Self-Healed Prolapse with the Jade Yoni Egg – Transcript
My vagina does amazing things.
Sometimes people see me doing phantasmagorical things like:
- Dead hangs ab exercises, while also lifting 11lb. With my vagina
- Lifting green coconuts, bunches of mangos and Venetian chandeliers. With my vagina.
And they might get the impression that it’s all stunt tricks or that using the jade yoni egg is ONLY a weight lifting practice.
Sure, it’s an essential exercise regimen.
And yes, I get a kick out of showing people what ALL vaginas can do.
I love educating them that the BASELINE for vaginas is not peeing their pants and falling onto the floor—yes, vaginal “prolapse” effects 50% of women after childbirth—but that the BASELINE for ALL vaginas, everywhere is to:
THIS is the baseline.
If you have anything other than that, your vagina is under-performing.
But you can change that.
So the mistake might be thinking that Vaginal Kung Fu is just a technique to strengthen the vagina.
The vagina functions as a second brain, a second heart and a vessel of creation in a woman’s body.
It has a physical function.
And also an energetic one.
When the physical function isn’t working, the energetic one definitely is not.
The energetic element is related to ALL aspects of a woman’s:
- Femininity
- Creativity and manifesting ability
- Her self-expression in the world
- How deeply she surrenders to life, her partner and God
- How much of a channel for divine energy she can be
Yeah.
All of it comes down to how well she’s activating and connected to the energy of her vagina.
Then all of these other things come flowing out of it.
Including babies!
In today’s episode, we’re talking to Well-F**ked All star Dr. Beth. She’s a chiropractor, a women’s pelvic health specialist and a big proponent of the jade yoni egg.
Through using the jade egg, she:
– Healed her prolapse
– Had an orgasmic free birth at home. Look ma! No doctors or midwives!
– Went from chronic yeast infections to never having them again
- Cleared the residue of suppressed childhood sexual abuse
- Went from clitoral orgasms to G-Spot, cervical, nipple, anal and of course birth orgasms and squirting on demand
Now she sings the praises of the jade egg and Vaginal Kung Fu, even and especially DURING pregnancy.
She has sex almost every day, even with 5 kids and still breastfeeding her youngest.
She and her partner use their sexual energy to manifest the things they want in their lives
“I can attract it through my pussy!”
All of this radical—and pretty fast—transformation came from reconnecting to and TURNING ON the creative power of her vagina.
THIS is the deeper meaning and purpose of Vaginal Kung Fu.
Like any martial art, we’re learning to tap and wield our energy with high-level skill and dexterity.
We use our sexual energy as a creative force in our lives to heal ourselves, rebirth ourselves and shape our lives.
Your life mastery starts with your vaginal mastery.
Well-F**ked All Star Interview with Beth
KIM: Welcome, Beth.
BETH: Hi!
KIM: Great to have you. Thank you for being here.
BETH: I’m really excited to be here. Thank you for allowing me to have this opportunity.
KIM: Let’s dive into how you found this work and some of the tipping points for you and the explosive growth that you experienced.
BETH: Totally. I found you two years ago. I was actually doing a pelvic on a patient, and she was asking me about the jade egg. That is how I found her, because we were talking about how weak she was in her pelvic floor. I was all about it, and she started talking to me about taking your course. Of course, I had to dive in because I love sacred sexuality, and I had been studying Tantra before this, so when I found out about you, you just took it to a whole new level.
My husband and I, literally two weeks after discovering you, had our first sex weekend. It was an amazing weekend. We came back and got pregnant a week later. [Laughs]
Of course, I dove into all your orgasmic birthing podcasts. Every day, I was listening to something. Of course, as I know, the universe sent me all your freebirthing podcasts. I said, “Well, I have a midwife.” This was my second home birth. I had already planned to do a home birth, but I planned to have a midwife. But I just kept hearing all your freebirth podcasts, and I’m laughing about it now because I said, “We’re going to be freebirthing this baby.”
That is exactly how it happened. It was a snowy day, and the midwife couldn’t get there. I really had to go into that surrender, and it was amazing. The birth was amazing.
Yeah, I can answer so many questions from there, but that’s how we found out about you, and we’ve had so many journeys over the last two years. We’ve been in Anami Land, my husband and I, and it’s been such a journey.
KIM: We talk about the full range of Orgasmapedia in Anami Land, everything from G-spot orgasms, nipple-gasms, and anal-gasms, and you’ve also had the elusive Holy Grail of a birth orgasm.
BETH: Yes, yes. Yes. I’ve had all of those. [Laughs] And I had only had a clit orgasm before your work.
KIM: It sounds like you were pretty open to these ideas. Even though they were different from the experiences that you’d had thus far, you just ate them all up. It doesn’t sound like you or your partner needed a ton of convincing.
BETH: Yeah. I have always been into spirituality and sexuality, although I closed a lot of that off and didn’t even realize it. Before, my husband and I thought we had a good sexual relationship. We’d have sex three times a week, four times a week, same positions. In order to orgasm, I had to be on top and control the situation.
From CEO/Boss Woman to Surrender and Feminine Flow
As we dove into your work, I had so many situations come up, and we had to really work through some of those things, such as the programming of why I needed to be on top in general to have an orgasm, or the polarity of our relationship. I’ve always been in control to try and protect myself—and not just that. I dove into “CEO/boss woman, I can make my own money, I find my worth in being successful.” Through your work, I had to step back and surrender to some of the situations that were happening.
So my whole life changed with your work.
I left the office and started working from home. I had to tap more into my feminine aspect. Prior to finding out about you, we had miscarried. It was an interesting thing for me, where I said, “I am super healthy, I meditate, I’m very connected, so why would this happen to me?”
I got that intuitive nudge that, “Hey, it’s time to leave our office.” We have a very successful business, a wellness center. We have 20 employees. I just left one day and didn’t turn back.
Two weeks later, I found you. You were just right timing. That was what started the openness. Not started—I’d been going through so many things in my life, and then step by step.
So we started off taking Coming Together for Couples. Well, actually, we studied all the orgasmic birthing things from the physical aspect, doing jade egg work to try to wake up my pelvis. I had a lot of trauma in my first birth; even though it was a home birth, I was white-knuckling it through. I had a lot of tearing and adrenal burnout.
Again, as that CEO boss, I had to work till the end, 60 to 80 hours a week, and I could do it all. I could go to the gym, be a hot mom, and get my body back really fast. I could run a multimillion-dollar business, and I could have this home birth and do things all naturally.
And what happened? I burned the fuck out. After that birth, I couldn’t even hold my baby, I was so burned out. Already, before the postpartum period had even started.
So, going into your work, I said, “I’m not doing that again.” I dove 100% into your work. Every day, I listened to you and the people you were working with on the podcast and in the course.
From the physical aspect, I did work with the jade egg —my pelvis was numb from sexual abuse, from medical rape, and when I say medical rape, we can go into that. I am a pelvic floor, women’s health, chiropractor, physical therapist, and I had never even touched my own cervix.
I was going into labor, and that’s the gate, the portal to the process. The physical portal and the spiritual portal, and I had never even connected to it. I was completely numb, and I started just working with my body and my husband. He hadn’t taken any of the courses until postpartum. It was me just coming to him, saying, “Hey, let’s do this work. Let’s do the eye gazing. Let’s do some breathing. We’ll meditate after each session.”
He would start doing pelvic floor work on me and yoni massages, just reconnecting to our bodies and understanding we didn’t have to have 15- to 20-minute sessions; we could have hour-long sessions and three-hour-long sessions. Filling our bodies up with this sexual energy and activating the sexual energy to attract the birth to begin with.
So many layers there. It took a lot of clearing the blocks, surrendering into my feminine and realizing I was so masculine and didn’t even realize it, to have an orgasmic birth. Then, surrendering to the process of trying to control the labor. I like to control every aspect of my life.
Every step of this pregnancy, I had to remind myself, “What does surrender look like here? What does softening look like here? What does getting into your body look like here?” That was such a process.
And even down to the labor—and the labor was wonderful. This was the fifth child, and our house was too small, so we were adding onto our home. Up until the labor, I had 15 men at a time in my house. They had broken open the wall to the add-on, so it was dusty. I said, “Universe, how is this going to work out?” I realized, “Another surrender process.” My midwife had gotten sick the weeks of my labor, and it was just one thing after another that was happening.
The day I went into labor, my midwife had done an exam on me, and then she went to a two-hour appointment, and she said, “Okay, you’re good.” And I felt good. I didn’t feel like I was going into labor.
All the men had called in sick; we had a big snow day, so I had no one in my house. There was so much peace. The midwife didn’t show up, and I said, “All right.” I’d listened to all these freebirthing experiences, and the whole process was so beautiful.
The freebirthing came along because it went so fast. I didn’t realize how fast it was going to go. I was sitting there in bliss in bed, just hanging out with my husband. He was loving on me and rubbing on me. I said, “Uh-oh, I’ve got to go to the bathroom.” He said, “Beth! No.” [Laughs] I said, “Well, here we go. [Laughs] Here comes the baby.”
“Babe, you’re going to have to unwrap the cord from the baby’s neck”
I got in the pool, and I reached in to see where the labor had progressed, and I said, “Babe, the baby has the cord wrapped around his neck, so when it comes out, you’re going to need to unwrap the cord.” And he said, “Are you kidding me? You’re just blissed out right now.” I said, “You’re just going to have to unwrap the cord.” He said, “Are you kidding me?”
And through your work, everything I needed to know got sent to me. I’d watched videos on cords being wrapped around babies’ necks and realized, “Oh, it’s common, and it’s not a big deal.” I was totally cool, and he said, “Okay …” And he had to match my energy.
At first he said, “No, no, no, let’s wait for the midwife.”
I said, “Go back and catch your baby.”
Because I was just high as a kite on hormones and breathing and the love we had experienced before I even had the baby.
So it was a beautiful experience. The baby came, and my husband unwrapped the cord, and he was good. It was an experience.
KIM: That’s fabulous. I love how you had this very enduring faith throughout the entire thing. This confidence and knowing. That’s the ultimate. I was thinking recently about all these people and their attachments to their biohacking devices and their wearables. “Suzanne, how did you sleep last night?” “Oh, let me check my sleep app and I’ll tell you.”
BETH: I know!
KIM: “Apparently, I slept good. Thanks for asking.” They couldn’t read their own bodies if their lives depended on it.
To hear this is so refreshing because that’s ultimately the very thing that I want to teach people—to develop this unshakable faith and knowing within themselves that the medicine, the direction that they need, is all within. They just need to tap into it, find it, and have faith that it’s there. The confidence that is there is a process that you build into, but I love how you described, even during your pregnancy, that constant practice of surrender.
What is surrender? It’s letting go of control and trusting that somewhere within me, or perhaps with some universal help, there is an answer, and I can find it if I ask and open myself to it. That self-reliance and self-resilience, to me, is everything.
When I see people with this addictive dependence on all these external things—whether it’s hormones or drugs or their wearables, I shudder. It’s the opposite of anything that I’m even remotely interested in, and I can’t believe that people are so obsessed with the external that they couldn’t tune into themselves to save their lives.
BETH: Well, it’s another form of control.
KIM: And they need outside validation. Constantly. That’s why people, women especially, end up in the hospital, because they’re so used to outsourcing their power, outsourcing their knowing, getting somebody else to tell them if they’re okay. Getting somebody else to tell them if their baby is okay, rather than having any inner awareness of that. It’s zilch. It’s absolutely none.
So when it comes time to birth that baby, it’s no surprise at all that they end up in the hospital because they don’t know how to do it. They don’t have any faith at all. They’ve cultivated zero faith in themselves and their knowing ability. Which is, honestly, the grand prize of birth for women.
The entire pregnancy and birth process is this massive spiritual opportunity for women to strengthen that muscle of internal faith and reliance and connection. Because that’s the thing that’s going to get you through your birth in a pleasurable and empowered way, versus a birth rape and medical trauma way, and make you an empowered parent.
When people are so confused about parenting and they need all this guidance and direction—look at the animal kingdom. Animals don’t need shit. All of that, from giving birth to raising their children, is completely, 100% instinctual. Humans need to read books to know how to raise our babies? What if there was a part within you, a total primal part—which obviously there is—that knows exactly what to do in any given moment if you can tap into it?
BETH: Well, exactly. My kids have never even been to a pediatrician. I don’t know if I can say that on the air. [Laughs]
KIM: Mine either. Never ever, not once.
BETH: It’s a beautiful thing. They come out, they connect, and it’s great to have guidance, but if you can trust that that guidance will be there when you need it, it’s going to be. It’s really a beautiful thing.
I’m so grateful I found your work because where I’m at now is such a journey. I thought I was going to be somewhere else, and here I am in motherhood and not in businesswoman mode anymore. Maybe that’ll come, but right now, I am a mother, and what can be more important than influencing our lineage and influencing the control that’s out there? Teaching my kids the same principles that you teach.
The boys are my bonus kids. I have three older kids—18, 16, and 13—and two of my own, so we have a family of five. I was just checking on them. We have a balcony, and the hot tub is below. All the boys are in girl land right now, wanting to experience it, and my husband is giving the advice that you give. I love it so much. It’s being so open to these conversations. There are young men out there who have no idea how to please a woman. I was just so proud to hear his guidance to them.
I’m doing the same with my four-year-old daughter. “That’s what control looks like, honey.” “Yep, I understand that you have a lot of sexual energy, and that’s okay.” I don’t use those words, but I say, “Yeah, that’s a lot of energy you have there,” teaching her how to move it through her body already at four. It’s pretty amazing.
BETH: I believe in this work so much that my mom is on this path as well, and she’s such a beautiful soul. I convinced her to take Well-F**ked Woman, and it was so fun to do it with her and grow together and work through even the discomfort. She would see me on the live calls, making comments, so it was very vulnerable. But also, we both grew together in that aspect.
My husband and I have an 18-year-old, and he’s actually signed up for Sexual Mastery for Men in the summer. We’ve talked about that multiple times. They know about Kim Anami [laughs], our 16-year-old and our 18-year-old, because it’s so important that they understand about working through their own blocks and belief systems around sex. If they truly want to lead in this world the way that they want to lead, then they have to learn to transmute sexual energy and understand it and respect it, and how to please a woman too.
My husband went to a Joe Dispenza seminar for a week, so I had the kids. The boys all said, “Women don’t want sex as much as men.” I said, “Whoa, funny how that gets sent down. That is not true at all.”
Men in today’s society don’t know how to please a woman. They’ve never been taught, and the only way they learn is through porn.
So, having those conversations with the kids about what porn really is and the energy wrapped around it, and if you believe in negative energies that connect to you through that and burning out your energy that you could use for so many other things; we’re teaching our 18- and 16-year-olds that. And our 13-year-old too, but at a different level.
KIM: I love that. That idea that women don’t like sex as much takes the onus off men to bother pleasing women. Because if they don’t really like it that much, why would you bother? Why put much effort into it?
This is where I love to see the parents become the primary source of this information, and that’s what all parents need to know. Because if you aren’t, then they’re getting it from all these very sketchy, sketchy sources instead. If you’ve gone through the Anami work and play, you have this altered, enlightened perspective to share with them. That’s the most beautiful education. One of the biggest gifts you can give them is helping them to awaken from a more sexually enlightened place.
BETH: Absolutely.
KIM: Incredible. Let’s back up to more of your process because it sounds like surrender and control, feminine and masculine dynamics, were a big theme for you. You mentioned a numb pelvis as well.
BETH: Yes. Yes.
KIM: And then I don’t know if you want to go into it—and don’t feel like you have to—but you used the term “medical rape.” Is there anything you want to share about that era of your development and how you moved out of that?
BETH: Yes. Man, okay. I had only had a clitoral orgasm up until your work. As we started exploring the pelvis and certain areas, through the jade egg, through my husband, through my own self-work, I started to notice I was numb. In your work, we work on clearing the blocks.
I was doing vaginal gazing, and I would talk to my yoni every day and just start asking it questions. I am a NET practitioner, so I do Neuro Emotional Technique, and I would start muscle testing myself. “Okay, what emotions are trapped in your pelvis?” A lot of shame and betrayal were coming up.
Getting HPV After Getting the HPV “vaccine”
I mentioned medical rape. I was a college kid, and they were handing out HPV vaccines, so I was talked into getting one, and I, of course, got “supposed” HPV—
KIM: After getting the vaccine?
BETH: Yes, yes, of course. Yes. This is when I was naive, 18 years old, and just waking up and into consciousness. They, of course, said, “Let’s burn your cervix” with this LEEP procedure. They said, “We found some abnormal cells on your Pap smear,” which I don’t get anymore. I haven’t had one in a million years. But at that time, I trusted this doctor, and she said, “It could be nothing, but it could be. Let’s go in and burn off the cells of your cervix.”
That’s what she did, and looking back, I had no feeling. Now there’s so much scar tissue on my cervix. I’m so grateful, thinking about my first labor with my daughter, that she came out naturally.
KIM: I was just going to say that it usually creates scar tissue, which can make it harder for the cervix to open during birth. They preempt their later-stage interventions with earlier ones, like, say, casual LEEP procedures, where anything can be abnormal cells. Anything. How many women have that? Almost all of them. Then they just do this “precautionary” LEEP procedure, scar the cervix, and then, when women are in labor down the line, it’s difficult to progress or their cervix isn’t opening.
BETH: Yeah, it’s not dilating.
KIM: And it’s like, okay, that’s from an earlier decision. It is a contributing factor.
BETH: It did numb my pelvis. Because even through the work, I wasn’t able to have cervical orgasms. I have had them now, but there are stages, as you have taught, of these cervical orgasms. I guess that’s what a birthing orgasm is; part of it is cervical, but it was full-body and cosmic.
Talking to the Cervix to Heal Trauma and Activate Cervical Orgasms
But now, with the cervical orgasms, I’m getting more emotions flying and tears and things like that, but it was through working through this work—I actually have one of your glass dildos, Anahata. I would apply pressure there and almost pray over it, “Tell me more. Give me more information.”
This is one of the reasons I loved taking your Well-F**ked Woman course, because I felt so empowered, whereas I felt like when we took the couples course, I always had to wait on my husband. “Come on, look, get up, I need work every day; you’ve got to come and help me.”
Sexual Self-Knowledge—Even when in a Relationship
Now, after taking Well-F**ked Woman, I say, “Wait, I can do this all myself. I can touch my own cervix. I can do my own work.” [Laughs] Which is funny because I work in pelvic. It’s really funny that what you’re taught in school is so medical and then, when you get into it, you say, “Wow, why are we not connected to our creation energy? We could create anything we want in our world.” We are these infinite beings, and activating this energy is essential to connecting to that.
Anyway, I did a lot of the emotional work and clearing the blocks through myself, working with my husband. Then, on the physical aspect, doing the jade egg and the breast massage and breathing work. I do something every day of some aspect of my work to open myself up physically, emotionally, and spiritually, so I can keep reaching a potential that hasn’t been met yet in my life. [Laughs]
KIM: Something you said earlier about having a numb vagina—and this would be the case for many women—it sounds like you didn’t really realize it was numb until you got in there and started exploring and connecting with it. Then it started to wake up.
I think that’s the case for so many women. They don’t know what they don’t know, or they don’t know that their vaginas are meant to be this wealth of pleasure and infinitely sensitive and with so much sensation within them; they’re just numb receptacles that they don’t think much of.
Which is why most women end up fairly fixated on their clitoral orgasms because it’s an immediate burst of energy, like a sugar rush. They go into the vaginas, and they don’t feel very much, and they say, “All right, well, back to the clitoris we go.”
Then you mentioned being on top, which is a great position for more clitoral rubbing.
BETH: Right.
KIM: You mentioned the block clearing, the yoni gazing, the jade egg, putting the dildo up near the cervix to awaken it and encourage a dialogue, encourage a conversation.
As that began to happen, I’m assuming that was a parallel development with having more orgasms in the vagina. As you wake it up and build that sensation, then a natural result is going to be X + Y = orgasms.
BETH: My first orgasm that I had was not G-spot or cervical, it was squirting. I’d always wanted to do that, so I had it as an intention. It’s crazy, and it drove my husband wild, which was awesome too; it’s a fun party trick.
KIM: Is there anything else that you would talk about with squirting?
BETH: Have towels. [Laughs] We ruin lots of bedsheets and bedding, and we use protective gear.
Jade Egg Healing Prolapse
With the squirting, I do think that in terms of strengthening my vagina, that was huge. And not just de-numbing, but also how weak I was. With the babies, I actually had prolapse, so my bladder was coming into my vaginal canal. Restrengthening the pelvis through the jade egg not only helped with the prolapsing, but it also helped with the ejecting, the squirting.
Because I’d always wanted to squirt and just didn’t think it was possible. Then, when you told me I could, I believed it. That just allowed it from there. Now I can squirt over and over and over, but I can’t—
KIM: Squirting on demand?
BETH: Yes. Yeah, yeah. In any position, yeah. It doesn’t matter. It’s on demand, multiple times. It connects to a G-spot orgasm; it didn’t start like that for me, but as I continued to get deeper into the work, it started to move to a G-spot orgasm with the squirting. So that was a big thing, the strengthening as well.
KIM: Beautiful. Oh, the prolapse. You mentioned the prolapse. You felt that the egg then helped to correct that?
BETH: Absolutely. I was so weak in my pelvic floor, and even in school, in doing pelvic floor physical therapy, we’re taught Kegels. I agree with this work, but a lot of people are moving away from the Kegels altogether. They don’t just do Kegels. And now I’m saying, “Wait, why are we moving away from this?” I do know that breathing and all these other components of the core system have an effect, but you have to work the system, and you have to add resistance to get any strength in your vagina.
It makes you feel powerful and strong. It’s so important to strengthen under weight, under load. It only makes sense, really.
So yeah, once I strengthened the muscles of the front side of my pelvis, it was great. No more prolapsing.
KIM: What level of prolapse would you say that you had?
BETH: I had like a level 1 to 2. It wasn’t severe; it wasn’t coming out of the vaginal canal, but it affected my daily life in that I couldn’t run. It would cause leaking and other things, so that was huge.
Yeah, I think that was the biggest thing. I started working with the jade egg postpartum during the Well-F**ked Woman Salon. It increases libido and strength. It improves the orgasm strength as well. I would have certain orgasms that might last a couple of seconds. As I worked with the jade egg, they would go longer.
With the squirting, you squirt farther and you have more ejaculate, and the other orgasms last longer, and I feel like I’m stronger to move it through my body as well.
KIM: Amazing. I love that. As a pelvic floor therapist, how else would you talk about the jade egg as being an important part of a pelvic rehabilitation or healing routine?
Jade egg addresses hemorrhoids, leaking, pelvic pain, prolapsing, and tightness. It can help with weakness and back pain, pubic bone pain.
BETH: I work with mainly pregnancy and postpartum, but also women who are going through menopause and are getting their uteruses taken out. It helps to avoid that, I believe. I think it can help with hemorrhoids, leaking, pelvic pain, prolapsing, and tightness. It can help with weakness and back pain, pubic bone pain. All of these issues can be caused from disconnection to your muscles.
It’s not just the strength; it’s the coordination as well. Being able to feel your pelvis lift from 360 degrees and lift the egg and have proprioceptive feedback is so important to be able to feel your tissues working or not working. Then working from there and setting the intention to get to those issues.
Those are all physical issues that I see. Low libido. Again, it helps with all the orgasms. It’s crazy to me, Kim, how many women come in and don’t have orgasms. Not even one. And you know this because this is what you’ve been doing, but it blows my mind now that I’m asking the question to every patient, “Are you orgasming?” And they say, “Nope.” [Laughs]
Getting reconnected to your vagina, the jade egg is an easy way to do that if you don’t have any traumas associated with it, which you work through. Then it’s a huge way to reconnect to yourself there.
With religion and our society, it is so shameful to put your fingers and an egg in your vagina. It’s just a lack of education, and once women start learning how to navigate their pelvic bowl, they say, “Wow, okay. What have I been missing?” Labor is easier and healing postpartum is easier. A lot of people are afraid to work with things when they’re pregnant.
I was having orgasms three days postpartum. I said, “This is healing me.” I’ve talked to postpartum women. It’s been three months, and they still haven’t had sex with their husband. Wow, that disconnect. That is an essential need for both people.
The Importance of Jade Egg Work in Pregnancy
Just by working with the jade egg during pregnancy or before you get pregnant, all of the above, the whole continuum, and then postpartum after you’ve healed and are able to do that, you’re going to have so much more connection to yourself and be able to achieve fitness goals and sexual goals and financial goals, and any other goals that you have in mind.
So I 100% recommend it.
KIM: I think the thing to differentiate too—we’ve mentioned this already and it’s been implied through our whole conversation—is that it’s not just a physical program. It’s not just a regimen of working with the egg from a strictly perspective.
I would never just sell a jade egg on my website without an accompanying program. Yes, it’s physical, but there’s a whole underlying energetic, spiritual, and emotional component to it. Because otherwise, the work falls flat, or it doesn’t hold, or people only get so far because there is so much woven into our vaginas, our organs, our entire sexual experience and being that we have to look at ourselves multidimensionally and see all the places.
Go hunting, go excavating, go demon hunting, as I call it, to find where the blockages are, release them, and then we accelerate it. We quantum leap our progress.
But if it were just doing one of those, the work wouldn’t be anywhere near as effective.
BETH: And I’ll say that too. I’ve studied this stuff, and not just the physical aspect of the jade egg, but Tantra before, and it’s something about the way that you package it and do it, the processes, that really works. Yeah, you can’t just do these exercises. You have to, as you said, go demon hunting, and there are so many layers. And, throughout the year of Anami Land, you uncover and uncover and uncover, and it’s crazy.
Sometimes you say, “Whew! Okay, hold on here.” You need a break from all the things that you’re just uncovering, but then it just gets easier and easier as you do the work.
Intimacy and orgasms come first. Everything else flows out of that.
I’m at one of the hardest stages of a woman’s life, postpartum and breastfeeding and maintaining a relationship, a business, and all these things. This work has made it so much easier to have a foundation to come back to. Knowing that if you can do this first, then everything in the rest of your life will be easier and simpler.
KIM: Right. Intimacy first. Orgasms first, everything else flows out of that.
BETH: Yeah.
KIM: I think it becomes a way of life. Most people, I think their default apparatus is to go unconscious. Where here, it’s about no, let’s go conscious, face these things, address them, alchemize them, and once you build up strength in doing that as a way of being, as a way of life, it becomes your new default setting. You just naturally do that. You’re naturally saying, “Okay, here’s an issue. Let’s look at it, let’s deal with it, and then move on.” We then move up a level spiritually from having dealt with it and conquered it, and then what’s next for us to look at? Anami means there’s always another level to go.
“I think I need some anal [laughs] to chill the fuck out right now.”
Then came the G-spot orgasm, and then, slowly, the cervical orgasms. Being a control freak, I had a super tight ass. You talk about that all the time, and now I’m having anal-gasms to where I’m saying, “Yep, babe, I had a rough Christmas.” We were busy and had a lot of dumpster fires, and I said, “I think I need some anal [laughs] to chill the fuck out right now.”
Sex nearly Every Day with 5 Kids and Breastfeeding
It works! Because I had to surrender and not just in my own body, but to my man. I love it because there is intercourse, minimum three times a week, but on average, four to six times a week, with kids, with a new baby. I’m breastfeeding.
KIM: Five children, a new baby, breastfeeding, and still having sex three to six times a week?
BETH: Yes, yes. Yeah. And we have to work around naps and things. We have to plan it. We have to say,
“Look, we might not have a three-hour sex date, but we’re going to have a two-hour sex date.”
Or we’re going to last until the nap. We have to organize it. “We might not orgasm this session, but we can come back tonight and play.” But the baby took a nap for an hour, so we had an hour of play.
Getting out of the mindset of “We have to orgasm” and just enjoying the ride is a lot more fun. Because then you’re just organically coming up with all these things that you want to do to increase pleasure and you’re just playing.
I bought these rolling shelves, and we just have all the sex things, and you just roll it out. [Laughs] Totally ready. “What do you want to do today, baby?” [Laughs]
KIM: Something you said earlier was about realizing how important it is. I think one of the stumbling blocks for couples is that they don’t understand what sex can do for them. They don’t understand the energy that sex will give them, the equilibrium, the calm, the ease, and so they put it off. “Well, it would be more productive to clean the house or go to sleep or whatever.”
But once you get to a certain point, you realize the best thing we can do is to have sex. That’s going to elevate us, rejuvenate us, connect us, calm us. We do that and then we have a better energy from which to do everything else in our lives.
That’s when you make the decision, because people will use all these other excuses of why they can’t. You’ve got the best excuses going. You’ve got five kids, best excuse. A newborn baby, best excuse. No one is going to argue with you—except me—on the validity of those excuses.
“Babe, it’s only been three times this week. Are you going to fuck me or go watch that game?”
BETH: I get upset now. “Babe, it’s only been three times a week.” I literally told him last night, “Are you going to fuck me or go watch that game?” [Laughs] “I need it” to create more milk.
Using Meditate Masturbate Create to attract more cash, opportunities and breast milk!
My body is at a point where it’s starting to slow down, and I’m using those techniques of Meditate, Masturbate, Create or having sex to create more milk. I’ve already achieved attracting money and those things, so I’ve tapped into that, but now it’s tapping into staying younger. Those are the things I’m creating in my life: more milk and more feeling in my vagina. Funny how that’s where we’re at these days.
Yeah, the excuses are real, and they’re easy to do. One of the blocks my husband and I had to clear was that he grew up in a Mormon background. He’s not Mormon anymore, but those women only want sex for babies. They don’t want sex.
KIM: They think they’re not inherently sexual beings. They have to be coerced or tricked into it, or they just do it out of obligation.
Realizing You are actually VERY Sexual
BETH: Yeah. And before your work, I realized when I was doing it on top while having sex, the energy was always of pleasing him. Then, after your work, it started to become, but what do I like? What do I want? Wait, I am very sexual. I want it. And he’s very sexual as well, but now we’re matching each other, so we had to change those aspects of me trying to please him and him having the belief system that women don’t want it as much as men. Now he says, “All right, this is definitely not the truth.” We’ve been married ten years, and we’re better than ever, and we’re going strong. It’s a really beautiful thing.
KIM: I love that because it’s such a great illustration of how it’s a choice when people say, “We don’t have time, we have kids, we’re working.” Blah, blah, blah. You choose to reconfigure your lives and prioritize your intimate connection when you believe it’s important and worth doing.
Your intimate connection is the nucleus of your family. It flows out and powers everything around it.
If couples aren’t doing that, it’s because they don’t believe it yet. They don’t believe it’s worth changing things and taking that chance to prioritize their intimate life, which is the source. I often describe it as if your intimate connection is the nucleus of your entire family. When that cell is powered up and on fire, it flows energy out to every other part of the organism. You are the epicenter.
When that connection is strong and powerful and flowing, it feeds everything else.
But when it’s not, when it’s a black hole, it sucks everything else into it like a vortex, from finances to family dynamics to health issues.
Then the opposite happens when you’re truly in that zone of bliss and connection—you fuel up. It’s literally a plug-in. The plug goes into the socket, and you create the energy there.
I love hearing that, and I love the five children, sex-nearly-every-day commitment because we know that’s what fuels our lives and our family.
BETH: Yeah. Sometimes it’s self-work. It’s six times a day, or a week, or seven times of some intimacy with myself, which then fuels my relationship and anything I want to create.
Your shoulder injury is probably because…” you are underfucked!
I can’t not talk about this now. I work with patients and say,
“Oh yeah, the shoulder injury is probably really from something else.”
KIM: “You’re probably underfucked.”
BETH: It’s medical honesty. I recommend your work to every patient. Because I work with women and I love it.
But the other thing that you talk about a lot is all these manifestations of issues that we have. I used to get chronic yeast infections. I would just treat them naturally, but I never looked at that blocked sexual energy aspect or that my body was saying no to my husband. Why was I saying no to him?
Once you dive into that work, you realize, “Oh wow, now I’m a ‘fuck, yes,’ all the time.” I haven’t had one of those infections in two years of doing your work. Or a year and a half.
KIM: Right, right. In my work in Anami Land, we look at all these things as blocks that we throw up into the space. If we don’t know how to say no or there are lingering issues within us that don’t get resolved, we’ll create some symptomology.
“Oh no, I can’t have sex. I have a yeast infection.” The body says no when we can’t.
Then, when those blockages get cleared, and any unresolved things get spoken and alchemized, then—poof—these chronic issues disappear because we’ve done the inner work. And then they stay away, so long as we keep in that flow of honest expression, of sexual expression, verbal, emotional expression; it all combines to keep those channels flowing clearly. I love hearing that.
You mentioned the whole manifestation process and that you’ve already had experience with that. How did that amplify the sexual energy piece? Because I always talk about sexual energy being creative and procreative energy, and the more that we’re tapped into it, we can then use it as a conscious, malleable source to have our outer lives be more in alignment with the inner essence of what we truly desire and who we really are.
We Have Sex to Manifest the Things We Want in Our Lives
BETH: Oh yeah. Again, this started with your work in the last two years. We will have sex for these things that we want, whether it’s a mountain home or a rental property in Mexico or more passive income, and we will not only stay in intention during our intercourse, but we will also do it after. We’ll lie with each other, breathing in and out the sexual energy and moving it through that cosmic orbit and just envisioning this life that we want.
“I can attract it through my pussy.”
We just bought a mountain home with cash, and I grew up in a trailer park. We grew up working for what we wanted, and I had to switch through to, “Mommy has got this. I can attract through my pussy. He can be more of the …” And he always has been, but I was competing for that for worth.
Now I say, “I can just sit in pleasure and do the same thing,” and it’s also reversed when we notice things starting to go wrong—bookings are cancelled, or a flood hits our home in Mexico. We ask, “What’s going on with us?” So we go back to the source instead of blaming the thing. “Let’s go back here first and see where our energy is off.”
There are always things that come up. If we’re not constantly clearing that glass and working through ourselves and with each other, then we notice these things we’ve attracted start to fall. We realize, “It’s time to get back. It’s been three days since we connected. I don’t care if the baby’s sick; we need to reconnect.”
We’re taking responsibility for the things when there’s resistance in our outer world. We’re going within and within each other and noticing where that resistance is. That’s huge for us.
KIM: I love that. That’s the ultimate self-responsibility, looking at your outer circumstances as a barometer. As a reflection of the harmony and the flow, individually or collectively, within the relationship. Then instead of whining about it, to say, “Okay, well, something must be—”
BETH: Maybe some whining. [Laughs] Okay, no, just kidding. I’m kidding.
KIM: Yeah, we’re all human, right?
BETH: [Laughs] I’m kidding.
KIM: But to go in and assume, “Okay, on some level, we manifested this. On some level, this is reflecting an inner level that can be optimized better because when we do that, then we’ll see that result in our outer lives.”
So I love that you’ve structured your lives like that now. That’s amazing.
If you want anything, you have to ignite your sexual energy.
BETH: Yeah. Number one, it’s sexual energy [laughs], the creation. If you want anything, you have to ignite your sexual energy. You have to feel some arousal every single day in yourself that is from within, not from coffee or whatever. Yeah, it’s truth.
I’m so grateful for your work, and I hope to have whatever impact as well, because when you start talking about this to the outer world, it’s sad how closed off people get, and I’m so grateful for the way you put things, because you make it so ingestible. You speak such beautiful truth. That’s why I recommend you to everybody because I just want more of this consciousness out in the world. I want my children to grow up with conscious humans, and we have been blocked from the source. This is at a way higher level than just having more pleasure.
What you’re doing is so much more, and you know this, but I just want the world to start waking up to release all these blocks that we have in working with our sexual energy. How many marriages would be saved, and how many people would start taking responsibility for their lives? You know this.
But anyway, I am grateful for the way you do things because it’s making such a bigger impact than anything else. [Laughs]
KIM: I’m so glad to hear that. And spoken like someone who’s done the work and seen the results. Because you get to compare the before and after, and then, like I said, the way that your whole lens has changed in terms of prioritizing your sex life and then using your outer life as this reflection of where we’re at.
What Happens After Three Days without Sex?
For most couples, there’s a three-day limit; they really can’t go beyond three days before things get ruffly and bristly in their outer lives, and they say, “Ah! What’s going on? Oh my gosh, we haven’t had sex in three days. I’ll meet you there in ten minutes.”
BETH: Yes, yes.
KIM: They know straight away that is the magic panacea to shift everything immediately.
BETH: Yeah. 100%. It’s just so fun. Like you say, it starts way before the bedroom. “Hey, babe, all I need you to do …” When you’re in early motherhood and there’s milk everywhere and you feel disgusting, you’re not quite yourself, you’re thinking, “All I need you to do is grab my ass or grab my tits,” like these little things. See me for two minutes and just say, “Damn, you’re doing a good job.” [Laughs] “You’re hot,” whatever it is. Then it just starts it.
It’s these little things that you talk about in your courses that are so beautiful that we men and women are so oblivious to. It’s so easy. When your husband walks in the room, you run up and just love on him, whether it’s grabbing his cock when no one’s around [laughs] or a longer make-out session in the hallway and letting your kids see that, and it’s a beautiful thing.
Cock Ravaging as Medicine for the Woman
KIM: You mentioned how much you love orally pleasuring your man.
BETH: Oh yeah.
KIM: Was that always the case, or did that increase, or how did your relationship with his cock shift?
BETH: You always talk about having this separate relationship with his cock versus him. They’re almost like two separate entities. Before we did this work, I didn’t mind oral. I did it, and I would swallow his come and all of that.
But once I learned, oh my gosh, deep throating cock and giving him a 45-minute blow job, I said, “This is for me!” [Laughs] When you turn it into that, it’s like, “I need this. I like to ravage the thing.”
KIM: Why do you need it? What’s it doing for you?
BETH: It just gives me energy. It gives me life. It gives me connection. I love worshiping him. I know that it strengthens our bond, but I just feel like with the deep throating, even when I have a sore throat or anything like that, I have that intention. I just love doing it now, and so it’s just fun.
For us, that’s a huge gateway for his internal orgasm as well. We’ve found those on buttons, and that is one way that turns on his internal orgasm as well, doing oral.
You talk in your courses about doing some of the acupuncture pressure points of the balls and the perineum and the anus and the cock. When you’re working on those with intention, as you teach, it’s a whole different ball game from sucking a cock. “Okay, number one, I need this to feel good and attract into my life what I want, but also, I need you to be on point and open up into your heart space.”
There is some selfish intention there if I want him to be a better father and put more energy out into the world and lead our family and be the leader. Oh me, oh my, there’s nothing better. There’s something about that.
There was this one time. I think I was taking Well-F**ked Woman. We were out on our balcony—we live on five acres, so we can do this—but the sun was setting, and I set a timer just so I wouldn’t leave early. But you get lost in it, and then you realize, “Oh wow, it’s been 30 minutes already” [laughs]. And he said he had never felt so powerful. I was sucking his cock on the balcony, and the sun was setting, and he just felt like this god. “I can do anything.” [Laughs] I said, “Yeah, you can do anything.”
The Potent Elixir of Semen
BETH: And so that was a beautiful moment. Now I look at his semen as elixir that is not to be wasted. Those are all great lessons that you have taught, and understanding, Wow, I didn’t want that. Why didn’t I want that at that moment? Oh, there’s a block there. That’s very rare, but you just start learning when you have these blocks that you never would’ve thought of before. It’s beautiful.
KIM: I love it. Tell me more about how you went from someone who was only having clitoral orgasms and then that expanded into nipple-gasms, anal-gasms, G-spot, cervical orgasms. How did having those orgasms change you? Obviously, it will change your sexual experience, and feel free to talk about that, but also then, how did it change you as a person? I always talk about these as being good fuck medicine, or an essential, therapeutic application for women. Beyond “they feel good.” There’s so much deeper transformation going on with them.
What did you notice? How did that then impact your daily life?
Deeper Orgasms Bring You Closer to God
BETH: Well, number one—you talk about this all the time—you never feel so close to the divine. You feel so connected to all of life. Colors are brighter, everything in your world is just more present and calmer. You’re living more intentionally, where again, you’re creating your day and your world in every moment.
By reconnecting to myself, the lights came on. Everybody has different beliefs, but it finally dawned on me that, “Oh my god, I am divine. I am flesh, but I am divine.”
Through awakening the cervix and awakening my sexual energy, I just felt so alive in my life. That’s the biggest thing I can say.
And the connection I feel to the divine, the divine within myself and the divine, I’m more confident, and I care less about what people think. I was chronically worried about what people thought of me, and not feeling enough; that was another one. Once you start having these experiences, you realize, “Whoa, none of that matters.”
Anyway, it just took me up levels of consciousness, honestly. For me, that’s what it did, and now I can’t go back. [Laughs] Once you know, once the lights are on, you say, “Okay. Okay.”
KIM: What’s your favorite go-to orgasm? You mentioned a little while ago, “Okay, I’ve had a really rough time of it. I need anal.” But do you have a favorite go-to that is just your ultimate reset?
BETH: My husband cannot go a session without squirting. He loves it, and I love it too. That is definite, but that’s just for fun. But for a must-go-to, cervical orgasm. It’s like connecting to your heart and heart-opening.
My goals right now are just to be present and surrender to the flow of whatever life has in store. That is beyond my limited thinking. I’ve had so much trauma, Kim, in my life, that I’ve closed my heart space off.
Opening my cervix is still a process right now; I’m still working on it, but it gets me so much more into my heart space. That, for me, is a reset. In order to have a cervical orgasm, I have to have this huge connection to my husband. We have to have all the things cleared. I have to have this trust in him. I have to have this surrender in myself.
That definitely is the go-to for sure, and we’re getting in specific ways where I can do that, but again, stopping trying to make things happen is a work in progress of allowing the possibility of what my pussy has not discovered yet. [Laughs] That is still there in the layers. I’m a lot farther than I was two years ago. A lot farther, but yeah, heart space. Cervical orgasms for heart opening.
KIM: I love that. I would agree. The biggest cure-all, and for that reason, heart intelligence, when they talk about the heart-brain, vagina-brain, there are all these different brains, but I would think the heart really is our number one—well, heart and vagina compasses. When they’re switched on and they’re open and they’re functioning as they’re meant to be—they talk about the heart as this toroidal field.
There’s been some discussion that it’s not a pump; it’s a toroidal field. It’s a different energy vortex than we’ve been taught that it is. When that’s really functioning, it’s our ultimate radar and guidance system.
I love that. That’s really beautiful.
BETH: Well, I should be thanking you for the guidance. [Laughs]
Clearing the Residue of Childhood, Suppressed Sexual Abuse
KIM: You mentioned here that the course had helped you uncover blocks and sexual trauma that you kept suppressed for your entire life. Is there anything that you want to go into?
BETH: Sure. Before I took your work with the numb pelvis, I didn’t know that I had been sexually molested when I was three.
So through your work, I realized, okay, I’m numb, and you mentioned over and over about working with an therapist. I didn’t even know why I was going. I literally went to the therapist and said, “I have a numb pelvis, and I don’t know why.”
I was doing some of the work, and it wasn’t making a difference yet. Within this work, I had memories arise. I did it for a good while, and the memories came back that I was sexually molested. Then I was able to confirm, and emotionally, I wasn’t connected to it. I didn’t even remember it, right?
And then, as I remembered, more feeling came back, and then I did work like the jade egg. Also, my husband did perineural on my scar from the tearing of my first pregnancy, and so all those tools that you recommended in your work started to really work after I cleared some of the sexual trauma. Just even knowing that happened. “Wow, the violation that happened when you were vulnerable.”
And connecting those two together and realizing how much you block from your sexual energy, because you don’t want to get hurt again. I disconnected from my husband because he was a male, and I was molested by a male. I hadn’t even realized those things until your work.
That was really beautiful, and it took the jade egg practice even further once I started releasing those deep, deep betrayals and blocks.
KIM: Right. Well, that makes sense, right, that the foundational blockages, if they’re not shifted, just slow people down. It slows them down or makes it very challenging to move forward until that stuff gets addressed and shifted. Yeah.
I Never Talked to My Yoni Before
BETH: And you don’t even know they’re there until you start talking every day to them. You talk all the time about not entering the vagina unless it’s wet. That includes my self-work of, “Am I okay to go in?” and starting to talk to your yoni and asking, “Can I enter? What do you have to tell me?” You’re always going back to her, and she holds so much wisdom. I think, “Wow, why have I never talked to her before?” It is a beautiful thing once she starts revealing the secrets that she holds.
KIM: Love it. Is there anything else that you want to add that we haven’t touched on yet?
BETH: I just recommend that people go along this journey with you. I say this to every patient I work with: It will change your life if you go deep dive. It might change your world in a way you didn’t think of. And the stuff that’s unfolding for our lives is magical, and directions I never thought I would take, I’m taking and being okay with because I’m trusting that flow.
This has all come out of your work. A lot of people go in thinking it’s just a sex course. “Let’s have better sex.” Great, if that gets you in the door, awesome, but it’s so much deeper if you’re willing to do the work. I’m still in the work, and I will be for the rest of my life because that’s who we are. We’re forever changing and growing and discovering and experiencing.
Really, it’s just a thank you, and I just recommend that people actually take the leap, and it’s worth it. Start somewhere. It doesn’t matter which course because you’re going to end up taking all of them. [Laughs] In my experience.
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