Bring Back Manly Men – Transcript
A few weeks ago I put up an Instagram post comparing the male models of the 90s to male models in 2025.
The 90s men included David Gandy and Jason Lewis, who was Samantha’’s “Smith” love interest on Sex and the City.
Yes, he used to be a catwalk model.
And a really fucking saucy, hot one.
These legendary men with imposing jawlines and ravishing bone structure, tall muscular builds and sex appeal to fuck.
Gods of a bygone era.
Then I juxtaposed them with the mincing, fairy-like, pre-pubescent boy-child, birth defects of 2025.
Putting them side-by-side made the differences SO much more dramatic.
What happened?
Where did all the men go?
Where did all the testosterone disappear to?
What I found heartening about the 4000+ comments is that 99.99999% of them were pro the 90s men.
Because this post was promoted all over Instagram—shared on the explore page—it wasn’t just MY audience—who, let’s face it, are smarter and less woke than the average bear—it went far beyond that.
In every social strata, generation, in countries and languages all over the world, with likes and comments ranging from celebrities to members of parliament in places as far-flung as Sweden and Indonesia—this post went ultra-viral—with people chiming in with disgust for the current crop of non-men, and lamenting a return of these ultra-masculine men of the past.
There was a sexual repulsion for the non-fuckable asexuals, to panty-wetting yearning for the fuckable masculine men.
So THAT was refreshing.
And then last week, some Gen Z NPC made a post saying that Timothee Chalamet—the twink actor—was hotter and more attractive to women than Henry Cavill.
If you don’t follow celebrity culture that much, Cavill is a rugged, classically handsome guy.
I believe he played Superman (how many iterations of this have their been?) at some point.
And Chalamet is the leader of the modern-day Rat Pack, which we’ll get to at the moment.
I wouldn’t even call him “boyishly handsome”.
I’d call him some attempt at “normalizing birth defects”.
Following this assertion that Chalamet is more attractive to women, there’s been some conversation around the idea that women being on hormonal birth control choose more effeminate-looking—and acting—partners.
This is from a study showing that women on hormonal birth control do indeed choose different partners than those on it.
And that might be the case.
But the women of MY generation were also on birth control—probably in greater numbers than women are today.
And the “attractive” males of MY day were the likes of Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Keanu Reeves, Rob Lowe.
Chiseled faces.
And the generation before that—also on hormonal birth control—was even more rugged.
Clint Eastwood, Richard Gere, Burt Reynolds, Robert Redford, Harrison Ford, Paul Newman.
So it’s not *just* about women being on birth control.
As I mentioned, Timothee Chalamet is the would-be leader of the modern-day “Rat Pack.”
Even this title has a certain irony to it.
The original “Rat Pack” was a term used to describe a group of legendary actors in the 1950s and 60s including Humphrey Bogart, known as the OG rat-packer.
The phrase was allegedly coined by Lauren Bacall.
The group evolved to include Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, and Sammy Davis Jr. who were also in the first Oceans 11 movie.
They were known for being iconic, suave, wild, charismatic and ultra-cool.
But this NEW “Rat Pack” refers to a group of male actors with facial features like…rats.
Barry Keoghan, Josh O’Connor, Mike Faist.
Google it.
It’s shocking when you see them all stacked together.
You can’t UN-see it.
You wish you could. You wish you’d never laid eyes on it.
But you did.
I saw it and now you have to.
Hahah.
So instead of the alpha, top dog, most dominant of the hierarchy, what’s being promoted as attractive now is the runt of the litter.
All these rat-faced, unfuckable, ultra-fey, asexual boy-children.
The discards.
The expressions of the species you would actually NEVER breed with because it would perpetuate a weak genetic lineage.
So yes, some of this may be women choosing inferior men because they are hormonally medicated.
But these are the men being curated by industry and media and held up as the *so-called* desirable men of the moment.
I would call this a deliberate attempt to normalize low-testosterone, highly estrogenic men.
Men who probably CAN’T even reproduce if they wanted to.
Because I’ve been talking about Timothee Chalamet, YouTube showed me a trailer for the latest Dune movie—which I guess he’s in—so I watched it.
I know Dune is meant to be a fantasy sci-fi story.
I’ve never seen it though.
In the trailer, his love interest, played by Zendaya, has a baby and he’s apparently the father.
I thought yes indeed, this is a sci-fi fantasy that Timothee Chalament is somehow capable of reproducing.
Not gonna happen.
So this is all deliberate programming.
By highlighting and normalizing these highly xeno-estrogened males of this current generation of pseudo-men—and if that trend continues—we’ll forget that we ever had masculine men in the species.
They’ll seem like an anomaly.
And—as they are now—they’ll be labeled as “toxic”.
I—and others have said this—the only “toxic” masculinity is the LACK of it.
Weak men who could never defend you or the realm: toxic.
Men who can’t stand up and speak their truth: toxic.
Men who don’t have a purpose or a plan: toxic.
Men who use violence against the people they love: toxic.
Men who can’t lead and take action: toxic.
This ISN’T masculinity.
It’s the absence of it.
MEDIA PROMOTION of boy-child vs. CHADs
A “chad” as defined by the Urban Dictionary as:
- “A slang term used to describe an attractive, confident, and sexually successful man, often portrayed as the epitome of the “alpha male.”
The stereotype typically includes being athletic, good-looking, popular with women, and having a laid-back, charismatic personality.
- Core Meaning: A highly desirable, masculine man with good genes, often depicted as tall (e.g., 6 feet), earning six figures, and possessing a large penis—commonly referred to as the “666 Chad” meme.”
THAT is hilarious.
Right now there’s a TV series on telling the story of the romance between JFK Jr and Carolyn Bessette. It’s called Love Story.
Apparently the producers had a lot of trouble finding a male actor with enough masculine energy to play the part of JFK Jr.
To the point that they were about to shut down production because they couldn’t find ANYONE.
Executive producer Brad Simpson says:
“We were three weeks away from shooting and we still hadn’t cast him. We’d seen every male actor between the age of 25 and 38.
Part of it was just that sort of ‘80s old school masculinity—a man with hair on his chest, sort of Richard Gere, Tom Selleck, the classic chiseled looks—we’re not making those guys anymore, for some reason, and he really needed to have that.”
This series has been super popular. Some might say because it features… A MAN!!!
Trying to normalize birth defects, autism, low testosterone, high-estrogen men. and the “runt” of the litter.
I’ve spoken about this at length before.
The role of the male, of the masculine man is to act as the protector of the realm, his family, and his woman.
HE is the first line of defense against injustice, bad behavior and disrespect.
He creates the container that his children feel safe within and his community feels protected in.
And that encasing creates the ideal environment for the feminine to open up into.
I always say, the man’s mantra is “if you fall, I will catch you.”
If you open your heart, your pussy, and you live in a surrendered space, he holds all of that.
A woman’s trust and openness FEED him.
And he in turn protects and honors that openness in you, creating a space for you to let down your guard and live in more softness.
Less protection.
Because that’s his role.
But these new-fangled NOT men don’t exude any of that energy.
They’re the opposite of it.
They’re featherweight runts of the litter.
The kinds of guys you see videos about where a couple gets mugged and the guy runs away.
So what IS happening? How did we get here?
Xenoestrogens
We can definitely look to physical and environmental factors like xenosetrongin exposure in food and in household products.
I’ve spoken before—and so have whistleblower scientist Tyron Hayes and of course Alex “not so wrong now is he” Jones talking about gay frogs.
How the pesticide atrazine in the food supply, when observed at levels less than what’s acceptable for humans, made frogs gay, develop genitalia of the opposite sex and then actually be able to reproduce with their new genitalia.
And we wonder what’s happening with the humans.
People are being quietly frog-boiled, or gay-frog-boiled, into self-sterilizing eunuchs, making way for a new wave of test tube, artificially engineered subhumans.
As of now, 1 out of 6 couples is infertile.
And then we have all the programming AGAINST the alpha and masculine male
Enough of us are still alive and remember these hot sexy masculine men.
They still walk and strut among us.
And thankfully, there appears to be a resurgence of them.
Partly because there’s been a right-wing pendulum swing in America, that’s enabled all the people who were terrified into silence over the past few years, have begun speaking up.
Safety in numbers.
Some of us were never silent.
But that’s another story.
Even the gay men look more like men.
If any of you have seen the show Heated Rivalry, it’s a story about a couple of gay hockey players.
If you’d asked me how likely I’d be to watch something featuring two gay guys playing hockey, this concept would never make the list.
But I’d heard the hype and I checked it out.
It was amazing.
Really.
So beautiful.
Part of why I think I enjoyed it so much is that these gay characters are fucking hot and masculine.
They weren’t an iota of the cliched caricature of women:
“OMIGOD there’s a spider!”
“OMIGOD I think I broke a nail!”
I’ve never really understood why if the rationale for being gay is that you aren’t attracted to women, but to men, then why take on all the most awful and ridiculous, cliched characteristics OF WOMEN?
Weak women, who are obsessed with vanity and can’t fend for themselves.
I can’t stand women like that, nevermind men.
But these guys in the show aren’t like that at all.
They’re just… two smoldering, gorgeous guys.
That’s it.
We get to skip all the super fey gay “we act like tacky women but we actually like men” confusion and just enjoy a love story.
But I digress. Sort of.
The point is, there’s a swing back to hot, fucking masculine men.
Enough people, a tipping point of the population has seen what’s going on, this deliberate, engineered of infertile, unfuckable teen boys being paraded as pseudo men.
And nobody wants it.
Fucking nobody.
Maybe a few Gen Zs whacked out on propaganda and birth control and quite possibly paid to spout a certain agenda like “Timothee Chalamet is hot”.
Or maybe get paid to be his girlfriend.
Reduce your estrogen exposure.
- No processed and junk food.
- Eat high-quality organic, wild and grass-fed meats. Beef, venison, bison, sardines, salmon. I’ve been on a carnivore kick lately. No veg, no fruit, minimal carbs. Just loads of steak, eggs, salmon and sardines. Some raw cheese. I FUCKING love it. Hormone maxing.
Clean up your environment
- Use natural body and household products
- Perfume is the new smoking. Eat clean and detox your body and you won’t smell bad. You’ll smell amazing. Your own pheromones are the new perfume.
- And chemical air fresheners are the new smoking. I can’t tell you the amount of Ubers I’ve gotten out of and called a new ride because I refuse to be fumigated.
There is a way of having sex and self-pleasuring that is going to deplete your dopamine and testosterone.
OR.
One that’s going to build it.
If you are having a typical pump-dump-and-schump session, where you bust one out as fast as you can, and pass out, you are LOSING energy.
You create a massive dopamine build up and then you dump it all out of you.
It’s pretty obvious when you fall and YOU CAN’T GET UP.
Help I’ve fallen and I can’t get up.
This is why all the porn consumers and chronic masturbaters end up with erectile dysfunction.
They’re constantly depleting their dopamine stores.
Dopamine builds testosterone.
Testosterone builds your erections.
You can hack this by using Tantric stamina-building techniques and ultimately learn how to orgasm without ejaculation.
Both are practices I teach in my Coming Together for Couples Salon and Sexual Master for Men course.
This is essential knowledge for all men.
You can learn to harness this energy and recirculate it inside yourself so that you feel ENERGIZED after sex, instead of depleted.
You might mistake that feeling for relaxation and release.
But it’s ultimately exhausting you on a deep level.
You can have the best of all worlds by learning to cultivate your sexual energy, last longer—pleasure your woman MUCH more, and bring her to the deeper vaginal orgasms—and have more powerful, wilder orgasms—AND do all of this while energizing yourself.
Being the master of your own sexual life-force is one of the most high-level hacks you have.
Plus when you’re with your woman sexually, the benchmark is being able to go a full hour minimum in total control.
If you are one of the almost-99% —as in the 95% of men who ejaculate within 5 minutes of intercourse—you need to earn your Alpha status.
Two-pump chumps are beta.
Alpha men are marathon men.
They don’t stop until they slay you, your vagina, and all of your demons.
That’s an honest day’s work for a man.
Move that body
You build dopamine and your masculine edge of fortitude by continually challenging yourself.
Weight training is one of the best ways to generate dopamine, and to keep upping your own limits.
And you build some tasty biceps and confidence along the way.
The bottom line is:
Women don’t want to fuck effeminate men.
They might date you and even marry you.
If they fall under the spell or kamikaze suicide mission of selecting “safe” men who they could never actually love or fuck, in the spirit of being with someone but not actually being INTO them.
THAT might happen.
But no woman is getting hot and bothered and getting fuck-changed and having vaginal orgasms for some waify, wispy femboy who can’t hold his own.
For some inspiration, go and check out the post I’m talking about on my Insta account.
I’ll link it in the show notes.
And for more on how to build your masculine smolder—and for your woman to cultivate her feminine surrender—check out my Coming Together for Couples Salon which opens in early April.
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