How to Make Her Pussy Wetter Than A Tsunami – Transcript
What is a wet pussy?
It’s secret codespeak for: I’m totally into you.
I could not be *more” into you.
And, conversely, what is a dry pussy?
“I’m just not that into you.”
Now granted, the “into you” could be situational.
Meaning:
“I’m mostly into you as a human. As a partner.
But that thing you said or did yesterday really pissed me off.
I’m not over it and until we sort it, I won’t be getting wet.”
The language of wetness means “all systems go”.
I want you. NO holds barred.
Come on in.
Anything less than a full-throttled GUSH is a pussy negotiation.
A pussy compromise.
It means:
No. Not now. Not yet.
Maybe not ever.
Our genitals are PERFECT and honest reflections of our inner truth and desire.
I want you. I’m wet.
You want ME. You’re hard.
Simple cock and cunt math.
You’ve probably heard me say that one of our mantras in Anami Land is:
“If it’s not a FUCK YES, it’s a no.”
This applies to genital truth as well.
If it’s not a fuck yes, it’s a no.
If she’s not dripping wet, it’s a no.
If you aren’t solid fucking steel, it’s a no.
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The problem with lube is the same problem with Viagra.
Lube is a lie.
It’s a false promise.
It’s allowing you both to pretend.
Pretend that she’s turned on.
Pretend that she wants you.
Pretend that all is well between you.
Pretend that all is well within her.
But it’s not.
If it was, she’d be gushing.
Her cup would runneth over.
Over the years, lube became some kind of feminist flag wave.
Although, ironically, it’s anything but that.
It’s just like the illusion of the birth control pill.
“Here, take these carcinogenic hormones that will fuck with your body and fertility permanently… but hey the upside is you can have sex and not worry about getting pregnant.
You may never get pregnant naturally EVER again, but hey, small price to pay for FREEDOM!”
Not only are commercial lubricants ALSO carcinogenic, containing a charming mix of engine oil ingredients, but they allow—and encourage— a woman, much like birth control does—to completely ignore and override her body’s natural messages in favor of…what exactly?
The price for women when they constantly override their vaginas, is that they get numb.
And number.
Their vaginas were trying to talk to them and they were like “Shut up, dipshit. You don’t know anything.”
And the vagina shrugs and says “Okay suit yourself.”
And it gets number.
And less responsive.
And less orgasmic.
And less interested in sex.
And potentially even worse than that, it shuts down entirely and starts manifesting symptoms like “low libido” and “painful intercourse” and “vagina on lockdown” – the mysterious condition that oh-so-confuses medical professionals, where the vagina literally clamps shut and refuses to open.
Hmm. I wonder why?
If you’re new to Anami Land, my approach here is to LISTEN to the messages of the body.
The price applies to you as men as well, because even though in the short term lube use might seem convenient and harmless, the medium-long term effects will destroy your sex life.
Lube is an insult to your masculinity and you ought to take it that way.
No man ought to accept a woman using lube in his presence.
Except for the ass. That’s totally acceptable. Go nuts. Lube it up.
But for the vagina?
No fucking way. Not ever.
The GOAL is for her pussy to be wet BEFORE you even enter her.
Actually, the goal and baseline in Anami Land is that she’s wet before you even touch her.
THAT’S where you live now.
She’s so erotically charged, that a glance from you, or a light hand on her waist can make her wet.
Yep.
That’s where it’s at.
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So let’s start by assuming that EVERY time you have sex with your woman, no matter what age, health condition or pseudo-health condition, she’s able to get wet.
Naturally.
No lube.
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For the record, in Anami Land, we have wet, wet, wet vaginas at every age and stage:
From pregnancy and postpartum, through peri-bullshit-menopause to meno-bullshit-pause and beyond.
So how do you know when your woman is ready for penetration?
The Golden Rule of Gush is that she ought to be visibly, obviously WET.
Glistening at the lips.
She ought to be begging you to enter her.
That’s the indicator.
She’s wet as fuck and pulling you into her.
If that’s not happening, stop and back the fuck up.
So here’s how to get a vagina wet wet wet.
Let’s start with “clothes on” techniques.
1) Block clearing.
Remember the story of the Princess and the Pea?
The princess is so sensitive to any kind of disruption in her bedding, that even a small pea wedged in the mattress was enough to create a disturbance for her.
Imagine that your woman’s vagina responds the same way.
The ultimate barometer of the state of your relationship.
If you have long-standing issues, resentments, unresolved conflicts, they’ll show up in your bed.
And in her vagina.
And likely in your erection too.
The solution?
Talk it out.
Eventually you can get into the habit of fucking it out, but you’re going to have to get good at both.
If you haven’t been doing either for a long time—or maybe ever—then you need to dedicate time to the talking.
This means going back into anything that you’ve swept under the carpet, that is still niggling at either of you, and talk it through until you feel resolved.
How will you know you’ve talked through enough?
Because the wetness and hardness come back.
Of their own volition.
No lube, no Viagara necessary.
Which brings us to:
2) Ongoing open communication
This honesty and self-expression become a way of life.
We live in a weird, fucked up culture where we’re encouraged to “white lie” or outright lie in order to not hurt someone’s feelings.
I’m telling you this is relationship poison.
NOTHING will kill your relationship—and your libidos—faster than lies.
Your bodies—and genitals—register ALL of it.
Even if you *think* you’re “getting away” with a lie because your partner seems to believe you, on some level we all know everything.
We might not be fully conscious of what the lie is, but subconsciously we always know when we’re being lied to.
Every betrayal, every white lie, every sin of omission erodes the trust in your relationship.
And dries her up.
Yea, it’s true.
Lies make vaginas dry.
And the opposite is true:
Truth makes them wet.
How many times have you had a “let’s get everything out into the open” conversation that led to the best sex you ever had?
If you haven’t experienced this yet, take it from me and our legions of Well-F**ked All Stars, that when they DARED to speak their ultimate truth on things that had been left unsaid for years, decades—and even the entire duration of their relationship—EVERYTHING changed.
The walls that had been there for eons came down.
And they WANTED each other again.
And look. Lo and behold.
There’s a rock-hard erection!
And a gushing wet pussy!
It’s the aphrodisiac of honesty.
And it’s the most potent one around.
3) Audio message and text sex before the sex sex.
This isn’t yet even phone sex or video sex.
It’s your voice in a message telling her what you’re going to do to her.
A sexy photo of you.
Or one of her, as you point out each body part and describe what you’ll do to her.
Hint or outright spell out what’s coming next.
Now let’s get into the “clothes off” techniques:
4) Everything but the vagina, aka “teasing”.
Let’s play a little game.
We’ll call it “Everything but the vagina”.
And by “vagina” I mean ENTERING her. Going INSIDE.
Penetration using your finger or cock or any object.
I saw a quote once on Instagram:
“Women fake orgasms because men fake foreplay.”
That makes sense.
Men typically rush through foreplay.
It’s a few cursory pit stops made on the way to intercourse.
Think of foreplay as several stages.
You can make these sex acts self-contained on their own.
Yoni massage. Lingam massage.
Breast and nipple-gasms.
Pussy eating. Extended 69 sessions.
Manual play.
Each of these things can last 30-60+ minutes by themselves.
I recommend that you become creative and varied with all the ways you can stimulate her… That DON’T involve penetrating her vagina.
5) Vulva play
Continuing on the teasing theme.
It’s in your best interest to draw out penetration—of any kind—as long as possible.
You build up her hunger.
Instead of bracing herself against a touch that comes too soon, she’ll be aching for it.
Because you delayed.
When you DO start to make your way to the vagina—as in, the interior of her anatomy—you’re still going to draw things out.
Get to know her vulva.
Her inner and outer labia.
Her perineum.
You can spend an inordinate amount of time here.
Stroking, caressing, massaging, licking.
Remember: everything BUT the vagina.
6) Dancing at her opening.
When you do get close to penetration, you’re even going to expand that out.
Meaning, as you’ve been playing around her vulva and labia, eventually your touch can drift to the opening of her vagina.
You let your finger remain there.
Poised.
Not going in.
Yet.
Maybe just the slightest TIP of your finger coated in wetness.
You can take your finger up to her mouth.
So she can see—and taste—how wet she is as well.
7) Surprise her.
Now she *thinks* you’re going to enter her.
So don’t.
Flip her around, over you, under you.
Do something completely unexpected.
And then make your way back to her yoni again.
With your finger lingering JUST faintest tip starting to enter her.
Make direct eye contact with her. And hold it.
8) Word fuck her.
Say something sexy as fuck.
Lean into her. Get your lips next to her ear.
Breathe lightly.
Let your stubble nuzzle against her neck.
“I’m going to annihilate that pussy.”
“I’m going to make you come so many times.”
“I fucking love you”
These can be wildly seemingly degrading. Or intensely loving.
Mix it up.
9) The constant simmer
This is where she—and you both—are living in a state of perpetual turn on.
The women in Anami Land are always.. moist.
We talk about them needing to take a change of underwear everywhere they go because LIFE turns them on so much they’re pussies are continually flowing.
Remember what I say about women and boiling?
The trick is, you don’t want to let your woman get below a simmer.
How long does it take to melt ice, and then get the water boiling?
A LOT longer.
You want to keep your woman emotionally and erotically simmering 24/7.
I’m serious.
This might seem like a tall order, but it’s like Newton’s Third Law of Motion: Momentum.
An object in motion will stay in motion.
And a woman erotically simmering will stay simmering.
This is what all of our All Stars learn and then begin to live.
The attraction and charge never really die out.
If it even starts wavering—evidenced by the couple getting a bit short and irritated with each other, something that typically happens after a couple of days without sex—then they remedy that.
FAST.
If you keep her simmering, she’s ALWAYS ready to go.
You do this through what I mentioned above: keeping your communication channels open so that the emotional and sexual energy can easily flow between you.
If there are blocks in the space, you’ve just cockblocked yourself.
Keep things flowing and clear. As a way of life.
A “clean as you go” policy.
It’s much easier to STAY open once you already are.
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The key to making her tsunamically wet is making her hungry.
Arousing her.
But delaying.
Arousing her.
And holding her there.
And arousing her some more.
What you’ll uncover is your woman’s innate insatiability.
Trust me, women can take much more and go for much longer than men.
WHEN you’ve awakened their hunger.
And if you want to make sure you can handle it, make sure you listen to my episode from a couple weeks back:
Why You Come Too Fast and How to Fix It
In case you *don’t* think this applies to you, in Anami Land, we define “coming too fast” as anything less than an hour.
You’re welcome.
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