The Best Blowjob Technique EVER – Transcript
I love cock.
There you go.
That’s the secret.
Podcast over.
Come back next week for some good times!
I do though.
I really fuckin love the stuff.
I love it in me, on me, prodding me, filling me, choking me, penetrating me to my core.
I love it in my pussy, my ass, my throat, and right in front of me, showing me how it rules the world.
I’m blissfully in love with cock.
I mean, I love it as an emblem; a symbol of all that is true and good and solid and masculine and powerful in this world.
And of course I love it individually.
As the counterpart and fullest expression of the man it’s attached to.
When I’m in love with someone, it’s a polyamorous relationship of sorts.
This is the ONLY time you’ll ever hear me say this.
I’m in love with the man. Truly, madly, deeply. Adoring him.
And I’m in love with his cock. Truly, madly, deeply. Adoring IT.
Getting on my knees for both of them.
Missing both of them when they aren’t around.
When I’m involved with a man, I have a separate—very deep, very profound—relationship with his cock as well.
I treat it with the fervor and obsession it deserves.
Not because of duty or obligation or some kind of tit for tat sexual bargain making.
No.
Because it’s food, nourishment, oxygen and salvation for me.
A direct line to ecstasy.
On tap.
Anywhere, anytime.
It’s mine.
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So what does all this have to do with the best blow job technique EVER, you ask?
Everything.
Years ago, when I first began working with couples privately, I saw that their problems were never about sexual technique.
They weren’t coming to see me because she wasn’t executing the perfect blow job.
Or because he didn’t know HOW to eat her pussy well.
I mean, look. There’s always space to grow and learn. And certain acts, like deep throating and anal sex DO require a certain amount of technical know-how.
But the main issues were that they didn’t WANT to do these things.
There was a build up of unresolved stuff between them that had created a wall.
And when there’s a wall between you, no one wants to have sex.
People rationalize and make up all kinds of excuses like:
“Oh she has a low libido”
Or
“Oh, he’s so tired from working all day he just doesn’t have the energy.”
Or
“Oh, it’s menopause, so her sex drive is lower”
All lies.
These things have nothing to do with how she sucks cock or how he eats pussy.
The key? The secret?
Is how much you are madly, passionately, deeply in love with….
Them.
And.
Their genitals.
Love, like a hunger. A fever.
Something you’ll get on your knees for and crawl over broken glass for and start wars for.
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I’d always had a respectable relationship with cock.
I liked it. I liked playing with it. I loved the orgasms a strong and well-wielded cock gave me.
I was an enthusiastic cock sucker.
But… it wasn’t until I met one man in particular where being with him revolutionized my entire relationship with male genitalia.
I was SO into HIM: mind, personality, energy, body.
And his cock was an extension of ALL of that:
Strong, powerful. Unfaltering.
I would attack and devour his cock.
I went into a cock frenzy.
A trance of cock.
I’d go nuts with it.
Like an animal, ravaging it, totally uninhibited.
Not thinking. Not planning. No technical strategy.
Just pure fucking love and “can’t get enough of you” desire.
And in that, something in me broke open and I began to relate to his cock as a separate entity.
I loved him.
And I loved his cock.
Equally. Passionately.
Each of them meant the WORLD to me.
And so it began.
Once you reach that place, “technique” or at least any kind of scripted, choreographed steps you have in mind, becomes irrelevant.
Every move, touch, maneuver come from spontaneous instinct and desire.
It’s like watching a choreographed celebrity concert where every move is pre-planned, canned and so fucking dead and boring.
Or watching a performer who lets life and energy move through them in the moment.
Or like Method acting where you are moved from real emotion, versus people “acting” by doing things that “angry” people would do, so it looks like they are “angry”.
One you feel in your bones.
The other, you may or may not have the “willing suspension of disbelief”.
You can see the puppet strings and the forethought
It’s boring. And hollow.
And even self-protected.
It takes guts to show up and be raw in the moment.
So what does it take to love cock in this way?
1 The “glass” has to be clear between you.
“Clearing the glass” is an expression we use in Anami Land that means any residue, unresolved issues, resentments that still exist in your relationship will show up in and block your emotional connection and your sexual one.
The thing is, most people get so used to having these in the space, that they mal-adapt.
The energy and connection between them gradually gets less electric, less poignant.
They think it’s “natural” or “they’ve been together for a while and this just happens”.
No, it doesn’t.
I mean, obviously it *does* happen.
But only because people let it and they don’t know how NOT to let it.
This is all about open communication so that you keep this channel and glass between you clear and clean.
This also keeps your desire running hot.
It’s like the Princess and the Pea.
Except that in this case the bed is filled with boxes and packages and dead, rotting things.
It’s impossible to have a clean flow when that’s the case.
And most people don’t have the tools or don’t even think that this is a thing.
But it’s probably the most important thing.
The foundation of everything between you.
IN Anami Land, we focus on getting and keeping that space clear.
Because once you do, you’ll find that your sexual flow is perpetually charged and electric.
You can’t keep your hands off each other.
That’s when you know, you’re in The Zone.
If you have stacks of resentment toward your partner, you aren’t going to want to touch them, let alone have their cock in your mouth.
2) Clearing the glass WITHIN you.
If you have any preconceived judgments about your sexual self, if you’ve internalized any outward projected judgements about your sexuality from your family, your religion and society overall, you’ll be walking around—and fucking around—with this superimposed on you.
It needs to get cleaned up.
So your innate sexual being and self can shine through.
The Anami Guarantee is that EVERY one can.
Every woman can be having life-changing vaginal orgasms.
Every man can learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation.
Every couple can be having lifelong passionate sex.
So if you aren’t doing any of these things, we remove whatever barriers are there that are blocking the way and we get you on track as a sexual superstar.
The same goes for unhealed trauma.
If you are the walking/fucking wounded, this also shows up in bed as resistance, hiding, physical blocks that come up and prevent you from going deeper.
For example, lack of lubrication, a “tight” vagina on lockdown, yeast infections—all these things that prevent you from going deeper.
Which are really YOU preventing you from going deeper.
By healing any old negative experiences, you clear the way for your full-throttled—and full-throated—sexual expression to emerge.
3 Full send. Full surrender.
You have to feel safe letting go and fully surrendering yourself.
The journey to full surrender—the level required to unlock cervical orgasms, G-Spot orgasms, squirting and blow job giver extraordinaire status is a HUGE part of this equation.
In these orgasms, you have to toss it all into the fire—your fear, your walls, your defenses, your vulnerabilities—that’s the price of admission.
And you are reborn out the other side. Transformed. Self-actualized.
When you’re in a pure cock-sucking frenzy, the same has to be true.
You have to let go so fully, so completely, and allow your self to be subsumed by your love of cock.
Of this cock. Of this man.
So much so that cocksucking makes YOU wet.
It turns YOU on.
Without you even being touched, the sight of his cock makes you weak in the knees and wet in the pussy.
His cock becomes your salvation. Your deliverance.
Your divine rod of power.
But ONLY if you can fully open to it.
4) You need to adore your partner.
NO amount of fake, cultivated enthusiasm or Cosmo top 10 cock-sucking maneuvers will substitute for adoring the fuck out of your partner.
Where their very existence is a gift and inspiration to you.
You LOVE who they are.
They are poetry to you.
Like, where did you come from? How did you get here—in front of me, in my bed, like some divine intervention gift from God that every curve of you, the things you say, IGNITE something in me some unquenchable fire and thirst that if I start with you I don’t know how I’ll ever stop but let’s start anyway and see.
Like that.
If you’re playing any kind of power game, any kind of tit for tat, performative, pretending you like cock but really wanting it to be over, or indifference or duty-bound exchange game, you’ll never make it into the realm of cock-sucking genius.
Nevah-Evah.
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Because when you adore them like this, and you know how to surrender, and there’s nothing standing in your own way or the way between you, then it’s a free-flow of cock savant brilliance and artistry.
You’ll INVENT new techniques.
And that cock will become manna from heaven for you.
An electric divining rod and recharge station that fuels your life.
This is what it’s all about.
And when you reverently, wildly love him and his cock to the depths of your being and you can uninhibitedly express it, you will be the best he’s ever had.
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And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you suck a cock.
On your knees now.
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