Single Clitaholic to Cervical Orgasm Superstar – Transcript
Single clitaholic to cervical superstar. I’ve been speaking a lot in the last few episodes on the notion of self-healing and finding the answers to your health issues through your own inner guidance and via your vagina.
In today’s episode, Lucia shares how she did all that and also found something else in her vagina: God.
Your vagina is your biggest power tool, growth accelerator, and healer for everything in your life, and, of course, it’s a deep pleasure and orgasm giver.
In the past weeks, we’ve talked about using your vagina to illuminate and alchemize trauma, to physically heal yourself, and now we’re talking about accessing your highest spiritual energy and God.
The way Lucia describes finding God inside her vagina would inspire the most mystical of poets. She also talks about making the shift from being clit-centric her whole life to now exploring deep inside her vagina.
People talk about being “cliterate.” Well, once you discover your cervix and everything that’s available there, it’s like downloading the entire compendium of the Rosetta Stone and having access to every language, everywhere, simultaneously. You’ve even gone beyond language. You don’t need it anymore because you’ve entered into the pure, spiritual realm of knowing.
Knowing yourself, knowing the answers to life’s questions and challenges. This is crown chakra territory.
The cervix is where Lucia and many other women, including me, have found God. God does not hang out in the clitoris. Nah. The clitoris is for girls and amateurs and sexually inexperienced and under-f**ked so-called sex experts and doctors. It’s child’s play.
Women f**k in the vagina and orgasm via the cervix. This is the zone of self-mastery and God realization. The price of admission is vigorous and wild self-exploration. Courage. Being willing to go deep and dive into the abyss.
Just like any profound spiritual journey, it demands that all of you show up. You can’t superficial your way through it. You either show up in your entirety or go home, back to the clitoris.
Not only does Lucia use her cervical orgasms to access God, but she’s done it all as a single person. People often ask me if they need to be partnered to go on this journey of sensual exploration. Absolutely not. In fact, being single, unless you have a very switched-on and connected partner, will get you there faster because you aren’t negotiating and adapting to another person’s energy and karma, especially if they have resistance.
If you do have a conscious and willing partner, then you will move even faster, it’s true. In the meantime, you can reach places of ultra-high-level mastery on your own.
And if you want to attract a worthy partner, you’ll need to uplevel yourself. If you don’t do that through these kinds of practices, you will simply be attracting at the same level as your past patterns.
Instead, you can use this work and play to elevate beyond them and attract above them.
***Single Clitaholic to Cervical Orgasm Superstar All-Star Interview***
KIM: All right, Lucia. I am so excited to have you here. You’re already glowing! You’ve got such a well-f**ked glow just jumping off the screen at me.
LUCIA: Oh, thank you, Kim. It’s an honor to be here. Thank you.
KIM: So you have a lot of amazing anecdotes and insights to share. Tell us where you were when you came into this work and where you are now.
A Former Clit-aholic
LUCIA: Since I was a kid, I have loved pleasure. At 13, I discovered my clit, and I became a clit-aholic.
KIM: What’s a clit-aholic? I think people are getting more educated about that— certainly in the salons, this is Anami vocabulary—but for the general public, what does that mean?
LUCIA: A clit-aholic is someone like me, who focused strictly on clit stimulation and clit orgasms. I could have up to 13 a day, no problem. I would rev them up everywhere and anywhere that I could.
I knew that there were deeper orgasms to be had vaginally, but I had never experienced them, nor did I know how to have them.
KIM: So you heard about them? Like maybe you heard of a G-spot or something, but you just didn’t know how to get there, and you stuck with the clitoris?
LUCIA: Correct. In my early twenties, I was introduced to porn by a previous boyfriend and this porn star. I would hear interviews from her, and she would talk about how she was able to have these vaginal orgasms.
No one around me was having these conversations, let alone did I know how to do these things, so she was like my North Star. It was like, if she can have them, I can have them. Like, what, I was born with a broken pussy? I didn’t accept this.
I went on a quest of finding out, and everybody had the same BS of scientists saying, “Oh, a woman can only have clitoral orgasms; that’s why it has a thousand million nerves.” I said, “No, no, no, no. Because if she can have them, I can have them.”
So I just kept sticking to that, and then I was introduced to you. All of a sudden your name just kept popping up, and I said, “Hey, let’s go.”
I came into your work because I wanted to have these deeper vaginal orgasms that I knew this porn star was having and that I knew were possible. And you put your stamp of guarantee out there, and I said, “Okay, let’s go.”
I started to do VKF at the beginning of this year.
KIM: Let me explain in case anyone’s new to the podcast. The guarantee is the Anami guarantee, which states that all women, all orgasms, every woman can. Out in the public, there can be this idea that some women can have these, some women can’t, and don’t worry about it if you can’t. But I say, “No, no, no, no. One hundred percent, every single woman can have these. I guarantee it.” If they haven’t yet, they haven’t found the right tools to open themselves up and unlock these experiences, but it’s a guarantee that everyone can have them.
LUCIA: And you follow through with that guarantee.
KIM: [Laughs] And how, apparently!
LUCIA: I give my stamp of approval! [Laughs] This guarantee, it does work.
KIM: So you signed up for VKF?
LUCIA: Yes. And that was the beginning of my journey. Then VKF ended and I said, “What’s next?” And Well-F**ked Woman came up and that was a no-brainer. I didn’t have to think twice about it because now I had entered Anami Land, and I don’t know how to not live in Anami Land now.
Doing the groundwork of VKF, I was able to take that immediately into Well-F**ked Woman. Every week I had a spreadsheet of what I had to do, and I stuck to it 98% of the time, because obviously there were some days that I wasn’t really up for it.
And I stuck to it. My whole social life, everybody in my life knew that I was dedicated to this work, so I would decline invitations because everyone knew I was in Anami Land.
Forgoing Dinner Invitations for Self-Pleasuring
KIM: Let’s hear this. You would get invited to a dinner party, and you would say, “Thank you, no, I can’t. I’m staying home to play with my vagina”?
LUCIA: Absolutely.
KIM: Got it.
LUCIA: My massage therapist knew. Because I was doing this work and because I am solo, I was putting in a minimum of an hour to two hours a day of self-pleasure or yoni massage. I was in bed for at least one or two hours a day, and my body just needed more work. And even my bodyworker knew. She had to work more on my right side because that is my self-pleasuring arm.
KIM: Had to keep you in shape.
LUCIA: Yeah!
KIM: You had buildup, so she had to … [Laughs]
LUCIA: And she knew, but it was also good because as things would come up in my self-pleasuring practices, I was able to go get a massage. And because she knew the journey that I was on, she was able to also work these things out in my body as well. It wasn’t just like I was attacking this in bed. I was attacking it in every single aspect of my life.
Talk about an ultimate double penetration. Going and doing therapy and then talking about whatever I was discovering in therapy, taking it to bed, alchemizing that, and then vice versa, because sometimes things that I was discovering were in my self-pleasuring practices. I would go back to my therapist and say, “Hey, we need to dive in deeper into this,” and then alchemize as well. It just became this constant back and forth of work.
KIM: That’s amazing. I talk so much about how our sexual energy really is this springboard and alchemizer, and it accelerates and quantum leaps our spiritual growth like nothing else. Any modality pales in comparison, from psychedelics to breathwork and nervous-system resetting. All have their merits, but nothing holds a candle to sexual work.
I mean, the therapies that you were doing are amazing adjuncts to this work, but I love that you were conscious about using both, springboarding back and forth for alchemy. The ultimate, highest-level alchemy.
LUCIA: Yes, absolutely, and I completely agree. An orgasm has been the greatest alchemizer of my life, and I feel like my whole life, I’ve been building what I call my orchestra. My meditation practices, my workouts, my diet—all these things feed into my well-being. But I was missing my conductor. You helped me discover my pussy as the conductor of my life, so there’s this whole symphony where everything is working together in the most beautiful way.
KIM: That’s beautiful. I loved hearing about how your relationship to God deepened through your pussy. What does that mean? What does that mean to you?
Because my favorite things are God and sex, sexuality and spirituality. But for so many people, these are polarized; they struggle and have a lot of shame. But you’re saying through this work, you really came to that union, so I’d love to hear more about that.
LUCIA: Yeah. It’s interesting because I was listening to Nine Inch Nails “Closer” recently. I said, “Oh yeah, it’s like this is what they’re talking about.”
KIM: What lyrics in particular?
LUCIA: When he says, “You bring me closer to God,” he’s talking about wanting to f**k, right? I said, “I get it. Sex brings me closer to God.”
I’ve always had a connection to spirit, source, God, but not to what it is right now—okay, let me go back. The first day that I had my cervical orgasm, I just kept replaying all the things that you told us during the course. “You need to surrender. Surrender yourself to God, and if you trust that God has you and that you’ve got yourself, that’s part of the equation.” So I was repeating these things over and over again to myself.
I was literally on my knees, because that’s the best position for me to be able to reach my cervix. It’s also how I now pray. I was in there, with your beautiful glass dildo, probing.
KIM: Which dildo do you prefer? Do you have a favourite?
LUCIA: Akasha.
KIM: Akasha, okay.
LUCIA: Yeah. It’s my one-size-fits-all.
KIM: Yeah.
LUCIA: By then, I’d done so much more work. As I was probing, things started coming up to the surface. As they were coming up to the surface, initially, I said, “No, I’m trying to self-pleasure. I don’t want to be thinking about these other things, like a conversation that I need to have with this person or this pain that I’m feeling.” And I found myself pushing those things away.
Then I had this shift. “No, no, no, bring them up. Bring them up to the altar because these things need to be sacrificed.”
And so I allowed these things to come up, and I was sitting there with these painful emotions, blocks, ya-da, ya-da, ya-da. And then I started talking to myself and surrendering to God and saying, “I don’t want this.” And I started speaking to the things that I wanted.
I took the things that I no longer wanted and started shifting and talking to myself in the way that I did want to live my life and embody and heal myself. And then I started praying. I was talking to God, saying all these beautiful things while also asking God to move through me, while also knowing that God is in me, because I am a manifestation of God.
And as I was doing this, I felt my pussy throbbing. I said, “Okay, we’re going somewhere.” [Laughs] I just kept talking about these things and talking about these things, and—boom—cervical orgasm happened. That was the first time where I said, “Oh f**k. There is no greater confirmation to me that I’m aligning with source and an orgasm.”
KIM: That was so beautiful how you described that. I was watching you finding the words to describe something that you’re doing viscerally. Like in your body instinctively. You described that so well. Yeah.
I love this idea that this is combining and creating this knowledge that you are that energy. You are that source energy. You are God. And this is one of the most magical ways to bring that energy through us, which is so, so, so ironic, when so much of the conditioning around sex and religion is trying to tell people the opposite, bizarrely.
LUCIA: Yeah. No, it’s there. And I feel it. Then I carry that out into the world. Now, there’s a reason why it’s called a yoni, because it is a temple. It is a place of worship for me now. I see myself as the altar, and so anytime I’m in a self-pleasure practice and things come up, I allow them to come up to the surface. And then I put them on the altar for a sacrifice to be transformed into the consciousness that I want to be aligned with. Then I carry myself, the altar, out into the world, and that is my offering into life.
Then I see it in the way that I carry myself, the way I interact with people, the people that are coming into my life now. Everything has changed in such a short period of time and I’m vibrating. I’m in this perpetual simmer of ecstatic bliss. You’ve spoken to this during the course as well. “You don’t need Ecstasy; you need orgasms.”
Not only after my cervical orgasms am I literally rolling around my bed thinking, “My God, I love you, I love you,” as if I was on drugs, but now I’m able to live my life in a microdose version of this all day.
There are times during the day where I touch myself, going into this overwhelming state of being, where I’m saying, “Oh my god, I think I’m just going to orgasm from life,” because everything feels so f**king good and overwhelmingly beautiful. I’m making love to life, and life is making love to me, and I’m just f**king it all. It’s still new to me, and it can be scary, so I have to stop myself. I’ll be driving, and I’ll pull over and say, “Okay, you’re okay, you’re okay. You are allowed to feel this way, and it’s okay.” It’s a whole new world that I’m existing in. And I love it. [Laughs]
KIM: What are some examples of concrete things that you can say have shifted for you? Like you mentioned, for example, not caring what other people think of you and making decisions faster and with more clarity. What are some other very precise ways that you’ve seen these changes take place in your outer life?
LUCIA: Well, it started with falling in love with myself. That was as concrete as it got. I’m at the point where I’m so in love with myself, which wasn’t the case at the beginning of this year, that I don’t care how I’m perceived anymore.
And I used to have a sense of “I don’t care,” but now it really comes from, “I don’t care.” And yes, of course, if I say something that I think is out of line, then I will go talk to someone and apologize for it. There was an issue with someone in my life, and it was threatening to this person, and I said, “If my sexuality is threatening to you, that’s your problem.” I mean, that’s a tale as old as time, a female threatening society. [Laughs] F**k that. I am a walking, talking, blissful woman, and if you don’t like that, I don’t care.
Same thing if I’m driving and someone gets upset at me—I don’t like driving—but if I do something on the road and someone gives me the finger or whatever, I just say, “F**k off.” But I mean it in the nicest way. “Go f**k yourself, because you’re obviously angry at life.” And these are just ways that I have seen how I’m carrying myself so much more differently and reacting to the world in such a different way than I used to, even a year ago.
Actually, here’s an example. I was on a recent trip to Mexico with my mom, and I had a list of things I wanted to buy. As we were walking through these streets, I would just get the sense of, “Walk into this store,” so we would just walk in, and immediately I would see what I wanted.
It was the synchronicities that were happening, and I was in total flow. And that’s when it really became concrete all this work that I’ve been doing and how it’s affected my life and how I’m being navigated into these situations. I can make decisions so much quicker. I think, “Yes, I’ll take that,” and if there’s any hesitation, it’s a no. Because my pussy has taught me that if it’s not a “F**k, yes,” it’s a no. Period. That’s just how I live my life now and it’s amazing.
KIM: It is amazing. This is incredible, everything that you’re sharing. I love it. So tell me more. You did the salon as a solo person, and you went from having a fixation on the clitoris and porn to releasing those and then going into the realm of cervical orgasms. You said that you were the most well-f**ked you’ve ever been.
Tell me a bit about that, because some people come to this work and say, “Oh, well, you need a partner to do this. Or am I only going to get so far without a partner?” Of course, I always say that, yes, you’ll go further and deeper with a partner, but you can get huge results and changes on your own solo. Sure, one plus one equals two, so you’re going to magnify that power with a partner who is participating.
But in a way, if you want to create a new partnership that’s at a higher level, you have to do this work because you have to alchemize yourself into a higher frequency and vibration to then attract a higher-caliber partner, so it becomes essential work.
But tell us a bit about committing to doing the work as a single person and then still getting to these really incredible places on your own.
LUCIA: I trusted you when you said these things when we first started this course. And I said, “Okay, well, if Kim says I can do this solo, then I will do this solo, because this woman guarantees her work.” And I am so grateful that I was able to do this work solo because it really allowed me to discover myself on my own and not have to have anybody else witnessing it, which may have kept me from going to the places I took myself to.
Because I was doing this on my own, I could spend even more time having these blocks come up in bed when it was uncomfortable and working through them on my own, which then built a trust of, “Oh, I’ve truly got myself.” I have now built this really strong foundation in trust with myself and God, and now that person is going to be part of a throuple, essentially.
That has been so important to me, and I’m incredibly grateful that I have been able to do this without anybody else. Because I’ve been able to do this on my own and alchemize all these things, everything now has become so clear. It’s almost like I can see my life just happening. Almost like everything has become clear in front of me. Now, because of that, it has become so clear about who I am and the type of man I require to be with me. Prior to this, that wasn’t the case.
Now, because I know myself so well, I’m not going to accept anything but what I want, which is to be able to live this life that I want to live.
KIM: That’s the ultimate place to go into the world of—well, if you want to call it dating or exploration—with that solid self-knowledge and confidence. And this works, this doesn’t work. Using that yoni GPS that you’re talking about—oh, that’s funny. [Holding up a bottle.] Look, we’ve got the same thing.
LUCIA: Cheers! [Holding up a bottle.] [Laughs]
If It’s Not a F**k Yes, It’s a No
KIM: [Laughs] We’re both toasting our bottles of mountain spring water together, on opposite sides of the screen.
But you get that sense of, “I can take it or leave it. I don’t need to settle here.” I’m clear if it’s a “F**k, yes,” and if it’s not a “F**k, yes,” it’s a no, so I move on, and it’s easy to do that without feeling like you have to linger and settle and compromise where that isn’t in your highest interest.
LUCIA: Absolutely. I do miss having cock, because I love cock, but because I’ve been able to experience these orgasms for the first time on my own, I’m good. I can do this. I can do this all day, every day. I can keep f**king myself into oblivion without a man, although I do want one, obviously, but I don’t need that.
I’m not out here in the dating world like a horny dog in heat, trying to get dicked down, so that has been really good, where I know, “I’ve got myself.” Yeah, it’d be nice to have a man because my body is sore from how much I’m f**king myself. But it is a take it or leave it.
KIM: Yeah, yeah. Is there anything else that you’d like to share?
LUCIA: I am incredibly, absolutely grateful for you, Kim. Your work and my dedication to your work have changed my life, and I’m honored to be a student of yours, to be alive in a time where you’re alive. And if this is where I’m at right now, in such a short period of time, I am so excited for my life to come because this is just the beginning of this new version of myself. It’s overwhelming in the most beautiful way. I’m so grateful for everything that you have done to teach us how to connect with ourselves. We could spend hours just talking about what you teach us.
This has been the most important work of my life, and I feel unstoppable now. I feel in my power, and I feel so grateful and honored to be a woman in a time where people are freaking the f**k out about being a woman. I couldn’t be happier to be one and to take all the power back to myself and to be an offering to this world of what a Well-F**ked Woman can look like. Thank you.
KIM: Well, it’s my pleasure and honor to have been on this journey with you. I have to say, your beauty and your effervescence are palpable. They shoot across the screen and out into the ethers. You’re so lovely and gorgeous and stunning, and it’s just oozing. All your well-f**ked beauty is oozing out of you.
LUCIA: It feels delicious. Thank you.
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