreative power to shape your life. By learning to cultivate this energy, you can use it to revitalize yourself, your emotions, your body, and your creative projects out in the world.
The more you rev up your sexual engine and inhabit your sexual self, the more you move, talk, and occupy your body differently. You wear this energy as a radiance and a vitality that’s palpable to everyone you come into contact with. It becomes, “Did you do something different? You seem different.”
We have countless stories of women who, after having a great night of loving, either by themselves or with a partner, run errands or pump gas in their schlepiest sweatpants and flip-flops, and they get hit on left, right, and center.
In our episode “Squirting to Manifest Your Life” from a few weeks ago, our epic Well-F**ked All Star, Tia, shared her constant experiences of men hitting on her.
People can smell and feel a Well-F**ked Woman, and it’s the most attractive thing going. There is no store-bought perfume, no six-step skin care routine, no amount of jawline filler or liposuctioned stomach that can take the place of a woman who knows and owns all of herself. By all, I mean, especially her sexual self.
For most people, their sexuality is their ultimate shadow and source of shame. They’re separated from this part of themselves, and this translates as fear and anxiety, as a “Don’t come close; I can’t even get close to myself” message that they put out into the ethers.
Contrast that with the “I know and love every inch of myself, every dark and shadowy corner, vaginal parts included, and no one holds power over me or these parts of me because I own them.” That kind of energy comes off as a truthfulness, an authenticity, a confidence, and beauty because these parts of us are our ultimate source of connection to the divine life force, procreative power of the universe. If you know how to access this energy, you are literally channeling the vibration of a self-realized and fearless god or goddess. Those who can touch the other realms know how to find their way back and also leave others there. Like following the Pied Piper.
5 Tips for a Magnetic Feminine Aura #3: A jade yoni egg.
The ultimate know thyself is to know thy vagina. So many women are disconnected from their vaginas, so they feel like a black hole of numbness. They get to the point where they can take it or leave it when it comes to sex, and they think they have low or no libido.
If your vagina is numb, why would you want to have sex with it? What’s the point? When you wake up your vagina with a jade egg and a vaginal weightlifting practice, you increase your sensation, pleasure, strength, and vaginal orgasm potential. And you awaken your vagina’s capacity as an organ of receptivity.
All of your reproductive organs have physical and metaphysical qualities. Your vagina and your uterus are all about receiving and nurturing new life. When you turn them on, they work for you on multiple levels. Yes, your vagina will now be a major pleasure center and orgasm generator in your life.
Once you resensitize your vagina, all touch feels delicious and you now have the deeper, life-changing vaginal orgasms. And this will also help you to tune into and activate your archetypal feminine energy of drawing in and magnetizing.
You can learn how to master the jade yoni egg in my Vaginal Kung Fu Salon, which runs in February, or use our Yoni Egg Kit + Salonette in the Anami Alchemia Online Shop. You can purchase them anytime.
5 Tips for a Magnetic Feminine Aura #4: Cultivate your feminine magnetism by not giving a fuck and becoming un-fuck-with-able.
When you give all your fucks to yourself and your partner, you have no fucks left to give about what other people think of you or what their own underfuckedness wants to project onto you.
This is extreme confidence. A woman not afraid to inhabit and radiate her own beauty is not afraid of the judgment of other women or men. She’s not afraid of too much male attention that she might not know how to deal with. She is impervious to other people’s projections upon her.
Because you touch it yourself all the time.
One of the hallmarks of coming into yourself as a Well-F**ked Woman—and when I know a woman has really crossed the threshold into WFW territory—is when she no longer gives a shit what anyone thinks of her. She isn’t trying not to give a shit; she just doesn’t give a shit. The energy of unflappability, of deeply, unapologetically, and shamelessly owning every inch of who you are is massively attractive.
You become more forthright and truthful. You can laugh at yourself because you’re no longer paralyzed by insecurities or the lens of other people’s approval. Who gives a shit?
Your guiding compass is now your vagina, your pleasure, and your own truth. That is all that matters, and that is all you need to be loyal to. And everybody wants that deep down; they do. They just don’t have the courage to live that way.
That’s what being a Well-F**ked Woman gives you: the freedom to be your full, wild self. You rise above and beyond people who are still trapped by the opinions of others, and you become the person they all want to emulate because being this fearless is so rare—and it’s seductive as fuck.
A few weeks ago, we had an episode called “60, Rich, and Ass-F**ked Across Alabama,” and our All Star in that episode exemplifies this quality of extreme courage and confidence. This 60-year-old woman—she’s 61 now—just left her marriage of 40 years and is now having the best sex of her life. She is one of my favorite All Stars. So much bravery in that episode, and she’s hilarious as fuck.
5 Tips for a Magnetic Feminine Aura #5. Own, love, and live from your feminine energy.
In a world full of programming that encourages gender neutrality, I am all about celebrating our archetypal differences. Extreme feminine and extreme masculine? Sign me up.
If we look at the archetypal qualities of feminine energy as softness, flow, receptivity, cultivating, and appreciating beauty, you can learn to create your world by deeply occupying these places within yourself as a woman.
Meaning you realize that to get things done in the world, you don’t need to slog your ass off and thrust yourself into adrenal fatigue in the process. Nope.
You just need to go and fuck yourself. And really, the more well-fucked you are, the more naturally you slide into this energy of openness, flow, and receptivity. You begin to trust the universe at large and trust yourself that you are supported and taken care of.
Instead of forcing things to happen in the world, you learn to read the signs, follow your own intuition, and trust where it guides you. I’m telling you, it’s not going to guide you into working your ass off and driving yourself into burnout. It’s going to lead you down pathways that are an extension of your deepest self and truth and allow you to fulfill your destiny and dharma in the world from a place of ease and grace.
Instead of working your ass off and going against the grain, you do everything you can to line yourself up with the flow. You now live from a center within yourself that draws things to you from this divine energy flow. You begin to create your world from this place of innate knowing, and that spaciousness leaves room for you to magnetize in people and opportunities into your life.
The yang fills up the space created by the yin. We hear this all the time from our Well-F**ked All Stars. They magically attract bucketloads of cash, men, and jobs without doing anything different. The only fingers they lift are the ones that go inside their vaginas. Money is now falling into their laps because their laps attract it.
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