TRANSCRIPT: A Tsunami of Lubrication
It’s an Anami Tsunami!
There’s so much TALK about the NEW NORMAL these days.
There ought to be a New Normal.
Getting wet hearing your lover’s voice.
Having wetness of tsunamic proportions well into your 50s, 60s and 70s.
Yes. This is the new normal.
Gushing with wetness and excitement.
If you’ve followed my work for any length of time, you know that one of my cardinal rules is: No Lube for Women.
In my work as a holistic sex and relationship coach, my goal is to reconnect people to the INNATE power and pleasure of their bodies.
The underlying belief here is that I believe that all people are capable of reaching astronomical, orgasmic places.
These feats are not just reserved for a select few.
They are the domain of EVERY human.
The Anami Guarantee is that ALL PEOPLE CAN.
Yes. All women, at whatever stage of their lives, are capable to producing their own natural lubrication.
All of them.
Yep, even a woman who is pregnant, or just had a baby, or is menopausal or post-menopausal.
All of them.
The governing belief of the allopathic approach—which would and does happily dispense artificial lubrication and touts it as “a girl’s best friend”—is that women’s bodies’ are inherently damaged and non-functional.
And praise be, it’s only the “expert” hand and prescription pad of the priest-like doctor—who is the intermediary between you and your body, just as the priest mediates between you and God—who can solve your problems.
You, little girl. Just. Aren’t. Capable.
In my work, I look at the body—and encourage everyone studying my work to—as a message giver.
If it is giving us a message of less than optimal functioning, let’s ask why?
What is the body or the psyche trying to tell us, via the body?
For women, lubrication is all about flow.
How much “flow” do you have in your life?
Do you “go with the flow”?
Are you open to the “flow of life”?
Or do you try and interfere and control the flow incessantly?
Do you live your life in trust? Or in fear and defensiveness?
All of that will reflect in your body, your vagina, and the state of your lubrication.
Apart from this overarching idea of flow, there are two main components to wetness:
For the emotional piece, it’s all about connection.
How connected are you to your body, your vagina, yourself, and your partner?
Because the idea of being in tune with and honouring the body is so minimized, and totally discouraged and denied by the medical establishment, no one EVER considers that there MIGHT be a relationship between all of these things, and the responsiveness of a woman’s vagina.
One of the common examples of this I give, is let’s say a woman has an argument with her partner at breakfast.
The day goes on and they don’t fully resolve the issue. There are still unspoken thoughts, ideas, feelings and tension.
These don’t disappear. Even though we might try and sweep them under the rug.
They will always show up in our beds and in our bodies.
So, even with all of this debris hanging in the ethers, the couple tries to ignore it and have sex that night.
There’s a VERY good chance that she won’t be wet. He may not be as hard or may come very quickly. She probably won’t come at all.
Our bodies are barometers.
We’ve been so conditioned to dissociate our mind and emotions from our bodily signals, that most people simply won’t see these relationships.
Until I tell them to look.
They’ll just start to rationalize and internalize all the bullshit that Western medicine tries to pawn on us, like “Oh, I guess it’s just because you are a woman d’un certain age,” or
because it’s the month of February or whatever external reason they give, as to why you can’t have power and control over your own body.
Because remember. If you have nothing to do with the cause, you can’t find your own solution.
I spoke heavily about the concept of power and responsibility in last weeks’ kickoff podcast episode on New World Or-Gasm. The Laws of Cause and Effect.
Who is in control? Who are you letting be in control of you? Do you believe you have dominion over your own body?
So the bigger, better, wetter questions to be asking are:
How connected are you to your own body? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Are you shy about being naked or about people seeing certain body parts of yours?
How connected are you to your sexual self?
Are you dissociated? Most people are!!
It’s nearly impossible to come through this culture we live in and not have some kind of sexual wounding or false beliefs absorbed.
How connected are you to your vagina? Most vaginas are numb. Because they’ve never been properly exercised or even pleasured. And they have rarely experienced the plethora internal, vaginal, life-changing orgasms available to them.
How connected are you to your partner? As with the example I gave earlier, if there is any kind of residue in the space between you, it will show up in bed and in your body.
I guarantee it.
The FLOW in your life and relationship is cultivated via an ongoing process of feng shui: clearing out the old and the “not useful anymore” and optimizing the space for the most free movement and expression of energy.
All of my salons address these issues: how to quantum leap this inner excavation and illumination and most quickly get to the state of uber-high-functioning.
The land and reality of multi, vaginally orgasmic women with oceans of lube and ejaculate.
Yes, this can be your New Normal.
It is the new normal for Becah, who is today’s WF all star. We’ll be speaking with her shortly.
First though, let’s talk about any possible physical reasons for not lubricating naturally.
This will be fast, because there are only two.
I know you are probably thinking, oh yeah, hormones, and babies and menopause.
Nope. None of those things.
The only PHYSICAL reasons for not being wet, wet, wet, wetter than wet, are:
1) Not being turned on and
2) Having a weak vagina.
For this first one, can you imagine that? If wetness is the sign of turn on, and a woman isn’t wet, might it be that she’s actually not turned on?
Couldn’t be any relationship there!
Obviously, I’m being as facetious as can be.
But this is actually the logic most women are given by medical doctors.
Your sign of being aroused has nothing to do with you being aroused?
Um yeah. Those dumbfucks are an embarrassment to themselves.
When a woman is turned on, she’s wet!
YOU ARE KIDDING ME!!! REALLY???!??!?!?
Wow. What an amazing thought!
Let’s say we indulge this crazy line of thinking.
Perhaps a woman just isn’t turned on.
A major part of the problem, is that women have had this bred into them for millennia , that they ought to override their bodies, disregard their own lack of desire, and simply accommodate.
Instead of listening to their vaginas.
Does she need more foreplay? Most oral stimulation? Her breasts played with? A yoni massage a week for the next six weeks?
If she’s turned on, and she wants you inside her, and all of the other space is clear between you, she’ll be wet.
Wet as a tsunami.
But wait. There’s more!
There is one other physical factor; and that is: having a numb vagina.
THE most important physical factor determining your lubrication is NOT hormones. No, we do not worship the false god of hormones here, or the ideology that tells you that the you are the effect in your life, rather than cause.
Here, we play at the altar of self-responsibility.
If you created it, you can change it.
The biggest physical impact you can have on increasing your lubrication to “tsunamic proportions” is using a jade egg.
Circulation = lubrication.
Most women have never exercised their genitals.
For years, they have been given the poor, useless, diluted, useless Kegel exercise and recipe for future surgery— from a underfucked and sexually inexperienced OBGYNs.
Which is the majority of them.
Often though, they are just advised to have surgery.
That’s like going to a doctor and instead of them recommending healthy eating and regular exercise, they just send you straight to surgery.
That is exactly what happens.
Anyway, enough of the quack talk. Let’s talk about REAL solutions.
Until a few years ago, when my me and my vagina began travelling around the world, lifting objects indigenous to various regions, with my vagina, to show people the power of what the vagina could actually do, and was meant to do — like shoot ping pong balls, which is the NORMAL, HEALTHY BASELINE for all vaginas on the planet—
Up until then, most people had never even heard of a jade egg, let alone know what to do with it.
The action of using a jade egg with vaginal exercises is the closest to the original iteration of the Kegel exercise which Dr. Kegel came up with in 1947.
The diluted version of randomly flapping your vagina in the wind, is NOT the exercise Dr. Kegel created.
His version, that immediately had a 90% success rate with urinary incontinence involved place an object inside the vagina in order to create resistance and give feedback.
Just like with lifting weights.
Air lifting doesn’t get you very far.
That’s where the jade egg comes in.
Actually exercising these muscles generates oxygen and blood flow, which DA DA DA DA!!!
And the way I teach the jade egg, which is a unification of mind, body, spirit and vagina, in a multi-dimensional approach, then we have healing and integration on all these levels too.
Which amplifies the power and progress of the egg work.
So a woman can truly reclaim her vaginal, orgasmic and sexual power.
We have countless stories— just go check our Love Letters/Reviews page and kimanami.com of post-childbirth women, menopausal women, who thought that all was lost.
And they found it again in their vaginas.
And so can you!
My legendary Vaginal Kung Fu Salon opens for registration in a couple of weeks! This is the “Everything you need to know about your vagina” class that you were never taught, and I’m here to give you the goods.
In it, you’ll learn exactly how to use your jade egg, including guided mp3 weekly exercises, as well as emotional and energetic healing and activating work. You’ll learn yoni massage and breast massage techniques and how to give your partner a hand job. With your vagina!
All this and more!
Right now, you can access the free preview video series here. You can sign up to watch that tonight and it even includes a starter exercise in it for you that you can do, with or without an egg.